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ok i met this guy off buddypic a while back and hes got a salute and a lot of pictures so i know its him for sure and we talk on the phone and stuff....well he wants to meet me next weekened and hes already talking about fucking me in the car next weekend....hes like oh well have SO much fun....i have a boyfriend though of 5 months...and we promised to NEVER cheat on eachother..and me and my boyfriend havent even fucked..should i do this??

Wow. Look and see what u said, and i want you to realize everything that is completely wrong with this situation. Number one, your boyfriend would be pretty distressed if he knew that you were even CONSIDERING meeting some guy you dont even know. Number two, He may not be all he says he is, and for you to be thinking, or contemplating...is honestly horrible. You could end up getting hurt, physically and emotionally. This guy could be a maniacal ass, which it seems to me that he is when he's talking about fuckin you in the car. And your boyfriend could find out, and lose all trust in you, break up with you, and possibly never talk to u again. You need to think of the consquences.

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I haven't been myself lately. And I don't know why. Ugh, I just feel like.. I'm not here, or something.. you know? My friends have noticed, my family... even this lady I take karate with asked me today if I was okay. I can't figure this out. Could I be depressed? I mean, I'm happy about a lot of things. But my life just seems so empty. Like it's missing something.. I donno. Maybe I'm just always tired. I DO need more sleep. And more exercise. Maybe that's why I haven't been myself... I donno.. What do u all think?? Help!!

I had to respond to this because the way you described yourself is also me.

I had the same feelings, like there was a void in my life. I'd have alot of energy and then all of a sudden i'd go into this tired state, i started having emotional breakdowns, crying over dumb stuff. Not eating, and then a week later doing nothin but eating. I'll stop sleeping, and then all i do is sleep. I recently found out that i have a minor case of bipolarism II.

If it becomes a real issue, u should talk to someone. Your counselor maybe, or if your school has a psychology class maybe u can talk to your teacher. Your parents could probably help better than anyone. You need to get your feelings out in the open, dont keep them bottled up. Cuz that will only make you feel worse. Try to stay active, do things that you love to do.

I hope this helps

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Okay..today i posted this question but i only got 1 really good answer (2 in total but the first advice person was a total joke) But i need more advice please! thnak you..this is a really long question..sorry bout the length! Okay, i really like this kid. lets call him "Chris". Well, at my school dances, i danced once with Chris before and i started to like him after that. So, at the past dance, yesterday on friday, i told my friend.."Allyson" that i wanted to try asking chris out. So, the next thing i know, allyson runs away and is talking to chris. I was pretty confident chris would say yes because i had always caught him looking at me in the halls and in our one class together. But then chris starts running away with his friends and allyson said to me that chris wasnt into girls! I was really upset and cried to my friends outside. it was horrible. It felt like id been hit in the stomach. so, now i dont know what to do. I really really like him. Would it be bad if i asked him out again? How do i know when hes ready for a gf? And what do i do to help myslef forget about him in the mean time? i dont like anyone else..13/f * Pleasssse dont delete this!

When he said he didn't like girls, i'm assuming (or kinda hoping, for your sake i guess) that he meant he isn't interested in the dating scene at this moment. If you really like him, maybe u should give it some time. Because if you seem too persistant, he may take it as you being desperate. And not many guys like that. But honestly, you should talk to him, and let him know how u feel. Explain to him how much you like him, and if it's time that he needs, you are willing to wait, or take it slow, or whatever works for him. (If thats the case).

Try to keep yourself busy with your other friends, go out shopping or whatever it is you do. Stay focused on other stuff so that you aren't stressing yourself about the situation.

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