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alrighty then, in short i think i'm falling for one of my best guy friends. he's a really nice guy and alot of fun to hang out with, but my best friend kind of/most likely likes him too. i haven't said anything to her because i'm not sure if i do like him and i have a feeling that she'll get mad at me. i don't want to like him since he has a girlfriend and all and i don't want to make things weird between us but it's not exactly something i can help. what should i do? any suggestions? (link)
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"My brilliant answer" (I hope...)
If you're best friends with these two, I'd suggest first talking openly with the girl, and see if she really does like him. If the two of you are really close, hopefully you can talk to her openly about things like this.
Second, if you're a close friend of the guy's, see how serious he is with his girlfriend. Perhaps you can talk to him openly too. If he's a good guy, he'll hopefully understand your situation. If you really think he won't listen or will get sorta freaked out, put off this confrontation.
Sometimes, it's best to put aside your own heart to help others; I've lost count of how many times I've had to step aside without telling someone how much I really cared for them, but we've almost always stayed friends.
Before you do anything at all, though, track down your heart and have an open one-on-one talk with HER. Because if she has second thoughts about anything, maybe it's just not meant to be. Your heart should always be consulted first.
Good luck, and I hope things work out.
~Kura
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Im sorry you guys, but I noticed that a LOT of youngins say they love theyre boyfriend or gf...so I was wanting to know, what do you guys consider love...because 13-16 is really young, i dont know I could be wrong, but what do you consider love?? (link)
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Love can hit at almost any age. I agree with the list Perfect Pixie presents, with some additions.
Love is...
...When you just want to be with that person, no matter what you're doing, even if it's just sitting there.
...When you would rather see the person and spend at least several hours with him/her even if you couldn't kiss/have sex/feel up.
...When everything you do, from eating to listening to music to reading of any kind reminds you of him/her.
...When you'd stand just outside the door if he/she needed to be alone, ready to go in as soon as he/she needed you.
...When all you need is for him/her to smile and know you love him/her, and the world shatters with the first tear he/she sheds.
~Kura
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Hi Guardian Angel...i have a problem. There's this guy that I know, a friend of mine. He is the greatest guy in the world and i know i can turn to him for anything. After a bad unrequited love, i promised myself i wouldn't fall for any of my friends anymore...the problem is, i think i am falling for one of my friends, the guy i wrote about above. Now i don't know what to do. I really like this guy, but i know he likes someone else. What should i do? I don't want this to turn out as my predicement with my other guy friend. Do you have any advice? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Well, I can say that I have plenty of experience in that area, but as for how it turns out... Falling for friends can make great relationships, but only if the feelings are mutual. If you can open up to him, you may want to talk to him honestly and openly. If he's not dating the other person, you may want to ask him to open his mind to you as a possibility. I hope I helped!
~Kura
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i don't know what to do. i like one of my best guy friends a lot and have done so for a while now. he and i have always been really close in the past, like brother and sister. there was nothing one didn't know about hte other. he also knows that i like him and was ok with it, or at least that was what he said. and i was so greatful for that because i would hate to lose him. he means to world to me. but recently he and i have grown very distant. we hardly talk and i feel like i don't know him any more. it hurts so much to remember how good things were only to realize that it's practically gone. i've also learned recently (through a 3rd party) that he's not only not 'ok' with my liking him, he really wishes i didn't. i feel like i'm losing him as a friend if i haven't lost him already... basically i'm asking if you think i should try and keep the friendship or just let it go and accept it. i don't know what i should do, i'm hoping you can help. (by the way, i'm a 16 year old female) (link)
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I think that you should accept it and move on. If he's not comfortable with you liking him, perhaps it's best to just let it go. I've been in a similar situation myself. You might want to try keeping a friendship with him, but stay away from going further than that. If that doesn't work, it may be best to just let it go altogether. I hope I helped!
~Kura
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