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I am looking after this 6 year old. He is lovely. However, the mother recently left. I've been needed over a lot more to help out because his dad is really upset. After i've put the son to bed i go down and drink coffee with Brain (the dad). I can tell he really needs someone to talk to and we sometimes talk for ages. I dont want it to become inappropriate though so the conversation is usually quite censored. We talk about Tom (son) and about whether his wife has called. Thing is, we've become quite close. He's a really young dad but i dont want to split up a family or anything, so i would never initiate anythin. Thing is, he kissed me. It was completely random and he apologised loads afterwards. He said it was really wrong of him and he didnt want to loose me because im the only one he can talk to and ive helped out so much. We talked afterwards, my idea, i didnt want things to be awkward. He told me he liked me but would never want to put pressure on me and never intended on telling me.
I like him too. Its awful isnt it~? im a really bad person. But he's married. Its been 5 months since she's left and she hasnt called. And me and brian are becoming closer and closer "friends". nothings happened since, but i know if i wanted it to i could. I get on so well with Tom and i cant help thinking my morals are making me make the biggest mistake of my life
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What is the age difference? You don't say if you are 13 or 20. :)
You want to be careful about getting into a relationship with him right now. He is just coming out of a serious relationship and knowingly or not
would be using you to get over her. Not a good position for you to be in.
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You didn't state how old you are... give it some time... you dont want him to like you just because his wife isn't around, you want him to truly like you for who you are. Continue helping him and continue keeping a friendship with him. If you really want to pursue a relationship give it some time. He needs time to heal.
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You should stay close with him, keep talking but don't like kiss him or let him kiss you. Wait till his divorce is final, you will know him better than, have a stronger realtionship with him and his son(always a plus) and you will have time to look over the situation and think about it. Time is the best thing, you can clear your head a little and figure out if this is really what you want.
But wait untill him and his wife figure things out, you don't want to blame yourself and wonder for the rest of your life and you don't want him to do the same thing. Let things kinda work things out a little and calm down.
Good luck
hope I helped!
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From the sound of things, it seems to me like you would be very good for each other - but you have to be very careful now about how to proceed. I suggest that you have a frank talk about your future, and determine for certain that he wants you to be a part of it.
Is he willing to divorce his wife? Unless he makes that commitment, you need to keep your relationship strictly above-board. He should file for legal separation, and do whatever it takes to assume full custody of his child. He should be able to show to a judge that his wife has abandoned them.
However, there is a point that bears mentioning. It seems very strange to me that a man would simply accept that his wife ran off and hasn't contacted him in five months. Are you certain that you're getting the truth of the situation? Did he report her as missing - and if not, why not? Does he receive communication from her family or friends? Is it possible that she actually DOES want to come home, and he is somehow preventing it? Do you even know that she is still alive? I don't mean to sound melodramatic, but terrible things sometimes happen, and it is possible that the situation is not what it seems to be. So, before pursuing this ANY further, you need to find out exactly what has happened to his wife, and you need to find out why she ran off, if that is indeed what happened.
I hope it all works out for you, but before you leap, make sure you have all the facts. He could be a lovely man, abandoned by his heartless wife... or he could be someone you don't even know.
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NO your not a bad person she hasnt called and havent been back in 5 mounths i think the relationship is pretty much over you know but take it slow and see what happens still talk to him and let him know that you like him but you want to take it slow until the whole wife thing blows over and it seems like he likes you but dont do anything to dramistic until you know that you wont regret it. hope i helped goodluck
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