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Best friend turned into a jealous bitch
Ya so i had a best friend we even called eachother sisters and were always together, we met in the 4th grade, and then were not friends n e more in the middle of the 10th grade. Ever since i moved a couple miles away from my old house i started haning out wit another one of my friends that i met this year, because she lived right across the street from me. Later i found out that my friend who lived near me was my cousin and we became mad close friends. When i went to school i could tell that my bestfriend acted stange she never said hi to me in school i had to say hi to her and if i didnt say hi to her she would get mad. Even if my cousin said hi to her she would say hi in a very snobby way. Then i realized that shes gettin jeaouls because im becoming good friends wit Tally my neighbor. So when i came home and called my friend Jamielia to invite her to go to this place called wings with us shes all like no i dont want to go. Im like ok, then a week later she wrote me a note saying how ever since i moved i blew her off which is total bull shit. She was saying how everything is Tally Tally Tally and jamielia said when im on the phone with her all i talk bout is Tally, and jamielia was saying that she didnt want to her that shit. Jamielia was saying how we were like sisters now we are just friends and that i blew her off for Tally. So i wrote her a note back cussin her out and sayin that shes a jealous bitch, and that shes not my only friend and that you need to get over it. At the end of my note i wrote her i told jamielia to give me a call after school so we can work things out and i also said if you dont call me i will know that you dont want to be friends anymore. Ya i didnt get the phone call so then i knew that she didnt want to be friends with me. She never realized that during our friendship she treated me like shit. One time she came over my house an sneakly left with her boyfriend i was heated, and another time she only used me to come over so that she could go into the city to go to a party so her mom would think she spent the night at my house. i dont even know why i stayed friends with her She even rubbed her looks in my face like sayin o the kid you likes says im pretty thats some shit right there im like u aint all that shit but damn can someone help me because i have class with her and some of my friends are hers and i just feel it that one day shes gonna keep givin me dirty looks and im gonna end up beating the shit out of her
so what should i do??
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so let me get this straight. your friend has been treating you bad ever since 4th grade.and now that your friends with other people, shes jealous?? my advice is to not be afraid of her.Dont be mean.Dont care.
If she gives you mean looks, smile at her. I mean if you give her dirty looks, its just going to lead to worse things. Seem like your having lots of fun with your NEW friends. Laugh realllly loud.
hahah its fun
bc she WILL sometime miss you and be like "well shes having fun grr"
dont worry.be carefree.
good luck
MUCH LOVE,
MOlly
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I'd say you hit the nail right on the head. She IS jealous. She may have some reason to be, since it sounds like you may have blown her off a little bit, but it also sounds like she seriously overreacted.
You say that you begin to realize that she wasn't that good a friend; forgive me, but that sounds like you're trying to justify why you shouldn't feel bad about losing her. This is something you SHOULD feel upset about - you'd be less than human if you didn't! It's rough when your best friend turns into your worst enemy, no matter whose fault it is.
Here's why she didn't call after you wrote the letter: it pissed her off. You "cussed her out" and called her a jealous bitch - even if that were true, it's not going to rub her the right way. Calling you at that point would be the equivalent of admitting everything you said was true. It doesn't surprise me that you didn't hear from her.
You're never going to be best friends with her again, and from what it sounds like, that's not a big loss. However, since you do have to see each other every day and you do have friends in common, you need to figure out how to at least get along. Offer to meet with her one last time, for the sake of those friends that you have in common. Don't blame her for anything up front and don't call her names even if they're deserved. When you do meet, she may want to vent for a while - let her, even if it's hard to take. Don't bring up old matters that should have been settled years ago (like her sneaking out with her boyfriend). Talk about the here and now, not mistakes made and over with. Keep your cool. If it helps, have someone there who you both trust to "mediate" the discussion and help you both to stay focused.
You'll never be the friends you once were, but with a little work, maybe you can learn to be civil with each other again. It's worth a try.
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don't let the bitchhhh bother you cuz she's jelous of everything. seriously just act like she's not there, if she gives you a dirty look, LAUGH. then she's gonna feel like a complete idiot. fightin isn't really smart, but if you do don't do it in school cuz you can get suspended and all that stuff
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the way she was treatin you before was out of order and you need to tell her that.you and her need to talk and hear each others story and if by the end of it things still havent been sorted you need to move on cause it's not worth it if she cant get over the fact that you have other friends.
gd luck hope i helped xx
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