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I am a 29/f that loves to listen and try to help out. I have always been the one people go to for advice.

I will tell you how I feel about it. If you don't like my answer, I'm sorry. However, usually what I say is true, people just can't handle the truth.

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i am a 29yr old female and i had a affair on my husband about 4 yrs ago and the guy and i eventually got feelings for each other. We were both having problems n r marriages and he was going to get divorced, i didn't know that i wanted to at the time but i knew that i wasn't happy. The guy and i decided that we needed to try one more time with our marriages. Since then he has gotten divorced and we have ran into each other several times. About 2yrs ago he told me that he wanted me but i didn't want to just end everything for i have been married for a while. But now he remarried and we talk often, he called the ohter night and told me that he wasn't happy and wanted to come over to talk. I said fine since i am seperated now. Things went farther and now the old feelings are back and i am in love with him again..But my question is "do i tell him" and "what should i do" thanks for any advice i can get.

It seems as if you two have been in a "hit-and-miss" relationship from the very beginning.

Listen, I cannot tell you what to do, but I can tell you the scenarios and let you make a decision that could affect both of your lives.

First, do you ever get the feeling that you two have been not available to each other for a reason? I am not a very religious person, but do believe that every thing happens for a reason. It could have been a test on your strength from the very beginning but both failed. It is not necessarily a bad thing.

Second, in all the situations that you two have been in, there have been others involved as well. There is a respect that a person must adhere to when dealing with someone else's feelings and emotions.

Love is a strong force to be reckoned with. True love is also very hard to find. Finding your one true love is difficult and tedious at best. When you find true love, you will know that it is right. It is definitely a feeling that will surpass any that you have felt before.

I will say that because both of you have had your fair share of infidelities, neither will trust the other because of the past experiences.

I think the best solution would be to sit down and talk with him. Put all the cards out on the table, let him know you are not pressuring him for a relationship, because that would be unfair to him and his new wife. Tell him that you realize that this is bad timing and do not expect him to reciprocate your feelings. Just to remember that if anything should happen between him and his wife, then you would like him to give you two a chance.

If you are serious about getting into a relationship with him, then you will not get married or start seeing someone serious for a little while, until you know exactly what is going to happen. There is no need to bring someonen else into this situation and get hurt too.

I hope this has made sense.

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i finally had sex with my bf.
and i feel great about it
i think i was mentally prepared and ready for it
i didn't rush into or anything...but

will he expect me to have sex with him all the time now?

when will it stop hurting?

and is he going to be expecting me to do more of the work...or try new kinky things?

please don't tell me to ask him
thats why im asking you lol

thanks

Ok, listen. You do not have to do anything you do not want to do. So, if you do not feel like having sex again for a while after this, that is your decision. If he is an understanding boyfriend, he will respect your wishes.

It will stop hurting once you get used to it. It does take time.

Sexual experiences are different for different people. As you grow sexually, you will want to try new things, but you will be the judge of when you are ready and what things you want to try.

I will say two very important things.
~1~ Communication in any relationship is key. If you feel that it is okay to have sex with him, then communication should be no problem. If you do not communicate with your boyfriend, then you are going to have problems later on.
~2~ Also, always practice safe sex. You do not need to add to your worries by getting pregnant or a sexually transmitted disease.

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Ok, so i am 14.

all my info is below, and im sorry if it confuses you, but my main question is what kind of mental issue/problem do i have???

I know im a teenager and with my hormones changing i have mood swings. But some of my friends think im bipolar. I think i have severe depression, but have not been to a doctor b/c i dont want to tell my parents. I started being depressed and went through a suicidal time, in 5th grade, but i KNOW my parents love me, so i wouldnt do anything, and they dont know i have a problem.
other times, when im not depressed, im really hyper, and have a ton of energy ,and im hyper.

and then other times, which is very rare, im hyper-depressed. which freaks out my friends.

I write dark poems, and i feel really out of place. I hate my life, but i know i have family, and a boyfriend who love me. I dont know, i just want to know what kind of mental issue i have so i can kinda get help.

Also to help you know more about me, (if you dont want to read this part, you dont really have to) i think logically sometimes, and other times my mind wonders, and goes off somewhere else. I am in the middle of finding my true religion, and i am strong in my beliefs, but im confused about it at the same time. My mind is just lost, and OH also, i have kinda pycicness. I know things, or have premonitions (that i dont know are going to come true, but they do...) and other times, i could be talkin about something, then something to do with that happens. so If any of this helps you, please use it.

Here's the thing about being a teenager, you are at that age where you are developing your self. Your going through changes physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Most teenagers I know are all either one extreme or the next. Depression is a serious problem. If you truly believe that you are depressed, then yes you need to talk to someone about it. You can do several different things.
~1~ Tell your parents so they can help you get over this problem.
~2~ Tell your counselor at school and see if they can help.
~3~ Find a support group in your age range to get help with your problem. If one doesn't exist, then get together with your school and see if you can start one.

Associating yourself with others that have the same problem, will help you to open up and figure out how to handle it.

Writing is a great way to release your emotions. It helps to concentrate on something and feeling the satisfaction of completing it. If you want, become an advicenator and help other people. It helps you feel good about yourself and helping others as well.

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im the worst person EVER at studying.
and to top it off, i ALWAYS wait til the last minute to do something.
class ends in the beg. of may, and im not doing so hott in my lecture class and lab.
and plus, ive been skipping a lot, i know i need to start going again. and i will, dont worry!

but what are some techniques people use that make studying easier to concentrate on and do well on tests?
i think i only have 2 tests left for my lecture class and i need to get the highest grade possible. ive had 3 tests already, and ive failed all of them so far. im hoping with 2 really good grades, i can at least pass this class..but im not sure it will happen, but ill still hope for the best.
anyway, the point is, i need help studying.

all answers would be greatly appreciated.
thanks :) :)

One of the things that they teach you to remember everything you have learned is repetition. You could make notecards and go over them repeatedly to remember that information. Also, make flash cards for questions and put the answers on the back. Giving yourself a little "pre-test".

These are just a few things that help you remember what you learn. http://www.studygs.net/ may help as well.

Good luck!

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Okay, so when I was in eighth grade I found this book that I really loved. It was a romance, one of those forbidden love things for teens and I really want to find it again. Here is what I remember:

There is a girl whose family is basically been feuding with another family that they're somewhat related to for years now. The girl's dad has gone to jail for killing one of that other family. The girl lives in a small piece of land. Her mom sends her to school on that other family's land, so she has to change her last name so they don't know she's from that family (Malone, Monroe, something like that). She meets a boy while reading (I think the boy is drawing her) and they start to go out. He is the son of the man her dad killed. She keeps her family from him, and him from her family. She finds a diary of the woman who started the whole feud. And there was this big thing about the boy giving her a golden bracelet with a heart on it.

Does anyone know the title and author of this book? It'll be much appreciated, thank you in advance.

You have described books that fit the genre of V.C. Andrews. I am not sure if this is the author or not, but if you do not find the book you are looking for, read her books. They are great reads.

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I got all four of my wisdom teeth taken out yesterday, and it was all good then. I was numb all day and was not tired. I took my medication last nigh; antibiotic, pain killer, and some other pill they give me to take. Now my mouth hurts SO bad, it hurts to swallow. What can I do to stop the hurting?

Thank you.

Unfortunately, there is not a lot that you can do. You can try to use ice packs or heating pads to help with discomfort. You could also try swishing warm salt water in your mouth.

I had mine cut out about 10 years ago, and the only thing I could do was wait the pain out. It will take a few days, but it will get better.

Things to avoid: straws, smoking, anything that causes sucking action with your mouth. This causes dry-sockets and hurt as bad as getting your teeth removed. Plus, it takes longer to heal, making your recovery time that much longer.

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has any1 ever heard michael hoppe's "renouncement"? would that be a good piece to play for a high school cello recital?

The cello is a very mellow sounding instrument. It would go great with a cello. However, it is a slow and sad song, so you may want to think about that when considering it for your audience. It would be a wonderful piece for a mature audience. If this recital is strictly for the staff and students at your high school, you may want to find something a little more upbeat.

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so seriously this guy is a total asshole! he cheated on me a ton of times and i never found out until now. he is the biggest player ever and now hes dating my best friend but shes pissed at me bc i believe the rumors about them doing stuff and not her. but i want to show her that he really does cheat on her and i freaking hate him and need to do something to get him back or humiliate him infront of everyone without him knowing it was me! he thinks hes the coolest kid ever bc he made a varsity sport and he is a cocky jerk. he also thinks he can do no wrong and i want to get him back for hurting me and what hes gunna do to my friend. i also need her to find out that he is a player and cheats on her so i need some really good ideas!

I hate to say this, but this is not the best way to handle this situation.

The best way for you to get back at him, give it time. If he is this bad, then you won't have to show what a complete jerk he is. It will happen on his own.

As for trying to protect your friend, there is no way to do so. She knew that he was your ex, which in friend code means he is off limits to begin with. She also knew that he was cheating on you, so she should know it is going to happen to her as well. Some people have to learn on their own.

I realize that you want to have your own "John Tucker Must Die" moment, but for your best interest, I would walk away. At least this way, you will still have your dignity and pride. Nothing is better revenge than to ignore his antics and forget about him. Karma has a way of kicking you in the butt.

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my subject lacked something that i couldn't fit in.. but like i have a guyfriend and we're pretty tight you know and we like playing games. so we usually talk via email so our we get responses every few hours (this might affect your answers).

so like we used to play word association games like
me: apple
him: orange
me: sun

etc. like the last word typed => what word comes to mind afterwards?

and then we got bored with that, so now we're playing think of a word using the last letter of the last word like
me: ipod
him: demon
me: name

and we're going to continue playing that for a while in our email threads.

but that's only two games! can someone please suggest some other fun games i could play with him via internet? we've also tried the "i say a sentence, then you say another sentence in response to it" etc. game but that only works well with like 20 people, not two cause you inadvertently include the sentences before. we also can't exactly play truth or dare / ask SUPER DUPER personal questions cause we recently got over that awkward stage in our friendship when i liked him & he didn't like me and visa versaa (timing makes all the difference..)

in addition, would you rather / truth or dare gets hard because we can't think of good questions to ask each other (anymore, at least)

in summary, i need some new ideas on what games to play with my close guyfriend without being awkward! thanks in advance

You could try finish this sentence and it could be played out several ways. For example:

you: I have to...
him: go skydiving in...
you: Japan to find...
him: those scissors I dropped...
you: down the toilet yesterday.

You can keep it going until it has played out but limiting it to only 4 words maximum for each turn.

Alternative way:

you: ...because I lost the monkey.
him: I had to call the zoo...

You are doing the ending of the sentence and he is starting it, in reverse order. Or, the same applies in forward.

You could also do categories like this:

Topic~ fruit

A: apple
B: banana
C: canteloupe

Each taking a turn down the alphabet.

Another thing could be done would be riddles.

Each take a turn asking a question~riddle~, then the other answers. When you have completed the round, you switch the asker and the answerer.

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hey

so for one of my classes, we have to find a poem we like and just present (not READ) it to the class. i love poetry, and i've found a couple poems that i digggg. but i wanted to ask you guys, what's your favorite poem? i apologize, but i'd prefer if it's not a love poem because i obviously don't want my class (which consists of a couple hot upperclassmen guys) to think i'm insanee and obsessive about a guy. i like friendship poems, inspirational poems, and poems about life.

yes, i've tried google, and my two favorite so far are:

http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/life-494/
"life" by lacey unknown (my favorite so far)

and my second favorite,
http://100-poems.com/poems/teen/0654001.htm
"what it takes to be a good friend" by anonymous

any ideas / advice / contributions / suggestions regarding what your favorite poem is? also any analyses of the either poems?

Ok, here's my take on the poems you chose:

poem #1- sounds like it was written by someone in Elementary school. It has no flow, no deep meaning, no grab you by your mind and take you for a walk moments.

poem #2- To be honest, it's too cutesy. I stopped reading it after the first paragraph.

I am not sure what kind of poem you need, but I would suggest finding one that grabs you and makes you think. Find a poem that is powerful and thought provoking.

A few areas in which you may want to look would include:

Maya Angelou
E.E. Cummings
Robert Frost
Edgar Allen Poe
Emily Dickinson
Ezra Pound
Oscar Wilde
William Shakespeare (he did write poetry as well, not just plays)

Poetry is a lost art, that is never fully appreciated. People will "write" poetry now, but forget the meaning of it. "Poetry is an imaginative awareness of experience expressed through meaning, sound, and rhythmic language choices so as to evoke an emotional response." (About.com). I couldn't have said it better myself.

Poetry invites you to use your emotions to make everything inviting. It appeals to your senses and promotes thoughts. With the two that you choose, all though nice, do not have that affect that most poetry does.

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For the past few nights it was really weird.
like i would have a dream i was on the phone
then when i wake up i dont relize till like 5 secounds later it was a dream.. so when i wake up, I dont hear anyone talking so i say "Hello? are you there?" and my right hand is by my ear as if i was holding the phone, then relize its not in my hand.. There was nothing there. haha i think i talk in my sleep. .. but is that kinda thing normal?

I am going to branch out and say as long as it is just a few occassions, then yes it is perfectly normal. If you start feeling that it is a problem, see a doctor. I found this website about sleep talking. It has some information that you may find useful. If nothing else, it could help you deduce the fact there are no other problems and this is not a problem.
http://www.sleepeducation.com/Disorder.aspx?id=16

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First, I am a virgin, so I do not have STD's, AIDS, HIV, or any sort of sexually transmitted disease, UNLESS somehow I was born with it.

For two weeks now, everytime I go to the bathroom, it hurts REALLY bad. It burns, and I usually end up crying. Today I began feeling really irritated down there, and it feels like it's a piercing feeling from the inside. I do not know how to explain the feeling exactly, but it doesn't feel good. I just got my period today so I do not know if it is because of that.

And I have gotten a rash lately on my arm, and it is spreading.

What might this be and is there something I can do or buy beside going to the doctor?

Honestly, it sounds like a Urinary Tract Infection. There is no way going around not going to the doctor. You need an antibiotic to cure it. Drinking cranberry juice may help. They also have pills that can help with the painful spasms. You may talk to a pharamcists for that.

About the rash on your arm, I do not think that this applies to the same thing. It may be a heat rash or something else.

When you are in pain or feeling out-of-sorts, go to the doctor. There is no reason to risk your health for any reason.

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is there a website where you can upload a picture & then you could change the color of it to see what it would look like?

Photo bucket
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So sorry. I did not even notice the topic name. I just read the questions and rarely pay attention to the header. I assumed you were talking any photo that you can use to change the colors on.

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what does tbh mean?! I've read it online atleast 40 times, and everytime I look at it, think of posibilities. Then I blank, and move on.
So, tbh...

TBH may mean to be honest.

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on buildabearville.com

how do i get to the seashore thing so i can play the scavenger sweep or how do i play the egg hunt?

I am honestly tired of seeing this on the main page. So, I am going to suggest you send an e-mail here for help concerning this subject. That is if you need help still. vwhelp@buildabear.com

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Ok, so I'm 16/f, I'm quite athletic and I weigh exactly 130. I really want to lose about 5-10 pounds, I don't think I'm fat, I just know I would perform better and feel better if I was lighter. For the past two weeks or so I've been eating about 1200 calories a day and exercising about an hour, and I've calculated it so that I've got about a 1000 calorie deficit a day, so that I'd be losing 2 pounds a week. It worked last week, but I did the same thing this week, and I'm still exactly 130! I've been working really hard and I feel that I should have lost some weight. I also got my period this week, so bsically I'm asking, why do you guys think this happened? What can I do to lose weight, and should I just give up? I don't want to work really really hard again this week and have no results!

Being on your period causes you to gain water weight. I would suggest keep doing what you are doing and a week after your period has ended check again. If it still says the same, then weight yourself on a different scale, exercise a week, and weigh yourself again on the same scale.

I would like to point out if you are not weighing yourself exactly as you did before, the weight will flucuate. For example, you have to weight in the morning after going to the bathroom naked to get your adequate weight. You would have to weigh the same way every time.

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From Nova. Where's your message board?? LOL I didn't see one. :D

Lmao, I think it's on my main page!!! http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=50733
That's my link, you can save it to your favorites, since it is a happening message board. haha
If you go here http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=AngelofMercy and then on the right hand side, it says website and under that it says Angels forum in blue. It is kind of hard to see, but it's there.

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lately (for about 2 weeks) i have not had a normal poop. sorry for the details but its either really hard and painful or i get diarhea. i have a normal diet. i dont eat a ton of junk food. i do drink soda a lot but only a maximum of 2 cans a day and thats rare. i've been taking those chewable pepto bismol's like they're vitamins. what is wrong with me? this problem is obnoxious!!

You could be getting Irritable Bowel Syndrome or IBS as it is sometimes called.

It is a disorder of the intestines. It causes belly pain, cramping or bloating, and diarrhea or constipation.

It is suggested to modify your diet and exercise in order to try and alleviate the problem. If these changes do not control it, medicines can be prescribed.

In all honesty, if you feel that you are really sick, go see a doctor. They are the only ones qualified to make decisions about your health, and properly advise you on how to control your situation. If you still have your problems in a week, I would suggest making an appointment. However, this is not a life-threatening issue, so you have no worries there.

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Ok. So I was messing around with some super glue earlier, and when I opened the tube, some of the super glue seeped out and dripped down a pair of my favorite shorts. I wiped up what i could off of my pants, but now there is a big dried spot of drip down right above my knee. So my question is, how the heck can I get the dried super glue out of my pants???
By the way, it wont peal off either, I tried.

http://www.supergluecorp.com/removingsuperglue.html
Check this out. Maybe it will help.

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Hey!
does anybody know where I can buy a 1920s flapper dress for cheap? Particularly one similar to any of these...

http://images.google.com/images?hl=en&q=1920s+flapper+dress&um=1&ie=UTF-8&sa=N&tab=wi

Also, where can I buy a big feather and sequin headband?

Thanks!

Your best bet would be to buy these things online. Here are a few links that will provide you with the dress and accessories.
http://www.nextag.com/flapper-dress/search-html
http://fancyflappers.ecrater.com/
http://www.flappercostumes.com/
http://www.brandsonsale.com/flapper-dresses.html

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