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ok..my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year and five months..almost 6...and we have only been able to talk on the phone because my parents are way too strict!! weve only gone to a few places and i still love him and he still loves me but i really want to go places with him...do you know how i can talk to my parents without making them mad?
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one option is: try and sit down with your parents and talk to them about the situation and why they won't let you go places. maybe it's a trust issue, but maybe they're not ready to let you go yet. any of this could be a possibility. if you're ready to confront your parents, do so! i encourage it (:
but if you don't think you want to talk to your parents just yet; a second option is: plan a group outing with a few close friends along with your boyfriend. if it is a trust issue, they'll probably let you go if it's in a group. you could plan an outing to go to theme parks (disneyland, raging waters, knotts, six flags, etc.) or just anywhere. you might want to consider inviting friends that your parents know or trust, so they don't get any suspicious ideas. but other than that, that should work! best of luck to you and your boyfriend! (:
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.. you could lie.
.. sneak out.
thats stuff, i would do. if my parents were like that.. but thank god there not.
or, you could tell them ..
that they need to trust you.
tell them that, & if they still say no, ask them why they cant trust you.
hope that helped. kbye
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I am only guessing but I think you are still quite young. It can be difficult for parents to stand back and allow their children, especially girls, to begin living their own lives and making their own decisions.
What I can suggest is that your boyfriend comes over to your house and formally asks your parents if he can take you to the pictures/out for coffee or even shopping in the Mall. If he can spend time at your house in the company of your parents they will get to know and trust him hopefully. If his parents are approachable maybe you could suggest that you all went out together somewhere. I know it is quite old-fashioned but very often it does work.
As a mother it is very difficult to allow someone else, i.e. a boyfriend, to take over the care of your precious child. We feel it is our job to protect them from all the bad things in life. No-one is good enough, but we have to be brave and let go sometime.
Just remember though, your life does not stand still and everything changes. One day soon you will be stood on your own two feet wishing that you could lean on your parents again. Whatever happens, good luck.
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