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kissed an ex bf`s friend
last friday i was with these guy, and i had drank a bit and , onething lef to anothe, and so we finished kissing. the problem is that he is a firends`s ex guy. they had been togehter for two months or more, but these was like a year ago. this friend of mine is not here, se went on holidays, and she wont be back until next week.
i know i have to tell her about these episode, but, how can i do it????????? help meeee
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You have nothing to apologize or feel guilty for (except, possibly, underage drinking - but that's another story). She had a two-month relationship with him a year ago. I'd consider that water under the bridge, down the river and at least five nautical miles out to sea.
You probably should tell her about it, but there's no reason why it has to be an issue. Just tell her pretty much what you said above - you were hanging out with this guy, had a little to drink, and ended up kissing him. If she has a problem with that, then just say, "What's the big deal? You dated him for a while and then broke up, and it's been a year. What, you still have some kind of claim on him or something?"
Now, there are some things to consider:
(1) DOES she still have feelings for him, and is she planning to try to get together with him again someday? If so, you might consider stepping aside. You're not obligated to do so, but it would be supportive of your friend.
(2) Why did they break up? How did he treat her while they were going out? If you're planning on dating him now, that would be good information to have, and something to consider.
(3) Have you kissed him while sober yet, just to make sure you like it? :)
Don't stress, seriously. Your friend really shouldn't be too upset, and if she is, then she owes you an explanation as to why.
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Hmmm. Alcohol has pretty harmful effects.
Invite her over like on a Friday or Saturday so she'll have time to cool off on Sat/Sun if she's mad. Invite her over and casually ask "Hey, are you over (name)? Like totally over him?"
If she saiys yes, say "Good because I made a really stupid mistake when I was drunk..." and explain the kissing part and how you kissed him because you were drunk and not because you like him. If she says no, say "I hope you won't get mad at me for this" (explain the kiss part)
If she's mad, tell her that you understand and you'll wait for her to forgive her.
If she isnt...great! She shouldn't anyway because she should be over him
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well, like the person below me said, explain to her that you were drunk when you kissed him. she should understand. you shouldn't be so worried about it either...unless you know if she still has feelings for her ex? either way, she should understand that you were drunk and weren't thinking properly.
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tell her you had drank a bit, you wernt really sure what was going on at frist and you's started kissing. if it didnt mean anything tell her. say youre sorry if she still has feelings for him. make sure she understands it was a mistake
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