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I know this is long, but please give the advice
So I was dating this guy ( we are both 13) and it was going wicked great. Then one day I got a call from one of his friends saying he wanted to break up. Later that night he sent me a instant message saying he was sorry and was hoping we could still be friends I said sure. He asked if I was mad at him and I told him yes. But I don’t know I really wasn’t, I was irritated because just that Friday he had told me he still liked me (something came up and I thought he liked another girl) I sent him one that Monday (that took place on Sunday) and said I was sorry for flipping and yea I hope we can be friends too, but he went on an away message and ignored it completely.. Since then he hasn’t said a word to me. I had said something to him (it was about school, we had to be partners) but he just shook his head. I’ve been really upset since, I’m normally not the kind of girl to cry, but this is the first time this has happened to me and I really can’t help it. I feel unwanted, and I like him so much. I want to go back out with him, but that would be kind of hard because he said he didn’t like me anymore (that’s why he had broken up with me) plus it would be awkward but, as of now I don’t care what its like. Now (I might be a little paranoid) be is flirting with one of his best friend’s girl friends and she is one of those people that would dump her boyfriend for him. She knows I still like him. I talk to her about it, she’s kind of a friend but not best friend. But that doesn’t give her any reason to do this to me, or her boyfriend. I just don’t know what to do. My friends have been understanding and let me talk about it whenever I want but after a while, I have a feeling there going to get tired of this. WHAT DO I DO??? I WANT HIM BACK SO BAD!!! Thank you guys in advance.
Ps. If any guys have any idea what to do I would really appreciate the advice. And the thing I want to know most is how to get him to like me again (I’ll do anything) not that I'm desperate, but I miss him so MUCH!!!
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Hey! I am very sorry about you and your boyfriend. THAT IS WHY I AM HERE! I will try and get yall both MoViNg! Ok OK! I see that your friend is flirting with him so you will have to go and get him. What I mean is send him an email, an Im. WAT EVA! and if he ignores you then you go and tell your friend that he should talk to you or tell your boyfriend's friend about his girlfiend flirtin' with her. So yEAh. I am sorry if the advice is hard to follow because I just toke the ELA assesment at school and I am in 7th grade too. I am VERY tired! So there you go!
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hey, well let me just start by telling you that there is no way to get someone to like you. they either like you or they dont. also ive learned that the more you try to get them to like you, the more you push them away. its kinda like the class nerd trying to ask you out and he knows that you dont like him but hes still going to try to get you to like him anyways, so hes going to talk to you as much as he can. think of it like that. it would get pretty annoying, dontcha think? i also think that your life would be better without him in it. you could do better than someone who a) lies to you so you wont feel bad [example: he says he likes you then, he breaks up with you], b) is not mature enough to breakup with you in person [example: having his friend break up with you for him], and c) gets over you in 2.5 seconds [example: if he really loved you, you wouldnt be that easy to get over]. im sorry to say but i seems like you picked a real loser. find a guy that likes you for you and has better qualities then your last choice. im kind of happy that your only thirteen because when your younger you learn from your mistakes. i think that from this situation you will know what kind of guys to choose and not to choose.
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Unfortunately, you're not going to get him back.
There is a very, very slim chance that it might happen, but even if it does, it won't be what it was before. However, I see a few things that might help you realize why this is not a bad thing:
(1) He had his friend call and break up with you for him. One word: COWARDLY. If he doesn't have the decency and the stomach to tell you something like this himself, then who knows what else he might be afraid to tell you? He needs to grow up and speak for himself.
(2) He sent an IM saying he was sorry. He's STILL afraid to face you and say it in person? Score one more point in the column under "Not mature enough to be dating."
(3) Prior to the breakup, he apparently lied to you about his feelings, probably because he couldn't deal with making you feel bad. Well, now we know what else he was afraid to tell you. Do you really want to date a guy who lies to you to "spare your feelings"? I can tell you right now that no relationship can work without trust, and he seems very untrustworthy to me.
(4) He won't talk to you, even about simple things. Doesn't this guy have any manners whatsoever? Or a backbone?
I'm sure that he has his good qualities too, but the fact is that your ex-boyfriend is still a child. He acts like a child and he seems to think selfishly, like a child. Trust me, when you find someone who acts a little more grown-up, you'll wonder what you ever saw in old what's-his-name.
Another thing: You've broken up (it was his idea, but it still happened). That means he gets to flirt with other girls. As much as it hurts, you're going to have to deal with the fact that he's available for other girls to date now (though I can't imagine why they'd want to), and for you to tell them they can't would be childish behavior on YOUR part. Show yourself, him, and the world that you're bigger than that, and let him do what he wants. Also, let this girl he's flirting with dump her boyfriend for him if she wants to. There's one more guy you can potentially date, after all.
I can't advise you on how to get him to like you again, because I honestly don't know what he likes in a girl. Truth be told, though, I really think you're better off without him. I'll bet that if you show this to your friends, they will agree with me.
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girl im 14 & goin threw the SAMEEEE thing ..
me & jacob broke up in december . ohh my it was HORRIbLE & i mean like BADD ! . i went crazy i missed him so so soo much . so i started 2 [ try]
& get him bac ` you kno like i was callin him everyday askin him did he still like me . messaginng him . commenting him . WATEVER just 2 talk 2 him . but i noticed the morei tryed the farther he seemed . it was because he knew that no matter who he dated he could always come bac 2 me . so then [ & THIS IS VERY HARD ] i hated it !
but i called him less . message & commented less
then finaly i just didnt talk 2 him at all & just
[ acted ] happy with my life . maybe you should try that to .... he wont take me bac hes happy with another girl & it kills me . but now hes starting to talk 2 me more <3
but if you gotta myspace you can message me
heres my [ url ] [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
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