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bad g/f?!
hey im a girl and im 15 and im sooo mad @ myself! okay so here's the story... i was talking to my boyfriend last night and he randomly brought up the fact that i dont compliment him enough...hes not the first boyfriend ive had that has said that to me..WHATS WRONG WITH ME?! i felt soooo bad after that i couldnt even talk and i know he knew somthing was wrong...i mean i didnt even notice that i didnt compliment him enough till he mentioned it i thought everything was fine so it was like omg wow i must really suck!...its like, somthing that i ve noticed that in most of my relationships i havnt been doing a whole lot of and the guy brings it up it just crushes me and makes me feel so bad/sad/mad...what can i do to change this?!!?! i dont wanna be a bad girlfriend...and this is really making me feel like i am...please help me! i'll rate if that'll motivate any of you to...lol im desperate... thanks!!
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Guys are even more insecure than girls are. We mainly want reinforcement that we're totally awesome. For instance, if he's looking hot, tell him. Like his shirt? Tell him. Liked the date? Tell him. A guy just needs to be told he's doing a good job every once in awhile. Or he could be usong this b/c he knows you'll feel guilty and he just wants to sleep with you. It's a possibility.
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Whenever he compliments you, compliment him right back. If you like his shirt, how he did he hair that day (or any day), tell him! Guys like compliments just as much as girls. Tell him you didn't even notice and apologize.
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Hmm...not giving too many compliments doesn't necessarily make you a bad girl friend. One thing you should really try to do is that whenever you are complimented, try to give one back right away. Its up to you whether you want to give the same compliment back or not.
Something else you can try is to try to say one first at least once every other day or however often you like. Notice something about him physically or something you liked that he said? Let him know! Most guys feel 100x better about themselves when they try to impress someone and then they are actually noticed...in a good way of course. Also, don't forget that they don't cost a thing, so it could sometimes be just the gift you need to cheer him up. Again, if you forget to thats fine. I think that if you try to give one back whenever you get one, or at least make an effort to compliment first every day or something, then things should go well. Hope that helped and good luck.
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hey it doesnt make you a bad gf because you care that hes feeling this way. if you didnt understand how he was feeling and stuff..then you might be a bad gf..but your concerned and you want to make things right..which is very good! just try to pay more attention to things and compliment him more. make a little effort to notice things like if he does his hair differeent,gets a new shirt, what about his eyees? does he have nice eyes you want to compliment? dont overdo it and just compliment him nonstop..but a compliment here and there goes a long way :)
you'll be fine
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aw just start complimenting him and he will like it guys love to hear that stuff lol but also talk to him and tell him how you feel ♥
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aww !! first of all, dont put so much pressure on yourself if you think that you're a bad girlfriend. its probably that you just never really thought about complimenting him. you should talk to him though, and just sort things out and let your feeling come through. if he understands you, then he's totally worth your time. if he keeps on telling you that you havent been complimenting him, then compliment him on something that you love about him.
xoo hope this helped !! ♥
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