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I don't know what to do?
a few weeks ago my parents went out to dinner or something. So they called my cousin to take care of me it was really cool because I love hanging out with him(my cousin is 25 and 13 by the way). So he got to my house then we hung out for a while then i told him that i had a crush on him he said that he kinda liked me too but that our age gap was too wide and that I'm just too young and I couldn't help but cry so I went to my room without saying another word and he followed me so we sat on my bed and I was still crying and he was hugging me and telling me that he's sorry . so I asked him if he would have sex with me and he said absolutely not so after a while I kept asking him and he finally said he would as long as I don't tell anyone and I said I wouldn't so we took our cloths off and he kissed me and laid me down on my bed I told him I have never had sex before and was a little scared and he reassured me that it was fine then he went down and kissed me then after a while we finally started to have sex and it hurt but then felt good then I think it's called an orgasm but that happened to both of us at the same time this he took his penis out of me and white started coming out then we talked for a bit longer then we got dressed then my parent's back home and he left but it's been a few weeks and i think i might be pregnant i don't what i should do and how i should tell him that this is happening. PS sorry if this was all over the place i had to write it in a hurry.
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Ok wow, where to start here. Well If you ARE pregnant the child could come out with alot of birth defects because the two of you are way too closely related.
I can understand thinking even a family member of yours is cute or good looking but to actually follow through with what you did was wrong and on a few levels here.
You and HIM will have to live with the guilt of knowing for the rest of your lives what you did with each other and i wouldnt ever tell another living soul because in all honestly its kinda sick. Your COUSINS, thats only one degree away from being SIBLINGS do you understand what im saying.....think of it that way.
He may be older and good looking but he should not be the target of your sexual thoughts and if he is i think you should talk to someone professional about this. Your young, your confused, your body is changing inside and out and you made a bad mistake. Luckily its one you can still fix while its early on in the pregnancy if you are infact pregnant.
Call or walk into a planned parenthood near you and ask them if your age would be an issue with getting a blood test to KNOW 100 percent if you are pregnant or not.
Keep taking the at home pregnancy tests, or have someone else buy them for you that wont say anything. You dont need to tell them the full details right now either, just have them buy you some, tell them it was a guy you met and it was a stupid one time mistake and you just need to know if you are or not. thats all.
I have to agree with the others here, you definitely put your cousin in a precarious position, he could go to jail for life just for agreeing to do something YOU wanted him to do with you. This will most likely also change your relationship between you and your cousin now for life and he might not even wanna hang out with you anymore because he may now have realized what he did was wrong, embarrassing, and just the thought of hanging out again would bring back all the feelings of what happened and that may make him feel like its too much to bare.
I think you should find out that soonest you can and see if you can get the plan b pill. This can still just all be a big mistake that you can look back on and say that was dumb of me and then never have to think about it again. dont bring an innocent life into this if you dont have to, one that could come out deformed or with birth defects because your too closely related. The hospital would also do standard testing on the child and find out through that without you even telling them that you are related to the father, the would want to know why the childs DNA is not normal, then they would tell your parents and it would all be over. So having a child with your relative WOULD come out, cause theres no keeping it a secret from the hospital staff. They will call the police and start investigating and thinking your father is the father or something and people would start getting arrested and it would just be a huge life altering mess. (((not trying to scare you here but thats the truth of it))
A friend of mines dad is the result of such a union and although times were different, her father still came out with birth defects. i know him personally and although he is a good person, this should have never happened.
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First follow rainhorse68's advise as to testing. You are actually to young to legally buy a test kit. You need to be 14 years of age to legally purchase them.
You don't say what makes you think you are pregnant. It would not be unusual for a teenage girl to miss a period. It is also not unusual for a women to miss her period when under stress. If you are worried about being pregnant this is enough stress to cause you to miss a period. Do you have any other symptoms?
If you are pregnant you do not have much choice you will have to tell you parents. Unless you are going to turn 14 within the next 27 weeks they have total say over what to do about any pregnancy. Meaning they may schedule an abortion for you or force you to carry the baby to term and then to give it up for adoption.
Your parents are going to want to know who is the father? By begging your cousin to have sex with you and if you are pregnant, something you can't hide for long. You have placed your cousin in a very difficult position both legally and with in the family.
By having sex with you he committed incest which is illegal, he also committed rape because you are too young to consent to sex. He also could be charged with Child sex abuse, child abuse, statutory Rape, statutory rape and a number of other child sexual offenses. If by chance he crossed a stat line to see you he is also guilty of a federal offence.
Should your parents have him charged with having sex with you and he is charged with all of the offences he could be charged with. He could spend the rest of his life in prison. If he does ever get out of prison he will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life.
Why am I telling you all this. For two reasons and one very good reason only.
1) If you are fortunate enough not to be pregnant DO NOT EVER HAVE SEX WITH YOUR COUSIN AGAIN.
2) YOU ARE WAY TOO YOUNG TO BE HAVING SEX IN THE FIRST PLACE. if YOU ARE FORTUNATE NOT TO BE PREGNANT YOU SHOULD WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MUCH OLDER TO HAVE SEX AGAIN.
If you are pregnant you have no choice you must tell your parents you are pregnant. You also have to tell them who the father is. Hopefully you are not pregnant and you learn a good lesson from this and wait until you're older and more mature before you have sex again and never again with a family member.
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I think you should get a testing kit and see if you are pregnant. Repeat the test in a few weeks whatever the result. If you are pregnant you have to get the whole thing out in the open by speaking to your parents as soon as possible. Given your age and the nature of your relationship with the father it's more than likely you won't want to go any further with the pregnancy and have it terminated? Not for me to judge of course but I do believe that would be the best path for you and everyone else involved. If you are not pregnant count it as a lucky escape but I should end the sexual side of the relationship with him if I were you. Ok, you admit a crush on him but it's not a suitable match for lots of reasons is it sweetheart? If the two of you insist on having sex again then use condoms. Therer is no excuse for HIM exposing you to the risk of pregnancy in the way he did. I hope sincerely you are not pregnant. If you are not then your wisest decision would be to put the whole encounter down to experience, end the possibilty of it happening again and move on. X
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