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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Does meditation make people boring?Isn't meditations way of making people happier by making them care less about things,so would it make you cold and apathetic?I've heard that it's great and improves peoples lives,but if it turns you into like a statue or something,what's the point?

It takes bad vibes away. It's healthy. It reduces stress. It's good for you.

ok so my boobs are not as big as i want them i am 15 115 pounds and only have an 32A it sucks and i am so ugly so that doesn't help i plan on having sex soon how can i make my boobs larger

There isn't anyway to make them larger without surgery. Those breast supplements & enhancements through pills & whatever don't work. So don't use them because they're a waste of money. There's nothing you can do except to wait. You're still growing & you've still got a ton of time for them to get bigger. Honestly, I'd die to have your size because having a big chest isn't as great as everyone thinks it is.

i'm 15/f in 9th grade in a Middle school and i get depressed a lot that i've never had a boyfriend. and i've also never kissed a guy before. sometimes i just get to thinking like wow there are like 13 yr olds with boyfriends and who have gotten their first kiss before.

also most of the people in my grade have boyfriends and have definitely kissed a guy before. it just gets me sad knowing that i haven't kissed a guy or even had a boyfriend before.

i don't want advice on how to get a boyfriend, that isn't my problem. i just want advice on how to be more confident and not to be constantly worrying about the fact that i've never had a boyfriends and i'm still prude.

thanks =]

I don't get why it's so important for girls to have a boyfriend or to be kissed. The feeling is nice, yes, but it's not a necessary thing to live. With that said, you're not prude. You're just not an easy slut and you're waiting for the right person.

What is a Depo Provera shot

What is google?

It's birth control.

i just tried to peirce my cartalige myself but the back wont go in and i want a few ways that say how to get it in without hurting so bad PLEASE respond quickly so it doesnt close up! thanks!

Stop being a pansy ass & just push it through. It's gonna hurt, but you should've thought about that before you decided to think you're a professional and pierce yourself. See a professional because they know what they're doing. You do not.

how do i get glue off my hands?

Let it dry, peel it off. Or just use nailpolish remover.

are all advcicenators in here under the age of 19 ?

No.

i was wondering if there was anyway to treat a bladder infection minus the antibiodicts. (without going to the doctor and getting a perscrption) thanks.

Drink cranberry juice. Or you can just do the logical/smart thing & go see a doctor since they know what they're doing.

ok this guy that i really really like his name is matt ok and his friend nolan asked me out for matt i said no thinking he was joking then a few days ago these 2 kids corey and jeremy asked me out for matt again and i didnt even answer them so my friends thought that matt actualy liked me and also i got sent to ISS which is in school detention for something really stupid but while i was gone my friends said that matt was like wheres julie wheres julie and looking around for me and then i was sitting there laughing and he looked over at me and smiled it was really cute hehe yeah anyway so my friends really think he likes me i dont though but my friend liz said that corey one of the guys that asked me out for matt was like i asked julie out for dont tell him or something so i was just wondering liek does anyone know if this guy matt likes me or not and if you have any suggestiong that would be great too btu i'm a really shy person when it comes to guys so just remember that please and thank you

I think he likes you. I would ask him out.

15/f

So. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little more than five months. we do alot of things together. making out, fingering, him feeling me up, phone sex. stuff like that.

My problem is that my parents are SO OVERPROTCETIVE. they will not let me go to his house. he can't come over here without me having like three other people over besides him.

So pretty much all we do is go to private places like after school (closets, behind dumpsters, lame. i know) or go to the movies(my parents won't let me go with just him, so i have to usually bring along friends or go with a larger group)

SO yesterday, we went to see dreamgirls (AMAZING MOVIE btw)and it was me, him, and like on of my close girlfriends. we made out, he felt me up AND freakin fingered me.

I told my friend that she should bring some of her friends because i didnt want to make things awkward for her. But she came by herself. and now i feel emotionaly horrible. i feel just terrible that she had to sit through that, with nobody. i have never felt like such a rude and inconsiderate friend in my life. I love this chick, and i feel horrible about what happened. But i did tell her to bring other friends, and she was just like nahh, it won't be awkward.

HELP?
pleasee&thankyouus

Talk to her about it, and stop disobeying your parents. They have reasons why they won't let him over alone, and him fingering you & all that shit is why. They don't want their daughter ending up pregnant or becoming a skank. It's for your own good.

16/F

My 17th birthday is coming up in March and on my birthday weekend I happen to have dance competitions. Its going on it OR and thats where my sister lives. I really want to get my belly button peirced. My sister has a good peircing place in mind but what I'm asking you about is basically what to expect. Do they use piercing guns for a belly button piercing or a needle? I know pain differs from one person to the next.

Just some answers is all I require.
Thanks,
AG

They use a clamp to hold your bellybutton, and the needle goes through. It's quick. I can't tell you if it'll hurt though because like you said you knew, pain differs from person to person.

hm okay well i would love ANY answers :] thanks so muchh..

this story is going to be kind of pathetic. well back in the 7th grade my friend emily and i exchanged screen names of some of our friends so that we could meet new people. i started talking to one of em's friends, pat. pat's in the same grade as us and he lives in the same town too, but he just goes to the private school in our town and we go to the public. anyways, so i started talking to pat for about a year, over the internet at all times of course since i never met him before. well we ended up loosing touch after a while and i forgot his screenname...but then i began talking to him again in october (2006) through my friend jason. jason is one of my guy-friends and jason&pat are pretty much best friends. well by then pat&i both had myspaces and it turns out pats really hot. (i still havent seen him in person at this point) and i guess he felt the same about me because soon after we had a few convos and began talking on the phone with jason & some other people on 3-way, pat told a couple of our friends (who passed it onto me) he really likes me and wanted to go out. he "asked me out" a few days later. by then i developed a major crush on him even though it was only through the internet and phone. so i guess we "went out" for about a week. we broke it off when we decided that there was no point in "being together" if weve never even seen eachother in person. but now its so awkward between us. pat&i have been through a lot & even though none of it has been face to face, theres been a lot of feelings between us. and i mean, ive been crazy for him since november-ish. so i guess i really do want to meet him, but i just dont want to get my hopes too high, because he could look nothing like his pictures and act like a total jerk, who knows. and i dont want him to think that I`M ugly or weird or anything like that. im just totally afraid our friends will make it even more awkward or something, or i wont like him when i meet him, or whatever. i dont know. i really would just like for someone to tell me what i should do. in person or not, i still really have strong feelings for him and i care for him way more than i have cared about any other guy i've been with. even though i only really know him as a person by his screen name and phone number, i still really like him a lot. what should i do?

Call him and ask him to meet you somewhere. Bring friends though so it's not totally weird.

at my school we have teams -- 7-1, 7-2, and 7-3. i used to be on 7-1, but then i got switched to 7-2 because i was having problems in math. 7-2 is also the team one of my best friends are on. before now, we never fought, got mad at each other, or anything like that. i've made best friends with alot of her close friends because i have most of my classes with them. ever since that...she's been yelling at me for the most stupidest things. on her AIM profile, she used to always have something about me on there and she took me out. i don't really care about "profiles", but i just thought it was weird of her cause she normally freaks out if i'm not on hers. if i'm talking to one of them and we're saying something about one of our inside jokes, she'll just come out of no where and be like, "A-HA-HA-HA-HA!" in a fake laughing voice and then be like, "um, that's not even funny." or something. sjakdgasjda, it's getting on my nerves. is she just jealous or WHAT is her problem?

She's jealous. Talk to her about it and tell her to get the stick out of her ass because you're losing interest in the friendship.

me and my ex went out for a year and 5 months and broke up for a stupid reason. we were an on and off couple but not a bad one.. anyway. when we broke up he got a new girlfriend that i totally hate now and hes only dating her cus he tried to get over me.. and it didnt work. hes still coming over and kissing me and telling me he loves me and hugging me. but he says he loves her and crap. we even had sex.. but ahh i dont know does he really love me or is he using me?

He's obviously using you.

13/f
ok well i have a lot of guy friends...like half of my friends are guys...so thats not the problem. its just like in my group of friends, im kind of like the one they all tease (mostly in a nice way), but its just like its kinda turned off any guy wanting to date me, as weird as that sounds. The only guy i like outside of my group is totally off limits.
im really sick of being single. i dont want a boyfriend just for the sake of having one, but i want a boyfriend. i cant stand being single!
i mean its not like theres anything really wrong with em because i've had 5 boyfriends in the past two years.
i mean im a bit out there...like i dont really tend to give the impression i care what people think of me, but i know im not ugly, and ive been told by everyone ive kissed (and they've also told other people who told me they said this) that im a very good kisser...and as i said i've had boyfriends. so how do i get a boyfriend right now? what do i do?!?!

Why is it so important to have a boyfriend? Just spend time to yourself. Boys shouldn't be needed for happiness. If he's off limits because he has a girlfriend, wait until they break up to purse him.

I downloaded the new yahoo messenger and it is supposed to show you the peoples names instead of there screen names, and show pictures by there name. But mine is not doing that, what did I do wrong?

Maybe it's defective.

I know all schools are different but what are the normal requirements for high school varsity cheerleading if you try out?

Ask the cheerleading squad.

ok so i told my boyfriend what im getting him for valentines day. (a made up cd of all the songs he wants but doesnt have) but i want him to be surprised with something else, I DONT HAVE MONEY sadly enough its ture and well the shit of this all is that valentines day is like wednsday!!! omy i know so what the hell do i give him a card? a kiss? what??? something special ...something cheap but totally what a guy wants. ( ican borrow money) just keep that in mind. so i can buy something but well ya ok thanks!

Make him dinner and have that night be special for just the two of you.

how do you get guys to notice you without being sluty and suchness like that??

Be yourself.

hey guys....im 15/f and my background is Indian....my parents are from India but i am a Canadian...well my problem is my mom...she's all anti-boys...i am not allowed to talk to them anywhere outside class...but that's not fair! I honestly don't listen to her..i have guy friends and i am not ashamed of that...how can i talk to my mom about boys in general?

Respect your mother's decision. She knows what she's talking about.

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