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My boyfriend and me are on sports.. He’s on baseball and I'm on softball and on Friday after my game we are going to take a shower together in the girls locker room not having sex just taking a shower together… and I was wondering what I should do because I’m scared he’ll be the first boy who ever saw my body… EVER!!
my questions are..
-what if his mom is looking for him(his mom works in the school)
-what should i do with him in there
-what if my coach comes in
I’m 15 and we’ve been going out for a while now.. About 6 months and I just need to know what to do.. Thank!!
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Well to answer your specific questions in order:
-How likely is it that his Mum is going to come looking for him. Firstly, he's 15. It's unlikely she'd just decide to walk in on him in the shower. Secondly, even if she did start looking for him while he was potentially nude, whouldn't she start in the guys locker room?
-What should you do with him in there? Do you not have a pretty good idea all ready? I mean, you'll both be naked and possibly soapy and you'll probably both be turned on like hell (if not there's something a-wrong with the pair of you). Therefore I think you need to ponder exactly what you are hoping is going to happen. You said you weren't going to have sex which is cool and all but pretty hard to stick to when you're caressing someones wet body. Seriously, are you sure you want to go through with this? (I'm not saying you shouldn't if you really think you ARE ready, but only that you may end up doing something you don't want to do yet in the heat of the moment). And one more thing- it's up to you to dictate how far it goes. Get naked in front of yout boyfriend and watch his good intentions fly out the window (although I'm sure he's a nice guy).
-If your coach comes in, you're screwed. I mean, your underage and NO-ONE will belived you weren't planning on having sex. You'll both be in deep doo-doo, seriously.
So basically, just think carefully about it. It can be a seriously sexy thing to do and the thrill will probably add to that, but just make sure you're ready for everything that might happen. How far would you go with him if you WEREN'T showering together? Don't go further than that. No matter how soapy he is.
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Its normal to be nervous. However, I don't think you should be showering together for the first time at school. Yet, if you decide to get on with this, just go about your business. If he wants to have sex with you (which he might), tell him if you want to or not.
If your mom is looking for him, make sure its not in the locker room you're in. If you stumble aross her in the hallway and you're not with him, say you don't know where he is.
If your coach comes in, make him hide or just dont shower together at school.
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If there is a chance that his mom would find yall or a teacher, I don't think taking a shower at school is the wisest of choices! Just think of how much trouble yall could get in, possible being suspended from playing sports, from school and even worse, your parents finding out! So there was your answer for question's 1 & 3 here is #2. Guys are very visual people, so dont undress and slouch over hiding behind a towel, ha ha that's what I did the first time i ever took a shower with a guy. Be proud of what you got and when you get in the shower with him, idk like shampoo your hair and let all the suds go over your body from it, that would look sexy. I think? haha um, yall could do some heavy KISSING (but that's it!! lol) rub your hands behind his head while he's kissin you, I'm sure this will be a shower he'll never forget.
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I'll probaly sound really stupid answering this question so bear with me. First of all, if you really want to do this, I would do it outside of school. If you caught, you'll be in huge trouble, like maybe kicked out for a while. Plus do you really want to do that to your boyfriend. If I were you I would rethink this whole thing altogether. I'm the same age as you and I wouldn't do it. If he's pressuring you on doing this, and you really don't want to, I'd talk to him about it. If he keeps pressuring you, I'd dump him. No guy has the right to do that to a girl. I don't want to be hard on you. I'm just giving you my advice.
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Well first of all you need to make sure that nobody comes in there at that time, stay one day for awhile and see if anyone comes in, I guess there would be some people that clean the girls locker room. And if his mom is looking for him I am sure she wont find you guys in the locker room. Just incase when you are going to leave you step out first and make sure the cost is clear. But honestly really think about it, make sure you really like this guy and that you will be comfortable with being naked around eachother.Also remember this is a guy and you never know. You dont want to put yourself in dangerous situation if he wants to do more than just take a shower. I am almost sure he will try to do more but now that I am done preaching on here is some advice.
* It is normal to be nervouse but try not to act nervous, try your hardest to relax
* Before you get ready to go to your game make sure you shaved well (lol)you do not want a hair patch on the side of you leg. Look at yourself naked in the miror and repeat these words "Damn Im sexy" (lol) it helps boost your confidence.
* And basicall just be cute/ sexy. Flirt a bit (as much as you feel comfortable with)Tilt your head back and let the water run over you hair look at him smile ect... If there's soap or w/e help him wash off, and kiss. It all depends what you are comfortable with.
* If he wants to do more dont be afraid to say no. You should never let him try to convince you to do something you dont want to do. And any way heres a good line just in case "I dont want to go that far in a situation like this/ I want it to be safe and intimate when we do that."
Just have fun but be careful, if youd o get caught they might let both of your parents know, and word gets around fast and you might get labeled as a slut.
Hope I helped and if you need more advice feel free to ask. =)
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Apparently you havn't read over my column too much or you would have asked someone else this question.
It's bad enough that you are too young to be getting naked with a guy, but it's just even more bad when you aren't even comfortable enough with the idea of him seeing you naked.
6 months may seem like a while now, but it's not. You should be with him way longer than 6 months before you start taking your clothes off in front of him. If you are terrified of what you are supposed to do with this guy, then what are you doing getting naked with him in the first place?
Boyfriends are suppose to make you feel more secure about yourself, and if you don't feel secure enough about this, then you are far from ready to go any further with him.
-TheTeenGirl
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