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I dont know if I believe in a God anymore. It just doesnt seem real. How do I figure this out and stop being confused about it all. Also, my friends believe in God.... should I talk to them about it? Do you think they would be upset with me if I didnt believe in a God? (link)
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I am a nonbeliever in any sort of God or deity, and have been pretty much all my life; ever since I was old enough to know the difference between reality and fantasy, I was essentially convinced that God and most of the Bible lay firmly in the second camp.
An atheistic or agnostic belief does not make one an immoral, untrustworthy, or otherwise deficient person. Morality is not dependent upon the God one chooses to worship (or not); it is a quality that one determines within oneself, based on what you learn and experience in your life, combined with an instinctive idea of what is "right" or "wrong" that has evolved within us much the same as our other senses. This is my belief, and I have yet to see it successfully challenged.
However, there is an unfortunate stigma against the Atheist; it is often assumed that since we don't fear divine punishment, we take that as a license to act however we want without regard for others. This is absurd, of course; one who believes in no afterlife is more likely to make the MOST of the real life we live, because we know that this is our only chance to make a difference! But try explaining that to one raised to believe that those who follow God's path are somehow more righteous than those who don't.
The point is that if your friends are devoutly religious, they may indeed give you a hard time about it; religion has a way of making people unreasonable, even when they are reasonable about everything else. Furthermore, I'd say it's not any of their business, particularly. However, if the subject comes up, I'd advise you not to actually lie about it. Tell them the truth: that you feel uncertain about God, and you're leaning toward a state of disbelief. If they are good friends, they will respect this. You may even be able to have some interesting discourse with them about it (though bear in mind, this can lead to some pretty heated arguments if you're not careful!)
I have many friends who attend church regularly, and they are well aware that I don't believe in their book or their God. We get along fine. We don't talk about it much, because it rarely comes up. If we were to do so, though, I'm confident that we could continue to get along.
Don't sweat about it too much. Perhaps you should become clearer in your own mind about what you believe before discussing it with more than a couple of your closest friends.
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i asked a question like two weeks ago about the sadie hawkins dance...well i asked the guy i was not talking about, but he already had a date. Even though I asked that guy, i thought the guy I really wanted to ask was going with someone already. But today, I found out that he wasn't, so I just went right up to him and asked, following all your amazing advice. And he said yes! So I just wanted to say thank you so much, you really gave me the confidence to do something like that.
Thanks for everythingg
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I am most pleased to hear that things worked out for you! It's always gratifying to hear that my advice has been helpful. I hope you have a great time at the dance!
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I don't understand this...I'm already in the 9th grade...and ALL of my friends have boyfriends! What do guys look for in a girl? Because, to me, it looks like I don't have it. I'm NOT a pushover, I don't dress slutty, and I'm not flirty. Let's also say that "I'm not easy to "get to"". I don't know. I'm a VERY good student....and I get good grades....but this seems like somewhat of a turn off for guys. And those guys that are nerdy (but cute) too, still don't PAY attention to me! It's like I'm invisible...It's just not fair. ;_; (link)
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There is no one answer to what guys look for in a girl. It is as varied as the human race itself.
All the things you say about yourself are not, in and of themselves, problematic. For instance, there is no need to dress revealingly - unless you want to attract guys who look for that sort of thing, which you probably don't. It doesn't hurt to flirt a little bit, but you don't need to be overt about it; just smile at the guys you like and take the opportunity to talk with them when it comes up.
And certainly, it is NOT a drawback to be smart and get good grades! There are some guys who are intimidated by a smart girl, but you don't want them anyway. A worthwhile guy will be attracted to a girl of intelligence. Those who prefer stupid, ditzy girls are usually pretty shallow themselves.
If you feel invisible, the thing to do is to change your ways to make yourself more visible. You say you're not easy to "get to". I'm not sure what you mean by that, but I assume that it means you are a private person who doesn't go out of her way to talk to people or make new friends. You're going to need to try to change that if you want the guys to see you as someone they can date. You might start by joining some kind of school activity, or going out with your friends more, or simply deciding that you will try to be less standoffish. It takes effort, but unless you make that first step, you'll be waiting a very long time for someone else to make it. Guys of your age are not experienced enough to look below the surface to find the Real You, and they won't make any effort to get to know you if you don't give any signals to the effect that you want them to.
Finally, don't stress out about it too much. You're 14 or 15 (presumably) and you're at the START of your dating life, not the end of it or even the middle. You have lots of time.
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there are soo many sex questions on here, but i kind of need some like...different p.o.v's on this:
i've been sexually active since like june 06, but my cherry didn't pop [i think]. i tried doing it myself, because i didn't want anyone else to. in december, i had sex with my bf, but this time, it kinda hurt. then again in december, [new years] i did again...and i hurt a little more. then a few days ago, it hurt the worst, and i bled...did he pop my cherry? i mean, i'm close to my period, but i don't have it yet...so idk what's going on. i also quit using birth control abruptly....help? (link)
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He probably did "pop" you. When you have sex, that's bound to happen eventually, so there you have it.
However, there's something of greater concern here, which is that you went off your birth control. Whether you can get pregnant or not has nothing to do with whether your hymen is intact - whether it is or not, you can still conceive. Get tested for pregnancy and get back on the BC if you intend to be sexually active!
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What are your views on change?
Do you think change is neccessary? (link)
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Change is only necessary when you've slightly overpaid for something and need some money back.
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So I was dating this guy ( we are both 13) and it was going wicked great. Then one day I got a call from one of his friends saying he wanted to break up. Later that night he sent me a instant message saying he was sorry and was hoping we could still be friends I said sure. He asked if I was mad at him and I told him yes. But I don’t know I really wasn’t, I was irritated because just that Friday he had told me he still liked me (something came up and I thought he liked another girl) I sent him one that Monday (that took place on Sunday) and said I was sorry for flipping and yea I hope we can be friends too, but he went on an away message and ignored it completely.. Since then he hasn’t said a word to me. I had said something to him (it was about school, we had to be partners) but he just shook his head. I’ve been really upset since, I’m normally not the kind of girl to cry, but this is the first time this has happened to me and I really can’t help it. I feel unwanted, and I like him so much. I want to go back out with him, but that would be kind of hard because he said he didn’t like me anymore (that’s why he had broken up with me) plus it would be awkward but, as of now I don’t care what its like. Now (I might be a little paranoid) be is flirting with one of his best friend’s girl friends and she is one of those people that would dump her boyfriend for him. She knows I still like him. I talk to her about it, she’s kind of a friend but not best friend. But that doesn’t give her any reason to do this to me, or her boyfriend. I just don’t know what to do. My friends have been understanding and let me talk about it whenever I want but after a while, I have a feeling there going to get tired of this. WHAT DO I DO??? I WANT HIM BACK SO BAD!!! Thank you guys in advance.
Ps. If any guys have any idea what to do I would really appreciate the advice. And the thing I want to know most is how to get him to like me again (I’ll do anything) not that I'm desperate, but I miss him so MUCH!!!
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Unfortunately, you're not going to get him back.
There is a very, very slim chance that it might happen, but even if it does, it won't be what it was before. However, I see a few things that might help you realize why this is not a bad thing:
(1) He had his friend call and break up with you for him. One word: COWARDLY. If he doesn't have the decency and the stomach to tell you something like this himself, then who knows what else he might be afraid to tell you? He needs to grow up and speak for himself.
(2) He sent an IM saying he was sorry. He's STILL afraid to face you and say it in person? Score one more point in the column under "Not mature enough to be dating."
(3) Prior to the breakup, he apparently lied to you about his feelings, probably because he couldn't deal with making you feel bad. Well, now we know what else he was afraid to tell you. Do you really want to date a guy who lies to you to "spare your feelings"? I can tell you right now that no relationship can work without trust, and he seems very untrustworthy to me.
(4) He won't talk to you, even about simple things. Doesn't this guy have any manners whatsoever? Or a backbone?
I'm sure that he has his good qualities too, but the fact is that your ex-boyfriend is still a child. He acts like a child and he seems to think selfishly, like a child. Trust me, when you find someone who acts a little more grown-up, you'll wonder what you ever saw in old what's-his-name.
Another thing: You've broken up (it was his idea, but it still happened). That means he gets to flirt with other girls. As much as it hurts, you're going to have to deal with the fact that he's available for other girls to date now (though I can't imagine why they'd want to), and for you to tell them they can't would be childish behavior on YOUR part. Show yourself, him, and the world that you're bigger than that, and let him do what he wants. Also, let this girl he's flirting with dump her boyfriend for him if she wants to. There's one more guy you can potentially date, after all.
I can't advise you on how to get him to like you again, because I honestly don't know what he likes in a girl. Truth be told, though, I really think you're better off without him. I'll bet that if you show this to your friends, they will agree with me.
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okay so i am definitely not gay because i LOVE guys. i mean i am like super boy crazy. but recently, ive been wanting to hook up with my best friend who is a girl. what does this mean? i just want to have sex with her, not like have a relationship or anything.?? (link)
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There's nothing wrong with you or strange about your feelings. Many people occasionally become curious about different kinds of sex.
You don't mention whether you actually want to tell her about this or even see if she would be interested. However, in the spirit of giving unsolicited advice, I strongly suggest that in this case you keep these feelings to yourself. Consider the potential consequences if you told your friend about these urges:
(1) She might completely freak out, and effectively end your friendship.
(2) She might not freak out, but still feel very weird about hanging out with you.
(3) She might just take it in stride and say, "Yeah, I know what you mean." But seriously, what are the odds of that?
(4) She might be secretly in love with you, and then have her heart broken when she finds out that all you want is sex.
In short, there are certain things we just don't tell our friends about. This should probably be one of those things. Revealing information like this would almost certainly change the dynamic of your friendship, and the overwhelming odds are that it wouldn't be for the better.
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Any codes to unlock websites. Proxys don't work at my school? What can I try? (link)
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Odds are, your school has a firewall in place that will prevent you from doing any hacking (and if I understand correctly, what you're trying to do is hacking). Unless you have a great deal of internet and programming savvy, not to mention software tools specifically designed to circumvent web security measures, you're not going to be able to find any loopholes - and even if you did, odds are they would be able to find out who's doing it.
Besides that, it's unethical to try and subvert security measures on someone else's network. If you use the school's internet connection, you must use it according to their rules. If you want to get into websites that they don't allow, you will need to get your own internet connection. It's really as simple as that.
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There's this boy. He's half a year younger than me. He's a BITCH. How do I get over him(: I WAS over him, I really was. But now i'm going back and I really don't want to. I'm pretty sure he likes this other girl but sometimes when he talks to me when he says goodbye he says "I love you." But also other times he just doesn't talk to me and when we are talking doesn't even say goodbye, and just leaves. Help me? (o: (link)
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There are three time-honored ways of getting over someone:
(1) Get blind drunk.
(2) Go out with someone else.
(3) Cut that person as much out of your life as possible.
I'm guessing that number one is probably not a good option for you, which is fine because it doesn't work anyway. Number two is great if you have someone lined up, but if things backfire it's really unfair to the poor sap when he finds out he's just a rebound guy. That leaves you with option three.
You need to stop yourself in your tracks, and consciously make the decision that you will NOT go back to him. Don't talk to him, don't call him, and if he calls you ask him not to. Tell him, if you can, that you're trying to get over him because a relationship between you just won't work. He may be willing to give you that space - if not, you are within your rights to get bitchy about it right back. You might start by telling him that he has no business saying he loves you if he doesn't really mean it; and if he does mean it, then why does he treat you the way he does? That will probably spark a good fight, which is another terrific way to end a relationship.
If you really WANT to get over him, you can, but it will take a certain amount of effort. Contrary to popular belief, we don't have to be slaves to our feelings; we can consciously change how we feel about someone. It just takes time.
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I don't liek anyone in my school like for a boyfriend or anything and I don't feel anyway towards them. Like, I'll say a guy is hot if they look it, but I don't have feelins towards anyone and I'm pretty sure that no boy likes me either. I've never been asked out and I have no desire to ask anyone out. I want a boyfriend really bad because I like the companionship, but it's not happening for me. By the was, I'm only 14 and a freshman if that's gives you a better picture. Thanxxx. =) (link)
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Nah, you're not weird.
Fourteen is still pretty young. There's no reason why you should feel rushed at this point to start dating anyone. You have four years of high school and then however long you want after that to enjoy the dating scene. If you get to be 25 and you still haven't gone out on a date, then you should probably start worrying.
As far as whether the boys like you, you won't necessarily know about it. Boys, you see, are stupid (I know this from experience, having once been young and stupid myself). They won't just come out and say how they feel about you. If they like you a little, it might not outweigh their natural reluctance to reveal their feelings; and if they REALLY like you, then they'll probably assume everyone else does too so they don't have a chance. Perhaps you're not anyone's secret crush object, but I can virtually guarantee you that there are boys out there comparing notes on all the girls they know, and your name may be coming up favorably more often than you think.
You say you don't have feelings toward anyone. Who says you have to? Dating isn't reserved for those who are madly in love from moment one; you're allowed to go on a date with someone who you just think might be fun to hang out with. Sometimes feelings grow over time.
For the next couple of years, don't sweat it. Be visible, take part in activities where you can meet guys, let your friends know that you're available so they can pass the word on, that sort of thing. And if all else fails, this ain't the Victorian age; you're allowed to take the initiative, and ask the boys out (there's usually a school event specifically for that purpose, called the "Sadie Hawkins" dance).
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I'm someone who thinks a lot and when I think a lot, I tend to think negative. A lot of people have told me to stop thinking too much and being negative but I just can't. I think the idea of thinking positive is stupid because it is like a kind of self-denial. I'm pessimistic because I wanna prepare myself for the worst should the worst hit me.
Say for example if I know I screwed up my test paper, I can't possibly tell myself oh ya I'm gonna do well. When I get a really bad haircut, I can't think of anything positive about it. When I pick my classes for school, I always think of the negative, like what if my classes suck? What if the teachers are gonna pile us with homework? I tried talking to my parents but they say they don't wanna talk to me because I keep thinking about things that are not going to happen or things that haven't even happen. I don't wanna bug my friends with this problem because I have told them about it b4.
Sometimes, the pressure of being pessimistic takes its toll on me and I break down everytime. I wanna this stress to stop and yet I don't wanna be unprepared for the worst.
I have no one to turn to. My friends and family has already given me loads of advice but I can't seem to apply it. I really can't change my mode of thinking. I don't wanna delude myself of reality and yet I don't wanna live in self denial by being optimistic.
I find that you are like a sceptic, like me. And I find that you are somewhat similar to me in terms of thinking too much. I hope that's not offensive. I really need advice. (link)
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Sorry it took me a couple of days to respond - you ask tough questions!
To my mind, there is a difference between acknowledging the negative and dwelling on it. To live in a state of perpetual optimism is delusional - however, it is equally delusional to live in a state of total negativity. Simple logic tells us that sometimes, things DO in fact go right, we get lucky breaks, and the coin comes up heads. One who assumes everything will go right is living in a fantasy world, but one who assumes everything will go wrong is living there too.
It's fine and good to prepare for the worst. Stock canned food and flashlights in case of a power failure, pay attention to where the emergency exits are, and keep a spare tire in your trunk - these are all good ideas, and examples of why you should consider the negative possibilities. Having thus prepared yourself, it is now time to approach the situation on a POSITIVE note; after all, you are now prepared, and if the worst does happen you will be able to deal with it. This change in attitude is easier said than done, of course. It might help if, when you prepare as well as you can for potential problems, you then consciously say to yourself: "I have done what is necessary; whether things go right or wrong, I can now deal with it."
That, I think, may be the root of your unbreakable pessimism - the idea that if the worst should happen, you will not in fact be able to surmount it. One way you may be able to change this mode of thinking is to attempt very difficult tasks which maybe you don't feel like you can do, and then put your all into succeeding. Choose things at first that don't have major consequences, like crossword puzzles or something. Then, as you gain confidence in your ability to beat the odds, move on into things with actual consequences:
Train for and run in a footrace, like a 5K or 10K run for charity.
Take on a difficult class in school.
Ask out the girl you've had your eye on (or boy, I don't know your gender or orientation).
Eventually, try something really major. My own attitude for my teen years was similarly pessimistic and negative, and the thing that really turned it around was when I took advantage of an opportunity to live and work in Antarctica for six months. Being able to do that and see it through taught me that it was possible for things to turn out well, and that I was capable of tackling very difficult tasks. It was something that had to be experienced before I could get it through my head, though, and it's a lesson I must continuously re-learn - but now that I have a five-year-old, I get new opportunities all the time. :)
In a nutshell, words and advice aren't likely to help you. Action and real experience will. Essentially, you need to just make up your mind that you're willing to take some chances, hedge your bets by preparing for whatever you can foresee, and taking the plunge.
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Ya so i had a best friend we even called eachother sisters and were always together, we met in the 4th grade, and then were not friends n e more in the middle of the 10th grade. Ever since i moved a couple miles away from my old house i started haning out wit another one of my friends that i met this year, because she lived right across the street from me. Later i found out that my friend who lived near me was my cousin and we became mad close friends. When i went to school i could tell that my bestfriend acted stange she never said hi to me in school i had to say hi to her and if i didnt say hi to her she would get mad. Even if my cousin said hi to her she would say hi in a very snobby way. Then i realized that shes gettin jeaouls because im becoming good friends wit Tally my neighbor. So when i came home and called my friend Jamielia to invite her to go to this place called wings with us shes all like no i dont want to go. Im like ok, then a week later she wrote me a note saying how ever since i moved i blew her off which is total bull shit. She was saying how everything is Tally Tally Tally and jamielia said when im on the phone with her all i talk bout is Tally, and jamielia was saying that she didnt want to her that shit. Jamielia was saying how we were like sisters now we are just friends and that i blew her off for Tally. So i wrote her a note back cussin her out and sayin that shes a jealous bitch, and that shes not my only friend and that you need to get over it. At the end of my note i wrote her i told jamielia to give me a call after school so we can work things out and i also said if you dont call me i will know that you dont want to be friends anymore. Ya i didnt get the phone call so then i knew that she didnt want to be friends with me. She never realized that during our friendship she treated me like shit. One time she came over my house an sneakly left with her boyfriend i was heated, and another time she only used me to come over so that she could go into the city to go to a party so her mom would think she spent the night at my house. i dont even know why i stayed friends with her She even rubbed her looks in my face like sayin o the kid you likes says im pretty thats some shit right there im like u aint all that shit but damn can someone help me because i have class with her and some of my friends are hers and i just feel it that one day shes gonna keep givin me dirty looks and im gonna end up beating the shit out of her
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I'd say you hit the nail right on the head. She IS jealous. She may have some reason to be, since it sounds like you may have blown her off a little bit, but it also sounds like she seriously overreacted.
You say that you begin to realize that she wasn't that good a friend; forgive me, but that sounds like you're trying to justify why you shouldn't feel bad about losing her. This is something you SHOULD feel upset about - you'd be less than human if you didn't! It's rough when your best friend turns into your worst enemy, no matter whose fault it is.
Here's why she didn't call after you wrote the letter: it pissed her off. You "cussed her out" and called her a jealous bitch - even if that were true, it's not going to rub her the right way. Calling you at that point would be the equivalent of admitting everything you said was true. It doesn't surprise me that you didn't hear from her.
You're never going to be best friends with her again, and from what it sounds like, that's not a big loss. However, since you do have to see each other every day and you do have friends in common, you need to figure out how to at least get along. Offer to meet with her one last time, for the sake of those friends that you have in common. Don't blame her for anything up front and don't call her names even if they're deserved. When you do meet, she may want to vent for a while - let her, even if it's hard to take. Don't bring up old matters that should have been settled years ago (like her sneaking out with her boyfriend). Talk about the here and now, not mistakes made and over with. Keep your cool. If it helps, have someone there who you both trust to "mediate" the discussion and help you both to stay focused.
You'll never be the friends you once were, but with a little work, maybe you can learn to be civil with each other again. It's worth a try.
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i want to make a whole wall in my room the shiny side of cds. how could i hang the cds on the wall, without glueing them?
also, ive heard that the cds scare away birds. i have a bird, so would this be a bad choice with a bird?
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One way to do it would be to get some large, thin pieces of plywood or masonite, paint it the same color as your wall, nail them up and then glue the CDs to that. I assume that the issue is not to damage the wall - this would achieve that, and all you would have is maybe a dozen nail holes per sheet which could be easily patched when you take them back down. If the issue is to avoid harm to the CDs, then you have a trickier problem, but the first step of putting up plywood should still help; you would then follow that by using small nails hammered carefully into the center hole of each CD, tightly enough to hold it in place but not crack it. I wouldn't envy you that job, though!
As far as the bird goes, CDs are sometimes used to scare away unwanted birds. They are hung on tree limbs or similar things with fishing line, so that they spin in the breeze and reflect the sun in crazy ways. It is this that scares the birds, not anything to do with the CD itself. Since your wall won't be spinning, your bird shouldn't have a problem with it.
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I was just wondering...what are some reasons a guy would not be able to ejaculate with a woman? Also, is it possable for a woman to be bad in bed even if she is moving her hips & doing everything right? Thanks. (link)
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There are all kinds of reasons why a guy might not be able to reach climax, divided into roughly two categories: physical and mental.
If the problem is physical, there's nothing you can do about it - he'll have to see a doctor, who may be able to prescribe medication or something. If he's able to "get there" on his own, however, then his problem is not a physical one.
Mental issues are varied. He may simply be nervous. He may be overly concerned with whether YOU are enjoying it, and neglecting to enjoy it himself. He may have some kind of emotional trauma, whether great or small, that is preventing him from relaxing and going with the flow. And finally, there is the chance that he's just not feeling the attraction (though if he says that he is, give him the benefit of the doubt - very, very few guys will go that far with a woman they don't feel attracted to in the first place).
As far as whether a woman is good in bed, that's an almost entirely subjective matter; what one guy may consider the ultimate turn-on may be considered disgusting by another. The one thing that's pretty much universal is that guys prefer women who ENJOY having sex - anything you can do to increase your own enjoyment of it, and then let him know about it, is going to go down well. (There are some guys out there who prefer women who don't enjoy it, but really, you don't want to be with one of them anyway.) Because you never really know what your guy is going to like (and vice-versa), the best solution is to communicate about it, before, during, and after.
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soo i was wonderin whats a good free photoshop trial i could download that definitely has the blemish fixer and teeth whitener effect? i already used Corel Paint Shop Pro XI and i really loved it but sadly my trial has ended and it wont let me download it again =[. by the im not buyin anything but something similar to that one would be great. thanks (link)
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One that I've heard is very good is something called the GIMP. It's not only a free trial, it's 100% free software. While it obviously lacks the power of Photoshop, it has enough features to satisfy most people. (I haven't used it much because I DO have Photoshop.)
http://www.gimp.org/
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please help me. I don't know what to do anymore! ok. here's the deal. My best friend has been like "doing things". Today she called me and said that last night she peirced her nose (BY HERSELF). I was SO shocked and started to think I shouldn't hang out with her anymore. She went close to s*x but didn't. And she ALWAYS says that she's fat but she isn't. One day she told me she threw up her food but only once. Should I still hang out with her?
ps. I DON'T (OR DIDN'T) DO ANYTHING SHE DOES (OR DID) (link)
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Your friend is on a self-destructive, attention-seeking streak. You can choose to turn your back and walk away, but then you really don't have any business calling yourself her friend.
I can't help but think that she's looking for a reaction. The things she is doing are pretty mild, overall. For instance, by doing a self-piercing of her nose, the worst thing she can reasonably expect is a mild infection which can be taken care of quite easily with an antibiotic cream. It doesn't hurt to throw up your food ONE time; it hurts if it becomes a habit. "Almost" having sex is something that thousands of teenagers do. And every woman I've ever known has complained about being fat at one time or another.
Still, that doesn't mean there's nothing to be concerned about. Your friend is testing what may be some dangerous waters, and it's possible that she may find herself trapped in an undertow. If that's the case, she'll need someone to throw her a lifeline - and if you don't intend to be there to throw it, she deserves to know. In other words, if you're going to stop hanging out with her and no longer consider her a friend, she deserves to know that and she deserves to know why. Don't expect that to go down well, though.
What you do all depends on how close a friend you consider yourself to be. If you're a casual acquaintance, then she probably doesn't intend to depend on you for anything, and so waling away wouldn't be a big deal. If, however, you consider yourself to be a real friend, then you'll stick by her, tell her when you think she's going too far, and let her know if and when she goes someplace you don't intend to follow.
Only you can make the call, but I would suggest that you shouldn't abandon her right when she could probably use a friend.
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me and my boyfriend had sex the other night and he came on my bum, he wiped it off with a towel but then wiped my vagina with the same spot. Could i be pregnant?
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From what you describe, you are practicing the method of birth control known as "pulling out".
THIS DOESN'T WORK.
If he penetrates you at any time without a barrier or other method (such as the pill) being employed, you are running a risk of pregnancy regardless of where he wipes with the towel. So yes, you could be pregnant - and that holds true whenever you have unprotected sex, even if he pulls out.
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When I broke up with my boyfriend for cheating on me, I gave away a 40$ necklace he gave me to my best friend. She was so mad at what he did, she broke it into a ton of little pieces.
Now my mom wants me to give the necklace back to him (she doesn't know my friend broke it) but I don't know what to do! I don't want to tell her my friend broke it, but I have no clue what to do now! (link)
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What you do about this depends on the circumstances under which he gave you the necklace.
If he gave it to you while you were dating and before you caught him and broke up, then it was a gift to you which you can do with as you please. You are not obligated to give it back, no matter what your mother says. Frankly, it's none of her business. Tell her you gave it to a friend and have no intention of asking for it back. You might ask your mom why she thinks you owe it to him. Should you also pay him back for all the times you went out to eat, or reimburse him for gasoline for times he gave you rides? He gave you a gift, then you broke up with him for a very good reason - you don't owe him anything for that.
On the other hand, if he gave it to you AFTER you broke it off with him, then you shouldn't have even accepted it. In that case, since you can't give it back, you would need to pay him the value of it.
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What can i do to get more muscles? By the way can Basketball help give me muscles?
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Lift weights, play active sports (like basketball), and do aerobic exercise to burn off the fat and show definition. There is no magic formula; use your muscles and they grow, it's that simple.
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i'm 15, and my boyfriends 15, he's always grabbing my vagina, whats up with that?!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!?! (link)
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If you don't want him to do it, you need to tell him to STOP, in no uncertain terms. If he doesn't, then the word for that is sexual harassment or even assault.
I think it's pretty strange of him to be grabbing you like that, especially since you're both so young. He seems to be behaving in a very childish manner; certainly, he is not displaying the kind of maturity that one needs to in order to have a sexually active relationship.
If this sort of thing is typical of the way he behaves, then dump him. You deserve someone who knows how to keep his hands to himself, show a little decorum, and not act like an eight-year-old.
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