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my friend Alex who died
Okay so I lived somewhere for 6 months. I knew that it wasn't gonna be permanent. But I thought that it would be a kool new experience. I didnt think I would make any really good friend. But then again I never actually thought about when I was leaving. Well I lived there and i made the most awesome friends and my life has been pretty tough,but everything was goin perfect. Well I left and that hurt me. Then like not even a month later my friend commeted me on myspace and was liek I have some bad news to tell you. Well I didnt think it was nothin major so i call her and shes like you know alex right ? and it took me a couple min to understand who she was talking about. when i finally remembered him she told me that he had hung himself. I was in shock for like ever. and cry ALL the time at random moments. but i barely knew him. we had jus become friends b4 i left NJ.. but now i feel like everythings messed up. i cant stand it when ppl talk about suisicde and i dont have anyone ther to help me through. because all my friends in NJ,this is their first time its happeneind. please help me find a way to help me get over this. because i have family problems with my mother and i dont know what to do anymore. my dad is great and does as much as he can for me but i still feel lonely and i dont want to tell him that,it would break his heart
please help!!
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Hi.
Suiside is a terrible thing. But you can never tell when some one will go kill themselves. Maybe you could hang out with your dad a lot. Or you could go try and join clubs/groups in your school or even in your community. You could also try to talk to the neighbors (kids, teens wutever) Call your friends fromm NJ and stuff.
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Im so sorry Alex hung himself.
-YOLIV:)
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I'd like to comment you on how sorry I am for you and your friends and your family. I'd also like to tell you that no matter what I say to you right now, I can not exactly relate to the pain that you must be going through but I realize how hard this must have been to type. And I'm going to try to do my best.
When people that you don't know very well or who aren't as close to you as you'd like them to be die, the reaction is pure shock. And I think in this case, you're so upset because you were on good terms with that person and you really feel like you deserved more time with him, and you're not quite sure why he died now.
I know you don't know what the hell was going through his head to make him kill himself. Main reasons are depression, but I can't tell you if that is the reason behind his action. There was nothing you could do to prevent it because it was his choice. He was lucky to have met you in his life and I'm sure you feel the same about him. Maybe you're so upset because you feel as if you both have unfinished buisness. Maybe you wanted to get to know him better and become good friends. Or maybe it's because you felt you could've helped him and you didn't get that chance.
No matter what your reason is, you're going to feel bad for awhile. His memory will never be erased from you, and you'll be struggling to cope with this for awhile. It doesn't matter how well of a friend you were or how much you know about him, you still knew him and he will always be a part of your past. It's not your fault that this happened and things wouldn't have changed any if you were still there.
To ease your mind a little, find an activity that you can put emotion into. It can be writing, drawing, speaking. Whatever your preference is. Write all your thoughts on paper if you want. Exercise, take up a new class.
Listen, if you managed to go through family troubles, and move to different areas, you're already very strong. You just don't know it right now. You're going to find it hard to stay balanced but it will get better as time goes on.
And remember, just because your friends are in NJ and your not, it doesn't mean that you don't have anyone to talk to. Talk to them because they'll be able to relate to you. You can all get through this together. I hope you'll be all right, and if you need someone to talk to I'll be here as well.
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Aww, I'm so sorry for your loss. Anyways, since you're not in NJ, try to find a friend where you are now that you're close with. See a counselor though because talking to someone really helps a lot. It might not seem like it, but it does.
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