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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Okay, so I want to paint my room because I've had bright green and I'm getting sick of it. I want to paint my room a lighter color and I guess more "mature" looking. At first I wanted to paint it purple and have a theme of purple black and white but now I'm thinking I should paint it a light brown color. Any opinions? I'll take any, and I won't rate you low if you say something I don't want. Thanks!

Paint it your favorite colors. Or do stripes or polkadots. Something cool & original. You can do polkadots in any color. Brown & Turquise are cute together. And so is Pink & Baby Blue.

alright well i'm a 14 year old girl and i'm like 5'5 about 126 lbs. i want to lose like 20 pounds by summer and i think its going to be impossible. i go to the gym at least 5 times a week but i can't seem to have the displine to eat right. i really don't. can someone help me tell me how i can adviod those foods? my friends do not diet but i wanna look amazing this summer and i'm going to a new school. just i need something to keep me from eating badly.

You're in the right weight percentile for your age and height. You don't have to lose or gain any weight. You're fine how you are, but if you really wanna give up those foods; put a picture of a supermodel up so it'll stop you from going towards the junk & go towards the healthy stuff.

face down in the dirt
she said, "this doesn't hurt"
she said, "i've finally had enough"
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can anyone tell me who sings this song and what it's called??? those are the only lyrics that i remember. XD thanks!

The girl below me is DEFINITELY wrong. She loves the song so much, she doesn't know who sings it, or who it's by.

Jack was right. It's called Face Down and it's by The Red Jumpsuit Apparatus. I'd know, I've got the album, and they're my favorite band. =)

I have this friend whom had a baby late last year. She was so sweet and nice before she got pregnant, like I could always tell her anything. But ever since she had her child, she has been a major b**** lately. The other day I told her that I disliked relationships because I am always getting dumped, and since she has a boyfriend, she says, "well whatever about you. I gotta boyfriend so I am happy so I wouldn't care" or something like that. Also, I left a bulletin on myspace about this video about pre-marital pregnancy (she's 17), and she got so offended, she was going off on me. I told her I didn't mean to do that, but it was like a funny video and it didn't matter who you were you can laugh from it. And I didn't put it out because of her. Merely because I wanted to show my friends how funny it was.

Also, awhile back, I left a bulletin about everyone getting pregnant recently, and how it disgusts me. She leaves a message saying, "It's not disgusting. It's a precious gift." I felt like telling her what she did was a mistake.

Now she is mad at me for what I did recently. I don't think I want to be her friend anyway because how easily offended she gets all the time, because everything I seem to say relates to her problem indirectly.

What can I do? Don't just simply tell me to stop saying stuff that could hurt her because it's everything I say, no matter what it is.

Thanks

If she's such a bitch, not being her friend will be easy. Just stop being friends with her.

when are the hollister jeans with the beads and glitter on the pockets coming back?

also the jean skirts with the same thing.

thanks

Ask someone who works at the store, or check the store site.

I love polar bears, but I can't ever find any cute aim icons or avatars. Can someone help? Please.

Go into your AIM Expressions & click Set Expressions. Search that until you find something cute. Or use google.

Okay well i heard of these people only excercising and hour a day but losing weight eating cereal, fruit, and orange juice for beakfast, then for a snack like yogurt, then lunch like a healthy sandwich, then a snack in the afternoon like peanuts, and low fat chees or something n crackers, and then for dinner some steamed chicken....but only an hour of excercise wont cover that...

If you eat that everyday, make sure you exercise for more than an hour & drink a lot of water & milk. It's preferred you drink 8 glasses of water a day. =) And you should have at least 4 servings of dairy. But don't exercise before bed because too much movement before bed won't help you fall asleep. Your body will still be running & it won't be relaxed. Relax after you exercise & then hit bed. =)

alright so my hair is naturally wavy. and this thing i hate about it is that in the summer is perfect and in the cold it is so not. like its straight in the front and wavy on the bottom and too poofy or what ever. sometimes its perfect and sometimes not. i ussaully just let it go natural or straighten it but thats getting boring. it also is getting split ends like CRAZY. i dont even straighten it that much. i put stuff on my hair before i straighten it too so that it wont happen.

so any really good hair ideas.. nothing stupid- serouisly.also i wanna know how i can like... make my hair perfect wavy.. not just like weird wavy haha. something like this:...but no gell if thats possible.

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi46.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Ff117%2Fdianaspin123%2Fscrunched.jpg&searchTerm=scrunched%20hair

and how do i keep my hair healthy??

my hairs blonde.. just incase that helps. ha.

THANKSSSS =]

I usually just wash my hair & do nothing to it. I don't blowdry it or straighten it, and it just goes wavy by itself. Try that, and if it doesn't work, try that Herbal Essences shampoo that makes your hair wavy. =)

i need help im a bit over weight and i really really wanna lose sum weight cuz im going camping during the summer and i wanna wear a bikini.... i need sum advice on what i can do because i have tried diets.... sorta and i used to work out 30 minutes a day i go outside most of the time but please help me!!

Work out for 30 minutes a day. Drink 8 glasses of water, and 4 glasses of milk a day. Eat healthy. Cancel out junk food/sweets/fast food/sodas for good. But don't go on a crash diet. They're not healthy. Just eat healthy, exercise, drink water & milk, and you'll be fine. Just don't stop or you'll put all your weight back on.

PLEASE READ. okay i need advice- ovousily or i wouldn't be on here. ha. okay well im really shy and thats a problem because i dont have as many friends. i have like what 3? ha. i know right. i have friends from other towns but that doesnt really count because i want friends from MY own town- friends that like i hang out with outside of school too. i pretty much want to be popular. i know i could be and i have it in my like personality wise and im not ugly but like..im just so shy its crazy. also, this is the part that i hate so much. people think im a lezbain. like popular, average, or what ever. and the thing is IM NOT. and like i dont know how to prove that im not a lezbo because like im not ganna be a slut or anything. so yeah today in gym like my friend hes like JESSICA IS PALEEEE *clap clap clap clap clap* and this popular kid whos an extreme jerk is like JESSICA LIKES GIRLS *clap clap clap clap clap* . hes gay if anything. ha. yeah but really.

a) like how do i become popular and fast? && like over come my shyness? like please help. really. i mean i know i could be popular and stuff but ARGH PLEASE. like in other towns im popular because i dont care what they think and its harded to like actually do this then just say it. please!

b)please please please any advice on getting them not to call me a lez. really PLEASE. this is just the gayesttt thing ever. i think once i become popular then people will stop calling me a lez.

thank you SOO much if you read this and give me adive. omg. please. haha. im saying that way to much. whatt everr =]

Being popular isn't everything, and neither is having friends. But having friends is an important part of being a teen. If you say you have the personality, then show people you do. I know you're shy, but just be yourself & don't hide who you really are. Be funny, laugh, hang out with the guys, say hi to everyone. You only get popular by being nice; because NO ONE likes a snob.

If this kid keeps saying that you're gay, kick him in the balls, seriously. He's a jerk & he doesn't know what he's talking about. But, if you get worked up over it, or just don't say anything at all, he's gonna know he got to you, or he's gonna think you're scared of him to say anything. Just kick him in the balls, and leave it at all.

Let me know how it works out.

does anyone have an example of a teacher reference letter. my teacher and i decided i would write it and he would sign it considering he doesn't really have time to write one. does anyone know how to help me write one?

Ask him to write it when he has time. I don't know how old you are, but usually a reference letter from a teacher is good. And them writing it is even better. Besides, it might sound a little unprofessional if you write it. No offense. Just ask him to write it when he has time.

his name is adam and he's one of my best friends--and i love him. i've known pretty much all along he never had those feelings for me back, but six months ago i told him how i felt for him. it was a little awkward at first, but we got over it and managed to keep our friendship. i told him i didn't ever want him to hesitate when telling me anything, especially about his love life or whatever. now, five months later, i'm not so sure i want to hear it anymore. last night he told me he liked our best friend, lauren. we're all mutual best friends and that's what makes it so hard. he told me he wanted me to tell him what i thought of it and if i was okay with it. i think i was so shocked and hurt at first i didn't realize it was true, so i said i supported it and i didn't want him to hold back. i thought that's what being a good friend was all about. i want to see him happy, but i don't know how she feels nor does she even know he likes her. but i still feel caught in the middle--i mean he told me he would try to forget her if it meant things between the three of us would get weird.
i love him so much, and i have for a year and a half. he means the world to me and the last thing i want to do is hurt him, or be the reason he's unhappy. but i know it would kill me inside to see him with anyone else. do i suck it up for their sake like i had originally planned, or do i be brutally, selfishly honest and tell him i don't want him to go after her?

This might seem rude, but in your life, YOU are ALWAYS first. Your needs are more important than others. Even if you always put people before you, chances are, you need YOU more than somebody else does.

Think about what's good for you. If you really like him & don't want to be with her, tell him that. Tell him it'd make things weird with you guys, and you probably would be too hurt to say anything to him. If you don't tell him how you feel, you're gonna kick yourself in the ass forever about it. It might seem selfish, and you might hold him back from pursuing someone he really likes, but then again, you deserve to be happy.

okay so im 15 and me nd my b/f had sex like a week ago and we didnt use protection. i no i shouldve but it was only for like a few seconds and weve done it b4 and nuthing happened but this time when he came out of me, he had cummed right on the bed like right after he pulled out..is there any possible way i could be pregnant?

There's always a chance because of pre-cum. It might be too early to take a pregnancy test, but I suggest it. Next time, use protection.

Iam 20 years old and my bf is 21 years old. We have been together for 1 year now. My boyfriend is constantly leaving me then coming back to me. he tell me that he doesnt love me anymore, iam not pretty enough and he doesnt want anything to do with me but when i cut him out of my life and move on he says he loves me and he made a mistake and he wants me back. He wants me when he wants me. He downs me sometimes but then he will say the oppisite. He lies to me he never puts my feelings first. The question is should i leave him

If he treats you like that, why would you stay? The answer is obvious: Leave him and find somebody who loves you all the time. Not just when he feels like it.

is there a way to get
birth control with
out letting my parents
find out? 15/f

Try to go to Planned Parenthood.

I ususally hate these kinds of questions, but this has been bugging the crud out of me lately! Does anyone remember a music video in ...the 90's maybe...or early 2000-2001 where it was a summer house party and there were a lot of people (older teenagers there) and they were by a pool. The main band member was going after this girl through the house that party was taking place. I remember it was a band like, blink 182 or good charlotte ...i'm not sure if it was one of them. The lead singer was blonde if that helps?
thanks!

This is the only video I can think of that's like that:

Slow Down by The Academy Is...

Check yahoo.com & try their music section & see if that's the video.

i have a question i was wondering what u can wear to look more preppy please i need help asap and also how to act it!! and i need anything possible that has to do with being preppy thankyou so much in advance!!!

Go to store likes Charlotte Russe, Wet Seal, American Eagle, Abercrombie&Fitch, Hollister, Aeropastle, 579, Rue 21, and Old Navy. They have everything you need. Clothes, shoes, accessories. Everything. There is really no "preppy" attitude or how to act like you are. Every person who's considered "preppy" is different. Some girls are stuck up, some are rude, and some are really nice. But, go to those stores & I promise they'll have everything you'll need.

im gona get either a tiny fat wrinkley dog or a tiny pug or a tiny chiwawa~i wana name it after a cartoon character~can you say the cartoon character and the show its from~any suggestions~thanks

Spike from Tom&Jerry. =)

Okay so I lived somewhere for 6 months. I knew that it wasn't gonna be permanent. But I thought that it would be a kool new experience. I didnt think I would make any really good friend. But then again I never actually thought about when I was leaving. Well I lived there and i made the most awesome friends and my life has been pretty tough,but everything was goin perfect. Well I left and that hurt me. Then like not even a month later my friend commeted me on myspace and was liek I have some bad news to tell you. Well I didnt think it was nothin major so i call her and shes like you know alex right ? and it took me a couple min to understand who she was talking about. when i finally remembered him she told me that he had hung himself. I was in shock for like ever. and cry ALL the time at random moments. but i barely knew him. we had jus become friends b4 i left NJ.. but now i feel like everythings messed up. i cant stand it when ppl talk about suisicde and i dont have anyone ther to help me through. because all my friends in NJ,this is their first time its happeneind. please help me find a way to help me get over this. because i have family problems with my mother and i dont know what to do anymore. my dad is great and does as much as he can for me but i still feel lonely and i dont want to tell him that,it would break his heart
please help!!

Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. Anyways, since you're not in NJ, try to find a friend where you are now that you're close with. See a counselor though because talking to someone really helps a lot. It might not seem like it, but it does.

i am thinking about letting my boyfriend finger me,but i have really long large in lips on my "lower area" will he get freaked out? or should i do something about it, or not let him finger me, do guys think that is weird ?

Don't worry about. Guys don't usually pay attention, so just let him finger you.

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