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ex gf
my boyfriend and i have been together for a year and we have a great relationship for the most part but lately we've been fighting a lot...the other day he got a message from his ex gf on his myspace and he replied to it. i told him it bothered me and he told me it was okay and that he was only gonna say that. then today i came home and he left his myspace up on my computer so i checked the messages which i know i shouldnt have done but i found more messages back and fourth with her. i dont know if i should be mad or not but i feel like i cant say anything because i kind of violated his privacy but it really does bother me. i know he doesnt like her i just feel uncomfortable with it. HELP PLEASEEE!!
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i were you i would talk to him about it the calmest way he shouldnt get mad at you because you checked his messages your his girlfriend ! i think u have the right to invade a little, if he gets mad then it shows he's hiding something or that he didnt want you knowing he was still talking to her after he said he would stop. just talk to him about how him and her talking bothers you and that you knoe he doesnt like her but it still bothers you..if he loves you he'll understand.
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If he's flirting with her on the messages, question him about it. If it's just a normal conversation that two friends would have, let it go. Just because they're friends doesn't mean that there's anything going on between them. Keep in mind he's with you & not with her, so you shouldn't have anything to worry about. :]
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hey, well what was on the messages? if there was any flirting going on then you should have a talk with your guy about if hes really into you or not. also explain to him that it would be better for you in the long run if he just told you if he liked her or not. dont accuse him tho. just say you feel sort of insecure about it. whatever you do dont tell him that you invaded his privacy. if the messages didnt have anything but friendly conversations then you have nothing to be worried about in my opion. he is allowed to talk to other girls friendly -- even his ex.
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why are you bothered by it so much? hes with you, not her. is it really such a bad thing for him to still talk to her? im friends with some of my exes. now, he diffinetly shouldnt have lied to you about it, but he shouldnt have had to either.
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i think you should ask him to be in the same situation your having, cause i don't think he'd like you to still talk to your ex , also, if he thinks that doing that it's not wrong , why he said he'll not replied to her messages anymore and still do, why does he hide it? tell him to please think about how will he feel, if he still doesn't get it , do something similar or make him believe your doin' almost the same thing (talk to ex boyfriend or someone you've been dating before him) and see he's reaction and tell him that was just so he could understand you ! i had the same exact problem! let me know how it goes!=)
diane
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