But the thing is...if he didn't respond to a text he prob won't respond to me at all. I know it was a mistake but we had been broken up for 2 months. I'd rather see if he comes back on his own and become a stronger person so I'm not so sad when this kinda thing happens.and I'm not e even really positive he knows.cause it could be me being paranoid.
I feel like the only thing I really can do is move on from this.but I don't know how.and what if I'm making a huge mistake and this was the boy I was suposed to end up with.i mean if he was, he'd come back on his own time right? :(
What should I do? :(cause I'm not sure ill be able to get a hold of him unless he wants to talk to me. But its only been 2 weeks since our last convo!! Well maybe 3
If it's meant to be it's meant to be-it all works out in the end.
The best thing to do is to move on-or at least pretend to. It is hard, but by not acting like you need a bf and that your ok on your own he'll start to wonder where that amazing ex of his is actually up to, so in his own time he'll make contact.
If it helps, i didn't talk to my ex for over a year after we broke up, and sure enough he did contact me (most guys can't resist the urge)
When he does contact you (and he will-guys don't just stop.) then you need to make your texts/calls seem interested. Don't say too much, and make him come back for more intersting conversations. Say he's good at something.
I appriciate you feel gloomy about all of this, but unfortuantly not all things come to us on a plate-we have to put in what we wanna get out.
Good luck and feel free to ask for any more advice :)
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i am 12 and this guy is 14 about to be 15 and he wants to date realy bad what should i do? i have a boyfriend my age but i still like this other guy! is he to old for me? also i am a girl.
If you already have a boyfriend then I would seriously consider your current relationship.
If you're looking elsewhere then thats worying.
Also its for no one to judge if you're too young or not, but all I would say is be careful-know what this older guy wants.
Is it just sex or is it a serious relationship? I'm afraid people commonly date others their age because they genuinly have things in common and similar experiences (like exams) being the same age.
MAke sure you know what the older guy wants exactly and whether you'd regret loosing your current boyfriend. It's not wise to hop from one bf to another-you'll regret your actions in the long run.
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Okk so I tried to contact him while I was back in our hometown and he ignored it and never responded. The problem is a bunch of mutual friends found out that I slept with my ex ex boyfriend..my ex and the ex before that hate each other and im paranoid maybe thats why my ex is ignoring me..like maybe hes pissed :( this is not normally something I ever would do.i just was desperately trying to ease the pain. (i know how stupid this was) and I was so drunk. :(the day after my ex texted me and said that he hadn't slept with or found any other girls he was interested in. I knowhuge coincidence cause there is no way he could know back then.
I feel so broken and like hes never gonna talk to me again cause he lost all respect or something.everyone around me says I am so much better off without him cause he didn't necessairly treat me like a princess.but I miss having him in my life and all the fun we used to have. I feel like the pain in the relationship was easier than the pain without him.i honestly just wish he'd come back:( please help..i know its best if I move on cause I don't want to have to beg someone to come back.i only want him to come back if he wants me still and still has that love.but by ignoring me,i think it shows he doesn't love me. :(
Ok,
So by ignoring you, you don't know how he feels truly because he hasn't actually said it.
For him to want you back, you've got to make him feel like he needs you in his life. I appreciate that you were drunk on this night stand, everyone makes mistakes.For this I would obviously suggest keep your nose clean from now on.
This is something that my ex bf did to me, after dumping me and getting back with his ex the day after.
He eventually sent me a letter. I'm not back with my ex now but we are close, so it works.
So send him a written letter, as writing is more emotional and personal. As long as you say the following things then it should help him see you in a different light.
1)take responsibility for the break up, and totally agree with it.
2)Don't be full on, but try to get him to realise you see things from his view (i understand you'd have want to have broekn up)
3) make him nkow you've changed, just by how you write and write about your new zest for life. Write as if hes a friend.
Remember he contacted you so there is still SOMETHING there however small, so by doing this you can rekindle that flame aswell.
A letter is perosnal, to the point and he can interpret it slowly. Also, it's almost garuntted to get a reply. So go for it! If it doesn't get a reply, come back her in a few weeks for more advice. Persistence is key here!
Good luck :)
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okay so i've had my period for a little over a year now and my mom makes me use pads because she says tampons arent healthy.
im a cheerleader and i hate the feeling of the blood leaking like how can i tell my mom that i perfer wearing tampons?
This must be hard for you :/
I'd talk to the school nurse about this-she could send a letter home explaining-or even go to a doctors appointment so they can outline the risks/beinfits of wearing a tampon.
Your mums obviously concerned about you which is good, but if she's so concerned about this then surely she'd be concerned that her daughter feels uncomfortable wearing pads soemtimes?
Borrow some off a friend also,untill your 18 so your an adult and can do your own thing. Hope this helps :)
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Ok me and my boyfriend were getting hot and heavy on the couch in my basment and he got an erection and so i gave him a handjob and he wanted to repay me in return so he pulled down my pants, Under armor legging things, and my underwear and fingered me, so he decided to go alittle further and I put my underwear and underarmor leggings back on and he put his penis inside me alittle threw my underwear and leggings and he precummed so we stopped....Could I be pregnant? please help
I'd get checked out yes.
The fatcs are that contraception wasn't used and you both performed the act which causes you to get pregnant-clothed or not.
So there is a chance-good luck :)
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I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we have hit a dull spot and now all we do it fight and I have tried to give him space but its not working it just seems he is pulling further and further away what should I do?
Talk to him about this!
Sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel-chances are he feels the same way.
Perhaps you need a change of scenery. You could both do something totally unusual like a new hobby, as that could pull you together.
What I would do is this. make two lists, one for what you saw in him now and one for what you still see in him. There'll probobly be something missing. So to get that thing back you need to split up for a month or so. With the intention getting back together.
Have a month of no contact whatsoever-take up a new hobby, go out with friends or persue an ambition. This month apart will give you the information you need. It will either say that you want him to share your new zest for life with him, or that actually you're doing ok on your own. If you don't know after a month-i'd try two months.
If you'd have been together for less than two years then the obvious thing to do would be to break up, however the relationship seems worth saving if its been two years.
Sure,a risk of losing your bf if you do what I suggested, but sometimes in life we need to take risks in order to grow, and maybe he wasn't all that anyway if you never had another chance.
Good luck :)
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Im severly heartbroken from a relationship I got out of about 5 months ago. The pain hasnt eased and it may be because he did talk to me a month ago making it seem his feelings were the same and he still loved me. Since then he hasnt tried contacting me or even ignored my attempts. Clearly hes not too interested in me...but I cant move on and I really need help. Its like I become insanely depressed when ever someone brings him up or anything cause im so jealous that hes still in their lives.
Any advice would be amazing..feel like im never gonna feel bettee and that im so alone :(
Hey,
So you can either go two ways with this. Move on, or try to win him back.
I'll talk to you first about winning him back. The thing is, if he contacted you first then that means he still cares for you-as trust me guys stay in contact with exes for a reason. But the fact that he also hasn't contacted you since then suggests something else, without getting you upset. It seems like he's keeping the door open-so in case he wants to start a relationship with you again he's making sure you're still there. He's playing a game-so if you want to win him back you need to do this to. You may be feeling awful-but don't show it! Go out with friends, look amazing and don't contact him. The contact part would be hard at first-but it worked for me! Trust me, eventually he'll get curious and start to miss you.
Now getting back with an ex is great-providing they did nothing wrong (like cheat)
To grow as people we need to move on. If you go through days where all you think about is this guy, then you're gonna need to move on a little, as think about how you'll feel if he gets with someone else. it'll be hard, because you'll feel like you'll want to be with him. We want what we can't have right?
It's only natural to have feelings for an ex, so you're normal. Whats great though is the feeling of proving him wrong. Better yourself and become a stronger person. The feeling of being able to tell someone that you've moved on is actually more rewarding than telling someone 'yeh-we got back together'.
Obviously it's you're choice what you do, but personally I'd move on, as life's too short to be controlled by omeone elses feelings. Hope this helps and good luck :)
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What do I do if this boy asked me out and I want to say yes but Im to scared?What should I do?
I was like this!
He wants you girl so go for it! Pull him aside and tell him yes!Otherwise he could think you're not bothered-he's probobly more nervous than you right now. Don't be nervous as you've got the upper hand. Good luck :)
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me and my bf text or vidchat 24/7. its long distance and weve been dating for almost a year and a half. sometimes, like lately, he just gets on my nerves and does/says little things that peeve me. of course we love each other buy is it reasonable to experience this? should we cut down on talking or does this mean my relationship is failing
This is normal-in most relationships you get to the stage where you almost get 'too comfortable' because all the exciting getting to know each other part has gone.
I'd say cut down on the talking slightly-limit it to five days a week, then 4 etc. Its up to you, but don't talk constantly otherwise there'll be nothing to say when you meet up with him in person again. Afterall, absense makes the heart fonder, but communication is the key to a succesful relationship.
Let him know that you'll limit the contact so that he doesn't think your breaking up with him. It's strange, but alot of the time by doing the opposite of what you want you get what you want in the end!
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So I know about 7 kids that like me and this one kid asked me out and I said no even though i really did want to go out with him. The reason I said no was because i have a twin brother (btw were both 12) and i didnt want him finding out and telling my mom that im dating *his friend*....so this guy is all sad that i rejected him and is SOOOOO nice and his friends r all convincing me 2 go out with him and he txts me a lot... so my question is "How do I go out with this kid without my brother telling my mom?"
You're too young to be on this site.
Also tbh it's freaky how fast you want to grow up. Why don't you want your mum to know? Are you embarrased? If you're immature enough to not let your mum know about a serious topic then you're immature to have a boyfriend.
I'm a twin and had my first bf when I was late 14. I didn't tell my mum for a month, but when I did-it was such a relief! She supported me throughout-how do you know how your mum will react if it's never happened before?
Without being patronising-whats the point in having a boyfriend at 12 anyway? You can't go and watch romantic films yet, you're not legal yet-so whats the point? If I were you, I know it could be hard, try to wait untill you're older. Trust me, boys change in their teens and it's only when your older when you can decide who has changed for the best or worst. Don't waste away your childhood as you'll regret it :)
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my boyfriend and i have been going out for 7 days know and once in a while hell talk to me but only if i say something to him first he wont walk with me in the mornings he wont eat with me or we wont hold hands it feels like we arent even dating but we are i think if i remember straight i think we are
It's seven days in. Chill.
For the first week/weeks it should only be suttle contact anyway because you don't want to be in each others faces.
He should pretty soon want to ahng out with you more-maybe he just needs a little time to get used to the fact he's got a gf. Perhaps as well if you are with him all day (like go to the same school/work) then try to only see him once say at lunch-offer to eat lunch with him.
That way I guess you're not in his face and theres stuff to talk about. And if he hasn't done anything withing the next few days then talk to him.
Explain how you feel-daft as it sounds he may not realise what he's doing wrong! It's not fair to split up with him for the moment as you guys havn't had the chance to date etc. Having a bf/gf is a nerwracking time so you've got to support each other otherwise it aint going to work out :)
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It really works :)
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I'm 12/f theres this guy at school that I really really like his name is Dylan. Right now he is single should I ask him out or should we stay friends?
You're twelve so shouldn't be on this site.
If you're too young to be on a site like this then i'd say you're too young to have a bf. Most twelve year olds don't have boyfriends but are busy being kids whilst they still can be.
I wouldn't ask him out. Wait a few more years untill you're older, because during puberty people change and become hopefully more maturer, so then you'll be able to have a serious relationship.
I know it's nieve of me to think automatically you're not mature yet as most 12 years olds arn't, but if you wait as well then more options may arise :)
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how to ignore your boyfriend
Well obviously you're thinking about leaving him if you want to do this.
Ignoring is a form of bullying did you know? I've been ignored in a past relationship and trust me it's worse than being dumped.
If you want to dump this guy do it don't ignore him.
I'm sorry I didn't answer the question-but its because its like asking on here how do I bully someone-you just don't do it end of.
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For some reason, I am only attracted to older men. I'm 19/f and guys my own age are just so unappealing to me. I'm working full time and I'm also in school full time, so it's possible because I'm around older people so much that I just don't relate to guys my age anymore. But is this weird? My last two boyfriends were 22 and 24, respectively. And I've been talking to this 30 year old I work with and I just don't want people to think it's weird that I can't be with guys my own age. Anyone have any opinions on this? Can anyone relate?
Thanks!
I think it's perfectly acceptable because it shows your mature enough to make your own decisions, and guys will respect you for that. It's not like your underage or anything so I thnik it's fine, and it's also no one's place to tell you otherwise, because who are they to make a judgement?
If it feels right it must be right. Cheesy as it sounds but if your in love then age doesn't come in to it. I think its almost better because the guy would be more protective. Plus when you're at school you spend all your time with people your age so they're more mates than relationship material.
Be proud of your decision-good luck :)
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hey hi! i have been in a relationship since last 3 and half years but suddenly last year in december i dumped him and he literally cried and begged before me but i dnt and then he finally moved on i saw him with other girl i couldnt tolerate that and now we both are together but hez still dating that girl also and he tells me evrythng now advice me what should i do now?
You should move on. Because the fact is if you cling on to a guy no matter how he treats you, he'll think its ok to treat you bad and other people will think you're a doormat.
Have the courage to stand up and say enough is enough, I want to start over with someone who loves me and only me with no strings attatched. Its always hard letting go-but hey you guys could still be friends?
If you don't move on you wont grow as a person. Unfortunatly sometimes we can't have what we had in the past. If you move people will respect you and your teaching your bf a lesson that actually he can't get away with treated girls like this. The pleasure comes for you from him realising he's messed up with the best thing that happened to him. It should be a wake up call for him.
Move on, cos lifes too short for this sorta thing! Good luck :)
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Me and my boyfriend been together for 7 months now but i just dont know if i want to be with him or not anymore. I mean i do love him dont get me wrong there. What do i do?
I'm 15 and hes 16.
In my opinion you've been together a long time as far as teenage relationships go.
Every relationhip gets to a point where both participants are 'comfortable'. Sadly for most people at this stage the excitement isn't there any more so they split up.
Seeing as you've been with him for this long it'd be a shame to split up with him, so I'd write down a list of reasons why you want to end it and then a list what you like about it. Sometimes we don't know how precious things are untill they're gone. Talk it through with your bf-chances are he feels the same too. By patience, determination and sweet little suprises here and there you guys can be stronger than ever. Good luck :)
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I'm a 13 year old girl, and I've been dating my boyfriend for about a month and a half. I've known him since kindergarten, and he's usually a pretty upbeat, positive person.
Lately he's been acting rather down. I know he's been having some hard times with his family, but I didn't realize how bad it was affecting him.
He often discusses things like how no one would miss him if he died; theroies on how he thinks he's going to die.
I just need to know what I should do. Do I inform anyone of this? Does this make him suicidal? What can I do to help him?
Firstly you need to establish if he's really feeling like this or whether he thinks he needs attention. Maybe its because he knows that you'll react like this (showing your love for him) that he's doing it?
If it goes on talk to like an older sibling/teacher in secret as parents can be daunting to speak to sometimes.
Also I'm guessing he's about your age-teenage right? Teenagers go through all sorts of hormonal changes, most of them feel insecure and low at some point in adolenscence. Its just a part of growing up-but I'd talk to someone else about this before talking to you're bf.
Finally, never stay with someone who makes you feel low and worried all the time, cause you deserve better. Good luck :)
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i got my spacers in about 6 hours ago and they really hurt. what helps the pain?
Wax helps if you rub it on the gum underneath the wires. Also try putting a hot water bottle close to your face-this helped me. But the best thing is just to get an early night and you'll sleep the pain off. Good luck-you'll get used to them :)
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18/f
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a little over a year now and we have a pretty good relationship(: The only thing is that he friend requests a lot of girls on facebook. It bothers me that he does this but i see it when i get on his facebook sometimes. If he isn't trying to get with other girls, then why does he keep adding them? He friend requests them.
I would say its because guys care alot what other guys think of them. So he could just be doing it to seem popular to other guys and therefore be liked even more. I wouldn't worry about it too much unless he gets flirty with these girls, otherwise he may work out you're jealous and unfortunatly jealousy is a complete turn off.
Hope this helps :)
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