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what should I do?
Basic. 16/f
There's this guy named Bill that works at the same place as I do. We became good friends so now we talk non stop at work, thankfully we both work for our parents so we can't get fired.Of course, I had a crush on him so I told him I liked him a while ago so he knows. Well more like my friend told him I liked him and I know I shouldn't have because he is really shy in that area. I mean we can talk non stop on the phone or in person but he's just like me. He gets shy in a way when in comes to something like that. So yes I thought wow Im screwed, another guy is scared off.
Because his answer was...
"I dont know, you are really fun person to talk to and ... besides i wouldnt tell your friends that I liked you if i liked you"
and more confusing "Its not like i dont NOT like you"
yes the stupid double negative... (or so he calls it that...)So I was confused for a while so I just let it go or at least try to, but I couldn't because I already liked him so much.For who he is and not for how he looks or what he has. I used to be a shallow girl that liked a guy for his looks and kinda never had relationship last longer than 2 weeks because i would either get tired of the guy's look or whatever stupid reasons.But this time was different. I actually liked him for who he is and how he is so nice, sweet, caring, understanding, and not to mention little cute. I know he's not a hottie and people kept asking me why I like him so much but that's exactly what I tell them. I like him for who he is and not what he looks like. Besides I think he's kinda cute. so yeah.But we kept talking on the phone (we live pretty far from each other... about 2 hours i believe so we dont go to same school or anything and only time I see him is on weekends when we work)Then last saturday he asked me if i was doing anything on monday (we had no school because of MLK day) so i said no and he asked me to go to the movies and I told him my mom wouldnt drive me all the way to where he lived and he said he would come pick me up and all that whatnot.So we decided to meet about half way from my house and half way from his house.
and I was more surprised that my mom let me go because she has this stupid rule on how i am not suppose to date or get bf until i graduate high school. But I went and I had the GREATEST time. This is kind of getting long so i will shorten it up now. So basically, things were great but my mom didn't like him because he didnt get out and greet her or said bye to her (which he did but guess she didnt hear and I told him to leave without saying bye because we didnt have time to walk all the way to where my mom was parked because his mom told him to leave like 10 minutes ago and we lost track of the time)So now my mom doesn't want me to go out with him again and I couldn't tell him that. Well I sort of did so he is now really sad and he kept saying like how he's gonna bring flowers to my mom next time we go to the movies (except he doesnt know I cant go out anymore)and he thought of whole bunch of ideas because he said he wanted my mom to like him.But the thing is, I still don't know if he likes me likes me.
I mean one time I told him
"Oh my mom wanted me to tell you that I cant have a boyfriend until I graduate high school but I told my mom that it was okay because You dont really know if you liked me so..."
and hoping he would say something like "well I do like you" but no that wasnt the reply... in fact I dont know what he said because it was something like um okay or something like that.So now im lost and confused and dont have anywhere to turn because all my friends are idiots kept telling me to get a life so what should I do?
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hey, i think hes just teasing you or hoping he can get stuff from you. if he just teasing you then he likes going out on dates with you and flirting but he just doesnt want a relationship with you because he likes dating around or is afraid of commitment. if he wants to get stuff from you, he will keep going on dates with you and then once you do stuff with him he will never call you again or as much as he used to. it seems to me like you`ve said mulitple hints to him that you want to know if he likes you and he hasnt replied back yes. find out what the deal is with him so you wont be lead on. if he says he really likes you and wants to keep seeing you just tell your mom hes shy. since shy people dont talking to people that they dont know too well, just say that was the reason he didnt say bye. if he says he doesnt want a relationship then you dont need him in your life. it was really rude for leading you on and you can do much better then that jerk.
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I think you should tell him that you can't go out anymore. It will be hard but thats the only thing you can do. You'll be real nervous because he might ask you to go with him again. So you should tell him. You can talk to your mom too and about the lost track of time thing and she might let you go. But you should talk to her nicely and not start and arguement.
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