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should i continu my relationship?
ok, i was talking with my frineds the other day and they said i should dump my girlfrined, and i asked why and we went into a whole list of shit, ok here it is,
1. when we are together, we don't talk much, i mean we talk alot, but not as much as i and her normly do with other people.
2. when she kiss me, it's more of a peck, and we don't kiss that much anyway.
3. she does not return some of the same feeling as i do, we both love each other very much,
and other little things, like i'm veyr romantci and she's not, i don't know what i should do, my friends mabe right, but i don't want to break up, i'm always question the relatioship, like hsould i stay init, and the problem is that i really don't know if i love her, i do, but the feeling is wirde, it's more of'should i stay in this ti make her happy at the lose of my own happyness' and things like hat, i'm her first boyfriend and she's my 3, my last two hurt my really badly, and i'm not sure if i can every love again, any advice?, if you need more info. just tell me and i will update
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sorry but i must tell the truth about this question.why are gus so stupid when it comes to girls?Give her some time to be comfortable around you.kisses will come later this is her first boyfriend give it time,she is probably nervous.don't listen to your friends,I have no idea why guys always listen to thier friends stupid comments (no offense)when they should listen to themselfs and how they feel about the other person.
hope I helped...
-sam i am
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dont listen to your friends...the relationship is between you and her....so go and have a talk with your girlfriend and tell her how you are feeling...also she may act like this because you are her first boyfriend and she doesnt know how to act.
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my advice is that you tell her you two need to talk...
and tell her how you feel and ask her if she feels the same
and if she does then ask her how come she doesnt show it as much and talk to her about it and maybe she will understand..
if she doesnt feel the same as you then tell her nicely..
im sorry but i think its best that we break up and stay friends because i dont want to have a relationship with someone who doesnt have the same feelings as i do
good luck:)
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You can work things out,don't listen to everything your friends say,it's how you feel that really counts,talk to your girlfriend about that you want things to change , she should put more effort into the relationship,and that you will also.You too should talk more and show that you too have a lot of interest of each other's lives,when you argue it's always good to apologize,and make up again.There was this young woman who would always do that and that's why her relationship with her boyfriend lasted for a long time.
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if you don't want to break up with your girlfriend, don't. my philosophy about relationships are if both partners don't try, nothing is going to come of it. try talking to her about this, let her know your thoughts. she'll be glad to know that you trust her enough to tell her this. if you're staying in a relationship just to keep the other person happy, it's a lose-lose situation. you'll be hurting yourself, and when she finds out the real reason that you were staying with her, it'll break her heart even more. talk to her about it, and give it some time. don't rush things. best of luck to the two of you! (:
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hmm. your relationship sounds EXACTLY like my friends. Only she is the one more like you, like shes had 2 other boyfriends, & this is his first. They don't ever hardly talk, inless online.. because hes like painfully shy around her & he is shy around her too. She could be shy.
Why don't you ask her bout it?
Everyones questions there relationships, when they are worried. Don't break up with her. Just talk to her about it. She may not know, that she has to be a certain way, because shes never had a boyfriend.
All you can do is, ask.
I hope that helped. kbye
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Have the two of you talked about this? She may not realize that she's not giving you what you need, and she may be willing to do so. Before we were married, my wife and I reached a very similar point in our relationship (though our roles were reversed from your situation). We had a serious, make-it-or-break-it talk about it. We've been married now for nine years.
Of course, that's no guarantee that your talk will end up the same way. That's a chance you'll need to take. Right now, you have a lukewarm relationship; that may be all she wants, and it's obviously not enough for you, so maybe you do need to break up. It will hurt less if you do it through talking about it instead of through regrettable actions. Here, I speak from experience again.
There is no point in living to make someone else happy at your expense. You will end up resenting that person for it. A lasting relationship needs to be about making each other happy at no one's expense, or it is doomed.
And contrary to what everyone else is saying, I think that everyone should convene a council of friends about three weeks into any new relationship and ask them all their opinions. What else are friends for? They may see flaws that you can't from the inside. If they're all unanimous in the idea that you should end this relationship, they may have a point. In the end it's your call, but their advice is valuable.
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Why would you want to listen to what your friends say if you don't want to break up with her?
Okay so she is not romantic enough, or she doesn't kiss well, is that a good enough reason? You are her first boyfriend and she needs to learn about relationships.
The only reason you should think of breaking up is if you don't see yourself having a future with her. If you are unhappy then by all means end it, but don't listen to anyone else except yourself.
I hope this helps but if you need further advice please ask. All the best.
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ok man, listen, frankly in tis matter my opinion, your friends opinion and everyone else's opinion is second hand shit. only two people matter in this situation, you and your girl. we can't tell you wheather or not to stick with her, you got to honestly say would you rather be with, or with out her, and you can always stay friends, but if you don't want to be with her, it will hurt her more for you to just pretend to wanna be with her. and i know what it feels like to hurt man, but don't worry, you'll love again, time heals all wounds and everything happens for a purpose, look for what you learned and what you can gain from the experiances.
but yea, bro this is somthing where you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your heart on wheather or not you want to be with this girl, dont let anyone els's opinions way in well your making your decision cause only yours matter.
GoodLuck, keep your chin up
Jon a.K.a GateKeeper
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