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Help! He is pulling further and further away, and I don't know what to do!
I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years and we have hit a dull spot and now all we do it fight and I have tried to give him space but its not working it just seems he is pulling further and further away what should I do?
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Talk to him about this!
Sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel-chances are he feels the same way.
Perhaps you need a change of scenery. You could both do something totally unusual like a new hobby, as that could pull you together.
What I would do is this. make two lists, one for what you saw in him now and one for what you still see in him. There'll probobly be something missing. So to get that thing back you need to split up for a month or so. With the intention getting back together.
Have a month of no contact whatsoever-take up a new hobby, go out with friends or persue an ambition. This month apart will give you the information you need. It will either say that you want him to share your new zest for life with him, or that actually you're doing ok on your own. If you don't know after a month-i'd try two months.
If you'd have been together for less than two years then the obvious thing to do would be to break up, however the relationship seems worth saving if its been two years.
Sure,a risk of losing your bf if you do what I suggested, but sometimes in life we need to take risks in order to grow, and maybe he wasn't all that anyway if you never had another chance.
Good luck :)
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Tell him you want the spice back in life. If he is unwilling to help fix it then leave him and find someone who makes life exciting!!! Life is too short to spend your life in ONE relationship stressing about fights and distance and all that.
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Think of a relationship as a 2 way street. There's 2 people, that have 2 parts. If one of you isn't doing your part, it just gets messy and complicated. You or your boyfriend aren't doing your part in the relationship and that is why you guys aren't getting along right now.
My best advice is to just let things happen by itself. Give him space and if he does pull further away, then let him because it wasn't mean't to be in the first place. If you give him space, and he pulls away but then realizes that he wants to be with you, then it is mean't to be. Key note- just let things happen and don't try to force a relationship to happen.
Try talking to him and see what's bothering him. Solve out your issues one problem by another. If the situation starts getting tense like you are raising your voices, take a deep breathe and remind him that you need to talk about it and not argue.
Good luck!
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