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Still so in love
Im severly heartbroken from a relationship I got out of about 5 months ago. The pain hasnt eased and it may be because he did talk to me a month ago making it seem his feelings were the same and he still loved me. Since then he hasnt tried contacting me or even ignored my attempts. Clearly hes not too interested in me...but I cant move on and I really need help. Its like I become insanely depressed when ever someone brings him up or anything cause im so jealous that hes still in their lives.
Any advice would be amazing..feel like im never gonna feel bettee and that im so alone :(
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It's hard getting out of a relationship with someone that you've been with for awhile. If he isn't going to give you closure you need to do it for yourself. Almost all my relationships I had to give myself closure or I had to wait for it. With one of my exes, we ended becoming friends and he told me that I was a great girlfriend and that we were better off as friends. It felt good. Sometimes you don't get closure like my last relationship. I was heartbroken and I think it was because of the rejection and the way everything went down. What I did was I was upset for awhile but I tried going out and having fun and being with people who care about me. I gave myself closure by focusing on the negative things that my ex brought to the table. I realized I could do much better. It takes sometime but don't beat yourself up over it do the best you can and give yourself sometime to think what you want there are other fish in the sea. I hope you feel better!
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Hey,
So you can either go two ways with this. Move on, or try to win him back.
I'll talk to you first about winning him back. The thing is, if he contacted you first then that means he still cares for you-as trust me guys stay in contact with exes for a reason. But the fact that he also hasn't contacted you since then suggests something else, without getting you upset. It seems like he's keeping the door open-so in case he wants to start a relationship with you again he's making sure you're still there. He's playing a game-so if you want to win him back you need to do this to. You may be feeling awful-but don't show it! Go out with friends, look amazing and don't contact him. The contact part would be hard at first-but it worked for me! Trust me, eventually he'll get curious and start to miss you.
Now getting back with an ex is great-providing they did nothing wrong (like cheat)
To grow as people we need to move on. If you go through days where all you think about is this guy, then you're gonna need to move on a little, as think about how you'll feel if he gets with someone else. it'll be hard, because you'll feel like you'll want to be with him. We want what we can't have right?
It's only natural to have feelings for an ex, so you're normal. Whats great though is the feeling of proving him wrong. Better yourself and become a stronger person. The feeling of being able to tell someone that you've moved on is actually more rewarding than telling someone 'yeh-we got back together'.
Obviously it's you're choice what you do, but personally I'd move on, as life's too short to be controlled by omeone elses feelings. Hope this helps and good luck :)
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