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bond with his friends
Hi Tina,
i need some advice on how to bond with my boyfriend's friends. he is a little older than me and he has a group of close friends from graduate school that he still hangs out with all the time. i have been hanging out with them a lot more lately due to that too. last time i hung out with them, while my boyfriend went off to talk to one friend or getting drinks, leaving me with the rest of the group, i feel like i had such a hard time keeping a conversation going even after seeing them for quite a few times now, i think its because 1, they are more like his age, and we do not have that many common topics; 2, i still feel like an outsider, and hard to jump in or pick up something to talk about as easily as they can. 3, i feel like i need to impress them, or i dont want to be judged by the way i talk or things i say, so i am careful about what to talk about. He later told me that he noticed my uncomfortness and is concerned. and he also told me that the way i talk wasn't the best way to keep a conversation going (i had a hard time elaborate more after greeting with them). i know it is really important for him that i can bond with them well, and i really want to too. i am worried that it will become something that set us apart. =( please advice!
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You could always talk about music. See what music types they like. Then if you have music in common, you could talk about that. Or the latest movies. Talk about your favorite movie, or talk about current events. Anything. Photography, or maybe sports. =) Anything to crack the ice. Let me know how it goes.
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