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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

advice

a few months ago my best friend max transferred schools. he was a great guy and i miss him so much. he spent his last day just hanging out with me, and i didnt even know he'd be gone. the day i found out i was so depressed. i started crying in school. everytime i think about him i cry!! i secretly liked him as more than a friend and the sad thing is, i KNOW he liked me too, but then i heard from this girl she was going out with him. and i guess i have to believe it. nobody else can tell me really. unless i asked and that would be sooooooo intimidating to anyone!! weeks ago i thought i was over him but just now i thought of how he used to look at me. one time in the hallway he was on his way to english and i was going to geography and he was staring at me so i looked back then he tripped. i cant get him out of my head. i've had dreams about it, ive been crying for so long and i'm sick of it!!!!!!
help!!!

Do you have his sn or his phone number? If you do, call him or instant message him. Talk to him about your past & everything like that. Talk about old times, and talk to him about how you feel about him. Even though he transferred schools, he still might live near you & the school might be close to you. I wouldn't believe anything this girl says until you hear it from Max himself. Set up a day so you guys can hang out, and see what he says. If he likes you, he'll leave this other girl & go out with you.

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he is a sweetheart
he is 17 soon to be 18
he is a senior
and im a freshman and im 15
i loike him a lot
i got over him and now i like him again
we were kinda going out
but then yeah . . .
it all went from there
haha
but yeahh

today it was raining and he asked me if i wanted a ride home .
and i was like uh no its ok and he was like come on its ok
and my friend was coming over to my house
and he is a sweetheart
and he gave her a ride to my house also
i reallly like him
and he supposrts me and i support him
but yeah
we only hugged in the past
haha
but today
i gave him a hug saying thanks for the ride
. . .
and he gave me a hug
and i thought he wanted a kisss.
and now i regret not kissing him
iono
i reallly like him
but i hate the fact that he is a senior
but i know he will wait for me
he loves me and i love him too
he really is awesome
its just
i feel like a regret not kissing him

Never regret anything you do, or don't do. It'll hold you back & stop you from being happy. Don't wish you went back & did something else, because it'll sit on your mind for a while & you'll feel guilty.

If you really like this guy, talk to him about it. If you've got his number, his email address, or his sn then call him, email him or IM him. Talk to him anyway you can. Write him notes at school, or pull him aside. If you guys have the same lunch, talk to him there. Tell him how you feel about him, and if he feels the same, then go out. Age is nothing but a number, so don't let it hold you back. My boyfriend is 5 years older than me, and I didn't let his age stop me from pursuing him. If you really like a guy, then his age shouldn't hold you back. The only way age would be a problem is if he was really old. Like, say you were 16, and he was 30. Then it'd be a problem. But a 3-5 year difference shouldn't hold you back. Pursue him because you like him & don't let the age diff. stop you.

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16,female

how can i be more comfortable with my body? i mean im about 5'6 and im only about 110 pounds. i think im skinny but im fine with the way i look the only thing is that when guys are like "let me see your boobs" or something haha that sounds bad but like if i was going out with someone i dont feel comfortable AT ALL letting them see my private stuff. i dont know why but how can i become more comfortable..i think its so awkard when boys do that to me. ive only flashed guys one time and it was at night and only for like 20 seconds ahha but IT TOOK ME A ALONG TIME for it to actually happen.i know alot of guys think im hot so they wouldnt say anything bad about me and im not saying i want to be a slut or anything but i just wish i was comfortable with that kind of stuff. and also when boys finger girls and stuff how do you keep "down there" smooth. because its embarassing since mines always like prickly and it would be weird if they were to go down there and feel that! i dont know if its just me or what but i dont know how to get over these things!

You're only going to be comfortable around people if you're comfortable around yourself. When you're home alone, walk around naked. It's weird to do but it could help with your problem. If you're comfortable naked around yourself, you should be comfortable while nude around other people. I'm not quite at that stage, and I don't like myself naked, but I'm working on it. If you're confident in yourself & how you look, then it'll really be good when you're around other people. If you're not, it's gonna show & it's gonna stop you from doing alot. So walk around your house naked.

As for when a guy fingers you, in order to keep your vagina smooth, use shaving cream first, and then go over it with soap. When you get out of the shower/bath or whatever, put some moisturizers on it, & use lotion too. Do that everyday & you should feel/see a difference. =)

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Ive been haveing some semptoms of pregnancy please tell me what you think. My boobs hurt off and on, My lower back hurts all the time, Ive had cramp like feelings for a week now. My boobs started leaking this clear clowdy stuff. Am i pregnant?

You might me. Take a pregnancy test.

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THIS IS ONLY FOR PSYCHOLOGISTS: I have another question concerning my friend who went to a psychologist that acted more like a friend than a therapist. Now that my friend stopped seeing this therapist my friend is calmer, happier, and jokes more and not uptight. WHY is my friend happier and calmer now? HERE IS THE STORY TO REFRESH YOUR MEMORY: My friend was seeing a male therapist who was always scarastic and pessimistic who would say things like: Well your boss is an SOB, he really hated you; The therapist never helped my friend solve their problems.

I'm going to school for psychology right now, so I think I might be able to help.

He never helped her solve her problem, so she didn't like seeing him. Since she's stopped seeing him, she's been happier. Her psychologist had a big effect on her happiness, and stopped her from doing those things. Instead of doing his job, he treated her as a friend & not a client which was weird. If she's happier now, then there's nothing wrong.

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Ive been having a cramp like feeling for about a week now. My boobs hurt off and on, My lower back hurts all the time. and after i eat i get a sick feeling and im having lots of dieriah. Ive had a loss of appetite am i pregnant?

Take a pregnancy test.

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I have been in a long relationship (six years)... It is really up and down. He doesn't really like to be romantic w/me anymore. We both have resentment toward each other. I went out of town 2 weeks ago w/ my family and met somebody. He asked for my number and my Sister gave it to him. He has called me a few times and we email each other. I really like him, but I am an honest person and I know that it is not right to have both of them. He knows my situation and that I am not happy. Now, my current boyfriend is being all nice. He will do this for two months and then go back to being uncaring, unsentimental and accuse of me of ridiculous things. I am so lost. Is it worth it to try again and again or is it time to finally MOVE on?? Thanks!

If you really like this new guy, and your boyfriend of 6 yrs isn't treating you how he should, the choice is obvious: the new guy.

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It seems like all boys only like the girls that are extremely pretty. I just always feel so ugly and not good enough. Will they always be like this?

Nope. Boys mature later than girls, so they're gonna go for the girls you think are gorgeous. I'm sure you're really pretty. But guys are dumb & they miss out on some great girls. Don't down yourself though. You're probably a really pretty girl with a great personality. If those guys don't ever come around, that's their loss. But I'm sure they will, so don't worry.

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my friend stole my eyeeliner and my english book and i really need them back
and she has been a bitch to me lately and shedesnt hang out with me anymore
and like all i want is my shit back from her
and i asked her today
and she was like
ok
what can i do now

Go to her house & get your shit.

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someone help me who has a boy as their bestfriend!!!
okay so my bestfriend james as been realizing that hes accually cute and can get girls when he wants to.
hes been talking to a few girls here and there and has been blowign me off to drive out to see them 40 minutes away. we used to hang out EVERYDAY after school. he dont go to school but he would come pikk me up from school we`d go bakk to his house and hang otu with eveyrbody there u know i was like one of them like his sister. his brothers always told their little "girlfriends" that i was their sister- always wanted me to meet their girlfriend of the month and introduce me as their sister yeah.. well james has been gettign soo cokky lately... like hes too good to hang out with anyone anymore.his mom talks to me about him and shes gettign mad b/c hes never home anymore doesnt do anythgin aroudn the house- i tell him i miss him all the time and people tell him hes ignorant for ditching me alla time bcuz im NEVER out there anymore.and i used to stay the night like every weekend and go out to breakfast every sunday with the family.i miss the old times.
i know theres not much at all i can do to change all that but what can i do to try to get it bakk to normal?? i know its not gonna get bakkt o normal but. i dont know help???

He's probably tired of the same thing over & over. No matter how much fun you have, the repeats get old & boring. Talk to him about hanging out with you, or talk to one of his brothers. Ask his brothers to hang out with you. I know it'd be different, since it's not James, but he's changing & going through something. Give him time. If he doesn't change, just give him his space & don't worry about things. He'll come to find he's been missing out on a good friendship, & he'll come around eventually.

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I have com here in desperation of help. My husband is 21 and has highbloodpressure and according to the doctor a little overweight. I have tried to talk to him about it and try to be an accountablility partner. I mentioned sports,the gym,portion control, certain diets(eating healthier),and yes even dance. I want to encourage him to be healthy and I believe I do. I told him I would even do the majority of things with him.(My own health problems limit me on dieting and such)He says that he wants to change but never does anything about it. I think he is the most beautiful personand I dont want to see him struggle with health problems so young.If you have any advice on how I can help him please let me know. I would love it if you prayed for us if you dont have any advice to give. Thank you.

If you've talked to him about it, but he hasn't taken any action, maybe he's hesitant. Or just shy. Or maybe he just doesn't want to, but says that he does because he thinks it's what you wanna hear. I'd talk to him about it some more, and see what happens. If he doesn't do anything, then he doesn't want to lose weight. But, you'll be in my thoughts.

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I`ll start off by saying im sixteen years old and I am completely head over heals for a boy. My good friend had a girlfriend for a couple weeks and never told me and he found out i was really upset about it and he finally came clean. He told me it was too wierd telling me about it because he has always had a thing for me, and for some reason i couldnt spit out i`ve always had a thing for you too, and i regret it. We hung out the other day and i just wanted time to go so slow, i always want to be with him. He is still going out with this girl and i am heartbroken. I dont want pity from anyone, i just want advice to help me move along with this, because i have never been so in love in my life, i have completely fallen.

If you feel the same way about him, tell him. But don't do anything that could cause him and his girlfriend to break up. Let nature take it's course, and let them break up on their own.

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all my life i've been told i'm a wonderful person--by friends and family. i'll be 17 in 2 months and i've never had a boyfriend. i have two close guy friends, one of whom i actually like as more than a friend, but that's getting away from the point because he doesn't feel the same way. lately i'm finding that everybody has somebody. all my friends have potential guys they are going to get together with and i don't even have potential chances. guys just don't seem to notice me. i'll bring it up with my friends and they'll say "your time will come" and "the guys in our school are blind" and all this other stuff that made me feel better at first, but now that i've heard it a thousand times it's the last thing i want to hear. i don't want to be reassured that i'm a great person, i just want to feel loved. i know it's superficial to want a boyfriend really bad, but i'm tired of waiting and tired of seeing everyone else happy except me. help.

Find someone that you really like. If you're not already friends with him, start being his friend. If it gets to the point where you think that he might like you..ask him to a movie. If things go well, ask to be his girlfriend.

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i'm going to be 17 in a little over a month. i weigh about 170lbs and i'm around 5'3 or 5'4. i know i'm overweight, but i was curious--what do you think is a healthy weight for someone as short as i am? do you have any tips on how i can lose that weight?

You should be around 125-145 lbs.

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Last week, my mom and I were talking about periods and how mine lasts 7 days and i hate that..blahblahblah...she told me that birth control would make it shorter. and I finally got the courage to say "well I wouldn't mind being put on birth control. I mean..I am getting older."
She said no, because of side effects. I've done my research, there are no major side effects.
I've been with my boyfriend for over a year, and we want to have to sex eventually, but he told me he would prefer I was on the pill.

I don't know what to do about my mom. She gets weirded out everytime I say something about birth control. What should I do?

by the way, I'm 16. don't say i'm "too young to have sex" or anything like that; that's not what I'm asking about.

There are major side effects. Heart attack, stroke & blood clots. They seem like nothing, but things as simple as those can end your life.

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Ok so when i think of the perfect guy my friend nate is the perfect one. And i've liked "nate" for almost 2 years.. and he knows i like him but nate is 2 years older than me and im in college.. and he acts like he likes me.. but idk. And then there's will.. he's this guy that's 1 year older than me and he goes to my church like nate does. I'm like 90% sure will likes me.. but i don't know.. i feel like i like him just cause im tired of waiting for nate.. and then there's dean.. i know 100% that dean likes me.. but he's not my type.. and i know this makes me sound like a ho w/ so many guys but they're all friends.. last one i swear.. "tom" he's like my best friend but i think im attracted to him sort of but he's just the wrong guy for me.. now i think i'm just trying to get over "nate" and that's why i can't get my mind over the possibility w/ these other guys.. i mean nate is.. if ever i was to love someone.. it would be him.. but.. idk.. what do i do. sorry for the novel. :(

Sit down & write the pros&cons of each guy. Whoever has more cons than the others, is not the one you pick, and the one with the most pros is the one you pick. You need to re-evaluate yourself & these guys.

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Okay so Im 15/f and I Am scared to do things withmy boyfriend. When I was younger my grandfather molestested me. I was six years old though. How would that effect me today? I mean he didn't stick his fingers or penis in me just just touched me and rubed. But could that even effect me? I mean I wanna dos stuff soooo BAd but I cannot. Will, I be a virgin forever? Alos, my boyfriend is shy and I am also. How can I give him a sign to make a move or make a move myself.

You need counseling. Your grandfather molested you, and it's going to control you forever if you let it. Get some counseling, and talk to your boyfriend about going further.

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Hi Tina,
i need some advice on how to bond with my boyfriend's friends. he is a little older than me and he has a group of close friends from graduate school that he still hangs out with all the time. i have been hanging out with them a lot more lately due to that too. last time i hung out with them, while my boyfriend went off to talk to one friend or getting drinks, leaving me with the rest of the group, i feel like i had such a hard time keeping a conversation going even after seeing them for quite a few times now, i think its because 1, they are more like his age, and we do not have that many common topics; 2, i still feel like an outsider, and hard to jump in or pick up something to talk about as easily as they can. 3, i feel like i need to impress them, or i dont want to be judged by the way i talk or things i say, so i am careful about what to talk about. He later told me that he noticed my uncomfortness and is concerned. and he also told me that the way i talk wasn't the best way to keep a conversation going (i had a hard time elaborate more after greeting with them). i know it is really important for him that i can bond with them well, and i really want to too. i am worried that it will become something that set us apart. =( please advice!

You could always talk about music. See what music types they like. Then if you have music in common, you could talk about that. Or the latest movies. Talk about your favorite movie, or talk about current events. Anything. Photography, or maybe sports. =) Anything to crack the ice. Let me know how it goes.

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Has anyone been to a Christina Aguilera concert before? Especially one on her current tour?
She's coming to my city and bringing the Pussycat Dolls. I'm booking a limo and the show starts at 7:30 but I don't know what time I should get the limo driver to pick us up. He says he needs at least a ballpark. Thank you.

If the show starts at 7:30, have him pick you up around 5:30ish. That way you can drive around for a little, and then you have time to get there & get in. I've never been to one of her shows, but I heard she's pretty good live.

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what are periods and why do girls have them?

http://www.womenshealth.gov/faq/menstru.htm

That should answer your question.

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