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messed up life
sorry its so long and its in the wrong category. anyways i'm 14/f. :
i would really like advice on how to get my life back in order. well my parents recently got divorced i have a BF in another state and my parents recently found out we kissed on vacation and i got in trouble and he didnt, i have a couple really good friends but my 2 best friends dont get along, i've caught my mom in lies and i cant trust her anymore,my mom is starting to talk to strangers on the internet and meeting them. and now she kindof has a bf who says he wants to share me w/ my mom., my dads starting to make me go to church, and my grades are at their worst. i'm under so much stress and worst of all i have dance classes, karate classes, musical auditions comming up, talent show audtions coming up, and i've been trying so hard to loose weight for our school winterfest and if i dont get good grades my bf cant come from his state to mine and be my date for winterfest. i just need some organization, and order, and just plain advice on how to lower my stress level. and keep focused on my priotys.i dont want to talk to my parents about it cause i've tried and they just dont get it. any advice is awsome. thank you sooo much in advance.
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first of all calm down, slow down, and take a deep breathe. right now everyone around yo has problems and they love you just like you love them but they migh tnot be able to give you the attention you are craving deep down inside right now. So without hurting anyone else your main focus right now should be you. Focus on you and what is good for you. That may seem selfish but sometimes what is good for us can also be good for those around us as well. Forget about the kiss and getting in trouble for it it is insignificant. The relatinship isn't over all you have to do is handle your business in school and you've got him and your winter fest. Your extracurricular activities such as dance and karate aren't meant to stress you out they are meant for you to release your energy and that is what you should be doing enjoying them. If it is coming to the point where you feel like they are hurting you then talk to your mom about cutting out the ones that you can live wihtout not only will that help you in school but it will help her save cash considering a divorce and all. Next it seems like your mom is having a difficult time right now she is a grown woman and there isn't much you can do to change her so take some time to just sit down and talk to her don't judge her just have simple conversations about anything. And, when convinient jump in and ask the questions to make sure she is alright. You will be showing signs of maturity and all she is trying to do is make sure you can make safe sound decisions and these actions will be good for you and her because the happier she is the happier you'll be when she is around. But mainly if you do the right thing with your mother your main focus should be on your school work especially if you are going to college no you don't have to be a straight a student and you don't want to push yourself to the limit but you do want to graduate on time and be able to have some choices in which school you want to go to. think about that some your future and how much fun, freedom, and responsinility you will have in about 4 years. That is motivation for better grades and setting higher standards for yourself within school/work and relationships. Another way to lower your stress level is is you can you know better than me but if at all posiible talk to your firneds individually see if there is a way that they can possibly get along without bad mouthing either one of them and if possible ask if they could do it for you. If not than make sure you stay neutral and make sure they understand that you are neutral and you are going to stay neutral and you won't take sides in their bickering are particcipate in any conversation about one friend to the other. And, that is all you can do that is all yo are responsible for there issues are their problem not yours and don't let it become yours. but, try to talk and laugh with them as much as possible because they are one of the brightest things in your life right now it will make you feel good to give and recieve love from them cheerfullnesss wil always reduce stress try to have as much fun as possible you have a busy schedule doing things (you can work at school) but aside from that enjoy the things you do you know how many people wish they could get out of the house and have a life to live that is what you're doing living to the fullest but like i said wwhen it gets to the point where the unecessary stuff in life isn't fun any more let it go and take a rest that way you can be healthy and happy.
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Let it out. Tell someone about it, it dosn't matter who. It must be hard to have your parents divorce right? Lots of people go through it so its just something that your parents have to go through and you nobody can change it. And your boyfriend lives in another state so you can't see him often so the winterfest might be something good. You should talk to your teacher about the grades issue and see if he/she can help you boost your grades up. The best friends thing I've been through. Just talk to them about it and if they were your best friends they'd understand how it feels. I really don't know what to say about your mom on the internet meeting people. Just leave all that to her its what she has to go through. But if he really isn't nice or something like that talk to your mom. And all those classes you have coming up just try your best at them and you'll do fine.
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hey, well you need to talk to someone just to let it all out. whether its a relative, a counciler, or a therapist. just start taking charge in one of those options.
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