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confused
okay there is this guy i like but he is in 11th grade and im in 9th and he sits at my lunch table n all of a sudden like a few months ago he just stated to sit next to me and stuff and flirt kinda and ive had ppl at my table come up 2 me and say i think you 2 should go out. But hes also a big partier if u kno what i mean n ive heard stories about him that arnt too good like hes always partying n stuff like that. And i know that he used to smoke but he swears he hasnt for like 6 months and says that he is quitting so thats good i guess... right? but he rly is a nice kid dont get me wrong there and plus hes madd funny. and i had a friend ask him who he liked and he said no1 at our lunch table right now but possibly in the future. And im rly confused... should i like this kid?
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Frankly, it seems to me that you already like this kid, and liking someone isn't something you can help. The question should be whether you should date him, and at this point I would say no.
This will fly in the face of most of the answers that I give; I usually advise people to follow their hearts. However, teenage males are a totally different animal. Most of them are decent human beings, but the ones who are dangerous are usually just as popular as the nice ones.
I don't think you should date him becuase I know the type. The funny, intelligent partier. In fact, I very recently fell for said type. The guy in question sounds a lot like the guy I had feelings for, only younger. But that stereotype of guy is often after one thing.
Think for a moment. Is this guy you're interested in the kind of guy who would take a girl on a date to the local strip club on Two-for-Tuesdays? Is this the kind of guy who desperately and fruitlessly lusts after girls his own age, and is rejected at every turn, or teased and used for social status without actually being dated? Is this the kind of guy whose popularity with the student body as a whole is great, but is viewed as undateable? If so, you should keep your distance.
Otherwise, however, I guess it'd be okay to pursue something. Don't be afraid to make the first move, but don't be careless when you do. If somehow you and he start dating, don't date him alone for a long, long time. If you're underage in your state, frequently remind him of that. And don't go anywhere alone with him. Don't be in a car with him, ever, and don't go on anything but double or group dates... and always make sure those double or group dates include at least one girl you trust, and a public place to date. School events are very good for that reason, but make sure that he doesn't show up drunk--even if you're clean as a whistle, if he is, and you show up with him, you could spend the evening in the comfort of a police car while they questoin everyone else (happened to a friend of mine who was designated driver, actually...)
It's okay to follow your heart, but make sure to use your head too... And beware of desperate older guys. They can be embarassing, if not dangerous.
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I can't decide for you if you should like this guy or not. But I can tell you that the best thing to do is let your heart decide, and follow. If you feel the urge to be around him, hang out, talk a lot and such, then yes, go for it! If you feel as though your family or friends would not be happy with you for going out with a guy who is 2 years older than you, parties a lot, and used to smoke, then maybe you should think twice. Your friends and family are forever, guys are just temporary until you find the right one. So I guess you should just think of it that way and hopefully you will make the right choice. What that choice would be, I don't know. I wish you the best of luck. Hope I helped!
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if you really think he is the one, you should go for it. regardless if he smokes or partys or that hes 2 years older than you. just don't let it turn into an obsession. i think you should follow whatever your heart tells you.
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Confused,
First off the fact that he is in the 11th grade and you are in the 9th is NOT a big deal. i can apperntly see that you know what you are doing w/ you life so i am not going to try to instuct you on how to get this guys, i am going to instuct you on how to fix this guy. What you wanna do 1st is play Very Very, hard to get RIGHT. You have to pretend that you are not totally crazy about him and that will make him want you more.And he said he didnt like anybody at the table which means that he realy knew that you wanted to know that anwser. About his whole parting thing....dont wry about that know just get him rapped around your finger then start inviting him to church and tell him how you feel ..TRUST ME...just cause he has done all of this does not make him experinced it just makes him stupid. lol have fun w. this one...luv always....rockin09
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I know hes a great guy and i seriously think he quit. I dont think he would pressure or drag you into the partying that he does. Yea hes funny i mean who else does random things like wear purses around their neck or run around the cafeteria with a pope hat that sam made. If you start to get to know him better he has to like you, plus you always have your other friends at the table since everyone thinks you guys should go out. Trust me people talk when your not there. ((okay in case people are reading this and asking what im talking about....i know the girl asking this....i sit at the table...and felt like being funny and responding))
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Hes a really nice kid? Alright hes nice. Hes also MAD STUPID. Doing drugs makes you retarded.
1. You have to be retarded to try them
2. It only makes your retardation worse because of the excessive drug intake
3. He will ruin your life, drag you into drugs, and piss you off
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4. If hes not doin drugs why did he says "hes quitting" it means hes still doing them. Hes only giving you half the truth. Probably not even that. Hes still most likely doing them.
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In highschool, you can't always trust what you hear. Rumors go around that have no bearing of truth in them whatsoever. Maybe this guy is a party animal; maybe he isn't. You never really know until you get to know him better. Once you get to know him better and can really verify whether or not the bad things you may have heard about him are true or not, then you'll have your answer. Don't just judge him because of what others have said, you have to make a decision for yourself. So in answer to your question, I don't think anyone can really tell you or not you should like him; that is totally based on your attraction to him after you have gotten to know him. I hope that my advice helps you to figure this out. Good luck. Friendly advice from Caleb.
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