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My boyfriend just got back from Iraq. I missed him and with him being gone for 7 months was very hard for me. He is about to leave again in January to ship across the world. Which he will be gone for 6-8 months. We are both into each other a lot. When we started dating I knew it would be like this but now that I am see first hand what its like its like I dont get to see him that much. He still has about 2 more years in the Marine Corp and he could go back to Iraq and he was telling me the other day that he was thinking about relisting again. I love him and want to be with him. But what if he asks me to marry him cause I kn ow the question is about to be asked.

I know exactly where your coming from. I have been a military wife for all of 2 months now (been together for almost 2 years) I have learned one thing.. You will be away from your man more than you will be with him. I loved mine enough to marry him and make this work. We live with another military couple so it's not to bad if he has to leave because I have the other wife here to have someone to talk to. The most important thing I can tell you is to cherish and make the most of every moment that you have with your man. Here is a quote that I love and maybe you'll find useful. "Listen all you young girls to what I have to say, Go find yourself a young marine to love you everyday. He'll hug you and kiss you and treat you like a queen, there is no better fighting man a United States Marine."

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I don't think there's enough questions on advicenators that mention abortions. I assume there's more females on this site then males, so why does it seem like there are mainly pro-life supporters? We're women. Women with so many choices and laws that allow us those choices. I agree in having your own opinion, but never force it onto someone else. If someone is considering an abortion, why talk them out of it, bringing it up as a sin and disgusting? I'm proud to be pro-choice & you'd think nowadays more women would be. Why aren't you?

You ask if someone is considering abortion why talk them out of it? Having had an abortion myself yes, any opportunity I can get to help someone re-consider adoption instead of a abortion, I will. People that are for abortions are probably people that have never had one. It has many NEGATIVE side effects that a person just can't take. I was diagnosed with severe depression after it happened which was almost 6 years ago and to this day it breaks my heart at the decesion I made. As women when we lay down and have sex we know what can happen and if you dont want a child then you need to use protection. abortion is killing. That is a LIFE growing inside of you not something that you can just throw away if you don't want it. There are so many honest, respectable, nice people in the world that want children so badly but can't have them, why not put the child up for adoption?

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Could someone please tell me how I can get rid of blanket weed in a large fish pond. It grows at a phenominal rate.

I've heard that you can use one of those bottle cleaners, you know the brushes with bristles all around it. You strap that to a long stick and you can basically wave it around in your pond and the blanket weed tangles around it nicely.

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Better to spend a few bucks and get a UV filter or find some other means to try and keep it off permanently. Of course having a proper (working) filtration system would be the best way.
I've become a great believer that a Trickle Towers helps a great deal in controlling algae and green water.

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You know how you can get a perm that keeps your hair curly for a very long time? Is there a way that can keep your hair straight for that long?

Yes there is a way to keep your hair straightend for a long time. It's called Japanese Hair Straighting. It can last up to a year but the price is not cheap. Any where from $200 to $400 dollars depending on the length of your hair. Alot of people have said really good things about and then there's people that have done it and advise AGAINST it, stating that it breaks your hair to bad. Your choice, just hope for the best but prepare for the worst.

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I'm usually not self-consience about myself, but anyways...My penis is a little more than six inches (when hard), and I know that it is a little above average or close enough. But when I take a shower in the locker room, my penis is really soft and it's really embarrising. I can't get hard or make it longer because, well, sweaty guys don't exactly turn me on. What should I do? And I don't want to hear not to take a shower, because I do not really want to go the rest of the day sweaty and smelly.

OK, being a girl I'll let my husband handle this question. He's a marine and when he was in boot camp he had to take showers with over a hundred men at a time... Ok its the hubby. First off you dont want to get hard with a bunch of guys around. The hard ones are the guys you gotta watch out for. Next, if any one says anything about your hoo hoo ask them why there looking. If that dont work, you might want to get worried but tell them it aint how deep you fish its how you wiggle the worm. My best advice is keep your eyes above the belt and mind your own. Hopefully this will be a quick experience for you. good luck

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is there anyway I can listen/burn the song "Snap Yo Fingers" By Lil Jon without the words and only the beat of the song. Because I need a funky tune but I don't want the words so is there a website so I can get the song WITHOUT the words and the tune only?

Ill rate sooo high.

I didn't find a way for you to burn the version of the song that you want, but there is a way to listen to it. Anytime you want just to hear the beat of a song, your looking for the polyphonic version {for future reference} Anyways, you can go here www.redsms.com/Lil_John_ringtones.html or just google lil john snap yo fingers polyphonic and a million websites will come up for ya.

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I read that if you put birth control pills in your shampoo that it makes your hair grow really fast. Is this true? And if it is, then can I get them over the counter?

What are some other ways, besides extensions to get my hair to grow? It grows really slow, and I hate it.

Thanks.

There are a bunch of ways to make your hair grow... so here we go.
1. Start taking vitamin E (EVERYDAY)
2. make sure your split ends are cut.
3. Stop using a Hair straightner or curling iron.
4. Start using Pantene PRO-V (It has tons of vitams in it essential for your hair)
5. When washing your hair in the shower pay special attention to massage your scalp either that or rinse your hair one final time with cold water. It helps stimulate hair growth.

You may think cutting your split ends may sound dumb as far as it helping you hair grow but think of it this way.. If your ends are split what are they going to keep doing? KEEP SPLITING! This is bad for your hair, all you'll end up with is longer NAPPY, DRIED~OUT hair lol. Good Luck!

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How can I, a female under the age of 16, help abused, neglected, homeless, etc. animals? Every shelter that I;ve heard of requires you to be 16 to voulunteer and I cannot adopt another pet. (I've asked, pleaded, begged). I'm thinking of raising money or donating supplies and setting up boxes at random places around my community (continue with what my girl scout troop started) Any advice or suggestions?

I too share in your want to keep animals from being abused and neglected. There is a website that I think is crucial for you to go to.

http://www.theanimalrescuesite.com/cgi-bin/WebObjects/CTDSites.woa

The Animal Rescue Site focuses the power of the Internet on a specific need -- providing food for some of the 27 million unwanted animals given to shelters in the US every year. Over 10 million animals are put to death every year in the US alone because they are unwanted, abandoned, or abused.

Go to this website everyday and click the purple "FUND FOOD FOR ANIMALS" button. Your click provides the value of .6 bowls of food and care to a rescued animal in a shelter or sanctuary. Also for every E~card you send to your friends, family, or whoever telling them about the site, will automatically give .8 bowls of food to a rescued animal.

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Me and this guy have had this fling going on since last august. We went out twice, about two months each..he broke up with me the first time, I broke up with him the second. We always break up and go back to doing "stuff" together. Him and I have the same best friend and we both told our best friend that we are over eachother..well I just told my best friend that because I want to be over him but i still love him. at least i think i love him but i never said it to his face...but just yesterday I saw him. He still gives me that same look..the one he gave me when he was in love with me..and he still flirts with me..I guess i was looking at him with that look too..maybe that's why he was doing it to me?
I'm not sure if he still likes me..
or he's trying to get some from me?
I really still like him a lot..

Something that is important in knowing to better answer your question is WHO initated the "let's have sex even thou were not together" thing? If it's him then most likely even thou he may really do LIKE you, it's just a booty~call for him. There's really only one way to find out and that's to ask him yourself. I'm not saying to walk up to him and be like why are you wanting to have sex with me? lol dumb question. More along the lines of what's up with us? Are we just friends? friends with benefits? or do you still have feelings for me? One good thing you said was he still flirt's with you... But, is he only flirting with you when yall are fixing to "do the deed" or is it when yall are clothed and just out somewhere? If that's that case then he probably does have some feelings left for you. Best of Luck to you.

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does anyone have those abercrombie catalogs? where do you get them because i have tried abercrombie.com and i couldnt find them anywhere.. and also how much do they cost?

Hate to be the one to tell you, but Abercrombie killed it's racy catalog. Apparel giant Abercrombie & Fitch, under fire from some consumer groups for its racy catalogs, said Tuesday it would stop issuing them and halt publication of its controversial issue. "American people are making it clear that they were troubled over Abercrombie's practice of marketing pornography in the catalog and the company has finally recognized this fact."
On the good side, Abercrombie hopes to start a new line of catalogs unveiling an innovative and exciting campaign sometime later this year..

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I'll be going paintballing for the very FIRST time tomorrow with a bunch of my guyfriends. My best friend and I will be the only girls there. I must admit I am a girly girl. Not a bimbo girly girl who freaks out when she breaks a nail, but nonetheless a girly girl. And I wanted to know if I can get any advice about what to expect tomorrow. Any tips or anything.

A good paintball sniper is almost like a myth -- unseen, unheard, except for that splat that eliminates the enemy. Go to this website, and it gives you all the how 2's and tells you what not to do! http://paintball.about.com/od/strategy/tp/snipertips.htm

*A paintball mask is the most important thing to wear. Make sure you use a good mask every time you play. Wearing a ball cap under your mask is a good idea, too. Showing skin might be sexy in some places, but it’s a dumb idea when you’re playing paintball. When you wear long pants and long-sleeved shirts (and even gloves), not only are you likely to get less hurt by paintballs, but you can also slide, roll, crouch and do all those other essential moves more safely.*

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I try shaving down there and either 1)I'm not doing it right or 2)My skin is tooooo sensitive. It always gets red/bumpy and its not pretty! My bikini line is WAYYYYYY obvious. I want help and steps/tips on how I would be able to shave down there..right...do I shave it all off or..leave some? HELP!


16/f

Here's How:
1. Change the blade in your razor. Your shaving blade needs to be very sharp.
2. If this is your first time shaving this area, trim hairs before you begin.
3. Lather the area with a good quality shaving gel.
4. Shave with the grain first.
5. Rinse.
6. Reapply shave gel.
7. Shave lightly across or against the grain.
8. Rinse
9. Repeat step 7 until you have the area relatively smooth
10. Wait for a few hours to allow the area to calm down
11. With an electric razor, go over the area to pick up anything that your razor missed.

Tips:
1. Soap and water might work for washing your hands, but for shaving... definitely not.
2. Using a dull blade will not give you a clean shave and can contribute to razor burn.
3. Let the shaving gel sit for at least three minutes to soften the hair.
4. You might not be using the right kind of razor to do the job you want. There are razors on the market that offer three or more blades instead of one. They obviously are going to catch hairs that one blade might miss.

*Leaving some hair or what~not is totally up to you. To keep the skin from becoming irritated, after you shave wait about 5-10 minutes and apply some good lotion to the OUTER area. Like lotion that says it has oatmeal in it or something like that. (No scented lotions- because these can actually irritate the skin even more)*

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hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is 88 years old,but I don't think that is an exusce for her to tell me that iam to fat for my own good what should I do?

I totally know what your going thru.. My papa does the same thing. Especially at thanksgiving or christmas, were all sittin at the table laughin and talking and just enjoying the day and all of a sudden he'll look at either me, my brother or my next to oldest sister and say you should go watch tv or something, you dont really need to be eating. just something awful like that. We all hated to be around him because of the toll it took on our self~esteem (We're all a lil pudgy but not obese at all) Anyways one day I made a special trip to go see him and the first thing out of his mouth was that I was fat. that was the last time I seen him for 2 months. This is what I called "tough love" He started getting worried and called my mom trying to figure out where I had been. I taught him a lesson, if he can't be good company to me then I didn't want to be around him. Now he doesn't say anything about my weight or my brother's and sister's. So maybe you could try that, just stop seeing her for a while and when she wants to know why, let her know. Or you could take the road everyone travels down and just tell her how it makes you feel and maybe she'll stop saying those mean things to you. I dont think these people realize what it does to a person's self~esteem when they say things like that. best of luck.

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My BF still speaks to his ex-gf. She lives in a different state but they chat on MSN. They were together over a year. I guess I'm a pretty jealous person, but I actually don't believe in being friends with your exes. I'm not friends with any of mine (I don't hate them though) It's causing me a lot of worry and upset because they've broken up and got back together several times and I'm afraid its going to happen again. would it be unreasonable for me to ask him to stop speaking to her? when i asked him how he felt about her, he said they won't get back together because she no longers likes guys... but I dunno. Doesn't sound very convicing to me. What should I do?

thanks

When you asked him how he felt about her and he said they would never get back together beacause she no longer likes guy's was the WRONG ANSWER. He should've said no we will never get back together because I love you and I don't want her back or something along those lines. Sounds to me as if he may still have some feelings for her. I would tell him it hurt's you when you see them talking on line and would prefer if he didn't. If he still talks to her knowing that it hurts you then as hard as it may be, give him the boot. That may actually make him realize that what he's doing is wrong. All his time on-line to the EX is time that is taken away from you.

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okay i got my tounge pierced about a week ago an i kno its going through the process of healing because its starting to itch lol but anyways the woman that pierced it pierced it crooked and it takes up a little more ring than it should and i was wondering if they made tounge rings only one size or would i have to special order a tounge ring thats a tad bit longer to fit my tounge?? please help me i dont want to be stuck with this piercing one forever

She shouldv'e already pierced you with a x-tra long 14 gauge barbell because your tounge is going to swell and the long one will accomodate the swelling. Walmart and places like that don't carry the long ones just the regular sized one's for after the swelling is gone. Assuming this woman did a extreme no~no and pierced it with a regular sized one, I wouldn't go back to her but your best bet is to go to another tattoo~piercing shop and get one (there about 15 bucks) they always carry the long ones. But don't go down a size in gauge. (The lower the number the thicker the "bar" will be)

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ok... please please please.. help me .. i am only 13 but i have large breast i am a 36 c. i you can't feel it when i am lying down or sitting or standing pu.. but when i put my hand under my breast and like sqweeze to see if anything is wrond there is a hard thing... am i supposed to have it?

ok relax, I'm pretty sure what it is your feeling is the glands in your breast. Me and all my friends went thru this around your age. lol I remember feeling them (because my friends told me to because there's were hard) and I was like omg I have cancer I'm going to die! Turns out I was fine and I'm pretty sure you are too. Have you been using caffeine or have you increased your consumption of red meats, dairy, sugar or salt? For some women any of these things can increase breast lumps. Here's you a website to back up what I'm sayin if you want more proof. http://www.women-health.com/breastlumps.html

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I'm going to buy a sweatshirt at Abercrombie for Kids for my cousin for her b-day. What is a small in Abercrombie kids, like what size does that match up to? Would that be an XS in the regular Abercrombie and Fitch? And the cousin I'm getting it for is 12 and around 100 pounds and a size 3 in jeans. Would she be able to fit into a size Small sweatshirt from Abercrombie Kids? Thanks.

If she weighs 100 lbs then I would go with a small in the regular clothes. My sister is 12 and weighs the same thing and I know a XS is to tight in the breast area. Would be ok for someone older, but a 12 year old showing off tits is not something I would think you are wanting to accomplish... (I know because I have bought XS thinking it would fit her perfect, and it made her look like she was 16 or 17!) If your going with the kids dept, then my sister wears a small/medium just look at the shirts and compare how much more fabric goes with the kid's medium than with the kid's small, like is the shirt just longer? or, you get my point. Anyways hope I helped ya'

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My natural hair colour is a very dark brown but I've been dying it for about a year.

A while ago I tried to dye my fringe hot pink, but it went wrong so it was bright ginger. I tried to dye all my hair chestnut brown to cover it up but the front was still lighter. I dyed it again a few months later but the front was still lighter than everywhere else.

I really want to get it back to my natural colour but the only way I can do that is by growing it out or using a colour stripping solution. I've never used one before and I'm not sure how badly it will damage my hair. I have very thick hair and all the dye hasn't really affected it, so I'm not sure whether or not that will make a difference. Any advice or suggestions on a colour I could dye it would be welcome.

You have a couple options here (I'm an aspiring cosmotolgist) You can use a Clairol color removal. What this does is bleach's your hair a whitish-blonde so that when you dye it your "natural" color again, it stays the same color all over, not lighter and darker in certain sections. Or you could get hair-dye that matches what you think is your natural color but go a shade darker, this will end up being lighter on your hair making it more even looking. or you could always just let it grow out if your willing to wait that long. Regardless of what you choose get a hot-oil treatment (there at walmart about $2.00) this will keep your hair from becoming so badly damaged.

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My boyfriend and me are on sports.. He’s on baseball and I'm on softball and on Friday after my game we are going to take a shower together in the girls locker room not having sex just taking a shower together… and I was wondering what I should do because I’m scared he’ll be the first boy who ever saw my body… EVER!!


my questions are..

-what if his mom is looking for him(his mom works in the school)
-what should i do with him in there
-what if my coach comes in


I’m 15 and we’ve been going out for a while now.. About 6 months and I just need to know what to do.. Thank!!

If there is a chance that his mom would find yall or a teacher, I don't think taking a shower at school is the wisest of choices! Just think of how much trouble yall could get in, possible being suspended from playing sports, from school and even worse, your parents finding out! So there was your answer for question's 1 & 3 here is #2. Guys are very visual people, so dont undress and slouch over hiding behind a towel, ha ha that's what I did the first time i ever took a shower with a guy. Be proud of what you got and when you get in the shower with him, idk like shampoo your hair and let all the suds go over your body from it, that would look sexy. I think? haha um, yall could do some heavy KISSING (but that's it!! lol) rub your hands behind his head while he's kissin you, I'm sure this will be a shower he'll never forget.

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I have a non family member my sons girlfriend has been selling crack out of my house she has done a alot of damage to my sons life she has been arrested for selling crack whatcharges can i file against her for damgeing the life of my son please help iam a white 65 year old lady my son is 45 and his girlfriend is 60 and on disabilty

Wow, ok go to the police station and file a report to evict her from your house. -OR- talk to the drug agents at the police department and tell them about this woman, that she is using YOUR HOME to run drugs. Perhaps they can set her up and that'll get her out of your life, and your son's.

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