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i have been going out with this boy for a week.
i want to invite him to my house to just hang out, however, i don't know how to bring it up to my parents. i know this is immature, but i just think my mom would be embaressing and constantly check on us.


how do i bring this up to my mom and have her not intrude?

just ask her if (his name) can come over..and tell her you dont want her embarassing you or being overprotective. let her know how important it is to you for her to trust you and not intrude. dont give her a reason to be suspicious and intrude **example** dont shut the door and start giggling, making sounds like your doing things ., lol im sure you wont..but you know. and maybe i dont know ..do something clever like leave a pile of junk..bubble wrap,,something on the hallway floor so you will hear her if she walks down the hall to your room

good luck!
-meliss

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Ok. I like a girl. She is still in love with her ex-boyfriend. We are kind of friends with benefits and make out everytime we get together. Things haven't been going so great, I want more, she is still in love. Lately I've been hanging out with this new girl, we will call her girl B. she is amazing, and beautiful. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend right now, which I know is girl translation for back off. but I really like her. I like them both, but I'm in a pickle with both, so any advice would be good.

i know how it is to just be some 'side dish' to someone..its not so great i know.. i know..so my advice is to keep looking for someone who will appreciate what you have to offer. i know everyone will tell you to get out of the friends with benefits situation, but its easier said than done isnt it? if your truly ready to be done with the whole friends with benefits thing..thats really great! i think it would be best for you to get away from that because the girl is in love with someone else..you desserve to be with someone who wants *you*
be patient and someone will come along..maybe this new girl will come around and begin to like you..you just never know..keep optimistic :)..best advice i can offer to you
-melissa

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me and my freinds have been discussing having sex and what it feels like. NOT that any of us have had it. and than my freind who is a lesbian asks how will she be able to have sex with the same sex. i mean neither girl has a THING. and now my freinds only want to talk about sex. i mean we are 13 hello. just so you know i am not in a slutty group or whatever. these are just my really close freinds from elem. i mean it is REALLY gross. all they want to talk about is what an orgasam feels like. i mean not that i am not curious, but talking about it in school.

i definately see your concern. just tell your friends its fine to be curious..but they should tone it down in school and save this talk for times when you hang out on weekends or after school or something. i mean you should hear some of things i accidentally overhear in school..you dont want the wrong people hearing bits and pieces of those kinds of convos

-meliss

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Ok, this guy that I've liked since school started ((late august)) just broke up with his girlfriend. I'm really trying to help him, because he's my friend and ex as well. he broke up with her, but doesnt do break ups well, and he still wants to be there for her and be her friend, he said he just didnt feel right. And I'm happy, sort of, that they broke up, but his girlfriend was my best friend and her mom just died. I feel bad, and I'm not sure why. And I don't want to start out with a relationship with him, but I still want to do things with him ya know?


Please help!

alright..in the future yes you guys will hopefully hookup. but right now he needs you there as a friend ..and your best friend just lost her bf and her mother! this definately is not the time to hookup with your best friend's ex. give it time..just be his friend and be there for your best friend. dont jump on hooking up with him
"good things come to those who wait for it.."
live by that quote..its true..things will look up for you.
:) - melissa-

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What are some ways to calm down and relax? School is making me CRAZY. I'm extremely stressed out and I just feel like giving up. HELP PleaSE.

take little steps like getting together with teachers during a free period or after school..get extra help, do your homework after school in the library *or at least get a heads start on it* so when you go home you have less to worry about.
relaxx for 1/2 hour - 1 hr ..watch tv..just chill out. then tackle hw little by little..take a 15 minute break every hour to go online or do whatever. maybe do homework with friends a couple times a week and see how that goes.
i think if you manage your time so you have your work done by 8 or 9 ..this way you have an hour or so to relax and have free time..i think you will start to feel better.

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my parents are going through a divorce, and i am devastated. how can i get over my stress?

joining a club,sport, a gym, getting involved with the community if you want..getting a job..all this can help you releive stress and help you get through this tough time. maybe start up a divorce support group in school. they had something like that when i was in elementary school. go out with friends, have a good time..meet new people...focus on your social life and it will make things better. i know when im going through a rough time with my family or something..i try and get out more and it really does help lift my spirits. give what i suggested a try..keep me posted and feel free to inbox me
-meliss

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my parents are gay and my friends are not my friends any more because of it what do i do?

honestly there is nothing for you to do sweetie. if your friends ditcheed you just because you have gay parents, then they werent true friends at all. Nothing worse than fake friends ..so what you do is just hold your head up high and find true friends. true friends are priceless

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hey im a girl and im 15 and im sooo mad @ myself! okay so here's the story... i was talking to my boyfriend last night and he randomly brought up the fact that i dont compliment him enough...hes not the first boyfriend ive had that has said that to me..WHATS WRONG WITH ME?! i felt soooo bad after that i couldnt even talk and i know he knew somthing was wrong...i mean i didnt even notice that i didnt compliment him enough till he mentioned it i thought everything was fine so it was like omg wow i must really suck!...its like, somthing that i ve noticed that in most of my relationships i havnt been doing a whole lot of and the guy brings it up it just crushes me and makes me feel so bad/sad/mad...what can i do to change this?!!?! i dont wanna be a bad girlfriend...and this is really making me feel like i am...please help me! i'll rate if that'll motivate any of you to...lol im desperate... thanks!!

hey it doesnt make you a bad gf because you care that hes feeling this way. if you didnt understand how he was feeling and stuff..then you might be a bad gf..but your concerned and you want to make things right..which is very good! just try to pay more attention to things and compliment him more. make a little effort to notice things like if he does his hair differeent,gets a new shirt, what about his eyees? does he have nice eyes you want to compliment? dont overdo it and just compliment him nonstop..but a compliment here and there goes a long way :)
you'll be fine

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My friend is having a really hard time in her life right now and i just discovered that she started cutting herself. Im the only one that she told, and i don't want to break her trust by telling the school cousiler. The cousiler knows about her having a hard time right now, becuase she talked to her, but now about the cutting. So, like i said, im the only one that knows so if the school counsiler finds out then shes going to know that i told her. I know it 'would be best' if i told the counsiler, but i'll feel like ive betrayed my friend. What is the best way to tell my school cousiler about whats going on, or at least try to help my friend?? THanks for any help.

your in a tough situation..maybe go to the counselor and express concern for your friend and causally ask:
' do you think she is cutting herself? maybe you should check her wrists"
and then the next time shes with the counselor, the counselor will just "happen" to notice her cuts

try that at first..if it doesnt work you neeed to tell someone. shes your friend.friends dont let each other harm themselves. i wouldnt let any of my friends cut themselves and not tell someone about it...

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I was diagnosed with Planters Warts today on both feet. My doctor said that if the cream he prescribed me didn't work, they would have to surgically remove them. My mother had the same thing 40 years ago, and said the shot they give you hurt the most.


If anyone has ever gone through this procedure and could give me a heads up on what to expect, that would be great.

i had platers warts on my foot once. i took the pumus stone and i used some kind of medicine on it...not a cream but some kind of liquid stuff idk..i went to the doctor a few times and he would put special stuff on it..between that, medicine, and grinding it with a pumus stone..it went away. i almost had to get it surgically removed but it didnt get that far. sorry i didnt answer your question, i just figure i would put in my 2 cents because i did have it for awhile. it was painful and the whole medicine and pumus stone thing was a hassle! good luck with everything
-meliss

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hey...alrite well anyone might be able to answer this one. um well i'm on the bball team at my school and we COULD be really good, but we have a bunch of people who wont play as a team. no one passes the ball, or cares about succeeding. we have lost almost every game so far because of this. what can happen so everybody participates, cares, and starts a "TEAM" i'll rate for good and helpful answers thanks

you should talk to the coach about your concerns. coaches are known to think up excersises and ways to get the team to work together.
maybe if the coahc shows a basketball movie about working together...juwanna mann and hoisiers are examples of movies you could watch

drills that will get the team to work together are also a good idea..and of course running as a punishment

have the coach get the team to sit in a cirlce and everyone has to go around the circles saying what someone does positively .

well i dont know if my suggestions are so great..im sorry..but definately talk to the coach and brainstorm with the coach. keep me updated pleaseee

-melissa-

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Hey all..My parents are REALLY strict and when I say really, I mean REALLY. They wont let me go over ANY guys house, nevertheless even let me hang out with guys. But they'll let them come here but id rather not have that because I have SO many kids living in my house (7 girls, 4 boys) that we would never get privacy at all. What can I do to sneak around without getting caught? Or how could I persuade my Mom and Dad to let me hang out with boys..

well..go to the movies with some friends and you know, forget to mention there will be boys there ;) you and the boy you want to be with can sit a couple rows back if you want some one on one time.

another thing to do is tell your mom your staying after school to make up a gym class,work out, get math help, go to a meeting, do hw, go to the library, etc and forget to mention you will be hanging out with a guy instead.

have one of your friends invite guys and girls over..you say your going to your friends house. hey its not a lie..you just didnt say there would be guys there. lol

what my friend did to sneak around with a guy was she would go to the guys house after school or have a friend who drives drive her to his house...then she would take a cab home or have his mom drive her home or something like that. she didnt want her parents knowing she was going out or seeing any guys..and its been working just fine.

***KEEP IN MIND*** that these plans could go horribly wrong...i just thought i should let you kknow..i mean you never know when parents will actually catch on or figure things out. keep your guard up

If you want to convince them:
-mention there will be parents home
-tell them to actually talk to the parents if they want
-tell them to call your cel to checkup on you until they have earned your trust
-have them meet the boy

-melissa-

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My Best friend in the whole entire world might be moving. I mean FAR away. Like I live in Ky and she might be moving back to Michagan. I don't have any other friends. And it really hurts me cause I am afraid that she will move and I will never see her again. The same thing happend with my old friend Allison. She moved and I haven't herd from her in a year. I don't know what I am going to do. I have no friends but her. Please guys help me. Cause I am so hurt... 13/F

hey listen..i know how hard it is to have someone you care a lottt about move far away.its very touggh..i know i know..but this doesnt mean its the end! i know a girl who moved from ny to florida..and her 2 good friends still fly down to florida a couple times a year to spend time with her. between that, AIM/email, telephone, ..you will never ever lose her as a friend. things will be different..but people adjust to change. Change is something people of all ages must deal with for their whole lives. For now, live up the good times and enjoy all the time you have together..make photoalbums..take lots of pictures...spend time making memories. if she does move away..keep in touch and hopefully you can visit a few times a year. friends are forever remember that..even if she does move shes only a call away.
-melissa

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Okay i know this happends to alot of girls but its happend to me all the time and i want it to stop and i want a guy to take me serusly.....all guys want from me is sex and blowjobs and i want it to stop and i want to have a good relationship with somebody but it just doesn't never happend. for instance my best friend has this brother and i went over there last week and we were getting in to it and i thought that i might acually have a chance and he just says"Don't tell anybody about his" and of corse i know that that means i mean i'm not that stupid but really what should i do.. and i dont' want to sound like a slut but every time a guy asks me for something i give it to them because i just want somebody to love me but there'll all just playing me and playing me........Will i ever find somebody that loves me for me? what should i do?

listen sweetie..you have to have more respect for yourself. ok so you have a rough past with going too far with guys who dont like you. it doesnt mean thats going to be the same you...put your foot down and make a change for the better! no more doing this until your in a good solid relationship for a period of time! lay low from hooking up...get to know someone who likes you for you ..and trust me you will find someone hun. It might take awhile..im not saying you will find someone overnight. i stayed single from any real relationships for 2 1/2 years! what you do is pick yourself..DO NOT GIVE IN TO ANY MORE GUYS...put your foot down..rebuild your self pride and repuatation..get to know some guys..find someone you like..get to know him..and build up from there. a strong foundation and strong bonds with someone is key. you will find someone who truly cares for you..but right now you have to lay off going so far with these guys. you desserve better.
keep me posted
-melissa-

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Can anyone tell me a personal experience they've had with dealing with tolerance? Why is it important to be tolerant of others? The reason I'm asking this question is because I have to write an essay and I would like your input on this so I can include it in my examples. All 5's to anyone who give serious, thoughtful answers.

being tolerant is an excellent quality to have. a tolerant person can usually communicate well,has patience obviously, and will ultimately survive in the real world. lets face it, life requires us to tolerate a lot of crap we dont want to deal with...take for example what if you had a verrry annoying boss or coworker,but a good job..you just have to tolerate it you know?

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okay my boyfriend and i have different veiws of the millitary. i hate the millitary and he wants to join it. we made a deal not to talk about it but he always brings it up and then we get in a fight what shoud i do?

well..agreeing to disagree is the best answer in this case. you each feel differently on this opinon..so just you respect his opinion and he will respect yours. if it comes up in convo just keep telling him to agree to disagree

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I have been goin out with my boyfriend for justa few days now, but we have known each other for a couple of months now. Well, when I was talkin to him onthe internet today, I got a sudden urge to just be like "I love you". I'm the kind of person who, I have to know i really do love somebody before I say that, cause to me, it has alot of meaning. so, I didn't say it, but my question is,since I felt like I wantedto all the sudden, does that mean I am in love with him, or what?
I'll rate 5's for any helpful answers!!
thanks in advance!!

i dont beleive in people telling you if your in love or not. only you can know...
maybeee you never felt this way before so thats why you wwanted to type in "i love you." then again..maybe you are in love ..im sorry i couldnt help you ..but i truly beleive only you will know if your in love. keep this in mind..dont let anyone say "no, your not in love.." dont let anyone tell you that!
-melis

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my ex and i are best friends,he has girlfriend and me her dont like each other, but its like now im realizing i still love him but i couldn't ever imagine being more than just his friend, even though we you used to go out,my friends say i should tell him how i feel but i just dont kno has a girl that he loves dearly but i get this vibe that maybe its something he not telling me,so im trying to figure out if its love or friendship. so what should i do should i tell him how i feelor should i just let this friendship "be real"?i also want to have sex with him and i think he knows that but he doesnt want to hurt his girl and i told him what she dont know won't hurt her so what should i do?

ok..i would back off because hes with somoene now. dont go getting inbetween this guy and his new gf. i think you should just be friends..dont try anything with him. down the road when they break up, then yes i encourage you to express your feelings..but not now.
-melissa-

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me and my boyfrend have been going out for 2 months and anytime we kiss i feel an urge to jump ontop of him is that normal

hahah very normal..i get the same way :)

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oh man my best freind is dating the girl i like the most. I like him a lot but i like her too.
WHAT DO I DO?

hey, hes your best friend. i would be happy for him..dont do anything like flirt with the girl or try and break them up..that wouldnt be cool. be happy for your friend..and look around for other girls. think how mad and hurt you would be if your best friend tried to move in on your gf?
i hope this helped..be happy for them..let them have something special..you too can find something special..live up the single life for now and look around
-meliss

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