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My name is Angel, and I'm from northern California. I come from a large family where I'm the oldest, and I've lived a long, strange life. I have just about seen it all. In the last couple years, I have kicked a bad drug/alcohol addiction, and I can proudly say that I'm a sober teenage girl. I have a job, I'm a nanny/family assistant, whatever you want to call it. I'm a senior in high school, and I'm genuinely happy. I have a boyfriend, and we've been together for almost a year now. I have a lot of good advice, because I have a lot of life experience. I come from a broken family, I have step-relatives, and half-relatives. I just reunited with my mother after 10 years. My sister is a drug addict of the worst possible kind. I've been in all types of relationships. I guess it's safe to say that I know a little bit about a lot of things, and there's a lot that I know a lot about. Then there's things that I know nothing about, and that's when I ask questions. Thanks for reading my little rant, ask me anything. I check my email everyday, so if you can't reach me on my column, email me. ~Angel xoxo

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how do i know if i like a guy? like. . . i cant tell the difference because i might have a crush on my best friend. OR do i just see him as my best friend, because i cant tell. i get excited to see him and im also anxious to talk to him. but sometimes i ignore him too. i dont know, i just wanted to hear your guys opinions. any stories of your own experiences? =)

it could go either way, you could like him or he could just be your best friend. ultimately i think hormones play a big part in this one. I have definitely at one point fallen for almost all of my best guy friends, somehow. my personal opinion; i think you might kinda like him. but i could be totally wrong.

i asked before what to use to clean belly button piercings and someone answered me saying to use saline soultion. does anyone know how to clean it with this stuff?? thanks

put some saline solution on a q-tip and clean both sides of the hole, even move ring around and get a bunch of saline solution all up in there. What i also did was soak my belly button in saltwater for 20 minutes a day, i've had mine for 4 years now and its never been infected, just make sure to clean it with the saline at least twice a day. hope i helped. -Angel

13/f
ok well i just recently started getting my period a few months ago...i've had like 4 or 5 so far. and whenever i get it, i constantly feel like i have to pee. that might not sound so bad but its like painful...theres like a pain in my bladder and vaginal area, ussually i have to sit in the restroom for hours for it to go away...i've even had to come home from school it's gotten so bad.
is this normal? and is there anything i can do to either make it go away faster or all together?
thanks!

i don't wanna freak you out or anything. but you could have a urinary tract infection. they can go away by themselves, or they can get worse. you could get it from being sexually active or wearing tampons or not peeing when you have to. you could drink lots of cranberry juice or take cranberry pills to cleanse your urinary tract. or you could see a doctor and get antibiotics before the situation gets any worse. hope i helped. -Angel

i wasn't sure what category to put this under... i'm sorry. but, i was just wondering if there is any advice you can give me on how to grow. i'm 16/f. my cousins take these hormone shots, but they said that they couldn't give them to me because I started puberty when i was 9. is there anything that might help me grow a little bit? because i'm 4"11 and I don't have a problem with being short, it's just i'd like to grow a little bit because i have to like hem every pair of pants i get. i know that there's nothing i can have that will make me grow 5 inches quickly, but maybe like 2 inches more??

I knew of someone who was really short, and she had something wrong with her back. She got surgery for it and is supposed to grow a couple of inches. I'm not saying you have a physical problem, but short people just have to deal with being short for the most part. I could suggest that you wear heels and buy shorter pants, but I'm sure I wouldn't be telling you anything you haven't heard or considered before. Good luck, sorry I wish I could help more.

my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and a half and i think he is getting sick of me. he is very controlling and he isnt the greatest .. i have had more than one occasion where someone has told me he has cheated on me. i believe him when he says its not true. he doesnt like that i have guy friends so i dont have any but he has tons of friends who are girls and it doesnt even phase him that it upsets me. he has lots of girls numbers including one of the girls who told me they hookedup. another girl who was trying to get with him calls alot. he says he loves me but he treats me like shit. im a good girlfriend i do everything for him i love him. but still even if he messes up i get yelled at if i confront him .. everything is my fault even if i catch him lying he gets mad if i was snooping and says i need to give him his privacy and that i have no right to check his stuff. he says i need to trust him more but how can i when he has hurt me so much in the past and how am i supposed to trust him if i catch him lying all the time. he calls me names like slut when he gets mad and he calls me crazy. and he apologizes when we stop fighting and he doesnt seem to understand its not right. ive forgiven him many many times and he just doesnt seem to take me seriously. he doesnt think i will dump him he thinks hes irraplacable (lol) but hes not. he treats me like just some chick .. im not some chick after a year and a half. he should be treating me like a princess not like a maid. please help

Well then don't act like you deserve to be treated like that. When he starts calling you names... start calling him names. You don't need someone like that, but if you're really trying to make this work, give him a taste of his own medicine. Have your guy friends start calling more often especially when he's around.. he'll get concerned, and when he asks about it you can say something like "maybe they see the way you treat me.." If he starts yelling at you && calling you names then tell him to leave, if he doesn't leave, then you leave, you don't have to be with him. Me and my boyfriend argue a lot about the same kind of things, but in our hearts we both know that we really want it to work. So maybe talk to your boyfriend about that, if he didn't care about you, he wouldn't bother staying with you for that long. So talk to him, maybe show him how you feel if you can't tell him, there's no easy way to go about doing any of this, so just be careful and good luck. keep me posted. -Angel

commit mean

I like to think of commit as like you signed up for something that you have to do... for example.. you commit to a relationship.. you signed yourself up for a relationship && you have to comply with that person && grow w// them && their wants && needs.. it's a hard word to explain but i hope i helped regardless. -Angel

I always look at the bad side of things. So basically that makes me sad or worried all the time. How can I become more optimistic and see the good side of things? =]

Well, in order to see the better side of things, you need to find out why you're always seeing the negative side first. For some people, they've only had negative things influence their lives. For example, I have a good friend who had been mentally tormented by his father as a child, he was always putting him down, literally making him FEEL negative. So, I don't want to say that you yourself necessarily FEEL negative, but if it be that you do feel that way, try to find why that is and embrace that part of your life with a more positive attitude. Most pessimists can usually find what's negative in their lives. So try to find what it is that makes you feel most negative and try to make the complete opposite of that situation. Once you can do that, the bad side of things just wont matter anymore. People don't change, but their attitudes do, give it a try, it's the best advice I have for you. Good luck, keep me posted. -Angel

my best guy friend says that he wants to have sex with me before we graduate. we're sophmores. i dont mind because i care about him because he is one of my best friends but if i have sex with him will it ruin our friendship?

I would say yes, having sex with your best friend would ruin your relationship, but it depends on the circumstances. It could make things awkward, or it could strengthen your friendship. If you're not looking to make anything of the sexual encounter, and you're both looking at the experience as casual friendly sex, then you should be okay. It could go bad, if one of you happens to like the sex and want more, or if there would be drama with other friends. In the end, it's totally up to you, if you do it, don't regret it, because it's what you really wanted to do. If you don't do it, then you would have found a good reason not to. But it seems like you have plenty of time to think about it, so just wait it out and see how things go down the road. Good luck. -Angel

Dose anybody know website that you can still learn something everyday and news and games plus maybe online learning stuff..

If I remember correctly, I used to go on this website all the time infoplease.com. It was really random but it has some pretty neat things on there, like a word of the day and stuff. I don't know, I kind of liked it. Hope I helped. -Angel

There is this boy and he liked me for awhile and I liked him and he would text and suddenly he stopped and he was ignoring me and I asked him if he still liked me he said no he found someone else.
But This girl he wasn't even going out with he just liked her a lot and he would meet up with her after school.
Well she has a boyfriend and I guess he never knew about it and so he texts me again rigt after school and he's starting to want to talk to me more.
Well I don't want to be some girl whos just there for him and I'm definately not waiting.
So maybe he found out that she has a boyfriend and he stopped going after her so hes back to me.
I'm not sure if thats the reason but its what it seems like

And I just need some advice about this.
?
thanks.

Well, I'm not sure what your question is exactly. But as for the guy, forget him. If he only turns to you when the girl of choice is unavailable, then what do you need him for? Maybe you guys would go out, maybe for a couple of weeks, and then girl of choice breaks up with her dude, then text-boy drops you like a sack of potatoes for "something better." You shouldn't want, or even like someone that would choose "something better" over you. You're better than that, you need to find a guy who will make you his number one, or maybe he will just find you. Hope I helped. -Angel

Eating 1000-1300 calories a day, exercising moderately, and drinking plenty of water, how much weight can I expect to lose every week?

15/f/5'5"/160lbs

You might lose a pound every week. May I make a suggestion? When you say exercising moderately, is that running for 30 minutes? If you maintained a low-carbohydrate diet, ran or did cardiovascular activity 4-5 times a week and substituted all other beverages for water, you could see major difference in two to three weeks. But this shouldn't just be a "diet" because "diet" is only temporary, to keep the weight off you need to make it a way of life. Hope I helped, good luck! -Angel

ok so im in this art program after school. and we're supposed to come up with 12 of these name tags. and they say hi my name is (your name) and i am....

but the thing is your name is supposed to be written in some weird way to reflect wat the i am... thing is

any ideas?

I could totally be interpreting this the wrong way, but my creative side is going to take over here.

So let me get this straight, if I were to make a name tag, I could put. "Hi my name is Angel && I am crazy" && I could write it all crazy and draw crazy things on the nametag. Or, "Hi my name is Angel and I'm lazy" && I would scribble my name && maybe draw some scribbles on the name tag.

If that's what you're talking about and you still need more ideas, I have plenty of time, go ahead and drop me a message in my inbox. Hope I helped. -Angel

I'm writing a 4 page essay about fast food in biology. So I need your opinion on a few things.

-Does fast food have negative health affects? And what are those?

-Should fast food companies tell people what's unhealthy in their food ? So they can decide whether to eat it or not?

-Are people addicted to fast food?

I've already written a few long paragraphs but I'm out of ideas.. so I need some help. Especially for the first one. I need some biology terms in it and I'm not good at it.

Yes, fast food has negative health effects if people abuse the consumption of it. High cholestorol, obesity, liver problems, the list goes on. Why would fast food companies tell their customers they could die from their food if they eat it too much? The idea about any business, especially the food business, is; they want you to buy it. They don't care what happens to you, they just want you to buy their food so they can make money, they won't tell people that it's unhealthy, nor should they. If people wanted good healthy food, they'd go out and get slow food, not fast food. People can't really be addicted to fast food, addiction is all in the head anyways, so anyone can just stop eating fast food one day, it's not like crack where one could become physically and emotionally dependant. Hope I helped. -Angel

[female]
I need to know the following.

-- Best deoderant: what works the best from
keeping you sweat and smell icky.
-- Best Toothpaste: make your teeth super
white & plaque-free for a while.
-- Good Makeup Colors: sora tan, brunette, blue
eyes big lips
-- BEST push up bra possible: 32 A but have some
boobs. or BEST shirts for small chested girls

DONT tell me to stay natural.
Im asking for the followinggg
not ways to stay yourself. :]]

Im picky, but thanks in advance

I can't believe I'm going to answer this question, here goes nothing.

I wear men's right guard extreme sport with the orange writing on the label, it smells more feminine for a men's deodorant && it works.

Crest vivid white is a really good toothpaste && it meets your standards.

With your blue eyes && dark hair and "sorta tan" complexion, I would ultimately suggest gold && cream eyeshadows, you can really do just about anything, but golds, browns, creams etc would bring out your eyes the most, but if your looking for something a little more vibrant you could attempt the smoky eye effect [black && grey makeup (well-blended)]

For the push-up bra, go to victoria's secret and ask about the bras where you can take out the cleavage enhancement part, you can buy a more expensive [but more effective; it's just a bigger pad thingy] cleavage enhancer and replace the original one with that. As for shirts for small chested girls, tank tops of any kind are always good, whether they're low-cut or regular.

Hope I helped. -Angel

what kind of questions do they ask you at an interview for a restaurant? nothing fancy, just a barbeque place... thanks

At any interview, they'll ask about your work experience, why do you want to work at this place, stuff like that. They'll ask you about your schedule, what kind of pay you want etc. It depends on the person interviewing you and what they want to know, but that's just some general ideas. Good luck! -Angel

do you have to exercise every day to keep off the weight?? i want to eat what i want [only 3 meals], and exercise 4-5 days a week. would that be good doing that??

That would be excellent. Make sure to include some cardiovascular activity [running, treadmill, bicycle etc.] and make sure to end your workout before 5:30 so you can get some sleep. It's best to start and end your workout routine with cardio, more in the beginning, and about ten minutes at the end. You can eat whatever you want and exercise 4-5 days a week and you should be in tip top shape. Hope I helped! -Angel

Me and my boyfriend got in a hickey war last night. Is there anyway to make a hickey go away faster ? Someone told me to put ice on it, does that really work ? I'v tried makeup and it didn't cover.

Right now I'm stuck with hoddie and my hair down.. anyone have anything that works ? Thanks alot.

I've had some pretty bad hickies in my day. The only way to make it fade away easier is sort of painful. I have a few favorites. Put a spoon in the freezer, then after a while, take the spoon out and rub your hickies with it, hard, the idea is you want to dissipate, or spread out the blood in the hickey. Another trick, take a penny and rub the hickey like you would rub a lottery scratcher ticket thing. The one I like the best that I have found most productive is the lipstick tube top. Take it and put the top directly on the hickey and twist, just twist clockwise then counterclockwise a couple times and take it off every couple of twists. The best way to make the hickey go away, is the combination of the spoon and lipstick tube top. Good luck! -Angel

does having sex a couple weeks before you're supposed to get your period actually skrew up when your period is going to arrive? (if you're not on birth control)

It shouldn't, unless you're pregnant. I'm assuming that you're young and your period may still be irregular, but if not, there are times when your period can be a little off. Don't worry too much, if your period is a week or two late, take a pregnancy test. However, I have known of a girl who thought she was pregnant because she didn't get her period for 3 weeks, but then she got it and things were okay. The body works in weird ways, if you're super worried about it in a couple of days, tell your mom or physician. Good luck, hope I helped! -Angel

hey well im a 15/f.. and i don't why but i feel so ugly compared to the other girls at my school... They are lkike so grogeous and guys actually talk to them and stuff... well me i have hair on my face like on my upper lip im always getting made fun of because people think im weird and anorexic because im soo skinny... and i want to get a makeover because im tired of judging me... so should i get a makeover? and don't say no you should just be yourself.. well it doesn't work like that at my school its either your pretty and you fit in or your ugly and everyone hates you... so what should i do?

I would tell you to be yourself && add some confidence to your appearance, but you won't take that for an answer, so here it goes. Don't do anything too drastic, if you're self-conscious about the hair on your face, go get it waxed. Those girls at your school wouldn't be half as pretty as they are if they didn't know and think they were gorgeous. You don't have to believe me, but it's true. I used to have a really low self-esteem and I wondered why guys wouldn't talk to me. You just have to be more confident and feel better about yourself. If you say you're ugly, that's an ugly personality trait and therefore you are somewhat ugly. But if you wake up every morning, put on some makeup and a cute outfit and say to yourself "Damn, I look good," people are going to notice. If you don't believe me, try it. You have nothing to lose. Let me know how things work out for you. Good luck! -Angel

What do you do if you think two guys (both that you are friends with) might like you?

Try to keep a distance from both of them until you know. Don't physically distance yourself from them, but lay off the flirting [if you're even flirting with them] and when the time comes, find a way to ask each of them if they like you. You don't have to be outright about it, like, "hey do you like me?" You say they're your friends, so you should know how to get that kind of information out of them. If they both like you, then go with whatever makes you happy, you don't have to do anything to please anyone in life, so make sure you're happy. Good luck. -Angel

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