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im 14/f, and i really need help. There is this boy that I can't get out of my mind. Whenever I think about him my heart beats faster, and I get butterflies in my stomach. When I'm around him I can't stop smiling and I get nervous. His voice sends shivers down my spine and when he gives me a hug my heart soars. When he so much as looks at me I melt inside. he's cute, funny, sensitive, kind, caring.. he's everything.
Two problems though...
1. he has a girlfriend and it tears me up when i think about them or see them together.
2. he's my best friend...
I've tried to get over him... i just can't. What do i do? Should I try and tell him how i feel? Could this be something that will end our friendship?
Thanks to anyone who can help (link)
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I think you should just sit back and let nature take it's course. You're not going to be able to get over you're friend right away. I don't think you should tell him you like him because as you said, he does have a girlfriend. Telling him might complicate things a bit. I don't think it will ruin your friendship because if he really is your friend, then you liking him shouldn't have too much of an affect on anything. You will only get over him once you find another guy to like. And don't worry, you're only 14, you have your whole life to find a guy who is everything. Your time will come, i promise! I hope i helped!
~Perfect Pixie
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I'm a 15yr. old guy. I've been told by more than "quite a few" girls that my hands are really pretty/feminine/softer than theirs/nails are better than theirs, etc., and that they wished they had hands like mine. Many of these girls have also expressed jealousy about my hair. It's sorta disturbing how much this goes on. True, some of the attention is okay, but I already have a gf and I'm afraid someone's gonna get too attracted to me. How do I get rid of some of the attention? (link)
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I think you should shave your head and cut your nails...JK :) I highly doubt that girls are going to become attracted to you because of your hair and nails only. I bet if they become attracted to you, it will be because of your personality. I'm not sure how you could get rid of the attention except maybe wait it out. Maybe you can tell the girls you don't feel comfortable with all the attention and hopefully they'll back off. It could be that they just are jealous with no underlying motive. I know a lot of girls, including myself, are self-conscious about how they look and when we see a guy who does nothing and has the perfect look, we get jealous, but it doesn't mean anything except we're not happy with ourselves. I hope I helped!
~Perfect Pixie
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ok so here goes, i really really like this guy, and we sorta had this friendship going on last year that i loved but i know for a fact that nothing is ever going to happen with him, im pretty sure he didnt even regard last year as a friendship either and i dont even talk to him anymore, i have his screen name and sometimes i feel like i should just get in touch with him and open the door for communication you know, and maybe something could happen - you only live once so take chances kinda thing - but i know that he will just think im absoultely insane and make fun of me to his friends and the whole school will know about it eventually and im telling you i know for a FACT that there is no way he will ever EVER like me and NOTHING will EVER happen between us but i just cant get over him, and im not quite sure i want to like i do want to but i wish we could have a relationship, i just dont know what to and it all basically sucks right now so any help you could give would be appreicated
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This reminds me of what has happened to my friends recently. Well i think you should talk to him. Take the chance. I don't think that he would make fun of you in front of his friends. The worst thing would be nothing would happen. You'll never know what will happen if you don't take that chance. And if he doea make fun of you, then he's not worth it. Well i hope i helped!
~Perfect Pixie
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Okay this is a long story so here it goes. A few months ago, I recently developed feelings for one of my guy friends. One night, it was revealed to him. At first I couldn't believe he knew, but now I regret the whole thing. After I told him I liked him, things looked like they were going pretty good. Me and him began flirting more than usual and he would say things that made me believe we had a possible future together. The only problem with him is, he tends to flirt with a lot of girls which surprisingly I'm okay with but several weeks have gone by and he hasn't asked me out and now I just want to forget about him. Plus I don't think he's completely over his ex-girlfriend and friends of mine have been telling me who he's been flirting with heavily and the girl he flirts with, is a good friend of mine and she knew I liked him. I guess my question is, why would he tell me it's okay to like him and that he said he was going to ask me out soon if truly in the end, he only liked me as a friend. (link)
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I was on the same boat as you only a couple of months ago. He could have told you that it was okay to like him because he liked the fact that you liked him. Alot of people like when other people like them and will do anything to keep that up. Thats one reason. Maybe another reason is because originally he was considering being more with you, but after he realized the friendship you two shared, maybe he didn't want to ruin it if you two did date and then broke up. That is another possiblility. If you really want to get over him, i won't lie, it takes time. But if you really want to get over him, try starting to like someone knew...maybe the new person will help you forget about the old person.
If you feel comfortable with it, i think you should talk to him about it. Ask him about it. You can't go wrong with asking him. If he's really your friend, he won't mind you asking about it. Well i hope i helped!
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Im sorry you guys, but I noticed that a LOT of youngins say they love theyre boyfriend or gf...so I was wanting to know, what do you guys consider love...because 13-16 is really young, i dont know I could be wrong, but what do you consider love?? (link)
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I know 13-16 is a young age to say you're in love, but i guess it could happen...i mean it happened to me at least. I consider love as being a feeling. I got this out of a book a while ago...maybe this will help you:
Love is…
…When you feel something more than friendship but can’t quite describe it.
…When you begin seeing someone in a very positive light.
…Suddenly being nervous, shy and unable to think of anything to say whenever you are near a certain someone.
…Wanting to be close to someone, both emotionally and physically.
…Being excited about going to school because you know you are going to see him or her.
…Wanting to look your very best when you know you will be seeing him or her.
…Caring for this other person in ways you haven’t cared before.
…Not hearing a word your science teacher said because you spent the entire class thinking about, or, better yet, staring at, him or her.
…Wanting nothing more than to see that person smile.
…Growing faint when that person smiles at you.
…Not caring if your friends don’t think he/she is the cutest guy/girl in the world because you do.
…Being willing to stick around and work things out when difficulties start arising.
…Rushing home to call or be called by him or her.
…Being able to be smart and fun around everybody until he/she shows up and then you are unable to say anything that even makes sense.
…Listening to the words to songs that you never bothered to listen to before.
…Wanting to read poetry in hopes it will express what it is that you are feeling.
…Thinking that everything he/she does is so incredible. You’ve never met anyone so interesting, so funny or so cute!
It might not be exactly what love is, but it is true, all of these things. And i believe you can be in love at any age. It's not something that comes with age...its just something that comes.
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I'm 15, male, human like most of the rest of us. My friend and I have mutual feelings, but we can't see each other on a regular basis (it's long distance). We aren't dating anyother people. I'm told (by my friends and she) that I'm the sweetest guy in the world, but I lately, I'm really stressed out, even if I don't look it. I'm wondering if this will work out; she's a great person and one of the most accepting people I know, but I can't help worrying about her. (link)
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Okay well...i must say, this question perplexed me. I actually had to think hard about this one since i have different opinions.
My one side says that you should hold onto it...keep everything the way it is. If you really like her, distance shouldn't matter.
But then I'm conflicted...
Another part of me says you should just let go and maybe move on...it is long distance and usually long distance relationships don't work, especially for kids our age.
So this is my advice. Do what your heart tells you to. You're the one that has to be happy. If she makes you happy, then stay with her. If it's stressing you out, maybe it's not such a good idea. You have to decide for yourself really. You have to figure out what is stronger...your like for her, or you wanting to be less stressed. If she's the stronger part, then don't let anything stop you. I hope i helped you!
~ Perfect Pixie
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Heya, I'm a 16 (almost 17) year old girl, and there's this guy I met back in August on a cruise. We hung out, and it was so amazing. But now, we're home which means I'm in New York and he's in California. I'm going to California in March and I really want to see him, but whenever I talk to him, I don't know, it just doesn't feel the same as it did back in August. The big problem is that I know I fell for him last summer, and I know such a long distance relationship won't work, but I still want to keep in touch and stuff, but I don't want it to be weird, you know? Please help...I don't know what to do, or say, and I don't want to make a fool out of myself of which I have the habit of doing!!! (link)
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I'm assuming that you guys talk viz internet. If you do, or even if u talk on the phone, i think you should talk to him. Tell him that you're going to California and suggest you two meet up someplace. If on the internet he seems iffy about it, then don't push the subject. If you two do hang out, see how it goes. If you feel as comfortable with him as when you guys hung out in August, then deffinitely go for it. Tell him you want to keep in touch with him. If he's a nice guy, he should like the idea and figure out a plan in which you two keep in touch. Well i hope i helped!
~ Perfect Pixie
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Something is wrong with me.. something always has been.. i`m thirteen and i have it fixed in my head that life planly sucks when i know and everyone else is telling me my life is good. i can`t stand whining and so i`m going to say i`m not. i always thought of myself as a sort of depressionist but i don`t need help. i don`t cry EVER.. but i want too. any advice.. please? xxOo (link)
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Wow, you sound like me now. :) Is there a reason why you think that life plainly sucks? Maybe it's because there's nothing interesting going on in it? It's okay to be depressed for a little while, but if it's all the time (which i'm going to assume it is fron your letter) it's not okay. You should go talk to someone, not a psychologist or any thing, but maybe a close friend of yours, you know, someone you can count on for everything. That's what i did at least. And the not crying thing, it's not a bad thing, but it might become too much. If everything in your life does become too much, then trust me, you will start to cry. Then afterwards, you will feel better. But in the mean time, you should talk to a friend, like i said before but you can also go get a journal. That way you can write out your problems and won't have to worry about anyone criticizing you. Then you can keep it, and look back on it some day. I do this and it helps me out with alot of stuff.
~ Perfect Pixie
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Ok, so this chick is talking to me.. and we have been talking for a while and I told her that I loved her, so yeah, every thing was cool then she started giving off signs that she feels the same way, we start talking about Sex, and family and stuff like that, then when I finally decide we are really close, I tell her how i really feel, she said its sweet but shes just not ready for a relationship.. then yeah, shes been telling me I'm a great guy and I'm sweet and stuff, but should she really be doing this kind of stuff.. or is she just being a tease.. playing with my emotions?
BTW I'm 17 and have never had someone tell me they Love me :( and she knows this...
what should I do about this.. I really need help! :( (link)
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I think maybe she is playing with your emotions but subconciously. I'm a 16 year old girl and i've been in the same predicament as you have, except the guy was my best friend. For years he had been complimenting me, flirting with me and making me think he lieks me. Then on Valentines day i wrote him a note saying how much i liked him. He wrote back saying he didn't like me like that. Of course i was heartbroken, but after a couple of months, i got over it. He and i are still best friends but now i know how he feels so i can move on. You have to get a straight answer from her...ask her if there is any way you would be able to go out in the future, if she says no, move on. And don't worry, you are only 17, you will find that special someone that you love and that loves you too...it's just a matter of time.
~Perfect Pixie
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ok... i'm a 16 yr old girl and i dunno exactly what to do any more. see i have only a few really good friends, and 2 of my closest are guys. and i've a girl friend who i tell EVERYTHING to, there's nothing that she doesn't know about me. and for a while i kinda kept the 2 seperate, like 2 differnt sources of friendship, advice, and support. but being that we're all now friends it feels like she's dominating over my friendship w/ the guys. what i mean is, i used to be really close to them but now it's kinda like she's moved into my place among them. the attention, conversation, etc i got from them now goes to her. and i feel replaced. i know she doesn't mean it and i'm prolly just over reacting but i'm not sure what to do about it. i'm unsure whether to say something, to ignore it or what to do. i don't wanna hurt her by saying something stupid or mean, but i kinda liked things the way they were. not to say i don't want her to be friends w/ the guys, just not to seperate me from them.... any suggestions as to what to do?? (link)
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Your friend probably doesn't mean it. She herself is probably trying to fit in with them. I've heard about this scenerio before and maybe your friend thought she had been left out before and didn't want it to happen again. I think you and your friend should talk about it. Go over everything thats happened and see where everyone lies within one another
~ Perfect Pixie
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Im at a crossroads- im a big wig radio sports caster and its a real bigg time of year for me- with the NFL playoffs and basketball and all. My girlfriend (or soon to be) wants me to take her out. I luv my girlfriend but i have to watch these games- how do i balence my carrer and my one and only true human love- who i dont wanna loose
-The best sportscaster ever (link)
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Well, is your sports shows on all the time? everynight of every week? Well I'm going to assume not. You just have to organize. Maybe if you watch your shows a couple of nights a week and take your girlfriend out the other nights. And maybe you can have a "day date" Take her out on a picnic, or ice skating, or just a walk around town. If she really is a great girl, then she should understand that sports is also your thing and will make a sacrifice for you as you will eventually do for her.
~ Perfect Pixie
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i hear voices and when i answer to the person i think is talking, they say they didnt say anything...is that normal? (link)
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Well i can't say whether it's normal or not for you, because we each have our own way of being "normal" I would say it was fine unless this happens a lot of times. The person might have said something but forgot, or maybe you can read minds :) Anyway, I think it's fine for now. If it keeps happening you might want to go see someone for that. There's nothing wrong with hearing voices, I'm the same way. So to answer your question in a nut shell, yes I do think it is normal...I hoped I helped!
~Perfect Pixie
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