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i think i`m worried that my parents are going to die. i dont know why, it might be because i read this book and this girls dad died and her mom was a wreck.
and i dont want that to happen to my family.
i get really upset when i think about it though.
i dont know what to do to not think of it..
please help, thanks. (link)
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The sad truth is that eventually everyone dies, and since our parents are older than we are it is likely that they will go before their kids do. And when a spouse precedes you in death, it is devastating. I haven't had it happen myself, nor to my own parents, but I have seen the effect it can have on a family and it's always hard.
One thing that can make a huge difference is how the children handle it. If one of your parents were to die, then of course the other would he heartbroken, and you would find yourself in the position of suddenly having to offer support to someone who always offered it to you in the past - at a time when you desperately need it yourself! The best thing you can do to prepare for such a time is to hold close to each other as a family while you're all still alive, so you will have the kind of bonds that won't break under stress.
It's all right to think about it sometimes, but don't dwell on it. It does one no good to obsess over the inevitability of death at the expense of living. The death of a loved one is always easier to bear if you know that while he or she was here, you both LIVED and shared each other's lives.
Also, remember that books are written for drama. It doesn't make for nearly as interesting reading when someone dies and everyone faces it with dignity and courage and then gets on with their lives. Novelists want to tug your heartstrings and play your emotions; that's what they do. So, although it's going to be hard when your parents eventually die, it doesn't have to ruin your life or your family when it happens.
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i like all of my classes this semester except one [im taking 4 classes in high school]. i dont like it because i dont know anyone, the teacher has a reputation for being hard, and i just dont like the class [english]. the teacher said that there would be around 1 hour of homework assigned every night, not including the time we need to read the books she assigned, write a research paper, and study for weekly vocabulary quizes.
i have a part time job and i work 3-4 days of the school week.
i dont know whether i need to quit my job to dedicate more time to the class..or if the teacher just tried to scare us..or how to deal with this whole class situation. so any help would be appreciated.
-high school junior, age 16 (link)
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An hour of homework every night sounds pretty steep for a high school class. That sounds more like college-level work. Unfortunately, that argument's not going to cut any ice with the teacher, so you'll just have to deal with it.
First of all, see how it goes for a while. The teacher may indeed be trying to scare you all a bit to see who's really dedicated to learning and who's not.
Are you able to transfer into another class? You don't mention that as an option, so I'm guessing no. However, it's worth looking into.
Whether you quit your job depends largely on why you have it. If you're helping to support the family or saving for college, then you need the job and you'll have to make cuts elsewhere in your life. If you're doing it for spending money, I'd give the job a rest for the semester. Any reasonable employer will understand that your schooling must come first, and may even keep the job available for you when you're ready to return (give two weeks' notice if you can).
Good luck - I hope it's not as rough as it's been made out to be.
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Do guys hate kissing girls who have on lip gloss?
cause thats what my one friend said, but i was just wondering..thanks! (link)
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I rather like it... but there is the problem in that it tends to not stay on just YOUR lips, and even guys who like kissing it don't usually like wearing it!
Apply with a light touch, and you'll probably appeal to both camps. Once you get to know your guy well enough to ask him his preferences, you can choose to adjust.
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last friday i was with these guy, and i had drank a bit and , onething lef to anothe, and so we finished kissing. the problem is that he is a firends`s ex guy. they had been togehter for two months or more, but these was like a year ago. this friend of mine is not here, se went on holidays, and she wont be back until next week.
i know i have to tell her about these episode, but, how can i do it????????? help meeee (link)
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You have nothing to apologize or feel guilty for (except, possibly, underage drinking - but that's another story). She had a two-month relationship with him a year ago. I'd consider that water under the bridge, down the river and at least five nautical miles out to sea.
You probably should tell her about it, but there's no reason why it has to be an issue. Just tell her pretty much what you said above - you were hanging out with this guy, had a little to drink, and ended up kissing him. If she has a problem with that, then just say, "What's the big deal? You dated him for a while and then broke up, and it's been a year. What, you still have some kind of claim on him or something?"
Now, there are some things to consider:
(1) DOES she still have feelings for him, and is she planning to try to get together with him again someday? If so, you might consider stepping aside. You're not obligated to do so, but it would be supportive of your friend.
(2) Why did they break up? How did he treat her while they were going out? If you're planning on dating him now, that would be good information to have, and something to consider.
(3) Have you kissed him while sober yet, just to make sure you like it? :)
Don't stress, seriously. Your friend really shouldn't be too upset, and if she is, then she owes you an explanation as to why.
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hey. i have my own username on my family computer but i think my dad messed it up bc he is very controlling. there is no "switching usernames" and when i try to it comes up with a password thing, and also to get into my account you dont need a password. can someone please help to fix this? i want there to be a password on my account and you cant just go on the owner and delete the password to get into the computer. thanks. (link)
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There are a lot of variables here, and what you can do next depends on the version of the OS, the amount of access you have, and how the security for the system is set up overall.
Windows operates in two different ways: Workgroup and Domain. The differences are not important, but from what you're describing, it looks like you're seeing the Domain login screen instead of the Workstation one. It's no big deal; just type in your username and leave the password blank, click OK, and you should get right in.
In order to adjust your account, you will need to have a certain level of access. Most levels of user can change their own passwords; assuming you're on a Windows system, hit Ctrl-Alt-Delete once you're logged in, and you should see a window which will have as one of its options "change password". You may then set it to whatever you wish.
Changing your username is more complex, but really, there's no reason why you should need to. The username on your computer has nothing to do with whatever username you might choose to use online, in your E-mail, on any IM accounts you have, or anything else.
As far as your dad being controlling... I'm guessing it's his computer, and so therefore he makes the rules. Presumably, he has the Administrator account, and so that gives him the power to see anything and everything on the system, including your web history, any files you might have stored on there, and so on. Don't put anything on there you don't want him to see. If you want further privacy, you'll probably need to get your own computer, but don't count on him allowing you unmonitored internet access with it (I wouldn't).
Hopefully, your dad knows enough about computers to not seriously mess it up, but just in case, back up all your files regularly. That's a good idea anyway, actually.
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13 female.
I was at my friend's house [19 male] with a bunch of different friends. He asked his other friend [21 male] if mammoths were during human age or before us. Brian said before us. I'm a christian, but that day i had just taken a class in history about all the animals BEFORE us [public school].
Brian said "yes." [remember i was super tired] and i was like "...are you serious?" and they are were like "haha you are so dumb" [they were just kidding] but i had nothing to say so i turned around cuz i'm shy.
what would be either a good thing to say or a good comeback to if you say something wrong and people make fun of you for future use?
thanks. :] (link)
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I think these guys are pretty small and immature if they have to get their kicks by displaying their wit at the expense of a thirteen-year-old girl's feelings.
Don't sink to their level. In a battle of insults and comebacks, you're likely to get the short end of the stick; partly because you're outnumbered, and partly because they've been through high school and they have more experience with that kind of fencing. Anything you do say that actually gets through their thick skulls will likely be answered with something like, "Shut up, stupid kid." Unless you call that a victory, you can't win. Frankly, these guys sound like dicks, and if I were you I wouldn't care much about their opinions.
Oh, and by the way... the fossil record shows that the first mammoths pre-dated the first humans, but that we co-existed for a time before the mammoths went extinct (likely due to climate change when the Earth warmed up following the last major Ice Age). They existed before us AND during the human age. Modern elephants are descended from a common ancestor to the mammoth.
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how is it that god created man/woman? i believe in god, but i just dont believe what he did. i wish i knew more. will someone plez clue me in. thanks a lot (link)
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By definition, God can do anything. That includes creating a primordial man from mud, and a woman from one of the man's ribs. However, if you think that sounds like a pretty improbable story, you're not alone. It certainly seems to ME that an all-powerful God wouldn't really bother to go through all that trouble when he could simply finger-snap human beings into existence.
When it comes to getting answers about God, you'll find millions of opinions, plenty of anecdotal evidence, lots of supposition and philosophical ideas... and zero confirmed facts. I personally find that the more I learn about the world and the universe, the more irrelevant the idea of God becomes. It was about twelve years ago that I became convinced that the God of the Bible was no more real than Zeus or Apollo or Quetzalcoatl. But that's me, and atheism doesn't work for everyone.
It is perfectly acceptable to believe in God without believing in the Bible, if that is what you find makes the most sense to you. Remember that the Bible was written not by God, but by human beings, and that means they could have been wrong.
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hey, i love the movie thirteen and want to see it again. Is there anything free download of the movie? Do you know where i should donwload it wihtout using a program like limewire?. Or watch it on the internet or download from the internet?
Thanks for help, xx.
p.s sorry if i put this on a wrong category (link)
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Downloading a movie from the internet "for free" is theft. The fact that it's very easy and lots of people do it doesn't make it any less illegal.
That having been said, if you do find a way to do it, be aware that you've got a good chance of also downloading viruses, spyware, etc. It's the nature of the beast.
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I am a smoker. I plan to quit.
A high percentage of smokers gain weight when they quit. I am already overweight, and am trying to loose, not gain.
So, my question is this:
What can I do to keep from adding extra pounds?
Please, if you don't have an intelligent answer, don't bother wasting my time and yours.
Thanks (link)
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There are two reasons why people gain weight when they quit smoking. One is that nicotine is a stimulant, and it raises the body's metabolism; take it away, and the metabolism slows down and fewer calories are burned. The other is that the craving for a cigarette is sometimes satisfied through snacking, and so one begins to consume more high-calorie food than before.
Weight loss has a simple equation at its root: burn more calories than you consume, and you lose weight. See if you can consciously replace the need to smoke with the need to get up and move around; even pacing around the living room is aerobic exercise, and curling dumbbells would be one way to keep your hands occupied.
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Me and my best friend started talking to one of my "ex's" friends. He's 5 years older than us, but at the time he was 18. We started talking to him more and more and we all became close friends, even though he lives in a different state we loved him as our friend. Me and him were very close, i've always had feelings for him but I tried not to show it, i didn't want him thinking it was so teenage girl crush on an older guy, it was more than that. At time he'd yell at me, telling me i was "too young, and he didn't feel the same way i felt for him." This made no sense to me because I never said I did have those kind of feelings for him, it was just a sudden outburst from him. We wouldn't talk for a couple of months then we would start again, and then the same thing happened once again. I was "annoying" and blah blah blah. My best friend didn't understand was he was talking about either, we only talked to him when we were together, and I'm not that kind of person at all.
Now that I'm much, much older I think he feels more comfortable with me and my best friend, he tells us alot, personal things, it makes us stronger. He calls me beautiful all the time, and he's soooo cute =]
SO then again, we start talking again. One night he admits that he's in love with me and the reason why he was pushing me away because I was too young and it didn't feel right to him, but now that i'm getting older it was ok. He said he'd wait for me because I was planning on going to a college near him. He's not a creep/psycho anything like that, hes the sweetest person I've ever known in my life. But after that he starts ignoring me again, it just confuses the hell out of me. He told my friend that i'm "annoying" and that he remembers now why he stopped talking to me in the first place, nice huh? Well I'm not sure what to do, I haven't talked to him but all I want is to talk about that night. Any advice? (link)
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Tell him that it won't work like this. If he's in love with you, great. If you also annoy him, well, that's fine too; my wife annoys me sometimes too, and I know that I annoy her frequently. However, these are issues he should bring to YOU, not talk about behind your back and make nasty comments about remembering why he stopped talking to you before. By ignoring you when he has a problem with your behavior, he's displaying quite the lack of maturity, despite his being five years older.
There's something else going on here, though, and that's your best friend working behind the scenes. Want to know how he found out about your feelings in the first place? Look no further than her. I suspect that she may be sabotaging your relationship - perhaps not deliberately, but she's doing it all the same. If he's telling her things that he's apparently not willing to tell you, and she's passing them on... well, just consider that information is probably going the other way too. She seems a little too involved in this relationship, to be honest. If the two of you are a couple, he should be focusing primarily on you and not her, and she should understand that there is a part of your life now that she does not get to share.
Incidentally, he may feel a certain residual guilt that as an 18-year-old young man, he had such feelings for a 13-year-old girl - even if he was decent enough to ignore them at the time and wait for you to become an adult yourself. If this is the case, some reassurance from you to the effect that you appreciate his having waited for you might go a long way toward helping him deal with that. This is the smaller problem, however; the bigger one is the manner in which he deals with your relationship troubles, and it's just not going to work for the long term for him to ignore you and talk trash behind your back every time he feels upset.
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ok, here's the deal. i'm european from my backround but i was born american and so was most of my family before me. but i want to have a british accent. is there a way i can practice that or a website i can go to, that would help me with this, or is this a pointless quest for something stupid? (link)
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Certainly, you can learn to affect an accent. Actors do it all the time, some better than others. You could almost certainly find a language coach who could help you get it just right, so that you don't sound fake.
However, it will probably always require a conscious effort, and so you might want to think about whether you want to be forever thinking about the way you speak. There are also those who might consider it a little pretentious of you, but you can always just tell them that you're speaking English the way it was meant to be spoken. :)
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My 4 pet birds 2 cockatiels and two budgies on opposite side of the rooms all died within half an hour of each other they were breathing hard and fell of their perches any ideas why this happened help!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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I don't know anything about birds, but I do know that miners used to carry canaries into the mine shafts to see if the air quality was good; if the bird dropped dead, it was time to get out. Therefore, I think it would be very wise to get some carbon monoxide detectors installed in your house, and have the air quality checked.
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I need advice on getting a guy.Well, i know things take time and that i need to wait for the "One" and all, but i need an escort to a friends ball. and a date is requed. Is there anything i can do to make a guy a i like like me? i need to know wht kinda stuff guys like.
Oh and i am 14 and a female. (link)
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Whoever told you that you need to wait for the "one" didn't do you any favors! Snow White lied to us; your Prince won't come if you just hang around and wait for him.
Want to know the best way to attract a worthwhile guy? Here it is: JUST BE YOURSELF.
I know, that's terribly cliched and useless advice, but hear me out. The part of that advice that some people don't realize is that you get to define what "yourself" is. Think about the kind of guy you want to attract; what sort of qualities would you like him to see in you? If you want to attract a guy who likes intelligent girls, then get an encyclopedia and start learning. If you want a guy who likes athletic girls, start jogging or join the basketball team. Make "yourself" into someone who you feel is worthy of attention.
That's only half the picture, though. You also have to get out there, and not just sit back and wait for them to come to you. Get to know guys as friends, get into activities that are co-ed, and don't be shy about letting the ones you like know that you are available.
Now, since you're in a hurry, you may need to take a shortcut for this one event. Matchmaking is a time-honored tradition; in other words, you might consider having a friend set you up. Also, if you know a guy who is currently "just a friend", consider asking him. Maybe sparks will fly and maybe they won't, but even if you remain simply friends, you'll probably have a good time.
There's one more thing I should mention: Fourteen is what many would consider too young to start dating. Check with your parents to see how they feel about it first; it will help you avoid potential embarrassment if they say "no" after you've already gotten a date.
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dear reader,
i am 14 old boy. there is this girl that i asked to be my gf and its already been about 2 weeks and i still didnt get my answer. every time i call her up she says shes busy and cant talk. i think shes trying to avoid me also. what should i do?
rafol boy
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Give up on her. If the answer were "Yes", she would have given it by now. She's likely trying to avoid having to tell you "no", so she just keeps putting you off until you give up. It's unfortunate that she can't just be honest with you, but that's how it is.
Don't be too upset with her, though. Fourteen is pretty young (I assume she's about the same age as you) and she probably has little or no experience with relationships with boys. Give it a couple of years, and if you still find her fascinating, try again.
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this is to all guys. is acne a huge turnoff? plez be completly honest. (link)
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One or two zits: not a problem. We all get them. It's nothing to freak out about, and if you go to great lengths to cover it up it generally just makes it more obvious that there's something to cover.
However, if you're talking about a major outbreak of acne across half your face, then it is going to (unfortunately) hurt the first impression you give. Yes, it's shallow of guys to judge a girl based on something so unimportant, but it happens and there's no point in denying it. If you stop and think about it, everything that defines attractiveness across gender lines - bright eyes, athletic build, and clear skin - it's all about how healthy a person looks, and severe acne just looks unhealthy. We humans have an instinct to seek out healthy mates, and so we what we find attractive has a lot to do with that.
So, if you have severe acne that's really obvious and never goes away, then the truth of the matter is that you'll have a hard time attracting guys. If that is the case, a dermatologist should be able to help.
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i asked a question like this before,
all of you said that the Great Lakes
belong to the United States AND Canada.
My teacher said that they only belong to
one of those countries. I googled it and
looked in my textbook, and nothing of the
subject came up. I truly think the Great
Lakes belong to both countries, but my
teacher says I'm wrong. Who is right? (link)
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Every map I've ever seen draws the border between US and Canada through the middle of Lake Superior, Huron (the south portion), Erie, and Ontario, then on up through the center of the St. Lawrence river until turning sharply east at the northern border of New York state. Lake Michigan is entirely within the United States. Treaties between the U.S. and Canada control use of the water from the Great Lakes.
So, with the exception of Lake Michigan, your teacher is wrong. If it's worth it to you, you could probably show a page from the Encyclopedia Britannica to prove your point.
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i might be prgenate and if iam im not to sure of how to tell my parents .. wat should i do (link)
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Step One: Determine for certain whether you are pregnant. Take an over-the-counter test, and then see a doctor.
Step Two: Evaluate your parents. If you think that you may be at personal risk when you tell them, do so in the presence of another adult, such as your doctor or a clergyman. DON'T tell your friends or your boyfriend until you have told your parents; you are a minor (I'm guessing) and they are responsible for you, so they should be the first to know outside of your doctor.
Step Three: Sit them down, and tell them the unvarnished truth. It will be very hard on everyone, most of all you. Be prepared with your answer when they ask, "What are you going to do?" This is a time when you must act like an adult, and not cry out things like "I don't know!" Don't try to minimize the situation; any excuses you give will not change matters. Tell them who the father is UNLESS you think you may be putting him at risk by doing so.
Step Four: Inform the father. Again, if you think you may be at risk from him, have an adult you trust on-hand. The reality of the situation is that this is primarily your burden (you're the one with the uterus, after all), but he should at least know about it. (NOTE - if you are below the age of informed consent, and he is over 18, then he is guilty of statutory rape. Whether you press charges would be up to you and your parents. It would probably be a good idea to get some expert legal advice in this case.)
Step Five: Make your decision insofar as what to do about it. Whatever you decide will be something you must live with for the rest of your life, so be sure you can. Be realistic and practical, but not at the expense of your own soul. Remember that there are hundreds of couples waiting to adopt.
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I am looking after this 6 year old. He is lovely. However, the mother recently left. I've been needed over a lot more to help out because his dad is really upset. After i've put the son to bed i go down and drink coffee with Brain (the dad). I can tell he really needs someone to talk to and we sometimes talk for ages. I dont want it to become inappropriate though so the conversation is usually quite censored. We talk about Tom (son) and about whether his wife has called. Thing is, we've become quite close. He's a really young dad but i dont want to split up a family or anything, so i would never initiate anythin. Thing is, he kissed me. It was completely random and he apologised loads afterwards. He said it was really wrong of him and he didnt want to loose me because im the only one he can talk to and ive helped out so much. We talked afterwards, my idea, i didnt want things to be awkward. He told me he liked me but would never want to put pressure on me and never intended on telling me.
I like him too. Its awful isnt it~? im a really bad person. But he's married. Its been 5 months since she's left and she hasnt called. And me and brian are becoming closer and closer "friends". nothings happened since, but i know if i wanted it to i could. I get on so well with Tom and i cant help thinking my morals are making me make the biggest mistake of my life (link)
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From the sound of things, it seems to me like you would be very good for each other - but you have to be very careful now about how to proceed. I suggest that you have a frank talk about your future, and determine for certain that he wants you to be a part of it.
Is he willing to divorce his wife? Unless he makes that commitment, you need to keep your relationship strictly above-board. He should file for legal separation, and do whatever it takes to assume full custody of his child. He should be able to show to a judge that his wife has abandoned them.
However, there is a point that bears mentioning. It seems very strange to me that a man would simply accept that his wife ran off and hasn't contacted him in five months. Are you certain that you're getting the truth of the situation? Did he report her as missing - and if not, why not? Does he receive communication from her family or friends? Is it possible that she actually DOES want to come home, and he is somehow preventing it? Do you even know that she is still alive? I don't mean to sound melodramatic, but terrible things sometimes happen, and it is possible that the situation is not what it seems to be. So, before pursuing this ANY further, you need to find out exactly what has happened to his wife, and you need to find out why she ran off, if that is indeed what happened.
I hope it all works out for you, but before you leap, make sure you have all the facts. He could be a lovely man, abandoned by his heartless wife... or he could be someone you don't even know.
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Why would a cat start pooping next to the litter box instead of inside of it. I have two cats, but just the female is doing this. (link)
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It may be a matter of the male having established the litterbox as his territory, and the female therefore doesn't use it. You may need a second box.
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I joined www.multiply.com.You need an invitation to join.When I joined I had no idea what the site was about.I used my real name.Am I in trouble?There was no option to change my name.If there was,I could not find it.I did not realize people could see my name.My last name is pretty rare.What should I do?Why shouldn't you give your real name online? (link)
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The primary concern with using your real name online is that the internet doesn't forget. Anything you post with your real name is attached to you forever. If your name is very unusual, then one can also probably obtain your address, phone number, and vital statistics by punching it into a search engine. Essentially, it sets you up for such things as spam, identity theft, harassment by those who disagree with you, that kind of thing. You could have no problem whatsoever... but it's best not to take a chance.
I suggest you contact the webmasters, explain that you do not wish to use your real name, and ask if your account can be suitably modified. They shouldn't have a problem with it.
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