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For the guys mostly
I was just wondering...what are some reasons a guy would not be able to ejaculate with a woman? Also, is it possable for a woman to be bad in bed even if she is moving her hips & doing everything right? Thanks.
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There are all kinds of reasons why a guy might not be able to reach climax, divided into roughly two categories: physical and mental.
If the problem is physical, there's nothing you can do about it - he'll have to see a doctor, who may be able to prescribe medication or something. If he's able to "get there" on his own, however, then his problem is not a physical one.
Mental issues are varied. He may simply be nervous. He may be overly concerned with whether YOU are enjoying it, and neglecting to enjoy it himself. He may have some kind of emotional trauma, whether great or small, that is preventing him from relaxing and going with the flow. And finally, there is the chance that he's just not feeling the attraction (though if he says that he is, give him the benefit of the doubt - very, very few guys will go that far with a woman they don't feel attracted to in the first place).
As far as whether a woman is good in bed, that's an almost entirely subjective matter; what one guy may consider the ultimate turn-on may be considered disgusting by another. The one thing that's pretty much universal is that guys prefer women who ENJOY having sex - anything you can do to increase your own enjoyment of it, and then let him know about it, is going to go down well. (There are some guys out there who prefer women who don't enjoy it, but really, you don't want to be with one of them anyway.) Because you never really know what your guy is going to like (and vice-versa), the best solution is to communicate about it, before, during, and after.
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Okay, I am a woman but this is pretty much something I can answer. A few possibilities might be that a guy is either nervous, stressed, has a real medical condition, or has had little experience ejaculating in front of or with a real person, especially if he has only masterbated for years. Next question. "Bad" is truly subjective, but a better thing to ask oneself is are you enjoying yourself? Nothing turns a person on more (normally) than knowing one is turning on his/her partner and that he/she is truly enjoying the experience. If you are not having fun, what is the point? Of course, being comfortable and open with a new partner may take a while, so the best way to be happy in bed with someone is to be happy and free with that person out of bed. Too many people jump into sexual intimacy, before sharing any real intimacy...connecting soul to soul. I don't think anything is bad in general, it is just a matter of communication and mutual satisfaction...meeting one another's needs and overall enjoying the experience for yourself.
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