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Hey everyone. My name is Caleb, and I am a 16 year old male. I really enjoy helping others with problems they may be having. If you have a question about anything at all, just ask, and I'll give you the best advice I can. Thanks.

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wuts the best way 2 get faster

I play football, and we've done many exercises to get faster. The best and quickest way to get faster is to run. Running sprints will be the thing that works best, but there are many supplement routines that can be done to aid in speed as well. I don't know if you've ever seen speed shoes, but they are very good at increasing speed. They have padding on the front of the shoe so that whatever exercise you do, you have to stay on your toes. Your calves get built up, and anything that strengthens your calves will make you faster. If you're looking for sprinting speed, you really can't do much better than getting out there on a field and running sprints; don't go crazy with it and overtrain, or you'll just feel tired, and you won't get faster. Oh, the speed shoes are perty expensive($75 or more). I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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ok so I have these 2 friends....We r really close but just like anyone sometimes i just get tired of being with them.....well first off they had planned to go bowlin....i hadnt heard that we were going for sure all day so another friend of mine called and since i had not heard from them i made other plans....next.....we had planned to go see some free concert and the day of the concert i had softball practice and didnt' really like the guy that was singing...so i didn't go and the whole time they were gone they called me tryin to rub it in that i didnt' go and tryed to make me wish i was there....when all i thought was nothin cause i didn't wanna go.....Then the next day they said something about going to see fireworks...but when they called me I was at my sister's fixin to get in the tannin bed and i wasn't ready.....So that night i went with my sis and her family somewhere else ot see fireworks... Was I wrong for not doing that stuff with them? Should I feel bad about it? cause as fo rite now i really dont' feel bad about it cause i did what i wanted ot do and went where i wanted to go .....
please help!!!!!!!!!!

No, you weren't wrong. I know what you mean about getting tired of em too. I mean I have friends that I love to death' I'd take a bullet for em, but sometimes I just need to spend some time away from em. It's like that with anything. In no way were you wrong, and your friends have probably done the same thing. So, don't worry about it; it's perfectly fine and normal to do. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

HMMMMM......That's a little strange. I think you need to confront him and ask him why you two never get to see each other. I mean I know relationships shouldn't be completely physical, but I mean you at least need to see the dude once in a while. Don't be afraid to ask him. Let him know that you want to see him, and put some pressure on him to spend some time with you in person. Who knows, maybe he's just shy, but you still need to see him ya know? Well, I hope I helped you. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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ok my bf (lets call him ed) was talking about running away. then i was talking about running away. we both have some family problems that we want to get away from. and his friend(lets call him bob)is just a huge risk taker. and one night i was talking to ed and he said that me and him should run away together:-\ and then he said bob would go with us. well, its been about a month now and we sarted talking about how ed didnt want to do it anymore because he is even more sad. and now i dont know if were going or not. i dont know what he means by he is too sad...do you think that means he wants to kill himself or something?
please help me

OK, so you both are having some family problems and want to run away. That's understandable, but I think that it would be a very bad thing to do. Families go through things that are tough sometimes, but you have to stick together to make it work. Now, I'm not saying that I know what you or your boyfriend is going through, but trust me, if you run away, and then you're out there on your own without mom and dad, things will only be worse. Not to mention all the bad things that could happen. Please don't do that. As for your boyfriend, by him having family problems and saying that he's sad, I hate to say this, but maybe he is thinking about doing the worst(suicide). You need to have a good talk with him. Don't ask him if that's what he's thinking, just encourage him to look on the brighter side of life, like all the good things that could be coming your way. All in all, this is something that a lot of people go through, and you just have to work through it. I hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

Burnie Mac

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i went to am-i-fat.com just to see what it would say and it said im emaciated.. i dont even know what that means! i dont think my weight is unhealthy. im 5'5 101. what does this even mean? like should i be worried? thanks

Ok, emaciated means you are too thin. These sites can not tell you whether or not you are fat. They do not know how much muscle you have or what your body fat percentage is. If you're 5'5 101, then you are thin. Now whether or not you are too thin, I don't know. The main thing is to be healthy, whatever that is for you. I hope I helped.

Burnie Mac

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To start out, I'll tell you this. I'm only 15, but regardless of my age I think I could be in love. I've liked this guy for almost three years and he's pretty much all I think about. Every song I hear relates, in some way, to him. But that isn't the problem. He recently told me he liked me. And a few days later said he thought we would eventually go out. well, I don't think that's going to happen. I heard from a friend that he hasn't liked anyone since this one girl he liked a few months ago. Which would mean, he didn't like me. I asked him and he said I'm great and all, but he didn't like me any more than a friend. That kind of made me give up, you know? I felt like I failed or something? I don't know. I'm not really the jealous type, until it comes to him. So recently I've been talking to this other guy, he really likes me and I really like him. But the way I like him doesn't compare to how much I like the other guy. so, this guy is supposed to ask me out when we hang out this weekend, so I've heard. If he does, I'm scared to ruin the chance with the other guy i REALLY like. Although, I can't wait forever. But I need help soon. I have to decide. I'm really thinking to go for this guy that really likes me. What do you think?

Ok, good question. The guy you REALLY like doesn't seem to want to give you the time that you would like. I mean I hate to put it so bluntly, but it seems to me like he's just not interested in you like that. Now, this other guy may really have something for you. He seems like he's really willing to be with you and appreciate you. Now, I think you should go ahead and give this guy a chance instead of waiting on your major crush. Who knows, you may begin to like this new guy more than the other. It's worth a shot. I hope I helped.

Burnie Mac


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(i'm 14/F and so is the guy)
This guy i met earlier this year (he went on a school trip to Paris that i went on too) , asked me to dance at the end of the school year dance, and so we danced three times. in the days following he and i talked on the phone and my friends kept telling me that "you like him so much" and "you two are so gonna go out." well sure enough he asked me out. I wasn't sure if i really liked him... but i said yes. a couple days after he went to San Diego, and i went to summer camp so i didnt see him for about 2 weeks. the first week i talked to him on the phone, but our conversations were just so dead... and i didnt think i liked him anymore. I decieded that when we were both in town we'd see a movie or sumthing with friends and if i really didnt feel anything i would break up with him. well we are both back. and i REALLY dont like him. i dont need to hang out with him to realize that. the only thing that has kept me from breaking up with him is that i hate to hurt people's feelings. I know he still likes me, and i'm his first girlfriend and all. i know i can't pretend like this forever... but I just don't quite know what to say.. or how to minimize how much his feelings are hurt.

HELP! thanks much

Well you say you don't want to hurt his feelings, and I believe that you don't. IF you don't want to hurt his feelings, you have to be fair to him and break up. Don't go on pretending and leading him on. He would probably rather you tell him how you really feel than you just pretending to like him. I hope I helped.

Burnie Mac
















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A lot of times my back hurts when I'm sitting in one position for just a couple of minutes. And I don't know what it is! Does anybody have any suggestions as to what this pain is? I rate high.

I've heard of this before. It can be from anything, injury or not. The situtations I heard of it turned out to be, get this, a tailbone misalignment. You may have to get that adjusted my friend. I've heard after it gets corrected, the pain goes away, and the relief is almost instant. I hope I helped.

Burnie Mac

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okay there is this guy i like but he is in 11th grade and im in 9th and he sits at my lunch table n all of a sudden like a few months ago he just stated to sit next to me and stuff and flirt kinda and ive had ppl at my table come up 2 me and say i think you 2 should go out. But hes also a big partier if u kno what i mean n ive heard stories about him that arnt too good like hes always partying n stuff like that. And i know that he used to smoke but he swears he hasnt for like 6 months and says that he is quitting so thats good i guess... right? but he rly is a nice kid dont get me wrong there and plus hes madd funny. and i had a friend ask him who he liked and he said no1 at our lunch table right now but possibly in the future. And im rly confused... should i like this kid?

In highschool, you can't always trust what you hear. Rumors go around that have no bearing of truth in them whatsoever. Maybe this guy is a party animal; maybe he isn't. You never really know until you get to know him better. Once you get to know him better and can really verify whether or not the bad things you may have heard about him are true or not, then you'll have your answer. Don't just judge him because of what others have said, you have to make a decision for yourself. So in answer to your question, I don't think anyone can really tell you or not you should like him; that is totally based on your attraction to him after you have gotten to know him. I hope that my advice helps you to figure this out. Good luck. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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I need help, but please dont delete this. First of all, i like this boy named dan. I think he knows that i like him, but see i get shy around him, i dont know what to say when i'm around him and he like never hears me when i do get the courge to say 'Hi' to him. I wanna kno if he feels the same but i dont know how, my friends tried to get who he likes ( if he likes any one) out of him but he wont say. now he kinda avoids me. I dont know how to put it. I wanted to be friends with him first before he found out and now i dont kno what to do. I'm not like some of my friends who will go up to the person or tell everybody who i like. My friends and i have caught him staring in my direction but hey, you never kno right? What should i do about dan? What are some things that i can say to him also? Thanx a bunch!

Classic situation. In this case it sounds like neither of you really know each other that well. To fix this there is only one thing to do: get to know him. You say you get shy around him, but he doesn't really make any first moves towards you. In this case, if you really want to get to know him and get him to notice you, you're going to have to make the first move. Don't be too pushy; just make small talk. You can talk about school or ask him a question about himself, anything like that will work. There are no certain words that will work; you just have to make an impression. First impressions last a while, but don't put too much pressure on yourself if you do make a first move; just relax and do it. I hope that my advice will help you, and I wish you the best of luck. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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Ok I use Limewire and whenever I try to download certain songs (Mockingbird for example, it says file was corrupted) no matter how many different ones I try to download. Does this happen to anyone else and what can I do about it? I love that song.

Hey, I tried limewire for a little bit, and then I got ares lite edition. Ares works much better for me. The downloads are fast, and I hardly ever have a problem with a download. I do know what you mean by the corrupted file thing on limewire, and that's why I got rid of it. This ares program works much better for me; maybe it would for you too. Hope I helped. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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16 female.
Me and one of my friend girls went to the mall and we ended up running into 2 guys that we know that go to the same school. Well one of them just all of a sudden started liking me... so we got to "talking" and then we dated, I felt like I didnt know him well enough so I told him that maybe we should know each other a little better. Well I know him a lot better and I like him... a lot. I dont want to date him just yet bc I'm going out of state next week and for half of spring break and I don't want to feel guilty if I 'check out' a guy while I'm not with him. And just today he asked if we were ever going to date.. so I kind of got the impression that he feels like he may be wasting his time or something. What should I do?

You have a decision to make. Do you really like this guy who you would see everyday if you dated, or would you rather be free to "check out" a guy that you will probably only see at most for a few days out of your life? For me, I'd choose having someone I could see everyday and do things with on a regular basis rather than some fling that goes on during an out-of-state trip. If you really like this guy a lot, I think you should give him a chance now. If you wait that much longer, he may get the idea that you have lost interest. All in all, the decision lies within what you think would benefit you more: having a steady boyfriend or being able to "check out" a hottie while your in another area code. I hope you make the best decision for you. This is the best advice that I can give; I hope it helps. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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Me and this guy are "talking" and he opens hisself up better than I do. And if he asks what I've done with my previous boyfriends (like sexual relationship) I can't just come out and say it. I'm not that kind of person. Someone has to really earn my trust for me to tell them things like that. And just the other day we got in an argument bc I wouldn't tell him something that I didnt feel like he needed to know. I hate fighting about it and I've told him that it was 'nothing' that important. And he got kind of mad! What should I do?

This happens in a lot of relationships. You need to let him know that there are things in your past that you really don't feel comfortable talking about. It doesn't have to be something bad in your past for you to feel uncomfortable talking about it, just some things are better left unsaid. Whether it be for your privacy or some other reason, you just don't feel comfortable talking about certain things, and he should respect that. Any man who cares about you will respect your privacy and trust you enough that he doesn't have to know every little detail about your past relationships. I hope my advice helps you out. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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I feel like the worst person in the world. On March 17 me and my boyfriend of 3 years got into a huuuge fight because he cheated on me. Our relationship was sooo good and we always got told that we were the role model for couples, well anyways..we got into a huge fight and we said things that we didnt mean and I told him that I wish he wasnt in my life and he would just die because I hated him so much, those were my exact words. Later that night at 11:26 I got a phone call from his sister (we were really close, she was like a little sister to me) she was crying really hard and she told me that she had found him in his room laying on the floor, dead. I didnt even know what to do with myself. He had taken a gun to his head. She read me a note that he left and it said "I'm so sorry, I love you so much" thats all it said, and he had the date that we started going out until forever carved into his arm. That night when my parents found out they tried to comfort me and all that but I just didnt want to be around anyone. I went to my room and I cut myself so bad and my mom walked in and stopped me and just held me and I cried for hours, with my wrists bleeding, and I fell asleep crying in my moms arms. I'm getting help now. I went to his funeral and it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, I fell to the floor when I went up to his casket at the wake and his mom had to pick me up and just hold me while we cried. I go to his house all the time and talk to his family and just tell them how sorry I am and we talk about all of our memories. I havent slept since the night it happened, and I havent been to school, the doctors say I probably wont go to school for about another month, I might be homeschooled. I can't even look at myself anymore. I can't beleive those hateful words were the last words I ever got to tell the love of my life. I'm sorry it is really long but does anyone have any advice on how to help me get through this?

First of all, I am sooo sorry about this. Your boyfriend knew that you didn't mean those words; he knew you loved him, but sometimes in the heat of a fight, we say things that we don't mean. That's all you did; it's not your fault. I can't sit here and honestly say that I know what you're feeling or going through, but I do want to say that I know it's hard, yet you still have to keep on with your life. There will be good things that are going to happen to you, and you just have keep an open mind and live life. This is not something that you will forget, but each day that passes will make this incident easier to deal with. Remember, you did nothing wrong; we all say things like that, but we don't mean it. Things will get better. Take as much time as you need before going back to your regular day-to-day things, but being around others and talking will help you to heal from this in a healthy manner. I hope that my advice helps you out. My best wishes to you and yours. God Bless. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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There's this guy I met about a month ago that I am becoming obsessed with. When I met him we discovered that we had the exact same interests and my friends kept telling me to go for it, but I didn't want to make the first move. Nothing happened that night but he seemed a little bit interested in me. Then 2 days later he got my screen name from a friend and we talked a little bit. My friend asked him if he liked me and he said he still needed to get to know me. Then a couple days later he told me he wanted to do something with me that weekend and people who are friends with him kept asking me if I liked him. I thought that meant he liked me. So we didn't end up doing anything until last weekend. So I hung out with him and we completely got along and we had fun. The problem was that he seemed to be more touchy with all of the other girls there than me. I feel a little bit crazy about it, but I really want things to work out with him. So pretty much he keeps saying things to me that make him seem interested and get me excited, but he also says things that make it seem to me like he just wants to be friends. What does it sound like to you, or how can I tell whether or no he likes me?

There's only one way to know. You have to confront him. Let him know how you feel and see what he says. Maybe right now he's not ready for a steady girlfriend. You never know until you ask. If you don't find out for sure, you'll just wind up wondering and it'll weigh on your mind more and more. Try to find out how he feels; he may feel the same as you. All in all, this is the best advice that I can provide for you; I hope it helps. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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OK f/13/
i go to a privet school ok but don't think i am a prep. ok i have long blond hair and blue eyes, and i am short like maby 4'8" or 4' 9" and none of the guys in my grade(7th ) like me and its like i just feel realy left out some times from my friends and all the "popular" girls just go out with guys to have a boyfriend i think and i am like not desperat but i want to like some one and and want some one to like me with out it being grows . is this normal or am i just a freak over reacting. help and what do guys like in girls at the age about 13.

Aight, here's the thing. When you're on the subject of relationships, you have to just let it happen. Don't force it, or it will be miserable. At the age of 13 you really don't need to be too worried about this very much. You're going to have feelings for someone who will have them for you too, but right now you just need to be yourself and let the love come to you; that's the only way for it to be real. I hope this advice helps you out. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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i desperately need help to stop cutting.. im too scared everyone will judge me if i tell them, ive been doing it since i was 11 (now 16). i wanted to tell my best friend but i have already told her i got the scars from random accidents.. she has made jokes in the past about how they really look like self mutilation scars and she said 'i really dont understand how anyone could be into that.. 'i hate my life" *gestured cutting wrist. i was going to tell my teacher when he had a discussion with me on how i deal with emotions but i just couldnt say it. Theres no way i would talk to my mum because she would over react.. and i dont want to go to counseling because i heard they tell your parents.. how can i stop this by myself? i already write a journal, draw pictures and horse ride

I just want to commend you on being responsible enough to admit that this is something that has to be dealt with. I think that you need to have time to yourself to really think about what is bothering you in your life. Think about this and try to figure out why these things bother you or make you sad. Life is something that is precious; we have to make the most of it while we're here. Now, I realize that I may not know all that you are going through, but I do know that nothing is worth hurting yourself like that.
I don't mean to push religion on you, but maybe that would be something that could help. If you're not a religious person, then you need to find another way to find peace and resolution. These things are the best ways to confront the problems within that we all face. I hope that my advice helps you out. Best wishes. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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Well, there is this guy that I really like. I mean, the feelings I have for him are undescribable. He is amazing, and wonderful, and everything I could ever want. The only thing is, I'm 14. I can't be "in love" right? So what could these feelings be? When I am with him or just talking to him on the phone or computer, I am as happy as I could be. The feelings have stayed the same for about a year, only I have liked him more and more. Everytime I see him it's like I can't breathe for that second. Even when he signs on AIM, I am so happy. I even get the chills just THINKING about him. And I never stop thinking about him, I mean it's like someone just mentions a guy and I'm like omg, I love him. and people tell me it's love, but it can't be. I am too young and I don't know what love feels like. What are these feelings I have? Is it really "love"? Or just a crush? Whatever it is..can I get over it?=/

Ahhh, those feelings. I know what you mean. Right now you may think that there will never be another guy as good as him, but trust me, better will come along. In my opinion, this is most likely a crush. Then again, who knows, love can happen at an early age. Most likely things will get easier and you'll eventually move on and not be so engulfed by his presence of the thought of him. Trust me, these things pass. It just takes time. It'll get better. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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My brother is sometimes nice to me but when he is mean to me he hits me or pushes me and kicks me. He is older than me and i dont know wut to do. I tell my mom and my sisters my mom says she is going to talk to them about it but she never does! My sisters tell him to stop and go to his room but he just does it when they rnt looking just a while ago he got my head and hit it against the wall. I want to talk to my mom about it but i don't know how to. Can u please help ASAP HELP Please i am begging i am so sad,And mad AHH help

Well, to me, it sounds like your brother needs to be set straight. You definitely need to tell your mother about how you feel about this. This is obviously something that is really bothering you, so you need to relate this to your mom. Letting her know how you really feel is the best way to solve this. If you tell her how you feel in a sincere manner, it will probably make her realize the severity of the matter. I hope that you get this cleared up. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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i am 13/f and i like one of my best friends! i liked him for about 3 months now and all i have found out was that he has a girlfriend... thats like all he ever talks about! One day when i was hanging out with him and a couple of friends and we kinda made a bet about if this one basketball team wins that i would have to ask him out... well they won and i did and i told him it was a joke and he said idk ill think about it... but i dont know if he was joking or not to and then today at lunch he said yes... but he is known to make alot of jokes and i bet he is gonna turn around and say just jokin so idk what i should do... i bet he was joking... but he could be serious. how do i found out if he was joking or serious w/o him finding out that i kinda was serious?

Well, it sounds like you've got a dilemma. The way he seems to be "playful" kind of hints to me that he is maybe a little flirtacious. This is a sign that he may be interested. I wouldn't push it though. If I were you, I'd just go about my days as if nothing new had happened. Right now, it's really fragile because he has a girlfriend. Personally when someone has a significant other, I just leave them alone, but if you really like him and want to make him want you, you need to flirt some. Be playful with him and laugh and smile a lot. These things really attract guys. If it's going to turn into anything, this will most likely speed the process and keep him wondering. This approach will probably make him think about you two as an item, and therefore it will help you out. Other than that, I would just play it cool. I hope this helps. Friendly advice from Caleb.

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