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Hello, I am an eighteen year old female and am about to start my second semester in freshman year at college. The college I'm at specializes mostly in science and mathematics area - specially engineering. I started out in Geology during the first semester to see if science was TRULY where my strength laid, but I'm definitely more of an artsy person. Therefore I changed to English as a degree. I don't really know what I wish for my career to be... because I have a lot of things I like. In this college there isn't that much interest in arts, but out of the few degrees that do relate to something I like I have English and Plastic Arts. I don't know which one to pick (and I've been told that a double bachelor's is not really that beneficial regarding when it comes to getting a job, so I don't know if I should attempt it). That's just two of my options, there's another University I like that has a Communications degree. This has six different concentrations: the ones I like are Photography, Multimedia, Digital Cinema and News. Keep in mind that I love writing, drawing and designing - I love art in all aspects, so that's not a problem for me. I would've gladly gone into show business as a musician, dancer, a singer or an actress, but sadly I never managed to get training (my parents didn't have the time nor money for it).
Here's the thing, I was trying to do this by "what is easier for me" but I've realized that it doesn't work like that - it can never be that easy, it's the truth. So... I'm just wondering if anyone with experience regarding these degrees could recommend which would be the most beneficial in the sense of economic growth and job availability (I've done my fair research on each, but I'm still a little empty handed and confused). (link)
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well the design cinema might be good if you like art and fantasy, you get to create and not just be TOLD what to do and expected to make what they want. i think theres a little bit more artistic freedom here if thats what your looking for.
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to make and maintain friendships? (link)
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This isnt as hard as it seems to me at least.
Friendship is a two way street. Both parties have to start out usually with a common interest. The more interests the better.
Secondly both parties have to be able to put up with one another and be compatible. when i say this i mean be at LEAST ok enough with each other that when you dont agree on everything its OK and you can just let it go and respect the person for their beliefs and vis versa.
It doesnt have to be hard unless your over analyzing it and reading too much into what people are saying when you have interactions with them.
The idea of friends exists because when you dont want to talk to JUST you family, youve got others to turn to for support. family love isnt always "unconditional" sadly. Friends can be though and if you find GOOD friends they will love you through almost anything your going through.
I dont know how you handle social interactions for for me, i take what someone does and says at face value. A sort of "ill believe it when i see it but thank you for saying that" kind of thing. Its safe, and your still being nice without putting "all your eggs in one basket".
People who have "lots of friends" is a whole other ball of wax, because some of those friends they might not even be that close to and merely KNOW THEM from school or camp or some other place and made a momentary connection and just still occasionally talk, realizing that they are cool with each other but just dont quite have the spark to persue a deeper friendship and really theres nothing wrong with that. Your not going to have deep, good friendships with EVERY SINGLE person you run into in this life and thats just how it is.
You can make and maintain friends almost instantly though by just being nice, letting them talk or "tell their story" (((cause alot of times people just wanna feel like they are being heard))) and being supportive. They will most likely do the same in return and thats all it takes!
i hope i explained that ok.
good luck ; )
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My parents started not caring once i turned 10, as they never planned a party since, so i think it led to me kind of having a complex about age. while other kids celebrated turning 13, 16, etc. with their friends, i just would get a cake, and if i was lucky, like $20. i feel like i missed out on those important birthdays.. you're only those integral years once. is a 43rd birthday really as special as a 16th? i feel kind of anxious about it. birthdays instead went from being fun party days to sad days i hated. when i have kids, i want to celebrate all their birthdays, even when they become adults. even if they're far away in college i'd send a gift or something. it's not like my family couldn't afford birthday parties even at our house. but it's like.. it stopped mattering to my parents, and they wonder why i had trouble with friends and everything. if my future child had trouble making friends i'd organize activities and help her branch out, not just ignore the problem. my mom even goes to blame me for my lack of friends, even when i'm literally nice to everyone i meet. she just tends to not apparently be on my side with such matters, and can be as hurtful as a bully at times. don't get me wrong, i'm grateful she gives me food and clothing and what not but for someone who is so social and has so many friends i don't understand why she didn't help foster that sort of thing within me, when it caused me years of anguish, but i digress.
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Maybe your mom/parents had other things going on in their lives at the time that they were stressing over from within that you wernt aware of and so when your birthday would roll around it was not at the top of the priority list. even though i know it should be.
Your right though its NOT normal for a parent to stop caring about their own childs birthdays at least as a youngster, the above guess is the only logical conclusion i can put out there, either that or she just got lazy.
There could have been something about you that she resented (like the fact that you ARE actually friendly to everyone you meet) and the fact that she felt she needed to point out what she felt your flaws were instead of taking the responsibility for NOT having given you or at least helped organize birthdays, shows me little to not parental caring.
When you ask something like: "mom why did my birthdays become less important to you when i was younger?" and she replies that this and that was your fault because you didnt have enough friends to come over to have one, thats called deflecting. Its when you know you have them caught up on the fact that they did wrong, you know they know. THEY know you know and their still trying their damnedest to shift the focus off of themselves by pointing out YOUR flaws instead of owning up to the fact that they may have been in the wrong here or wasnt involved in this aspect of your life as she should have been.
It seems a bit detached to me emotionally and like she refuses to take the blame for any wrong doing on her part during your childhood.
Any parent would normally go to whatever lengths they felt they needed to go to that make SURE you were happy on that day, even if it means just having cake and a few family members there and some gifts. My mother used to call my friends moms and invite them all over to our house when i was younger to MAKE SURE i had a party even if me and that friend were in the middle of not talking to each other at that moment in time. she would paint faces and buy balloons for water balloon fights outside.
She could have at least taken you to chucky cheese. its free to get in and only costs money to play games and eat. We take my 3 year old son to the county fair because it falls during his birthday time of year and tell him this is ALL for his birthday!
Your birthdays ARE important because its the day when you came into our lives, and blessed this earth with your soul hunny. try not to be sad but be happy that despite the awful things that go on, on this earth that your still up right and breathing and with us!
good luck ; )
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The love of my life says I'm to young for him. How do I prove to him that I'm not to young? I'm really mature for my age and I don't see why he thinks I'm to young. I'm 15 and I am a female. (link)
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Well how old IS he?? we cant really answer this question if we dont know how far apart in age you really are can we?
i'd say any more then 7 to 10 years and he is infact too old for you.
My now husband is 7 years older than me. i was 14 and he was 21 when we first met. We friends first then realized how much we felt the same things for each other and age just didnt matter after that.
He might be afraid that your age could get in the way and he could get charged with rape if things went wrong and you or your parents called the police.
He might want a woman who has her life together, isnt still living with a guardian, has a carrier of her own, a car, etc. so that he can begin a life together with her when HE and HER choose to, and dont have to wait until your at least 18 to do so.
There are so many reasons here and you gave us so little on him and your situation that its hard to gauge.
My husband waited for me because hes a big nerd and didnt have anyone else in his life quite like me, and i too have always been considered more mature then my actual age. You life together would all hinge on what HE wants to do because he would have to work to care for both of you until you could legally get a job and pay bills and so on.
try not to take it too personally when he says that to you, he might actually REALLY like you as a person but he might not be able to SEE himself with you realistically because of all of this. if you want to message me (because ive been there) feel free.
good luck ; )
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The passing of three relatives in the pass couple of years has made me wonder what happens when you die. I used to deal with depression and I did not want to live but now that I am happy I don't want to die.I am a young adult and would love to believe I will live to grow old. But,I am afraid to go to sleep because I might die in my sleep. I do believe in God and I pray but it still bothers me that I will die one day. I understand everyone will die but once you realize it will happen to you it is hard not to have anxiety about it because its permanent. It weird to grasp that I might not exist. It seems like No one really "knows" everyone just "believe" something will happen. Should I change my perspective? (link)
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I have to agree with the other posters here. having that fear doesnt fix anything, if anything all it does is hinder you living your life to the fullest.
It is true that we are matter and matter never dies, it just changes into a different form. Loved ones are still here with us we just cant see or touch them but they let us know all the time that they are still around. When you hear one of their "favorite old tunes" on the radio and start thinking of them, or sometimes when a light flickers for no reason and then you think of them for no reason. They do that.
The thought of dying can be scary yes, but if you try to remember that it wont be for a long LONGG time most likely, then all you have to do is live the happiest life you can, pull what and who is most important closest to you, and create memories with those people.
Know that your very loved by the people around you and whenever that day DOES come youll leave this earth knowing that you made a difference, that you wont be forgotten ever, and that you were loved. At WHATEVER age thats at.
If you spend your whole life fearing death then is that really living at all?? -no. You could have been out doing more important productive things.
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I'm a 15 year old female and my boyfriend has popped my cherry will this affect the way I have sex or get fingered again ? And will the cherry get back to normal . (link)
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there is no "cherry" the only thing that happened was your vagina got stretched more then it has ever been before up until this point.
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Hi there,boy Im in hot water.
This guy I like likes looking at other women.We followed each other on Instagram.And every time I log in,it shows me what people I follow liked pictures,and how many. Well,about 90% of his posts are all sexy and suggestive photos,I was sick of seeing crap! Especially when he has me to stare at.I have brought this up many times.So I told him I wasnt sending him anymore photos to his phone.
I said ''you get sexy photos for free,and see them all the time why should I bother? Just the last straw''
And he responded ''Oh my god...you're right.This is the last straw''
And then I said''Dont be upset'' And sent some other messages
And he said ''I'm not talking to you right now. Stop blowing up my phone''
He unfollowed and blocked me on his Instagram.
So,how bad is this? Os he leaving me? Am I ever going to hear from him again? Or did I jut blow it? Anything? Is there anything I can do?
Or is it a done deal? I said I was sorry. And I am.I love him very much.
So,is it over,and does he need his space? (link)
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My first question to you is why would you say sorry for standing up for how you feel when this guy is looking at other women and "gets sexy pics for free"??
i hear nothing there that says "i need to say im sorry"
Secondly, if he blocked you and unfriended you or whatever then YEAH i'd say its a done deal. He doesnt want anything else to do with you and it sounds like by the way you described him, you dont really need to have anything to do with him either. He sounds like a ladies man and your just one more in the pile of girls he gets pics from. Do you really wanna be just another one of those unspecial girls?? probly not. You should have a guy that worships only YOU and doesnt WANT pictures of anyone else.
If anything you come off as needy to him because you first stated how you felt, then once you realized he was upset you took seemed to almost take it back by saying "dont be upset". Something tells me this guys feels like he has you on your knees for him emotionally and thats not where you should be OK with being at.
its better you broke it off with him you deserve better then that. ; )
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I'm so pissed that my gf is not the same as when I first met her. She displayed herself innocent and sweet, which she still does pretend. But I came to know about some stuff about her which she is been hiding since we are togther. We did had ground rules about not hiding anything when we started dating. She doesn't knows that I know the true stories behind the stories she tells me. She is a single mother. She got pregnant when she was drunk when she was 20 years old. Then she decided to keep the kid. I'm dating her almost a year and half and I accidentally came accros her conversations. She's been talking to guys from university and her neighbors which I'm okay with but in most of conversation they discuss about their sexual activities. Many of them included having sex in a cinema, having sex in a sex club while others watched her, having sex with a transexual, after partying walking to home full drunk and passing out at some unknown person's house and waking up naked in his bed which in the conversation it is described as she doesn't even know how many guys fuckrd her, I also came across some conversations describing sleeping with married few men and having affair with engaged guy, having sex with her gfs and their bfs and having flings with her sisters ex. I am feeling like such a horrible person. I never cheated in my entire life. I never lied about anything. I was expecting the same. I just feel like I'm such a loser. I honestly don't know what to react to this. Please advice me to take a proper decision. (link)
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This really comes down to a question of "how OK are you with knowing she did these things in the past"??
Because you found the convo's im assuming this is all stuff she did but ISNT doing now right??
This stuff did already happen and theres nothing you or her can do to change that, so really what you need to decide is are you ok with knowing that theres a good chance this stuff happened and that you can put it behind you or not.
If so then you can still tell her you found the convo's and arent pleased but its in the past, OR that your disgusted just looking at her and you cant deal with what you discovered.
Even though she may not have felt it was ness. to tell you, im sure your still feeling really cheated and wronged here. which i can personally understand.
Take some time to think about what ive said and then confront her on this. She will probably try to berate you for going through her things and try to deflect her actions but its still important that she know how you feel, and where you want to go from here.
Can you live with knowing she probably did those things or not?
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I have been with my fiance since high school. We are both 22 yrs old now and have a beautiful 1yr old daughter. My problem with my relationship is I feel smothered. Not smothered by attention or affection, there actually isn't much of that because of me. He works hard for our family and our future while I staynat home. I love him so much and couldn't imagine my life without him...yet at times I want to escape. He is a very sensitive broody kind of guy. He was both physically and mentally abused by his parents most of his life and he has passive aggressive issues BIGTIME. I on the other hand keep all my stress and insecurity locked up and don't show are act like anything is wrong. His behavior sometimes makes me want to just run and disappear. Almost like his energy is choking the air and it feels heavy all the time. Yet he ALWAYS want's to spend time with me UNLESS he goes out with his friends. I personally don't have many friends and I am an introvert. But I want to find time for myself! But if I said that to him he would ask if I hate being around him or some BS! ugh Idk how to explain myself to him at all! (link)
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I agree with what the other posters have said here, however for your daughters sake, and your sanity you are going to HAVE to start taking your child outside to play and do things at some point because staying in the house all the time with a toddler WILL drive you insane. Kids cant be kept under lock and key when their small and will need fresh air and fun, so why not tell your fiance that your simply going to walk your daughter to the closest park to you just so she can get some fresh air and you can get a work out! ; )
To most, that sounds pretty innocent and no one should question a walk to the park n back. Let your man sit and play video games or go while hes at work so your by yourself and you can decompress and think OUTSIDE the house.
Start there with making time for yourself (even if your not really alone because you have your daughter) Then slowly try to start hanging out with friends that have kids close to her age. Women need other women mom friends so support and help empower each other when family members arent cutting it anymore.
If he wants to go with you a few times to the park just to see that theres nothing to fear when you go out for a walk on your own then thats fine, get him comfortable with it and then start also going on your own.
((he cant really argue with the fact that your trying to give your daughter outside play time)) and she'll sleep wayy better at night.
At some point "the rose falls off the bloom" and the romance is gone once and the reality of having to take the kid out and do things for it everyday weather its with him or not WILL happen. Life isnt a fantasy where he gets to control the results.
Tell him if he gets to have baby free friend time then you deserve the same, and thats only fair its not about liking anyone more or less, its about real life. He sounds a bit childish to me (among other things) and the only way your ever going to be seen as more of an equal is if you put your foot down on things here and there.
(((and trust me the young mothers at the park are looking for the same thing you are, other mom friends))) ; )
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Ok so today me and my guy friend were on kik and he said that "even if you did like me back I don't think I would date you" me and this guy have been friends for 2 years now. We are VERY close and we talk to each other all the time. He opens up to me and spills his life problems out to me or whatever he is going through. Ive helped him through a lot. He has this big crush on me but its not mutual and he gets me gifts, hugs me, texts me everyday, and gets jealous very easily. I asked him why and he said he would be scared if we were to break up and never talk again and that he hasn't been closer to any other girl then me even his ex. But last year (were much closer this year) he would constantly bug me and express how much he wanted to date me but now its like he just likes to do things for me (like a boyfriend) but not fully commit to me? He doesn't do it to anyone else. He doesn't have any other crushes or anything. He says he is scared that I would hurt him. But if you love someone don't you trust them enough not to break your heart? There has been times were our friendship had its downs. He would always lie to me and try to make me jealous by making up stories about other girls (he did this so many times) and I wouldn't talk to him for a while and he would freak out and vent to all his friends (that are also my friends) and he will get super depressed because he felt guilty for what he did. I've forgiven him an he still to this day feels bad for the things he did in the past when I assured him I wasn't mad at him anymore. Does he not trust me enough? Or is he just one of those type of guys that are "just in it for the chase"? (link)
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it seems he might be a little bit of both from what your saying.
He sounds like he wants you to like him back for a while and then when you do he starts making things up and expects you to feel hurt because he feels hurt when YOU do things because you dont like him back or feel the same.
It sounds to me like hes just messing with your head alot and i would personally just end all contact. It doesnt sound like hes capable of just being friends and sounds like hes unsure of his feelings because if he were he woule either keep talking to you and just except that your friends or end it because he knows already he doesnt have a chance with you.
Buying you things and all this may just be his way to trying to buy your heart, but this will also scare off other guys because they'll know you have some other guy buying you things already so you dont need them.
sounds irrational i know but ive seen this same thing play out way too many times.
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a few weeks ago my parents went out to dinner or something. So they called my cousin to take care of me it was really cool because I love hanging out with him(my cousin is 25 and 13 by the way). So he got to my house then we hung out for a while then i told him that i had a crush on him he said that he kinda liked me too but that our age gap was too wide and that I'm just too young and I couldn't help but cry so I went to my room without saying another word and he followed me so we sat on my bed and I was still crying and he was hugging me and telling me that he's sorry . so I asked him if he would have sex with me and he said absolutely not so after a while I kept asking him and he finally said he would as long as I don't tell anyone and I said I wouldn't so we took our cloths off and he kissed me and laid me down on my bed I told him I have never had sex before and was a little scared and he reassured me that it was fine then he went down and kissed me then after a while we finally started to have sex and it hurt but then felt good then I think it's called an orgasm but that happened to both of us at the same time this he took his penis out of me and white started coming out then we talked for a bit longer then we got dressed then my parent's back home and he left but it's been a few weeks and i think i might be pregnant i don't what i should do and how i should tell him that this is happening. PS sorry if this was all over the place i had to write it in a hurry. (link)
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Ok wow, where to start here. Well If you ARE pregnant the child could come out with alot of birth defects because the two of you are way too closely related.
I can understand thinking even a family member of yours is cute or good looking but to actually follow through with what you did was wrong and on a few levels here.
You and HIM will have to live with the guilt of knowing for the rest of your lives what you did with each other and i wouldnt ever tell another living soul because in all honestly its kinda sick. Your COUSINS, thats only one degree away from being SIBLINGS do you understand what im saying.....think of it that way.
He may be older and good looking but he should not be the target of your sexual thoughts and if he is i think you should talk to someone professional about this. Your young, your confused, your body is changing inside and out and you made a bad mistake. Luckily its one you can still fix while its early on in the pregnancy if you are infact pregnant.
Call or walk into a planned parenthood near you and ask them if your age would be an issue with getting a blood test to KNOW 100 percent if you are pregnant or not.
Keep taking the at home pregnancy tests, or have someone else buy them for you that wont say anything. You dont need to tell them the full details right now either, just have them buy you some, tell them it was a guy you met and it was a stupid one time mistake and you just need to know if you are or not. thats all.
I have to agree with the others here, you definitely put your cousin in a precarious position, he could go to jail for life just for agreeing to do something YOU wanted him to do with you. This will most likely also change your relationship between you and your cousin now for life and he might not even wanna hang out with you anymore because he may now have realized what he did was wrong, embarrassing, and just the thought of hanging out again would bring back all the feelings of what happened and that may make him feel like its too much to bare.
I think you should find out that soonest you can and see if you can get the plan b pill. This can still just all be a big mistake that you can look back on and say that was dumb of me and then never have to think about it again. dont bring an innocent life into this if you dont have to, one that could come out deformed or with birth defects because your too closely related. The hospital would also do standard testing on the child and find out through that without you even telling them that you are related to the father, the would want to know why the childs DNA is not normal, then they would tell your parents and it would all be over. So having a child with your relative WOULD come out, cause theres no keeping it a secret from the hospital staff. They will call the police and start investigating and thinking your father is the father or something and people would start getting arrested and it would just be a huge life altering mess. (((not trying to scare you here but thats the truth of it))
A friend of mines dad is the result of such a union and although times were different, her father still came out with birth defects. i know him personally and although he is a good person, this should have never happened.
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Hi, I'm 26.. getting married in May. We're having a small wedding (40 people) in a church, followed by a very formal reception in a historical house.
We made the decision a while ago to have it an adults-only affair, as it's going to be a very late night (finishes at 12) and there's going to be a band and alcohol. We didn't want to put it on the invites (as weddings we've been to have) so we're just telling people. Everyone has expected so far not to bring their children, except my fiance's sister.
She hit the roof, saying that if her 7 month old baby can't be there neither will she. We said we can't make exceptions, it's not fair and she's far too little for the wedding. She said that she can't possibly leave her, even though she has left her several times with her grandparents to go to BBQ's and parties, etc.
I love kids, I'm an elementary school teacher but she is being very unfair. Now my fiance's parents are threatening not to come unless we make the niece a 'focal point' of our wedding. It's OUR wedding! They are saying everyone will love her and if she cries they'll just take her out and put her in a 'different room' at the reception.
I'm so upset, she was also meant to be my bridesmaid so now she's left me in the lurch. I tried to compromise by saying I'll organise child care, and you can always see her after the ceremony before the reception but it's not enough for her. She's also getting very abusive now in text messages.
What should I do advicenators? This is really wearing me down in a supposed exciting time :( (link)
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Heres the thing, alot of people feel that weddings should be family friendly events, but if your choosing to serve alcohol, then depending on where you are its illegal to have children in the same building and you can actually get in trouble for that and the wedding can be shut down. So you might want to find out if thats a reality your going to have to deal with for you wedding and maybe even tell your family thats acting like this and see what their reaction is. (even if you have to fib a little on that) its your wedding and if you really want them to be there and actually be "ok" during the event then i dont see a problem with a little white lie. ; )
Theres now real arguing that someone whos NOT running the wedding can fight about. a simple "well i talked to the so and so of the building and they said children arent allowed because there will be alcohol being served and its illegal" If their still fighting you after that then their not going to be happy for you no matter what you do and maybe they shouldnt be there in the first place.
I know you made your niece part of the wedding but if you want the win the argument about the no children thing then youll have to take her out too, because then it wont make sense that shes allowed but no one else is. Say that you didnt know this would be an issue with the building owner (or whoever) and that your not loving it either but youve already chosen the place and its too late now. thats the only real way i can see you winning this fight.
It IS your wedding, and i can understand the feeling of unfairness, but on the side of the parents of those children youve chosen to nix from the wedding their probably feeling upset or that you might secretly not like them or something to that degree. (((its a parental pride thing))) with some parents its worse than others. your basically saying "i dont want the smaller version of YOU here" to them, which even though thats probly NOT what your saying, thats what their hearing.
Arranging child care for them doesnt change that much because now your asking them to trust someone they dont know with their kids. lol. so I know you might be thinking that will help but it probably doesnt make that much of a difference. ((speaking as a parent myself))
Try to stay excited, and remember this day isnt all about THEM its about YOU and your partner!
If you can build up the balls to have a candid conversation with them each individually, say "look i would really love it if you would just try to come, i want you there on my special day but because of the way we wanted our reception to be (fun and with alcohol) children just arent an option. If you still want to come it would mean alot but if you chose not to be there thats ok and youll be missed" If they crack at point and choose to say "ookkk i care about you toooo ill do it" then all is well!!
If not and they continue to act stupid then THEY will be missing out and will regret having not been there later after they see all the fun and wonderful pictures from the day of!
when it comes to parents you have to try to be extra delicate.
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I'm 20 years old and female. I really want to go to college starting this year to become a Nurse or Nurse Practitioner so I'd either be getting a Bachelors or Masters of Science in Nursing.
To me it seems like Nurses are always needed, they get paid quite a bit more than the average salary and much more than somebody who was working somewhere who didn't have a college degree would earn. I'm a healthy, strong, intelligent, social butterfly and I have already taken two medical college courses in the past that I really enjoyed so it seems like a good career choice. I also love children and want to give back to the community and being petite I think I'd be a perfect pediatric nurse.
However my Mother who's a Medical Transcriptionist and my brother's long time girlfriend who's a Certified Nursing Aid disagree with me. My Mother would rather see me work up the ladder in mobile phone retail sales (that I have current experience in) and forfeit a college degree. She thinks nursing is grueling, expensive and that people will disrespect me as a petite female nurse and she says I won't be able to do it. My brother's gf says she hated her job as a CNA because it was disgusting and the environment was like high school and that they paid her very little and tried to talk me out of it. Everybody else has told me it's a good idea though and that I'd be very good at it.
My question is in your opinion is nursing a good choice or a bad choice to pursue based on the details I've given you? (link)
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Well i married into a family of nurses, CNA's, and military nurses.
and i can tell you that from what ive heard. being a CNA is a dirty job. you spend most of your time cleaning up vomit, poop and pee, then cleaning and changing adult diapers, everything that involves the uglier side of caring for people who cant care for themselves.
You should follow your heart though now matter what and get into the field you feel you best fit.
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Mai ye jaanna chahta hu ki mere dost ke do dino se potty jaate samay latring ke sath sath blood bhi nikal raha hai to ye bimari konsi hai?
And iska treatment kya hai? Please tell me as hurry as possible.. (link)
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you might want to speak english in your question as well lol. no one knows that your asking here....
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Ive been with my boyfriend for several months now. He's in his mid 20's I just turned 30. I love him to pieces and I know he loves me. Our communication is good and honesty is there. But we hardly see each other because of work schedules. And he doesn't have a car right now. So we see each other very little,and I have to go to him. I don't want to break up but its tough not seeing him but a few hours a week and usually its from 11 pm to 11 am and we've both worked all day so we are tired and fall asleep. Advice? (link)
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can you both plan more vacations or off times so that they correspond?
You should really talk to him about getting a car for himself so that you dont always have to go to him and see where he is mentally on that. see what his reaction is and if he feels the need for a car to be able to get to you is a high priority or not. If its not then clearly youll know more about the choice to stay with him or not.
where is he in his life? is he in the same phase as you? because a big issue with age can be that your not in the same place in life AKA you might have your life more together, serious, and planned out, where as he is sort of just floating along with no defined plan in mind about the next five to ten years. If he doesnt then this could be a problem and for YOU im sure result in a big disappointment.
good luck. ; )
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I feel very sad the holidays are over. All the decorations are being taken down and my family who were visiting are leaving. Any ways I can make myself feel happier? (link)
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try just looking forward to the new year to come with hope and happiness. Think more about what youll be able to do this year that will be productive and fun!
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I have a dream where I am in a dark abyss like place, family, friends, people I know but hate, they all are there and 1 person I can't see (voice is unrecognizable too). They all say horrible things and hurt me, in others they die, and I die in some dreams too. The person I don't know is always in the dreams somewhere. I don't know what it means or what to do. Can someone help me with this? (link)
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Well dreams are always very symbolic in nature. It doesn literally mean that what you saw is going to happen, its just your subconscious way of talking to you and letting you know how it feels when people say hurtful things to you maybe?
maybe a little part of you "dies" when they say these things??
think more about what everything your seeing could represent in the dream.
Also, it helps to slowly wake up from the dream if you can and try to keep your eyes closed and stay relaxed. dont jump out of bed but instead try to "rewind" on the dream like a tape your watching and try to remember as MUCH as you can about the everything you saw before you wake up.
It might also help to write the dreams down even if they are the same.
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Can you get pregant if he come out but nuts on the side of your thigh ?? (link)
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not likely no sorry. Sperm cant live outside the human body for very long, It needs the warmth of body temp.
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So I am bleeding and I don't know why. I f*ngered myself and in the middle of it I looked down and blood. I'm scared. The bleeding is slowing down now. It's not my period I know that. Should I tell my mom? I'm only 14. This is my first time bleeding like this. I started in the 4th grade. My boyfriend knows and he is worried. I nearly repainted the toilet. What should I do? What was it? Did I pop my cherry? (link)
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If your an athletic person this can also cause your hymen to tear a little or stretch. I used to be into dance in high school and although i wasnt on my period at the time, i did one day, over a few days experience a little bit of blood in my underwear and a sharp pain in that area. after that it was fine though and i was still technically a virgin for about two years after.
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Hi! I'm really into Evanescence but I can't seem to find any more music like it. I've tried fall out boy and nickelback but they don't have the... I guess, real emotion behind what they're singing. Any suggestions? (link)
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Try going onto places like sound cloud, and type in a few bands you really like. Sound cloud will bring up other bands that are considered to be very similar.
In the meantime try bands like
eighteen visions
our lady piece
The used
mark joseph
anberlyn
life house
one republic
try those, see how you feel. always be open to new types of music too, you dont have to like every song in an album. Just let your ears catch a tune and go with it! ; )
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