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ok so i have a lot of discharge, and i have not had my period yet.well the discharge is ruining all my underwear. i live with my dad cause my mom passed away.if u tell me to get pads or something like that, tell me how to deal with telling my dad or how to get them.
thx a ton!
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Your Dad is an adult and he was married to your Mum. He will definitely understand that you will need to buy some feminine items. If you are too embarrassed to buy them whilst he is around, ask a female relative to go with you or perhaps a friend/friends Mum.
You can buy sanitary wear at most supermarkets and definitely at a chemists. The assistants will have sold many thousands of these and it is quite a normal thing for them to do.
If you get an allowance, perhaps your Dad could allow you to have a little extra when you have your periods just to buy the things you need.
Good luck and don't feel embarrassed by what is a normal, natural occurrence.
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If you try one cigarrete do you automatically get addicted to smoking? (link)
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No, smoking one cigarette does not turn you into an addict. However, should you continue to carry on smoking just the "one", then yes it will happen.
Whatever anyone else says to you, you must make the decision whether to smoke or not. We all know the gruesome facts about smoking, so not starting in the first place is the wisest course of action. Why waste your health and your money on something that may one day kill you!
Don't give into peer pressure just to make yourself look cool. Good luck.
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im going to be sixteen in 3 weeks.
ive been wit h my boyfriend(17) a long time. and well you know were teens we party and drink. one night it got outta hand and we had sexual intercourse, the condom broke.
here are the signs that im pregnant::
firm breast.
moody.
bloated.
hungry.
frequent urination.
cramps.
spotting.
im really scared because i havent gotten my period yet either.
what should i do.
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Okay, well the first thing is to establish that you are definitely pregnant. You can do this by buying a pregnancy testing kit or by going to the doctors. (Don't worry about confidentiality because the Dr cannot say anything to your parents).
Once you have established you are pregnant, you need to decide whether you are to keep the baby or whether you need to take the morning after pill to abort the fetus. Your doctor will be able to prescribe it or you may be able to buy it at the chemists.
If you decide to keep the baby you then need to tell your parents so that you have their support.
I know it will not be easy but you cannot hide something like this.
If you are not pregnant then you seriously need to sort out a double form of contraception. You need to continue using a condom but you also need to use the pill or something similar. Again, the doctor will be able to help you out with that.
I wish you all the very best. Take care.
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this girl is mean to me what should i do? i've tried to stand up to her and that didn't work and i've tried to ignore her but that didn't work either so what should i do? (link)
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Ignore the advice just given, violence is not the answer. Try asking her what her problem is and if there is any chance of sorting out your differences.
If she refuses to stop being mean then you will have to get a teacher or parent involved. People like that tend to be very insecure in themselves and they make themselves feel bigger and better than you by bringing you down. If you refuse to get upset by her she may eventually give up. If you have other friends you can turn to then ask them to support you if she gets nasty.
Bullies like to feel superior but tell yourself you are better than that. I wish you all the very best.
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I met this guy at a party back in May. I knew him before but didn't really like him, but this party made me think he was a decent enough person. I wasn't attracted to him in a romantic sense though. Anyway, he asked me for my number and I gave it to him. He was okay at first, but then I started hating him. He is really immature. I tell him that I don't like him at all and to leave me alone, but he won't stop. He calls me about 394834 times a day and at odd times since he knows I'm awake a lot. He even calls the house phone where my parents are sleeping at 4am. One time I went to the store and there were twenty seven new calls on the phone. Going to the police isn't an option because I'm not exactly their favorite person ever. I've told him many times but he just won't listen. The only reason he talks to me is because he thinks my interests will fit in with his image. It's pathetic. He pretends to like every movie and band I like, even if he knows nothing about them. How do I get him to leave me alone? (link)
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He is in effect stalking you so the police should take note. Talk to your parents and explain what is going on and perhaps your Dad could have a word with him and frighten him off a little. I suggest that you ignore him in public and record each time he calls you. Once you have logged it all for a week or two, go back to the police and make a formal complaint. They might not be your favourite people but it is their job to uphold the law and protect the public.
Don't enter into any conversations with him, effectively give him the cold shoulder. He should get the message that he must give up.
Failing that, ask your parents to have him formally served with a letter from a solicitor.
I hope that this helps you some. Good luck.
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Okay, this isn't the easiest thing for me to ask but it's pretty much anonamous, so here it goes. I'm completely unhappy with my privates. It's a point of severe lack of confidence for me and i have no clue what i can do about it. I am most hesitant about being intimate with anyone because of the way i look down there. It grosses *me* out. And it often hurts to masturbate because of the little, erm, flappers. I think they're called labia? They are all messy looking, and messy feeling as well. I don't feel like this is normal at such a young age.
Well I'm not sure what, if anything, i can do about this. Does fixing this problem absolutely require plastic surgery, or is there anything else i can do? Please help me! I am at a complete loss as for what i can do about this, and i think i mentioned already it takes *such* a toll on my confidence!
Sorry for the length of this, and I appreciate anyone who helps me out, greatly.
Also i apologize if this is the wrong category, but it seemed to fit better here than elsewhere. (link)
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Please don't worry about how you look down there. Most guys don't notice and probably like the way we look if they do.
We are all different and many, like me, find the private areas uncomfortable to look at. Surgery will not be the answer because you need to build up your confidence rather than go under the knife.
It is highly likely that out of your group of friends, one or two may feel the same as you. Obviously it's not a question that you can ask of them but do bear in mind we all have an area of our body that we don't like.
I know that I have not given you any quick-fix answers, but I hope that I have eased your mind some. All the best.
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13/f ok i think that my vagina is too small. i can fit one finger in with no pain and two in but it hurts will sex be unbearable for me. i wear tampons too so idk. (link)
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Your vagina is a wonderful piece of human engineering by our creator. It is designed to expand to allow a baby's head through so it can easily accommodate a penis.
Yes you will most likely be a little tight in the beginning and sex may be slightly uncomfortable, but that will pass and experience will allow you to really enjoy the thrill of intercourse.
I hope that my answer eases your mind a little. Take care.
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how do you chose between two guys. both like you. you like them both. one is a little more extreme then the other. a little more out there. how do you chose. i dont want to make the wrong decision. (link)
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You lucky thing having two guys who want you and you like both of them.
Seriously though, I suggest weighing up the pros and cons of being with each guy. For example - do you share the same taste in music or do you like the same kind of books/films? Can you imagine yourself in the arms of both guys? Do you want to kiss one more than the other?
Ultimately, you are the only one that can make that decision and if you decide wrong you will have to put it down to experience. Will you be able to stay friends with one guy whilst dating the other? Do they know each other?
Life is for living and you have to take chances so, although you may end up with the right guy, equally you may end up with the wrong guy.
Take your time in making a decision, don't be rushed. Good luck.
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im a 14/m and in march i went out with this girl and we didnt realy see each other that much because we both had alot going on and then we decided just to break up until summer but i dont know what a was thinking and was realy mean and said alot of stuff i didnt mean and this made her hate me and i realy regret it and that is the only thing i have ever regreted in my life but anyway lately i have seen her around and it has made me feel even worse and want to be with her even more but i just wanted some advice on how i can let her know how i feel and how sorry i am and that i still like her alot and would like another chance
p.s. i know its to probly to late to start over with her but i wanna givve it a chance (link)
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She may not forgive you for hurting her but it is worth giving it a try. Send her a card or a letter saying how sorry you are and ask if you could be friends. If you explain what was going on for you at the time she may be willing to let the past go.
It is quite possible that she will throw it back in your face and say some hurtful things back. You will have to take it and show her how much you have matured by not getting into a mud-slinging row.
If she says that she does not want to forgive you or get back with you, then accept it gracefully, learn from your mistake and see it as a part of growing up.
I wish you all the very best and hope you can get what you desire.
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i dont know what to do. here's the background info. I've known this amazing guy for a little over 2 years now. i feel in love with him, and he with me. But he kinda left me. Moved 1000+ miles across the usa. lately we havent been that into eachother. our conversations turned from firey to blah. so i didnt sleep last night. instead i wrote this.
I regret every single day I wake up and he’s not next to me.
It’s tearing me apart
I can’t handle it anymore.
He says we’re drifting apart. I couldn’t agree more.
He blames it on his parents. I blame it on me
I’m not with him. But I’m right here waiting for him just as I promised.
My love has never changed.
And it never will
Because he’s my everything and without him I have nothing.
I am nothing
Every second without him is another tear from my eyes.
He realizes he’s killing me. But I don’t think it’s him. It’s me.
I’m killing me.
I pull out his picture and can’t help but wonder what I had.
But it’s my fault we are drifting.
All mine. Cause I’m not there.
He’s constantly on my mind.
Laying here, sweating, with him on my mind,
It’s hard to get to sleep.
“Thoughts of us kept keeping me awake.”
As the clock ticks on, so does my restless mind.
The distance is killer. It’s like a double edged sword.
It cuts you one way, then as your beginning to heal, it turns around and cuts you deeper.
Separation anxiety and depression walk right next to me without ceasing.
And for this I’m hard to love
And I’m sorry for it. Sorry for being to hard to love.
But all I can do is sit here and apologize for what I should be. And what I’m not.
Turn out the lights, turn up the radio and try.
Try to fall asleep but nothing works.
Because he’s not beside me.
He’s the meaning in my life. He’s the inspiration.
No one needs him more than I need him.
Cause without him, I have nothing. I am nothing.
He’s gonna drive me to drinking.
No. better yet. This fuckin’ distance is gonna drive me to drinking.
Seinfeld® can’t even make me smile right now. (and that’s saying a lot)
At times I feel I will never smile again. For the rest of time, this dark cloud will be over me. Consuming me.
“This is my heart bleeding before you. This is me down on my knees.” This is me in tears with mascara and eyeliner streaked down my face. You’ve gotten me this far.
What more do you want?
You’re my addiction. I am so addicted to you.
And without you, I’m a wreck. A mess.
The empty picture frame sits on my mantel.
I wish that I could fill it with a picture of us.
“You taught me to run, you taught me to fly… you opened me eyes, you opened the door… your love is the music of my heart.”
He came along when I needed him the most.
He has loved me through the difficult times.
He has helped me get through the difficult times.
Just knowing that he loved me was enough to keep going.
I thank him for that. Because without him, I don’t think I would still be here today.
But he deserves more.
He deserves a girl he can hold
One that can kiss his lips
A girl tat he can spend time with.
And make memories with.
His teenage years are supposed to be the best.
But being with me, that’s not the case.
If I had to live my life without him in it, my days would all be empty.
Just talking to him used to brighten my day.
Now, it turns them all to black and white.
Without him, I wouldn’t be here today.
He tells me not to say it. But it’s so true.
I know I wouldn’t have a life without him.
And I love him for that. And about a million other things.
Nothing’s gonna change my love for him. I have always loved him. And always will.
He’s a piece of me.
No. he’s all of me.
If he ever completely leaves me I won’t be able to live.
Won’t be able to breathe.
My heart won’t beat. It’ll be in a million pieces on the floor.
I told myself that he was the one.
The one that could fix my broken heart. And tape it back together.
But if he gives up, so will I.
All I have is memories of him.
I told him that I cherished every moment we spent together.
That was no lie.
Walkin’ the halls of that hotel for a week, together. Walking down to the pool, together. 3 meals a day, for a week, together.
Those memories of him are the only thing that I have. “those endless summer nights”
Sunscreen and chlorine.
Miniskirts and tank tops.
The parting kiss behind the church.
That was the best week of my life. “And I couldn’t ask for more”
It seems that it’s been forever that he’s been gone.
It’s been a little over 200 days since I last saw his gorgeous face.
2 years since he left.
I miss him every second he’s gone.
But how the hell did we wind up like this?
Who’s to blame?
We are drifting apart uncontrollably.
But whose fault is it?
If I was there, this wouldn’t have happened.
“some day, somehow, I’m gonna make it alright…”
But right now, I can’t.
There is nothing I can do.
Not a single damn thing.
He’s there, I’m here. And there’s nothing I can do
Except tell him that I love him. But he knows that.
He knows that I love him.
As long as the sun shines I’ll love him.
“you don’t know what you’ve got till its gone.”
And I couldn’t agree more.
Saying goodbye to him was the hardest thing I’ve ever done.
I’m sick of crying.
Crying because I miss him so much.
The 1,000+ miles is killer.
Serial.
But I don’t want to let him go. Cause what if he’s the one?
I’ve tried to get over him before.
It didn’t work.
I CAN’T GET HIM OUTTA MY MIND!
As the saying goes, then maybe he’s supposed to be there.
Is he the one?
The one I can trust to pick my shattered heart off the ground, dust it off and put it back together?
I know he is.
I know he is the one.
I know he is different than all the others.
I’ve tried so hard to mend this relationship.
“I’ve tried so hard, and got so far. But in the end it doesn’t even matter.”
But no matter what I do, I can’t fix this relationship.
It’s all my fault, but I can’t fix it.
I miss how we used to be.
Miss the love that we had.
The fire in his eyes.
The passion in his voice.
I miss him.
But “I’ve gotta take a little time. A little time to think it over”.
Cause I don’t want to get hurt again.
There has been so much heartache in my life that I can’t take it again.
I want to be able to say that he’s the one.
But I’m not sure.
No. scratch that.
I know he’s the one.
The one I should spend my life with.
But we are separated.
Separated by land or lack of contact? Or both?
They say that love will find a way. That it can break through anything.
But I’m not so sure.
I’m off his top 8,
He’s off mine.
Drifting.
Farther and farther apart.
Figured writing all this shit down would help me.
Help me to get it all off my mind and fall asleep.
Give me peace of mind. At least for one second.
I have 2 hours until the alarm goes off.
2 hours until I have to get up.
“Just remember I love you and it’ll be all right”
I hope.
so what do you think i should do? (link)
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Wow, what a long piece of prose! I hope that you are feeling a whole lot better getting that off your chest.
Unfortunately, I feel that after 2 years this is a bit of a hopeless case for you. I don't mean to sound harsh but perhaps you should be getting over him now. I know that you talk together but that is not quite the same as talking face-to-face.
If you haven't seen him at all in the 2 years then perhaps it is time to start meeting other boys. It is never easy getting over that first true love, but you can eventually. It will always hurt a little that he went away and left you but you need someone in your life all the time and to kiss and cuddle them. They need to be there for you so that you can snuggle into their arms when you are feeling low. Conversations on email or the phone can't give you that sense of security.
Staying friends with him is great but you need to be with someone you can love. Keep writing poetry if you find it helps. I wish you all the best for the future.
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okay so heres the deal me & my hole family was saposed to go to NYC over the weekend. i got wicked excited and stuff but then my parents got in a huge fight and arent talking to eachother. i was really excited to go but now we arent going at all. my dad wont talk to anyone but my younger sister and he is being a huge jerk. but the thing is everytime we get ready and stuff to go on a vacation my mom&dad get in a fight and we dont go. i really dont know what to do because i really wanted to go. i know it isnt always about me sometimes but i was so excited and now we arent going at all. my dad is also being a HUGE jerk to my hole family and wont say sorry or anything to anyone. my mom said until he stops acting like a jerk we arent going.
well anyways my question is should i just forget about the hole NYC thing completely or hang on and hope they will make up. i will rate high if its good advice =] (link)
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I am sorry that you got caught up in the problems your parents are having. I can understand how upset you are at losing your vacation. Unfortunately, there is not a lot you can do about it because this is between your Mum and Dad and they obviously cannot see what it is doing to you and your sister.
What I can suggest is that you and your sister write a letter together to both your parents explaining how it is making you feel when this happens. It seems to me from what you said that it has happened several times before.
Is there anyone who could help you compose a letter explaining your feelings in words that your parents will take to their hearts?
I don't know if it will make a difference to them to see it from your point of view but I really hope it works.
Don't give up hope entirely about going away but try not to get over-excited until you have set out on the journey.
I hope that your parents take notice of your feelings and I wish you the best of luck.
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You can skip the background and just tell me if the poem is too personal to give to someone you've only met a few days ago if you want.
Ok so I met this guy a few days ago and he's perfect but I'm still not over this other guy. This guy is seriously awesome, he's -very- good looking, he's a cook and he spent all of today helping me fix my dining table because he fell on it the night before and broke, and he even paid for everything to fix it and extra stuff to make it look better because he said it was totally his fault. Anyway, he got out of a long relationship a few months ago and he today he had a first date with a girl he likes so there isn't much of a chance of us working out and I'm too hung up on another guy. Keeping this in mind, his birthday is coming up and he asked me to write him a poem because he likes personalized presents and he heard I wrote sometimes.
We met on Thursday and spent about four days in a row together. I'm writing him a poem and framing it. I wrote it directly from my heart and now I'm thinking it's a little too personal for someone I haven't known for more than a week. He said he wanted something really truthful because I warned him but I don't want to look foolish and I still want to be his friend. So is it too close?
What a guy.
You’re such a man
You're such a boy.
Your naive miniscule hopes and dreams
leave me in tears every time
you venture to say a word,
blinking with the beat of your heart.
Wrench my stomach into knots,
why don't you?
As I think of the clarity in your eyes
and I surmise
it's been a while
since you've been hurt.
The way you talk
and smile when you recall
how you were together
and refrain
from saying her name
and just refer to her as her.
Fictitious daydreams in my mind,
And I ask the world
to make you feel that way about me
not out of love or lust,
only for the sake of having you.
How strangely perfect
you are for me,
but cupid knows
that the subtle ache in my chest
and those cardiac arrests
aren’t for you
But wow, you’re such a guy. (link)
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Great words! I like the poem and hope the guy does too. Don't worry about what other people think because if that is what is in your heart and you find comfort in writing it down, do it. Keep a copy of it and add any more poems that come to mind. You never know one day you may have enough to publish it. Good luck.
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I've been hanging out with this boy for about a year and a half now. We onyl recently started hanging out alot. He comes to my window late at night & it seems like he tries to spend as much time with me as he can - even if it means him getting in trouble for being out of his house at like 3:00 in the morning. But when I'm with him, he says really hurtful things sometimes. Like, he'll tell me he loves me, but then a little while later he'll say something horrible about me or the way I do things or look. & he's completely obsessed with sex .. I don't know what to think. (link)
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He is probably after sex because if someone genuinely liked you he wouldn't hurt you by saying horrible things. I should imagine that once you have given into him and had sex he will be off looking for another conquest.
Tell him to leave you alone because you deserve better. Tell him he cannot treat you badly one minute and expect you to fall into his arms the next. If he continues to bother you then ask your parents to deal with it. They will be able to make him leave you alone. I hope it all works out for you.
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I was making out with my boyfriend last night and we decided to take the relationship to the level. Well as we were talking of our clothes I noticed that he doesnt have a penis O.O instead he has a vagina. Does that mean hes a girl? I'm really worried and I ran out of the bedroom and down the street half naked and now I dont know what to do please help! (link)
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Is he a hermaphrodite? He may well have been a she dressed as a guy because he has gender problems. Whatever is the cause, I suggest you steer clear unless you want to see him/her again.
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Okay, weird, I know. But some girl told me if you masterbated with a banana or a cucumber that when you have sex with a guy for the first time it won`t hurt cause your hymen will already be broken. Is this true? Muchhhh love (link)
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Why do you think it would hurt when you have sex for the first time? It is not a thick band of skin that has to be broken but a very thin barrier that may well have already broken.
It can be broken by, for example, vigorous exercise, riding a bike, riding a horse, or even using tampons.
I wouldn't suggest using a banana or a cucumber, but if you are feeling brave, buy a small vibrator. You can get them at Ann Summers shops, or off the internet. Make sure it is always scrupulously clean before use. All the best.
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ok, i was talking with my frineds the other day and they said i should dump my girlfrined, and i asked why and we went into a whole list of shit, ok here it is,
1. when we are together, we don't talk much, i mean we talk alot, but not as much as i and her normly do with other people.
2. when she kiss me, it's more of a peck, and we don't kiss that much anyway.
3. she does not return some of the same feeling as i do, we both love each other very much,
and other little things, like i'm veyr romantci and she's not, i don't know what i should do, my friends mabe right, but i don't want to break up, i'm always question the relatioship, like hsould i stay init, and the problem is that i really don't know if i love her, i do, but the feeling is wirde, it's more of'should i stay in this ti make her happy at the lose of my own happyness' and things like hat, i'm her first boyfriend and she's my 3, my last two hurt my really badly, and i'm not sure if i can every love again, any advice?, if you need more info. just tell me and i will update (link)
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Why would you want to listen to what your friends say if you don't want to break up with her?
Okay so she is not romantic enough, or she doesn't kiss well, is that a good enough reason? You are her first boyfriend and she needs to learn about relationships.
The only reason you should think of breaking up is if you don't see yourself having a future with her. If you are unhappy then by all means end it, but don't listen to anyone else except yourself.
I hope this helps but if you need further advice please ask. All the best.
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ok..my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and five months..almost 6...and we have only been able to talk on the phone because my parents are way too strict!! weve only gone to a few places and i still love him and he still loves me but i really want to go places with him...do you know how i can talk to my parents without making them mad?
cuticlesistas!! (link)
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I am only guessing but I think you are still quite young. It can be difficult for parents to stand back and allow their children, especially girls, to begin living their own lives and making their own decisions.
What I can suggest is that your boyfriend comes over to your house and formally asks your parents if he can take you to the pictures/out for coffee or even shopping in the Mall. If he can spend time at your house in the company of your parents they will get to know and trust him hopefully. If his parents are approachable maybe you could suggest that you all went out together somewhere. I know it is quite old-fashioned but very often it does work.
As a mother it is very difficult to allow someone else, i.e. a boyfriend, to take over the care of your precious child. We feel it is our job to protect them from all the bad things in life. No-one is good enough, but we have to be brave and let go sometime.
Just remember though, your life does not stand still and everything changes. One day soon you will be stood on your own two feet wishing that you could lean on your parents again. Whatever happens, good luck.
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i have a guy friend. weve been good friends since we were five years old.A couple of years back i had a HUGE crush on him and he didn't feel the same way about me, but when i FINALLY stopped liking him he started calling me every night and claims he still doesn't like me.Do you think he likes me more than a friend or do you think he just wants to talk as friends? and if you think he likes me WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
cuticle sistas! (link)
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It is quite possible that once you stopped liking him he felt the pressure had been taking off of him. Men, like children, always want what they can't have so once he found out you didn't want him any more, he may have decided that perhaps you would be worth chasing.
Keep on talking to him and perhaps suggest that you go out for coffee as friends. If he starts to mimic your body language, i.e. if you touch your ear he will do the same, then he is interested in you. It is not a hard and fast rule but it is something to look out for.
Whatever the outcome I wish you the best of luck.
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My birth details r
name: charu
tob: 13:42 pm(wednesday)afternoon
place: jhansi,india
dob: 1st january 1975
ALL MY QUESTIONS R RELATED TO PREGNANCY AND HEALTH
question: when will i get pregnant i mean the exact year and month of my conception?
how many kids will i have and their sexes?
will my diseases of endometriosis and cysts and fibroids be cured?
will i die before my husband?
regards
charu (link)
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Charu, I am sorry to say but no-one can predict the answers to your questions on this site. Much as I would love to foretell your future, unless you have a reading with a Tarot Reader or Fortune Teller, there is not a lot more I can say.
Whatever your future I wish you and your husband a long, fruitful and happy life.
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Ok so this is kinda embarrssing but I fart allot. Its really bad.
Does anyone know what could help me? (link)
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You may be swallowing a lot of air when you eat and drink. To ease the gas try eating and drinking slowly for a few days and see if that helps.
Mint tea and over-the-counter indigestion tablets may help also.
Good luck.
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