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when my sister was younger she had an abortion and now about 4-6 years later, she had 2 miscarrages before she got pregnet and just had another one. does anyone think it could be from it. or maybe that she was molested at a young age.

i just wanted to know because it worries me. thanks!

Yea it can be from the abortion. I know this because I had a abortion at 17 and at 23 got pregnant and miscarried. Back in the day, there was no thought put behind abortion, as far as being able to get pregnant in the future, everyone assumed that you just could with no complications, but sadly, that's not true. Here are some statistics for you.
Some women are physically damaged from the abortion, and a few are even left permanently infertile.

Physical Effects
• Intense pain
• Sterility (inability to conceive)
• Bleeding
• Perforation of the uterus
• Laceration of the cervix
• Shock/coma
• Increased risk (50%) of breast cancer
• Passing blood clots
• Death
• Miscarriages of future pregnancies
• Increased risk of ectopic (tubal) pregnancies

I totally know what she is going through. Just be there for her. Going thru this not only has it's physical side effects but has mental one's as well. Such as depression, fear, Uncontrolled crying, guilt, obsession wit baby's due date, and mourning, sense of loss. If you want to know more you can go to.. http://www.birthline.org/html/abort.htm

Yall have my sympathy, best of luck to her.

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My friend recently got on the Depo-Provera shot. She got it on April 2nd. She lost her virginity around the end of March, and didn't use a condom. Her period was 3+ weeks late and she said it was really light and really short (not enough blood to use a tampon and only two days long.) Ever since then, she bleeds after she has sex. It's happened twice. The first time she said it was alot of blood, but nothing like period blood. The second time was tonight and she said it wasn't too much and it's always after she goes to the bathroom. I can tell she's worried even though she says she's not and I am worried for her. Can anyone tell me what they think is up? I will rate high! Thanks so much!

♥ Christina

Here are problems she might have:

Side effects will vary from one person to another. It would be uncommon for one individual to experience all of the side effects. Most side effects occur within the first month of use and gradually improve over the next two months. If symptoms persist or are especially bothersome, she should notify her health care provider. Some side effects may not go away until the shot wears off. The most common side effects may include:

Weight gain
Breast tenderness
Mood changes
**All women who use Depo have a change in their menstrual bleeding**:
You may not know when you will have a period
You may have spotting between periods
You may have longer or shorter periods
Most women stop having periods after using Depo for 12 months

In other words, there's no reason to worry, her "problem's" are from the Depo shot. To read more you can go to http://www.birthcontrol4u.com/shot.htm

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right ok ive got a weak bladder and wet the bed its really embarrasing and sometimes im scared to sleep at anyones house incase it happens i dont know what to do and i dont want to go to the doctors or anything cause its really embarrasing. please help

Ok this really will help you. I wont say how I know thou..haha ok so during the day when you get the urge to go pee. DONT! Hold it for as long as you can then go. This helps build up your weakness so to speak. It makes your bladder able to hold more liquids and for more longer amounts of time. It's very important to do this everyday. Even if you can only hold it for 10-15 minutes. And in about a couple weeks you wont have this problem anymore. Best of Luck

*Additonal, You should always see a qualified medical physician for problems such as these. I'm just re-laying information that was told to a friend from her doctor and actually worked for her.

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hey guys theres this thing at school and your supposed to be someone from the past ro present i extremly perfer someone from the past! I want someone like glamorous like marilyn monroe but i cant do her can give me some suggestions and give me websited on what she looks like and how she dressed thanks!

There are tons of "glamorous" people you can do I'll give you the websites and also as you requested, how Marilyn dressed... Have fun!
Here is the website for over 20 photos of different outfits that Marilyn Monroe has worn.
http://www.marilynmonroe.com/about/photos/color_photos.htm

Here is one for a actress named Rue McClanahan who played Blanche Devereaux (Last name pronounced Dev-a-row) You might know her off the Golden girls. She would definatly be a very funny character for you to play as she was a man-hungry Southern Belle.
http://members.tripod.com/fabgalnms/id3.htm

Here is one more website of the top 100 famous women. You can google there names and see if ya' like any of them.
http://www.h-net.org/~women/bibs/com.html

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OK, heres the context. My girlfriend and I are dry humping. I have my pants unzipped with boxerbriefs underneath and shes wearing shorts with underwear underneath. As we usually do, we stop far short of either of us cumming, but she noticed a small wet spot on my boxer briefs. I identify it immediately as pre-cum and shrug it off. But she starts to panic a bit seeing as how its within the week period before her cycle and the chances of her getting pregnant are higher than usual. I've tried to console her telling here there is no chance that the amount of sperm could permeate through 3 layers of clothing and make it in to fertilize her, but she has doubts. Can someone please verify what i think which is the chances of this are so close to zero its not worth thinking about?

first, your not fertile the week BEFORE your period. It's 4-12 days AFTER your period has FINISHED. And nah tell her not to stress being prego. she has a better chance of being eaten by a shark that becoming pregnant through pre-cum and 3 layers of clothes!

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What's a good website with cute bathing suits that have a wire bra built in and will fit a kinda plus size woman?

Please help. Thank you!

Here is the exact one I bought today except a different color. It looks really good on and compliments what ya got and hides what ya dont!

http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=4452869

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okay well my boyfriend is coming over tomorrow after his baseball game. and i figured since he would probley be sore and sweaty a nice romantic bath would be nice for him. well i was wondering if he did pre-cum or actually cum...could it still survive in the water? i know that when it hits air it dies quickly but what about water? should i have him wear a condom...not that we will have sex. please help. i rate 5's

LOL! Sorry had to! How relaxing could it possible be to wear a condom that cuts off the circulation to your dick the whole time your RELAXING in the tub? If your that worried about getting pregnant that you think he can pre-cum and it can swim across the tub inbetween your legs and up into your vagina all that way up there then u might want to get on birth control. The possibilties of that actually happening? slim to none! You have a better chance of being eat by a shark...

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Ok, its not that urgent, but I just wanted to ask, ok, I am one of those people who think that dreams are sometimes like, a sighn, or a prediction. Well, latley I have had dreams about my ex-friend. She was nice at first, then she turned into a total brat, and now we hate each other. Anyways, about the dreams, one of them we became like, best friends again, another I called her and tried to appolagize and become friends again, and another she was at my best friends house. I dont know what this means! Please help me out!

Oh! I love dreams yes they most of the time mean something (unless you dream that you fell off a cliff and into a choclate ice~cream cone lol in that case it's just you don't have no probs or nothing that is bothering you and your brain is bored) in your case you have un-resolved issues with your ex-best~friend. Things you want to say to her but you just don't realize it. When you dream you do it in the 1st phase of sleep (there are 5 phase's) The 1st one is R.E.M. sleep (Rapid Eye Movement) It means you are just barely asleep, a light sleep you could say. This is when your brain sorts through all the crap that goes on in your life and if something is dis-stressing to it, you dream about it.

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My wife and I have been married for 7 years. When I met her she was very reserved and shy acting. Our sex life was good but she never wanted to deviate from normal foreplay and intercourse. I had told her that I had 5 sexual partners before I met her (including an ex wife). She never said anything about her past other than having sex at 17 and then having not dated for 3 years prior to when I met her. After we were married she told my brother at a party that during 1 year at college she had sex with 27 guys and that she was proud of it as she had used them for sex. When he told me I was shocked. I married a slut as far as I was concerned. She is very religious and plays the good Baptist part well. I have told her that I am having a hard time dealing with the fact that she had so many partners in such a short time, the average total partners for a wome of 39 is 7. She has had sex with over 35 total partners. I told her that I need some details about why she had sex with so many guys and the details of what happened. She says it is none of my business, but I now just think about all of these guys fucking my wife every which way. We have not had sex for 4 months now and it is driving me nuts. I just can't get excited about her. I wonder were these guys great at sex, did they have bigs dicks did she do things with them that she will not do with me.
What should I do? Am I wrong to have an open conversation about the details of her sex capades? She also says she does not remember any details, yeah right?
She seems happy to not have sex now. Now that she does not have to work and I earn over $300,000 a year. I ask her how she could fuck all those guys who gave her nothing and not me the guy who has given her everything?

Please help.

Jimbojoe

I see why your upset. Details about my husband's past urk me But something that I HAVE to keep in mind is that it's just that... his PAST. Things that no one has control over. How was your wife supposed to know when she was having sex with all those guys that hey! I'm gonna get married I should stop doing this! No, What she thought was I enjoy sex, I'm single I can do as I please. I would just forgive and let it go. Thing's wont get better till you do. Hearing the "dirty details" is only going to serve to piss you off even more. She loves you and I'm sure if she could take it back she would but she can't. I know every woman regrets sexual partners they have had before. I know I sure do. A common sign of a girl sleeping with so many partners is low self esteem. You only feel like your worth something if you can please other people. So I'd start there by making here feel special. I know it's going to be hard on you to forgive her for that because I know you feel hurt but it's something that is going to have to be done to perhaps, save your marriage.

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My husband and I have not had sex in a year. This is no doubt of monogamy. We both have health issues, but come on, in a year! He is 40 and I am 39. We have been married for 6 years. We never have had a good sex life and I just don't know what to do to get the fire going. We are affectionate as far as he rocks me in the recliner, kisses me (not romantically), we still hold hands. It seems we are more like loving room-mates and I want more. He is definately my soulmate. We were each others first for sex. We met in college but at the time he played football and that was his life. After 11 years of being apart we got back together. All my friends tell me it's a fairy tale, but I'm too embarrassed to tell them about my sex life, because they think we have everything. Please help.

Yall are way to young to be going without when you don't have to be! It's time to have a serious talk with him. Let him know that you love him more than anything and no sex is not required but it is something that you miss. There might be something going on with him that he's to embarassed to talk to you about (erictile disfunction) which is very common more now than it ever was, and if that's the only thing that's up with him, with all the new med's that's out now its a shame to be starving yourself of a wonderful sex life when you dont have to be. If you don't want to talk to him about it then suprise him! When he's gettin' off work you be waiting in your room with sexy lingerie on! I'm sure that would start the fire! There is so much yall can do to spice up yall's sex life and make him come beggin for it, literally~!

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I have been dating this guy for almost 8 months now (a year and a half on and off) and I really love him. I have talked to my mom once before about birth control (once when we had been dating for 2 1/2 months, once when it was 5, then once again when it was 7.) It's nearly eight months now and I really wanna get on birth control. But my mom's scared that by doing it she's giving me permission to have sex and do whatever. I explained that if it arises, I just wanna be as protected as possible. I feel weird having to be the one to always bring it up, but I want answers now! My boyfriend is away in rehab for 2 months so I figured now would be a good time to bring it up. How can I talk to her about it and get her to see my side?

I rate high, thanks!

Just sit her down or -write her a letter- and explain things to her. No you getting on birth-contol is not the go-ahead to have sex, and you know that. You just want to be a responsible person and should ever do decide to have sex you will be protected. If she still is being "stubborn" about the whole thing, Go to your local health dept and make you a apt to get on birth control. Your parents will NEVER even knew you went and it's 100% free for everyone under the age of 18. They provide this service for teenagers for free because it would cost the Government ALOT more money in the long run should a kid "pop out a kid" because then they got to pay for Wic, Foodstamps, and everything else. Dont worry about your parents finding out. The Doctors have a law called the "Patient Privacy Pivelge Act" they must abide by and should they ever tell, there in a lot of trouble and could possibly lose there license to practice. I took my sister there and had them put her on birth control when she was 16. She'll be 18 this year and still my mom doesnt know. So Good Luck!

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Ok so this has gone on so long could someone please tell me how i can remove my pubic hair from down below. I tried shaving and it leaves it all with wiskers its like a mans beard!! I mean the other day i went to the doctors and he had to feel my bladder and it was all like wiskers i was so embarassed if i see him again im going to be so embarassed someone help please! is there any products i can get that won't hurt? someone told me to use nair! but it said not to use it on pubic areas now all i got is wiskers and its embarassing what if i meet a nice boy when im older and he sees wiskers and runs. Help someone please.Im 17/f thank you and i will rate high

LOL! Sorry had to! Everyone that shaves has been thru this, Includin, yours truly. No I do not advice putting regular Nair there. My best friend's Husband did and like he had to go to the Dr! And the end result of that was having to put diaper-rash ointment on it for like a week and a half!~ They have Nair made specifically for your private region's..Go buy you the new Gilette razor for women, the one that vibrates and give that a try. Also, Men razor's work better than women's do, don't know why but they do. Also shave against the grain and afterwards rub some lotion up there to keep the skin from being irritated.

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I am a 15 year old girl who is confused. Real rare huh lol. Anyway, my boyfriend is 17. he told me, the only girl he would go to prom with would be some really close friend who is,you guessed it, another girl. he kind of has a history with her. He's told me he's known her all his life.He also told me that he wouldn't go without my permission and he wouldn't try anything with her. I wouldn't believe this in a minute.I forgot to include that 15 year olds are allowed as long as their parents approve and sign some paperwork. Well that's besides the point. The fact that he said this kind of hurts. I really don't have any idea what to say to him. I like him a lot. I want to stay with him but not if he's going to say things like this. Should I confront him on it and if I do what should I say?

The ONLY girl he would go to prom with would be this girl that he's good friends with?? Why not you? Yall are a couple. Hell Naw he wouldn't be going wit some other girl when I was fully capable of attending this thing with him. I'd tell him Baby, I want to go to prom with you, my mom already said that she would sign the papers for me to go. If he ended up taking that girl I'd give him the boot!

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Okay, my room is extremely messy..nothing is clean..and i feel like i cant do anything else until i get my room clean..so the problem is I HATE HATE HATE cleaning...esp. my room because it seems like a lost cause..to kinda give you an idea..i have a king size bed and there are clothes, magazines, and a bunch of other stuff on there that shouldnt be..the problem is i dont know where to start...should i start by putting away my clothes? picking up things on the floor or picking up trash or what? Thanks so much in advance!

Cleaning your room can be fun! No I'm not a loser for saying that lol just make it fun. Get a old basket around the house and some glitter and glue and decorate it real pretty and put all your magazines in that. Put new posters up or articles out of magazines that you love or sexy boyz haha. Start with putting all the clothes away first either hangin em' up or chunkin' em in the dirty hamper because that is the task that takes the longest. Another thing you can do is pre-sort all your outfits together for school, Make another super cute basket for all your nail-polish and things. All this cool new stuff will inspire you to clean your room and keep it that way. Personalize it to make it YOUR room!

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Okay I acually have a few questions...
1) If you have sex and the guy cums inside of you..and than the next morning you get your period..from 1 to 100 what are the chances of still getting pregnant??? And how long shuold you wait befor taken a test if you do get your period the next day?
2) When is the best time to get pregnant?
3) After a guy cums inside of you how long should you wait befor takein a test?
4) If your not haveing inter course but u get cum by ur privet area what are the chances of still getting pregnant?

Are you wanting to get pregnant? If so hit me back and I'll give ya the low down on the best postions and all to get you that way. Anyways here's your answers:
1) Guy cums next day start period- Your not prego then. When your period comes what it does is if there is NO fertilized egg present it "flushes out the old" and brings in the "new" to prepare your body again for the next month.
2) The best time to get pregnant is in your Ovulation time. Ovulation occurs at different times of the month for different women. It can occur as soon as day 6 (after the ending day of your period) or much later than on day 14. There are many factors involved when ovulation occurs.
3) You should generally wait about 2 weeks before taking the test.
4) The chances of you getting pregnant from cum just NEAR your privates? You have a better chance of being eat by a shark..

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my bestfriend is a girl & we used to be together but my gf now gets mad cuz i put my bestfriend first. my bestfriend will always come first, before any1. any girl. i told this to my gf & she wasnt happy. she said it feels like shes "sharing" me with my bestfriend. ive had to cancel with my gf a couple times for my bestfriend but i dunno wat to do. my gf is gettin rly mad & hurt but i don wanna lose her. i rly care bout her but i also wanna hang with my bestfriend. how do i split my time with them? to make em both happy

I dont know what age you are, (yea knowing your age group kinda matters) Your best friends will always be your best friend but nothing more. Not the one you love with all your heart, not the one that you cuddle with, hold hands with, share your deepest feelings with, kiss, make love to and everything else that a girlfriend "does" I can see why your girlfriend is upset, I'm 24 years old and I would be to even at my age. I wouldnt want to be put on the back burner either which is where it seems you have put your girlfriend. Spend more time with her and save your extra time for your bestfriend like when your girlfriend is busy, at work, with family or other times. Let your girlfriend know that she is the most important thing in your life. Not doing so may cause you to lose her.

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I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how. I also think that her mom is to blame, because her mom calls her ugly and fat. But my friend isn't, shes really pretty, and weights only 102, and her weight is dropping. So i can't tell her mom, because her mom won't help....
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!

Getting Help
There are better ways to deal with troubles than cutting - healthier, long-lasting ways that don't leave a person with emotional and physical scars. The first step is to get help with the troubles that led her to cutting in the first place. Here are some ideas for doing that:

1. Tell someone. People who have stopped cutting often say the first step is the hardest - admitting to or talking about cutting. But they also say that after they open up about it, they often feel a great sense of relief. Choose someone you trust to talk to at first (a parent, school counselor, teacher, coach, doctor, or nurse). If it's too difficult to bring up the topic in person, write a note.

2. Identify the trouble that's triggering the cutting. Cutting is a way of reacting to emotional tension or pain. Try to figure out what feelings or situations are causing her to cut. Is it anger? Pressure to be perfect? Relationship trouble? A painful loss or trauma? Mean criticism or mistreatment? Identify the trouble she's having, then tell someone about it. Many people have trouble figuring this part out on their own. This is where a mental health professional can be helpful.

3. Get her to ask for help. If the person you ask doesn't help her get the assistance she needs, ask someone else. Sometimes adults try to downplay the problems teens have or think they're just a phase. If she gets the feeling this is happening to her, find another adult (such as a school counselor or nurse) who can make her case for her.

4. Work on it. Most people with deep emotional pain or distress need to work with a counselor or mental health professional to sort through strong feelings, heal past hurts, and to learn better ways to cope with life's stresses. One way to find a therapist or counselor is to ask at your doctor's office, at school, or at a mental health clinic in your community.

Although cutting can be a difficult pattern to break, it is possible. Getting professional help to overcome the problem doesn't mean that a person is weak or crazy. Therapists and counselors are trained to help people discover inner strengths that help them heal. These inner strengths can then be used to cope with life's other problems in a healthy way.

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Hey! Well, I am getting my cartilage (upper ear) pierced on my ears, and I was wondering if it hurt of if I should look out for anything or something like that. Thanks.

To me it doesnt hurt no worse than a regualr piercing just make sure that you get it done at a good place that sterilzes EVERYTHING. because cartilage doesn't have its own blood supply, So if an infection does develop from bacteria on the inserted stud, commonly used antibiotics can be in-effective because there's no blood to transport the medication to the cartilage. Ear cartilage, with its reduced blood flow, is more prone to serious infection than the earlobe. Not trying to scare ya'... I have my cartilage pierced and never got an infection or anything I'm just pointing out the facts to make you better aware of knowing who is piercing you and that there equipment is sterile.

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How do you give a hickey?

What you do is put your mouth against the side of their neck, in a kissing shape. You leave your mouth slightly open in the middle, like you're saying the letter "O". Now you suck in! You suck the skin into your mouth, in essence hurting it, and causing the blood vessels to break. This turns that circular area bright red. It doesn't take long, maybe 30 seconds.

Yes, giving a hickey sometimes hurts the person you're doing it to. You're breaking their blood vessels! But to some, a hickey is a temporary mark of love. Sort of like a red tattoo that fades naturally after a few days. It says "This girl (or guy) trusted me enough to let me damage their throat, one of the most sensitive parts of the human body".

Hickeys aren't a male or female thing. They're an "I was Here!" thing, sort of like a mark of pride. So either the girl or the guy can give it to each other. It's sort of a primitive way of saying "This boy is mine!" or "This girl belongs to me!"

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I'm an 18 year old female, and a nymphomaniac. It might be a little extreme to call it that, but I do think about sex too much and want it way too often. I think it makes it hard for my boyfriend to take me seriously if I'm mad at him for something while still wanting sex.

The real issue here though is that I'm going off to college in August and won't be able to get laid for a while, since my boyfriend and I are breaking up when we go to our separate schools. I know there are plenty of ready and willing guys in college, but I'd rather not take the promiscuous route, if you know what I mean. So... what do I do in the mean time to keep from that temptation? How do you (the older, more experienced people I am aiming this at) get through bouts of sexual hiatus without going nuts and going into slut mode?

You and your boyfriend are planning a breakup in August??!! lol anyway yea I see what your getting at... Go to a sex store and buy a Vibrator! It'll get you thru the "rough" times!

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