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Q: On saturday me and my b/f were suppose to hang out, but he canceled. So he said we should hang out on sunday, but he never showed up or called or anything. I tried calling but no one answered his house or cell. Should I be worried? Because he's usually on-line all the time, but lately he hasn't been. He never blows me off ever. I know he wouldn't cheat on me either, he's not that kind of guy. What should I do? Should I be worried??? Please help! :(

something might be going on that he just hasn't had time to hang out. he definately should have called. as soon as you can reach him, talk to him about this. ask him what's been goin on. if you think something might be going on and just doesnt wanna talk to you, when you call, block your number. this could be something to worry about since he hasn't called, but you shouldn't assume things until you know whats goin on for sure

Q: Okay well i just got out this relatinship with this girl and i noe im young and what not but i love this girl and i admit i messed up wit her i shouldnt have lied and i took her for granted and my sorry really dont mean much to her there isnt a day that goes by i dont think about her and i really want her back but i dont noe what todo to get her back ive changed but i need to find a way to show her ive changed i can seem to find that way.im 17 male

how exactly did you mess up. like what did you lie about? you're not really givin me details. anyway, if its that bad and shes really taking it like that, you have a slim chance of even showing her you've changed.

IM me on wizerwordz if u can and tell me about this, maybe i can try to help

Q: Alright...I have moved away,but I still love this same guy and i an't get over him and I know deep down he still loves me too..he always tells me he misses me n thinks about me all the time..but he is talking/dating someone else..what should i do?

as long as it's in another state it's ok.
nah, j/k. i'm sure he COULD still have feelings for you, but since you moved away, just move on and you should see other people also. not only do you not have much of a choice, but hes also seing someone else. it's gonna be hard to get over him, but life goes on and you'll find a lot of other people you'll get attached to.

hope this helps :)

Q: okay school starts in 3 weeks and i wanna loose as much weight as i can before it...i weigh 105 to 107 and i wanna loose it! i need to loose on my thighs too they're pretty big. i excersise by going to the gym i only go like 2 to 3 times a week and play bball...what're some best ways to loose weight? how much could one loose in one week? by doing what? help and thanx!

why would you wanna lose weight when ur already so skinny, your thighs can't possibly be THAT big. u go to the gym and play bball, so keep doin what ur doin or maybe some running to keep in shape.

Q: theres this guy and we hang out in school or we used to schools out for now... well ya his exgirlfriend keeps iming mii saying he likes me. and shes like do u like him and i paniced and said no cuz i thought that wuz the best thing. i dont like going far with boys. im 13. making out maybe. i only made out once n that was in 5th grade. lol. i ended up thinking it wuz nasty cuz all his saliva was in my mouth. lol. but i dk i think that wuz cuz it wuz my first time. well the reason i said no is his exgirlfriend use to always make out in the hall way and i kno im not gunna do that. the 5th grade make out session was in front of one person. lol. and i wuz nervous evem with just one. well i wouldnt be able to be better then that you know wut i mean. he already had better then me so... well i paniced and i said i didnt like him that way and the other day the exgirlfriend imd me a chat invitation i took it and the guy wuz there. i freaked out. lol. my heart was pounding really fast. well ya i think i sounded really stupid in the hole conversation. i dk but she copied and pasted sumthing like he wrote it and it said dont tell karen i like her and karen lol thats me. but then he wuz like i didnt say that. {{no affence karen}} so then w/e. i dk wut does all this mean?? im really confused. in my opionn i dont think he likes me.

well, it sounds like you wouldnt be able to just im him or go up to him and talk to him about this whole thing. also, just like you said that you didnt like him to his ex gf, he also said that he didnt say something or that he didnt like you. he might be nervous about it too. unless you talk to him or get someone to ask him if he likes you, you will never know. If he does like you, just make sure he knows you dont wanna go too far and dont wanna make out in the hallway.

hope i could help :)

Q: well im 13 and my boyfriends 16 going on 17 and his aunt that lives upstairs from came down and tolled me that he had a girlfriend and his juss playing with me.. and then earlier i let him go up my shirt because i trusted him ALOT and everything so when i found out i was a surprise because he tolled he dint have a girlfriend but his not the kind of person that would seem to bee doing sumtting like that because his really nice and den just about everywun sayed he had another girl friend and everything and i really wanna hear it from him and crap because i really really like him and shyt so i dunno what to really do.. to belive everywun else or wait till he comes next week to see me and ask him and i juss dont no anymore if im going to dumo him or not because everywun wants him and shyt and i have him AND I guess some other bitch does too..

what should i doo

p.s he comes every week to see me bacuse his in job tec. and its very very far so he stays thier overnite.. till friday and his like in highschool he sould be a senior but he satyed back 2 times

first of all, he should just be going into his junior or senior year now if hes 16 going on 17. most likely junior....at that age he couldnt have been left back TWICE AND be in his senior year. i think thats bs first of all.
second, hes away a long time and its definately possible that everyone else is telling the truth, because he can be seeing someone the rest of the time while hes away.

i'm sure its not what you want to hear, but you gotta admit it can be true.
plus, until now hes been telling you he doesnt have another gf. why should he admit it now when you talk to him?

i wish you luck

Q: I was checking out your column and i just wanted to tell you that i think your really nice and doing a great job. I noticed that you have AIM and so dont I so if you want IM me sometime at x23 Sexi Kay 23x
Keep up teh great work! :]

Heyy, thanx.
I put some time into my page and play around with all the html, so i've been improving it little by little.
and yes, I do have aim, so maybe we'll talk ;)

Q: Ok well i been wid mybf for over 9 months and i have been thinkin bout"IT" lol well i wanted to wait till i was like 16 but i dont think im gunna b able to wait that long cuz im 13 now turnin 14 next month but i feel im conforablen stuff n im almost definately positive my bf iz!! lol so my questions iz do u think i should or do u think im to young?!?!?!?! plz help!! thanx

~*~ Should I?!?!? ~*~

NO
why the hell would you even be thinking about that at 13???

Q: Ok well i was thinkin bout u kno havin sex widd my bf of ova 9 months but im only 13 almost 14 so i think have decided to wait for that big step u kno!! but ne wayz i wanna be able to do otha stuff wid him like give him a bj and like have him do stuff to me so should i??? and like wat kinda stuff???? thanx

* a curious george *

WHOA
chill out girl, you're only 13, you should wait for the "big step" for at least a few years, if not more. even any other sexual stuff.
i'm not saying that there should be a set age for sex or anything like that. it's just IMMORAL. WHY DO YOU GET THESE IDEAS THAT YOU SHOULD BE DOING THESE KINDA THINGS AT SUCH A YONG AGE????? screw other people if thats where youre getting this from, they are complete idiots.
and what do you mean by you wanna be "able" to do stuff with him?? WHY?

and only 13 DAMN

Q: xangsta?? is that it?? or iz it sumthing else?? i keep goin to www.xangsta.com... n sumthing else cumz ^ wutz going on??

lol, xangsta :-P
its http://www.xanga.com its a journal page

Q: Kevin1986 here. Everybody please stop asking I like this guy,does he like me? I have no clue. I'd need to know the situation a lot better and I really don't know. Of course,the best thing to do is go up and talk to the guy,instead of asking me,who knows nothing more about the situation than you like him. Also,ladies your cherries can pop through just about any strenous activity. Stop asking me about that. And finally,stop with the What turns guys on. Anything,just show up ok?

completely agree with ya on that 1, just 1 problem there, most people dont give a crap and they'll just continue asking questions like that. also, many people probably dont wanna read your comment on this because they do that, so they won't care. personally i hope they ask better questions too, but theres nothin you can do really......

Q: i know this isnt advice but i saw ur page n i loved that pic that u have on there...where did u get it?

to be honest...i have absolutely no idea where i got it. to find it, you can do a picture search on yahoo for "tigerdragon" and you'll find a few good ones, just like it or variations, like a tiger and dragon in a Yin Yang, just browse all the results and you'll see them

Q: I sing opera - I have to be able to open my mouth, like, a disgusting amount to be able to put the right power, support and air behind my sound.
I have to kind of unhinge my jaw. Put two fingers right in front of your ear, on your jaw joint/hinge and open your mouth really wide. Feel that movement? Yeah.
Every time I go to open my mouth like that, my jaw cracks really loudly. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it doesn't. It kinda scares me...
Anyone have any ideas as to what this is and/or how to fix it? It's getting in the way of my warm ups...

I'm not much of a singer, but every time i open my mouth wide, my jaw kinda pops at the joints. It's never anything really loud, and it never really hurts, but my doctor told me its nothing bad, that it happens to a lotta people. If you consider it a problem and it does hurt, maybe you should ask a doctor. I think there MIGHT be a way to fix it, but i'm not sure...I'm pretty sure my doctor mentioned something.
so the best thing to do would be to see a doctor and ask about it.

-hope i could help :)

Q: Hey I'd just like to say to everyone that when people are asking a serious question do you have too be so sarcastic and tell them to kill themselfs?? This is a help sight not somthing to be rude about. Is there anyway people who say things like that can be stoped?

its true, some people are assholes and theres nothing you can do about it. most of them are trying to be funny, others just dont care about making other people feel bad. some of them arent really trying to hurt anyone and are just trying to get attention. so if anyone is hurt by what someone else says on this, ignore them. if they dont care and just want attention, then you shouldnt care what they say.
dont worry about them. it's usually obvious who gives good advice and whos tryin to be a dick, so dont worry about them

:)

Q: hey im a wrestler and i weigh 158lbs i need to lose at the very minimum 6lbs to make weight for the season im in football and that is helping im trying to wrestle 155 this year and i need to lose the weight and keep it off so if u know how tell me pleast thanks if u wanna, im me at spudbutt33

if youre a wrestler, then you should know that when you practice for wrestling and when you wrestle, you lose a lot of weight.

so if you have wrestled before, you can practice whenever you can and that might do it for you

Q: 17-F i went over this boys house today his name is Dan. well he wanted to do stuff with me like give him head, hand jobs stuff like that and I said no but the next thing I know he's on top of me like humping. We have all our clothes on. and he's going faster and faster by the second. so my question is that sex or dry humping??

its dry sex....

simple answer...that seems to be your only question....so thats it

Q: Is it true that if you don't eat your body makes something called "water fat" whitch is harder to loose than regular fat?

actually, its called water weight and its easier to lose than fat, because its based on a lot of wated in your body, so it is much easier to get rid of than fat

from what i know i dont think theres such thing as water fat, but i could be wrong i guess

Q: anyOne knOw any depressinq lOve sOnqs? Or b/f,,g/f lOve sOnqs?like anythinq hip*hOp Or pOp.nO cOuntry :-)
thanks

yea everyone else who answered mentioned some good 1's.

i'm glad you dont like country music. personally, i think it sucks, no offense to country music fans out there, its just my opinion

Q: Does anyone know how or even if u can delete your sn on AIM?

i dont think theres any way to delete it..i dont see why anyone would need to do that, its only AIM, not like u need to make room for another screen name on AOL.

usually, you can just not use a screen name, but if you really want it delted, try to call AOL customer service

Q: i really like this one guy. but for some reason he is always mad at me. like the other day i apoligized for whatever i did (i dont even know what i did). and he apoligized too.. but then the next day he blocked me. and i didnt even talk to him at all that day. then that night he just calls me to talk. and doesnt really talk on the phone and just says yeah to w.e i say. is there something going on with him or what? what should i do? i think there might be something wrong with him bczu he sounded like depressed but idk. what do you think i should do?

if something seems wrong, try talking to him about it. if you open up to him and tell him how you feel about him, maybe he feels the same about you, but has a lotta things going on. many people go through depression. he might be a little more open if he knows you like him. if you dont think so, then try to talk to him witout telling him you like him.

good luck