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asking a girl to be my girlfriend
dear reader,
i am 14 old boy. there is this girl that i asked to be my gf and its already been about 2 weeks and i still didnt get my answer. every time i call her up she says shes busy and cant talk. i think shes trying to avoid me also. what should i do?
rafol boy
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she is trying to avoid you. she obviously doesnt want to talk to you. try and go out with friends get your mind off of her and try to find another girl. theres always someone for everyone dont forget that!
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You might think that this girl doesn't want to be your girlfriend, but that may not be true. She could be scared to make a fool out of herself. But, at the same time, it's possible that she doesn't like you, but just doesn't want to hurt you.
Here's what you have to do.
1. Call her up.
2. Say, "Listen. We need to talk."
If she says that she doesn't have time, then say that you'll be quick, but it's important.
If not, go on talking.
3. Say, "I don't know if you're not ready for a relationship, or if you just don't like me, or maybe you do. But if you don't want to be my girlfriend, just say so."
4. Make sure you sound kind, and polite. You want her to know that you really do care about her.
5. If she trys to change the subject, or say that she has to go, say, "I just need a yes or a no. Please."
Most likely, she's going to say that she doesn't want to. If she does, then you just have to move on. If she wants to be your girlfriend, then it's all good.
Hope I helped.
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the same shes doing to you drop it its pretty clear that her answers no so drop her you dont need her there are plenty of other fishes in the sea so forget her and go fishing goodluck i hope i helped
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Well "rafol boy", I'm a 14 year old girl and speaking from experience, I'd say don't give up. Maybe she doesn't exactly know what she wants and that's why she's questioning which answer to give you. Girls tend to think every little detail and possible consequence through to make sure that the decisions they make are the right ones and sometimes it takes a while. Maybe she is doing the same. (of course I dont know for sure because I'm not her.) Just give her space and time to think about what she wants and maybe wait another two weeks and if she's not giving you straight answers or doesn't even want to talk about it then maybe it's time you move on or at least confront her about it if you're comfortable. Girls can be cruel... trust me :] Love isn't an easy thing to deal with. Well, hope I was able to help :] xxo Hannah
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If you love her.Repect it.A girl needs time, it might hurt, but it'd be worth the wait wouldn't it?
You need to understand when a girl does this theres a side where she wants to say yes and another side pulling her down saying no.She's just thinking the bad and good possibilites.
Just give her space,
it's all she needs.
Space.
So just wait.
But if its more that three months - then maybe thats when you should really give up.
DONT listen to the fools below me ha.
I'm a girl with experience.I observe these things.Don't give up on her, you'll never know what she will say.But if you can't wait confront her and tell her everything thats going through your mind.
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Give up on her. If the answer were "Yes", she would have given it by now. She's likely trying to avoid having to tell you "no", so she just keeps putting you off until you give up. It's unfortunate that she can't just be honest with you, but that's how it is.
Don't be too upset with her, though. Fourteen is pretty young (I assume she's about the same age as you) and she probably has little or no experience with relationships with boys. Give it a couple of years, and if you still find her fascinating, try again.
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I think you just have to forget the idea of being with her because she doesn’t match you. I would always ask you to remember that when ever you want to make girls to go out with you before you do it, make sure you really meet her feelings. It is just that in young ages there are times girls will break your feelings and wont let you to lead you way .
Please continue looking for another one the one who really cares about you.
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confront her in person.
if you can't do that, then i'm starting to think the answer is no.if it takes a girl two weeks to give you an answer and she's also avoiding you, then most likely the answer is no. she probably doesn't want to say it to your face because she knows she'll hurt your feelings. but props to you for striking up the courage to ask a girl out. most guys are afraid they'll be turned down which sometimes happens. but there are only about a couple of million more girls in the world to choose from.
hope i helped
xo
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