Greetings. I'm 27 years old, currently live in New York, and... Put simply, am bored right out of my wits. But, people tell me I give good advice, so here I am.
Feel free to ask me anything, but I'm probably best on relationships and mostly non-vital decisions. Still, I'll do my best (I try not to speak out on issues I'm totally unqualified on anyway).
Gender: Male
Member Since: March 22, 2005
Answers: 6
Last Update: March 22, 2005
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I was a cutter for about eh, a few months. Then all hell broke loose I was sent away, skip the drama. I've been clean for almost a year..but now more sucky drama is stirring about in my world. I've been thinking about selfharm, but I've still been clean.
Now that you ahve the background...
What can I do with all of my..'emotions'..(did that ever sound cheesy) I already am a poet and a novelest. I pound out on Bass, too...
Danke
-Mistress Maddy (link)
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Cutting. Such a terrible thing. I've dealt with cutters in the past, and it isn't easy- for the cutter, or for their friends and family.
Skipping the drama, as you said, if you're serious about feeling the need to harm yourself bodily, it might be best to seek help from a trained professional. I know that might bring images of being sent away again to your mind, but I'd like to think that if you aren't cutting yourself, that you'd be fine- Generally speaking, you can only be hospitalized if you can be proven to be a threat to yourself or to others. Past history aside, you'd be saving yourself a lot of trouble if you see a psychologist. (I sometimes get the terms screwed up- I mean the one that can reccomend treatment, but can't actually treat you. This would work in your favor as well, as such a person cannot send you away, but probably can help, with or without medication and other treatments.)
I know you're probably scared, confused, and more than a little worried, but I believe that seeking help is your best bet.
Good luck to you.
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i am REALLY constipated. i know i have to poop because i can feel it but it just wont come out! yesterday was saturday and i sat on the toilet for 3 hours pushing and pushing and pushing and i still cant get anything out, i really want to poop and i cant!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!
p.s. i drink TONS of water (link)
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See a doctor now. In the future, take laxitives (Or otherwise do what your doctor tells you).
Or you can take laxitives now and see a doctor if that dosen't work, but I'm not sure if you want to risk it. I wouldn't.
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i have two friends that don't talk and one told the other that i had said some thing and they are both hating on each other and they are both my close friends and i want to keep both of them as friends (link)
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Being between two feuding friends is never easy. Your best bet is to simply be supportive of both as best you can, and stay out of a fight. Don't pick sides, and don't let them force you into doing so- If you truly feel you must side with one or the other, do it, but don't do it simply because you want it over with.
You could, ultimately, try to find out what's causing their feud, and work to end it... But I'm not sure if that would work (never worked for me...).
Friends, unfortunately, grow apart sometimes. That might be what's happening here. Your best bet is to be as supportive as you can, and just see what happens.
Good luck.
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My husband seems to always have another female in his life..if its just a friend or an ex. he has a cell phone that he talks to her on alot.. they use to call the house..but it bothered me..so i said somethng bout it..now they call his cell. I mentioned to him that i noticed he always seemed to have to have another woman in his life..he tells me that i dont want him to have friends..but i told him i didnt care if he had "friends" just this girl thing is disrespectful i think. he told me that she was his best friend and there is nothing i can do about it..she disappears bout 2yrs ago ..all of a sudden she is in a bad relationship and pops back in..am i wrong for having a problem with this..is it right for him to have the hidden conversations..please let me know..relationship in jeopardy.. (link)
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It isn't wrong for you to feel this way. Relationships are built on trust, respect and understanding, and he seems to be lacking in all three right now.
Sit him down and let him know how you feel. Don't let him brushyou off- Tell him you don't like him keeping secrets from you. Tell him you don't like him seeming to prioritize another woman before you. After all, he married you, he sould devote a good portion of his time and attention to you, not to these other women.
It won't be easy, but it should be done. After all, this situation isn't helping you, and it might not even be helping him.
Good luck.
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Ok well i came on a trip to my cuzins house and i met his friend Robie well Robie is very cute and now i am going out wit him.Well that is all good and all for while i am here but ten again i live in California and he lives in Oklahoma. I am afraid that this is not going to work out but i want it to sooooo bad because i hella like him but what should i do i am considering moving back here but idk if i can so please help me!!! (link)
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Long-distance relationships (pardon my language) suck. I know they have worked for some, but it tends to be in the minority. I tried to make at least three work, none have.
That said, don't move. Stay where you are. Let him off easy on the relatiohsip end. Stay friends if you can, but don't try to foster a deeper relationship at such a distance. It will probably hurt to let what you have go, but being in a long-term long-distance relationship, only to have it fail is ever more painful- Word of one who knows too well.
Give youreself time. I know it sounds cliche, and almost insulting, but you're young yet. You have time to think about these things. Don't make any hasty decisions.
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I have found myself snapping at people calling them complete morons and other such insults. I do it when I am frustrated or even slightly annoyed. I have no patience for anyone it seems. Later on I regret saying such things. I've said these things to friends and family, and even my boyfriend ,whom I adore. But when the moment hits me it seems I can't prevent the waspish comments from bursting out. How do I explain to these people why I say such things? I've hurt their feeling and it really upsets me. I don't mean to be mean. It seems i just can't help it.
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Hm... I think I used to have a similar problem. It's possible that you have been bottling up your emotions like I was. That's always an issue.
The best thing to do is start by taking a long look at your life, and trying to figure out what, if anything, is making you so angry or otherwise stressed out. If you find such an issue, try to think of a way to either resolve it, or otherwise keep it from bugging you. It's possible that it is a number of things causing this. Be paitent, both with others and with yourself.
If none of this works, it's possible that you have a medical condition. Medicine might help, even if you do not have a serious condition. However, I do not reccomend mood-altering medications except in the most extreme of cases, and your case (from the information provided) does not sound extreme.
I hope any of this helps. Good luck.
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