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my granny is to controlling
hey my name is Rachel and iam 17 years old and my granny is 88 years old,but I don't think that is an exusce for her to tell me that iam to fat for my own good what should I do?
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Tell her to work out. Or maybe suggest treadmill excercises that both of you could do.
Also maybe ask her if that is any of her business.
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ignore your grandma...she's getting old...my grandma is the same way..its not her fault..she just talk for no reason...don't mind her girl..don't let that bother you...okay...
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I totally know what your going thru.. My papa does the same thing. Especially at thanksgiving or christmas, were all sittin at the table laughin and talking and just enjoying the day and all of a sudden he'll look at either me, my brother or my next to oldest sister and say you should go watch tv or something, you dont really need to be eating. just something awful like that. We all hated to be around him because of the toll it took on our self~esteem (We're all a lil pudgy but not obese at all) Anyways one day I made a special trip to go see him and the first thing out of his mouth was that I was fat. that was the last time I seen him for 2 months. This is what I called "tough love" He started getting worried and called my mom trying to figure out where I had been. I taught him a lesson, if he can't be good company to me then I didn't want to be around him. Now he doesn't say anything about my weight or my brother's and sister's. So maybe you could try that, just stop seeing her for a while and when she wants to know why, let her know. Or you could take the road everyone travels down and just tell her how it makes you feel and maybe she'll stop saying those mean things to you. I dont think these people realize what it does to a person's self~esteem when they say things like that. best of luck.
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aw! i think you should tell your grandma that is bugs you when she tells you those types of things. Don't be rude or have an attitude with her. just tell her flat out that you don't like her putting you down!! + everyone is beautiful in their own way! =D <333 Good Luck hunn!
Message me if you ever need anything. <3
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A lot of grandparents are like this. Just because they're old doesn't give them the right to be rude to others. If you don't have to put up with Grandma very often, just take her criticisim with a grain of salt. If you have to put up with her on a daily basis, you should tell her that you don't like it when she makes negative comments about you. If she can't realize that she's being hurtful when she says things like this, it'll be her own fault when none of her grandchildren want to spend time with her.
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Maybe you should tell her how you felt when she said that.
Snowi
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