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Sex or Love? ;x
I've been hanging out with this boy for about a year and a half now. We onyl recently started hanging out alot. He comes to my window late at night & it seems like he tries to spend as much time with me as he can - even if it means him getting in trouble for being out of his house at like 3:00 in the morning. But when I'm with him, he says really hurtful things sometimes. Like, he'll tell me he loves me, but then a little while later he'll say something horrible about me or the way I do things or look. & he's completely obsessed with sex .. I don't know what to think.
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I agree with the other advicenators. He's probably just trying to get close with you until he gets what he wants. <3
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I had something somewhat, like that. This boy, he came to my back door, allll the time. It freaked me out, to the point.. I don't even sleep in my room. I know longer talk to him, well the reason he did come to my house after awhile, was for sex. & i'm only 14 i dont wanna do that, just yet. So, if i were you, id either say mean stuff to him back, tell him to stop, or say you're tired.Plus, if a police officer, catches him at that hour.. he could get in big trouble.
I hope that helped. kbye
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Although you might not be sure what to think, it sound like your gut is giving you some pretty good clues:
You aren't comfortable.
His behavior is kinda creeping you out.
You don't find his company completely pleasant.
Don't worry about what his problem is, it doesn't matter what's up in his mind. If you aren't happy, if this relationship isn't working for you then you can end it, or at least take a big step back. Tell him to stop when he says hurtful things, tell him you aren't interested in talking about sex, tell him you are tired and he needs to go home.
Nobody has to hang out with someone, but if you aren't feeling right about this then you have to stand up for yourself. Nothing will change until you do.
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He is probably after sex because if someone genuinely liked you he wouldn't hurt you by saying horrible things. I should imagine that once you have given into him and had sex he will be off looking for another conquest.
Tell him to leave you alone because you deserve better. Tell him he cannot treat you badly one minute and expect you to fall into his arms the next. If he continues to bother you then ask your parents to deal with it. They will be able to make him leave you alone. I hope it all works out for you.
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