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my whole family doesn't have any weight problems at all really. i want to lose weight so badly because i've just started eating so unhealthy and i feel like i shouldn't change what i eat but instead try to exercise more. what can i do to get rid of my tummy? i weigh 140 and i'm 5'7/f and i feel like i'm obese. :( i keep gaining weight and i feel like i really need to buckle down and lose it. thank you! (link)
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Just cut down on the snacks, unless they are apples or something. Try to eat fruits and such. Eat healthy meals. You can have a couple snacks but not to many. So best thing to do is eat more healthy. If you don't want to go out and excercise then you can try out for some sport or activity.
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Here's the story: I met this amazing guy a couple months ago. We hung out one day and started going out. We tried a relationship for a while but things didn't work out and he said he wanted to be just friends. We turned to be friends with benefits but only made out and thats all i allowed. well i ended up falling in love with him. i wanted so much to be with him. We hung out all the time and became good friends. Well he ended up telling me one day he needed to talk .. i was hoping he would want to get back together but he didnt he wanted to tell me that he likes another girl but wanted to make sure i was ok with it since he broke up with me weeks prior and didnt want me to be upset about it. Ever since that day things weren't the same. We stopped hanging out alot and talking. After he stayed home from school for a week and came back, he completely changed. We havent hung out since then and we only talk every now and then. He is "together" with that girl he liked. I really miss him and its been months. I thought i was over him but we've been talking, flirting, and always looking at eachother lately. I think he misses me too but he's afraid to tell me. How can I get myself to talk to him again? I never see him alone that much to be able to talk to him and see if he wants to talk or hang out. I don't think things between him and his girl are good right now. & Im not one of those girls that like to get in between things like that. Tips on how to get a converstation on how to hang out with him and talk, it would be great. THANKS. (link)
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Yeah you don't what to mess things up with him and that girl. He might like her. But you should tell him just find time too,he might like you. But you said he changed right? So you might just miss the memories not him. This is what I say to other people, talk to other guys and maybe you'll start falling for one of them. Just try something and maybe something good may happen. It will be real hard to get over him but you've got to try something right? I hope everything goes well!
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i want a boyfriend but i dont its like i have a commitment problem everytime somebody gets to close i push them away in a way like when i feel myself acuatally starting to really like somebody i convince myself that i really dont and that well never work out you know and i sometimes when i see everybody with a boyfriend i get sad because i want what they have but i can never bring myself to say yes but when it comes to somebody i really really like its harder to convince myself that theres nothing there and when i just try to go for it it turns out that all that flirting was just mind games im also mad greedy with everybody around me ahhhhhhhhhhhhhh its driving me insane how do i expect to get what i want and crave for when in truth i dont know what its is im looking for and craving for its like im always fighting this inner battle help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You should just stay away from being with someone and think about the whole thing. When you are ready to have a relationship then try it out. Because the person that you were with it hurts them too,you know? I agree with runawayxlove. You want what you can't have. You could like someone but just think of it as a crush. Then just stick with that until you really think you are ready to go for a commitment. I hope everything goes well for you!
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sorry its so long and its in the wrong category. anyways i'm 14/f. :
i would really like advice on how to get my life back in order. well my parents recently got divorced i have a BF in another state and my parents recently found out we kissed on vacation and i got in trouble and he didnt, i have a couple really good friends but my 2 best friends dont get along, i've caught my mom in lies and i cant trust her anymore,my mom is starting to talk to strangers on the internet and meeting them. and now she kindof has a bf who says he wants to share me w/ my mom., my dads starting to make me go to church, and my grades are at their worst. i'm under so much stress and worst of all i have dance classes, karate classes, musical auditions comming up, talent show audtions coming up, and i've been trying so hard to loose weight for our school winterfest and if i dont get good grades my bf cant come from his state to mine and be my date for winterfest. i just need some organization, and order, and just plain advice on how to lower my stress level. and keep focused on my priotys.i dont want to talk to my parents about it cause i've tried and they just dont get it. any advice is awsome. thank you sooo much in advance. (link)
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Let it out. Tell someone about it, it dosn't matter who. It must be hard to have your parents divorce right? Lots of people go through it so its just something that your parents have to go through and you nobody can change it. And your boyfriend lives in another state so you can't see him often so the winterfest might be something good. You should talk to your teacher about the grades issue and see if he/she can help you boost your grades up. The best friends thing I've been through. Just talk to them about it and if they were your best friends they'd understand how it feels. I really don't know what to say about your mom on the internet meeting people. Just leave all that to her its what she has to go through. But if he really isn't nice or something like that talk to your mom. And all those classes you have coming up just try your best at them and you'll do fine.
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16/f
I like two guys. They both know I like them. They've both said they like me.
They are good friends.
They live a few hours away from me, and I am going to meet up with them soon.
How do I play this one?! I don't want to cause any rivalry between them, and I don't want to hurt either of their feelings.
But at the same time, if it looks like something could work out with one of them, I don't want to miss the chance, because its very rare that I'd get to see them! Any ideas? (link)
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2 guys? Yeah you really don't want them to cause anything between them since they are friends. You should just pick one guy that you really like. They both like you right? So its best if you choose one instead of having them fight over you when one of them won't have a chance. Only one of them get you so it wouldn't be fare. Just choose one and go for him.
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Ugh okay well see I was friends with this girl last year and like we kind of drifted apart this year because we don't have any classes together (I'm a freshman btw.) and so I was like hey Jennifer, want to hang out on friday because I haven't seen you in awhile! And she was like sure! I was thinking you me jessica ashley and some sophmore boys could go to glory days. and I'm like ..wtf? does she think she's cool now because she hangs out with sophomress?
anyways.. so I was like uhh okay well who are the other people and she was like well fredrick, lindseys boyfriend and I was like uhm okay well I don't think fredrick or lindsey like me very much (becaues i did hang out with fredrick one time and like we don't talk anymore at all so I thought he just like doesn't like me) and so she was like no he doesn't remember you trust me but it's okay because he forgets names a lot don't worry about it. and like WTF that makes me feel like shit!! wouldn't taht make you feel like shit if someone doesn't remember you? I really want to hang out with jennifer but I don't want to be with fredrick or lindsey or anyone else.
Like I'm not really a let's go out and party with older guys kind of person.. I'm really more like a let's get together and have a sleepover and spend the whole night watching movies and gossiping and crap. But a lot of my friends have turned into those party people and I have now like maybe a few friends who I have sleepovers with all the time because there not like those party people. and I really don't know what to do.
anyways, I was thinking of canceling my plans with jennifer but I mean I don't want her to think that I canceled just because i don't think that fredrick likes me. I mean I really want to hang out with her, but I don't want to go like woohoo party yeah! and that's starting to be the problem with all of my friends.. and if I talk to her and be like hey I really don't want to hang out with them...she's either to go A) Think I'm a loser and get mad at me or B) be like okay that's fine but then tell everyone else why she's not coming and they are going to think I'm a wussy loser.
I really don't know what I'm asking her but PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!
thank you for reading htis (link)
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You should tell her about it. She might be hurt but its best to tell her. If she gets mad at your or calls you a loser then why do you want to hang out with her? If she wanted to hang out with you she would understand your not one of the party type people. Just tell her you would like to hang out with her but your not the type that likes to party and stuff. If she tells everyone else about it and they think that stuff then just forget about them and just stick with your friends that you are comfortable with.
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15/f. let's start this off with a have a lot of friends and i'm positive they care about me. i have this obsession about always having to look the best, be the best and do everything the best. nobody can really notice it though because i keep it to myself. i KNOW im definetly not the best but i have this obsession of trying. like if i see someone wearing something that i really like the next day i just have to get it, it's not the money thats a problem its just what could make me be happy with what i have now? thanks lots~ (link)
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Yeah lots of people have that problem, including me. It makes you happy right? But it really dosn't. Like when you see someone wearing a cute outfit think to yourself it is cute but it won't make you happy. And you wanted something that can make you feel happy with what you have now? Well you can go on google and check out some pictures of people with no homes,clothes ect.
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okay well . i know that im pretty, alot of people tell me that i am pretty. but i just cant like myself. i always negative about myself. i feel like im not good enough for anyone. i dont know what to do. im alwatys depressed. i mean, i have alot of friends and all, but i dont know. life just isnt going great now. what should i do. (link)
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Lots of people feel that way too. Its just life. Lots of people would probably die to be like you! If you have alot of friends who really are your friends then you know people do like you. You just need to think to yourself that you are good enough for other people. Think about the good stuff about you.
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ugh I am really frusterated, worried right now because after school yoday my boyfriend got a phone call from his mom she was pissed because she found out from someone that like 1 month and a half ago he came over the apt i was babysitting at (with my mom,her friend(owner of apt) permission. She was screaming, and she loves me and everything and all that stuff. And I do not know what she is gonna punish him with and say to him tonight but I just know she is gonna blow it way out of propotion. By the way the following information helps this: we are both 17, our moms are best friends, and weve been dating a 1 and a half. what the hell...i am worried about what she is gonna do..and she is SO over reacting. (link)
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If your mom and his mom are best friends I think you should talk to your mom about it and she might be able to talk to her. That will be the best thing to do.
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Well. . dont take this as self hatrid, because I dont hate myself.
But I really think I'm stupid, because..I just do horrible on everything, even when I try, even when I study. Its depressing. I dont get math, or science,or language (spanish) I'm not good with things like that.
Any good study ideas?
How to learn those subjects?
:( i feel so crummy.
Because I found out I failed my spanish exam.
I didnt fail the class, because this was first semester. But what do I do?
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Yes like the others your shouldn't push yourself down. Have confidence in yourself. Yeah you can ask for help from parents and also ask your teachers. And take notes and try to remember what she was saying and what she wrote. And hey nobody's perfect. Good Luck!
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my best friend's grandmother is dying...what do i do...i dont want to see her sad :( (link)
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Well you can't do anything about that. All you can do is be there for your friend and have stuff to do with her to keep her mind off her grandma. When people that you love die its gonna be really hard to get over it. She needs a friend who can help her get through it. Make plans like go see a movie and you fun stuff that she would like to do.
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14(freshman)/f
i really like this guy, and his name is jack. like really i've never liked someone so much, and i have had alot of serious relationships before. anyway. he is a junior (16). and he likes me back. my parents are kind of being stupid about the whole situation because he is so much older. liek they dont let me hang out with him or anything, and they are like really over-protective when it comes to him. i dont really know how to deal with it, they just seem not acceptable to the whole thing. i mean, i do good in school and so does he. and like i think they are judging him just cuz hes older. they think all he wants to do is get in my pants, and like.. he says he actually cares about me a lot and wouldnt push me to do anything. which is good cuz i think im to young to do anythign serious. any ideas? please help! (link)
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The best thing is for your parents to approve of him. They are above you and there is nothing you can do about that till your moved out of there. You can have your parents meet him and talk and stuff. It might be sorta embaressing but it might work out for the best. So I hope everything goes well!
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Basic. 16/f
There's this guy named Bill that works at the same place as I do. We became good friends so now we talk non stop at work, thankfully we both work for our parents so we can't get fired.Of course, I had a crush on him so I told him I liked him a while ago so he knows. Well more like my friend told him I liked him and I know I shouldn't have because he is really shy in that area. I mean we can talk non stop on the phone or in person but he's just like me. He gets shy in a way when in comes to something like that. So yes I thought wow Im screwed, another guy is scared off.
Because his answer was...
"I dont know, you are really fun person to talk to and ... besides i wouldnt tell your friends that I liked you if i liked you"
and more confusing "Its not like i dont NOT like you"
yes the stupid double negative... (or so he calls it that...)So I was confused for a while so I just let it go or at least try to, but I couldn't because I already liked him so much.For who he is and not for how he looks or what he has. I used to be a shallow girl that liked a guy for his looks and kinda never had relationship last longer than 2 weeks because i would either get tired of the guy's look or whatever stupid reasons.But this time was different. I actually liked him for who he is and how he is so nice, sweet, caring, understanding, and not to mention little cute. I know he's not a hottie and people kept asking me why I like him so much but that's exactly what I tell them. I like him for who he is and not what he looks like. Besides I think he's kinda cute. so yeah.But we kept talking on the phone (we live pretty far from each other... about 2 hours i believe so we dont go to same school or anything and only time I see him is on weekends when we work)Then last saturday he asked me if i was doing anything on monday (we had no school because of MLK day) so i said no and he asked me to go to the movies and I told him my mom wouldnt drive me all the way to where he lived and he said he would come pick me up and all that whatnot.So we decided to meet about half way from my house and half way from his house.
and I was more surprised that my mom let me go because she has this stupid rule on how i am not suppose to date or get bf until i graduate high school. But I went and I had the GREATEST time. This is kind of getting long so i will shorten it up now. So basically, things were great but my mom didn't like him because he didnt get out and greet her or said bye to her (which he did but guess she didnt hear and I told him to leave without saying bye because we didnt have time to walk all the way to where my mom was parked because his mom told him to leave like 10 minutes ago and we lost track of the time)So now my mom doesn't want me to go out with him again and I couldn't tell him that. Well I sort of did so he is now really sad and he kept saying like how he's gonna bring flowers to my mom next time we go to the movies (except he doesnt know I cant go out anymore)and he thought of whole bunch of ideas because he said he wanted my mom to like him.But the thing is, I still don't know if he likes me likes me.
I mean one time I told him
"Oh my mom wanted me to tell you that I cant have a boyfriend until I graduate high school but I told my mom that it was okay because You dont really know if you liked me so..."
and hoping he would say something like "well I do like you" but no that wasnt the reply... in fact I dont know what he said because it was something like um okay or something like that.So now im lost and confused and dont have anywhere to turn because all my friends are idiots kept telling me to get a life so what should I do?
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I think you should tell him that you can't go out anymore. It will be hard but thats the only thing you can do. You'll be real nervous because he might ask you to go with him again. So you should tell him. You can talk to your mom too and about the lost track of time thing and she might let you go. But you should talk to her nicely and not start and arguement.
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I've started at least 3 novels and I always lose inspiration after a little bit. I have some great ideas and I'd like to complete them, for once. What can I do? (link)
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I've had that problem. Well what I did was find an ending that you think would be interesting. And work your way there so you know that you want to make it there. It usually works.
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when you no your in love with someone but you know behind you back he is flriting with other girls but when yyou ask he if he's doing it he say he loves me (link)
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Anybody can say they love you without meaning that they do. Talk to him about it and if you still don't trust him I say its time to move on. This might also help, Get a friend to watch him and see if he does and if he does then just forget about him. It might be hard if you really like him but if he is doing that then just move on.
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Ok, so me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years...we're 16. We used to be so great and happy, until this past year. He seems to be changing faster than I am. I haven't noticed until him and some of my friends pointed out that I'm way too clingy, I call him too much and want to hang out too much with him. I can't control it, I've tried to but it ends up being the same. He's frustraited with me lately and it's hard to leave him alone. I want it to work I'm sick of this. (link)
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I agree with twistedlover. Just find something to do and don't call him everyday. Tell him your sorry about that and just try to give him some space. Everybody just needs some time alone.
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hi well im 14, and my mum and sister are always argueing. a lot! hitting screaming etc. now its got to a point where im having trouble sleeping incase they fight and something happens. yesterday night, i was just about to nod off, and i hear screaming noises in my head-noises like when they fight. when i heard them, i sat up, switched the fan off(it was a hot night) and sat still listening. it lasted about 10seconds, and it was just in my head. am i going crazy? whats wrong with me? thanks. (link)
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You aren't going crazy if you hear their voices in your head screaming its just that you heard it alot. You should talk to your mom and tell her that you don't like it when they fight. And talk to your sister about it too. Maybe they'll stop for the sake of you. I hope everything goes well.
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13/f
HELP !!! im realy upset nad crying about htis right now. i have one b rother and 2 parents. now, my dad use tobe in the army andi guess u could say " rough and tough" he treats me llike a little princess..but wiht my brother(15) its definitly different. to start off; they havent gotten along well since my bro was 10.. and my brother tells my dad to shutup and my did gets angry and is like " im not going to take this bull**** from you anymore, who even says im suppose to love you?" and my brother doenst ac tliek he cares but hten he goes to his rom and cries nad no one knows this escept for me and my mom. and i aske dmy dad " dad, do u even like paul*" nad hes like " why should i, he doesnt like me so i dont lke him?" WHAT DO I DO ???? i can not stand seeing my family fight i cry at night. and if i could i would trade my life with my brothers just so he would be happy.. andi m also afriad he's going to try and commit suicide. i dont know what to do.
PS..my Dads Dad use to be an alcoholic* and abuse my father... (link)
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I think you should talk to your dad about it and tell him how you think your brother is feeling. And then talk to your brother about it too. And try to work things out. Try to also get your mom to help too. Tell him that you don't like it when they fight too. And try to talk to your brother and have him try to be nicer to him. I hope everything goes well.
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Okay, so here goes. I'm in 9th grade/f. Tommy is in 10th grade. Alex is in 10th grade and Harry is in 11th grade. I like Harry but no one at my school knows. Tommy and Alex are both in band and are really good friends. Tommy and Alex are obviously friends because they're both in 10th grade. Anywhos, I was talking to Tommy yesterday and I made a stupid mistake of saying "I don't know how to tell him that I like him." and he was like "who? is it charles?" and I said no. And then he was like "OHHH!! I KNOW ITS ALEX!!!" and now he's caught up in the idea that I like Alex even though I denied like a million times and he's pretty persistent when trying to find out who peoplelike. So now I don't know how to tell him that Alex isn't who I like without actually telling him that I was talking about Harry and not Alex. (link)
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If you don't want him thinking that you like Alex then tell him that you don't. And I think you should tell him or else he might tell everyone that you like him even though you don't. So ask him not to tell anyone and tell him who it is.
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Okay firstly, sorry about category.
So.. i don't know if anything can be done about this or not but..
My cheeks go BRIGHT red in the cold.. and people make fun of me, i know people say red cheeks are healthy but i hate them!
I usually have a scarf with me and have that around my face to try and stop them going red but it doesn't seem to help. When they go red i look really awful, like a tomatoe and i get really embarassed to show my face.
Can anything be done to prevent this in any way?
PLEASE IM DESPERATE! xx (link)
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There isn't really anyway to stop them turning red. Its just natural. Lots of peoples noses turn red too so cheeks are the same. You can try makeup and see if that works. But thats basically all you can do.
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