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awkwardness with friends
15/f
So. me and my boyfriend have been going out for a little more than five months. we do alot of things together. making out, fingering, him feeling me up, phone sex. stuff like that.
My problem is that my parents are SO OVERPROTCETIVE. they will not let me go to his house. he can't come over here without me having like three other people over besides him.
So pretty much all we do is go to private places like after school (closets, behind dumpsters, lame. i know) or go to the movies(my parents won't let me go with just him, so i have to usually bring along friends or go with a larger group)
SO yesterday, we went to see dreamgirls (AMAZING MOVIE btw)and it was me, him, and like on of my close girlfriends. we made out, he felt me up AND freakin fingered me.
I told my friend that she should bring some of her friends because i didnt want to make things awkward for her. But she came by herself. and now i feel emotionaly horrible. i feel just terrible that she had to sit through that, with nobody. i have never felt like such a rude and inconsiderate friend in my life. I love this chick, and i feel horrible about what happened. But i did tell her to bring other friends, and she was just like nahh, it won't be awkward.
HELP?
pleasee&thankyouus
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Well do your parents know that you two are dating? maybe you should ask to go to the movies alone and have your reason be that you don't want to make your friends 3rd wheel. my parents are equally overprotective as yours... it worked with them. just be open with them and say that you can't "do" anything at a movie. when you go somewhere with friends... don't do that. good thing is that you realize it and want to change things. next time make sure you have more than one person (i think she got the idea too..) and maybe sit somewhere else with the other people... sexual things should remain/be seen by just the 2 people involved. <3
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well, not to chastize you about your endeavers but your parents have your best interests in mind. now to get around to your friend.
are you feeling guilty, or did you really hurt your friends feelings? if you are just feeling guilty about what took place, and your friend doesn't seem too hurt by being ignored and sitting through a make-out session that probably left her, as well as everyone else around her feeling awkward. then try not to sweat it too much... if you are serious about feeling bad and wanting to make it right again then give her a little bit of Quality time, go out with her to go shopping or something.. just you are her, let her know that you "I love this chick", and aren't just using her as a make-shift chaparone, so you can get your parents off your back.
i remember when i was 14 years old i spent the weekend at my good friend cindy's house. her boyfriend was over alot of the time and it made me feel uncomfortable that she felt so bad that i was the "third wheel" i didn't feel like a third wheel, but it was awkard that she was sooo concerned.
the last night that i was there her parents took her two younger brothers out for the night and left us "kids" there by ourselves. ofcourse my friend and her boyfriend snuck off to the room and had sex while i stayed in the livingroom watching tv... that was weird but not half as weird as when she came out freaking out about the condom breaking and thinking that she was pregnant...
LOL, so until you go THAT far, don't worry about making your friend feel awkward. :)
good luck
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Talk to her about it, and stop disobeying your parents. They have reasons why they won't let him over alone, and him fingering you & all that shit is why. They don't want their daughter ending up pregnant or becoming a skank. It's for your own good.
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From what I understand,
you took off your pants in front of your
friend at a movie theater? Please correct
me if I'm wrong. I just want to make sure
I understand the situation.
Now, since you did what you did and there
is no changing it, all you can do is apologize.
Have your friend over, explain that you got
caught up in the moment and you weren't thinking
straight unless you did plan to do that infront
of her. Other wise, just ask her what you can
do to make it up to her.
Just keep apologizing, then try not
to bring it up again. Next time, think
about if before you try something like that.
Good Luck<3
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