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The name is Leah. I live in Cincinnati, OH. I really love to give advice! I have been here since November of 2004. But prior to joining here, I was always been seeked for advice. Still to this day, my primary concern is always helping someone out in need.

I am likely not the best columnist here, but I can quarantee I am very dedicated and concerned when I answer a question. If I answer a question you're not satisfied with, I will ask why, so I can try my best to change my answer. I only give people information that I know; not information that I might know. And if I notice a columnist giving you a wrong answer, you'll know I'll be correcting their response!!

I do allow everyone and anyone to ask a question. I may have listed favorite categories, but I really have no preference. I do love making new friends!! It's no problem to contact me by e-mail or IM. I do have a Myspace, and I will gladly give it out if asked! If you ever need advice, if you feel like ending it all, if you feel like no one cares, I am here!! Talk to me.. I will listen and I will help you!!

♥Leah

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well, i have an ash blonde hair color. it's blonde but it has like this touch of ash and it's a very uncommon haircolor. like not that many people have it. I LOVE MY HAIR! but, recently i just was wondering what i would look like as a brunet. like, a light brown/medium brown hair? but, i'm afraid to use hair dye because what if i never get my ash blonde back? is there anything i can use that won't harm my hair as much.l i hear celophane might work and henna. but, i wanted to get the opinion of others before i went ahead and did it because i
just want to see how i look like with brown hair, i want my blonde hair back after

You could use temporary hair dye. And there are some products that can wash out just once or twice. And the temporary hair dye takes 8 to 10 washes. It will not harm your hair. You can find many varieties of these pruducts at a local drugstore.

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15/f -- me and this guy ["jack"] have been friends for about 4 months and lately weve both started to "like" each other more and he's been wantin to ask me out for awhile [he told me so himself] but he knew that although i liked him too, i was really enjoying the single life and wasnt ready to be in another relationship. his brother was talkin to me a lil while back and said that if/when i decided i was ready to go out with jack, i could let him kno and then he'd tell jack he should ask me out. but i wanna put a spin on things and just ask him myself. the prob is, i dont kno how. ive never asked anyone out before. we only get to see each other about once a week cuz he works almost every day and stuff but we talk on the phone every night. so i was wondering should i ask him on the phone like tonight or wait till this weekend when i see him in person? and what would be a good way to do it? like when he says i love you, should i say something like .. i love you too, wanna make it official? or something like that? i wanna make it good but not complicated you kno? :]

I can understand that since you haven't really asked someone out before it can be difficult what to say. And actually there is many ways to say it. You may say something like. "You know, I have been thinking about us being together... do you want to go out with me?" or "So since you want to go out with me.. would you like to?". Don't get afraid to ask him. Just bring it up and talk about it.

And if he says "I love you", say that you do as well, and tell him you have been thinking about going out with him, or when you talk to him again tell him how you feel, and how you want to start taking things to the next level.

I hope I helped =)

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how many colories how u supose to eat/have if ur 5'7 n weigh 110 plbs thanx.

The average amount for a healthy person (like you), should eat about 2,000 calories a day. No more;no less, just to stay healthy.

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Hey, I was just wondering how you customize your advice column on advicenators, like make it colorful and stuff? lol .. do you go to a website or something ? Thanks. =)

Well actually you can do it on AdviceNators. When you log in, on the left blue column, go down to "Column Settings", and under there you can customize your own color scheme to your column like to all blue, or pink. You can also make your own by putting down hex codes of colors (http://www.theodora.com/gif4/html_colors.gif). And you can put them in the blanks they give you.

And if you want they do offer putting in your own picture and/or a background picture, so you can always put in a picture URL instead of a background color.

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how do I stop sunburn that itches?

Aloe vera is the stuff that can help. It soothes the skin, and relives the itching. And another tip using it would be to refrigerate it so when you rub it in you'll feel dramatically better. Usually after a few applications you'll see improvement.

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i have a cell phone & i was wondering if i can block people's phone number?? i know they can block theirs if they call, but is there anyway i can block theirs if they do call??

thanks!!

Most service providers can do that for you. Usually you can call them to ask them to block certain numbers, and some service providers can block all calls that you receive and vice versa. And some phones do have features like that but pretty expensive. Just call your SP and ask to block certain numbers.

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So what's the deal with diet coke? It's zero calories and no fat, and only 1% sodium of the daily amount. Other than the caffiene, is there something else in it that's not good for you?

High Fructose corn syrup - usually in a lot of foods and it's considered to be one of the "secret fattening" ingredients. Same ingredient that's in juice, soda, and candy.

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I am 14/f and I haven't had my period since early May. I've gone for over two months without getting my period. I'm starting to get concerned about it. I got my first period when I was 12. Lately, I've started eating a lot healthier than I used to. I used to eat ice cream every night and eat a lot of snacks that were high in calories and fat. But now I eat snacks like fruit and yogurt, and I try to balance out the number of servings I eat from all the food groups. Also, I've started running more to get in shape for lacrosse (3 mi. every morning), and I swim on a swim team (twice a day 5 days a week). I've lost about 10 or 15 pounds since the last time I had my period. I know I'm not pregnant because I haven't had sex. And I'm not anorexic, I'm 5'6" and weigh 125. I eat regularly, about 2000 calories daily. So why haven't I had my period. Am I at risk for anything serious? How can I change what I'm doing to ensure that I get my period again? Thanks, I'm so worried!

It's normal that periods can become irregular. It happens to every woman and for the most part it's nothing to worry about. Since you said you eat healthy, exercise and haven't had sex, one factor may be stress, which may also delay periods. If that doesn't apply then it's probably irregular. It's normal, and nothing serious. However, if you go 60-90 days without being on your period, contact your physician or gynocologist. You could have reproductive problems.

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Ok,I'm 13(gal)and i babysit 2 boys 3 times a week for about 4 hrs. There 1-1/2 & 6 yrs. old the 6 yr.old will NOT listen, i tell him not to do something and he still does it. Every time i have a problem i tell the dad when he gets home,but he never does anything.I have been babysitting for around 3 years and I've never run into this problem before. I'm thinking about starting a discipline plan.If he acts up i will tell him to go to his room,if he doesn't do that I'll tell him were not going outside that day etc.(i say what i mean and mean what i say).Then if it still doesn't work after a few days I'll tell his mom i cant babysit him anymore.I just cant handle him.I just need to know if other babysitters like me think this sounds good. thanks.

Give him a reward system, If he behaves badly, say "If you keep this up you get no cookie". Small children are very gullible yet naiive. If he keeps up the attitude, tell him he can't have any dessert. You could also tell him for evry hour he behaves nicely he can have a cookie.

Also, the other advice given is true. Don't yell, just say what you need to say softly and it will get the child to listen. Screaming will just make him try to ignore you.

Be firm, but nice. Don't yell at him, or ground him to his room. Try to negotiate with him or give him a reward system.

And occupying him works well, too. Find a hobby he likes or you both like, and stick with it. Rent a movie he has been dying to watch, or get a game that's family-fun for him to play.

Also understand the Psychology of a young child. He/she reacts differently at home, school, and different people. The child may behave nicely to his parents but not-so-good to you. So also try saying something like, "If you keep this up I'll call your mother/father and tell he/she how you're acting."

I had the same problem when I babysat. There will always be times when children won't cooperate, so negotiate, reward, and firmly discipline them.

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i have a t-mobile phone and i want to have ringtones. people buy them online but i don't know where. also whenever i see it on tv its like oh and be charged 4.99 monthly. so is there somewhere tht i could get just one ringtone for a flat rate..
thanxx

You can download them from the internet on your phone, and also you can can download them on the internet on a computer, by going to Tmobile.com, and going to MyTmobile by registering your number and make up a password, or sign with same information. They both cost 1.49, excluding cell phone internet costs, since you'll need them both ways, which is no more than .50. If you have a plan the fee will show up on your next bill; if prepaid it will automatically come out of your prepaid account.

If you have any more questions you can contact me also. I have a Tmobile phone, too and I am on a plan.

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What`s the best thing to use for pimples that actualy works? & that I don`t have to orde.

For quick reduction and dimishing of pimples, use Salicylic Acid and Benzol Peroxide - the two most effective ingredients. They both prevent, treat, and protect from pimples. Also, Triclosan which is antibacterial, can fight the bacteria that makes you break out. You can find Triclosan, like Nozema acne treatments or Benzol Peroxide and/or Salicylic Acid in Clean&Clear or Clearasil acne medications, also found in Drugstores.

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i have a trojan horse on my computer. everyone said to delete it, you have to have someone restart your computer so it's brand new. is there ANY other way of getting rid of it er is that the only thing they can do??

thanks

You can use an anti-virus program like Norton Anti-virus to delete the trojan. Most common trojans are not major(harmful) enough, but you can never be sure if restarting the computer can completely get rid of it. It would be safer and easier just to use an anti-virus program, and don't try to manually delete the trojan or you could cause even more to harm your computer (trust me). And afterwards, restart the computer, and do a double check on the trojan. And do this asap because trojans can spread and expand on your computer.

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I use dial up aol, but I was just wondering if I could use AIM also. Like I downloaded AIM on my computer, and my brother tells me I can use AIM as long as I'm signed in on AOL also. I tried using it, and everytime a pop-up said "The AIM service can't be reached" I don't use broadband, so I'm not sure what to do. Thanks so much♥

Using Dial-up can't stop you from using AIM, and you can use AIM without being a member to AOL. For dial-up connections, AIM's connection can be some wait (a few minutes) just to successfully connect. The problem probably is AIM is not capable of the dial-up connection you have (like 35k or lower), or it may be the server. Contact AIM for information on what the problem could be, or contact your ISP (internet service provider) for what the problem could be.

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Ok, I've always had bad acne, but in teh summer it gets way worse. I've always had blakc heads to, around my nose, chin, and forhead. There starting to get worse; more deep, larger, and darker. It really grosses me out! I use proactive for my acne, but it doesn't work on my black heads. I've tried strips before, and they don't help at all. I need something very powerful that will get rid of all of my black heads AS SOON AS POSSIBLE. Does anyone know any thing I can use?! I'm up for any possibility (even a certain kind of strips). Thanks!

Actually a GREAT over-the-counter medicine is Clean&Clear for blackheads cleansing wipes. You clean your face with whatever acne products you like (yet I don't recommend ProActive b/c it isn't effective for blackheads) but yet use products like Clean&Clear cleansing wash, and the apricot scrubs work great! Then you want to use those cleansing wipes 2-3 times a day. Just after a few applications of it you'll see a reduction of blackheads.

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My face gets so oily so quickly. I wash and wash and wash my face constantly, and it never ever stays oil free. My face never drys out because it's always so oily! Is there a certain scrub/wash that I can use that really helps and makes my face stay dry and clear all day?! Thank-you.

Oily skin can be caused my open pores. Look closely if you see open pores on your face (tiny black-looking holes). If they are present, try getting pore-closing liquid (Clean&Clear has some nice products for it), and that could reduce the oil dramatically. Since everyone develops oil, you can't really completely stop it. There are also oil-controlling creams out there for you that could last you nearly all day. Clean your face a few times a day with oil-controlling ingredients, and get oil-controlling cream. If this does not help, you can contact a dermatologist for information how to control the oil, and getting medicine for it. There are also options for surgery to stop the oil if interested. If not, stick with the creams and cleansers.

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almost a year ago i got a 3year old cot i was so happy but i was not there when my dad brought her home i came home week later to find my cat hateiing me loveing my dad i dont no wat to do because i really want her to like me any suggestions?

That happens to me sometimes. Usually those kinds of things take time but feed your cat 2-3 times a day. Encourage to play with her and buy her some cute toys for her. Also, pet her several times a day and offer her treats. Just know these kinds of things take time, so just don't gave up hope since you only had her for a year or so.

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im 13. Ive always really had a problem .... down there.... sorry if it sounds horrible. but ive always had brown smelly stuff in my knikers (boxers thongs )wat ever i choose to wear. Is there anything that i could do stop it?? plus i havn't started my period yet.. i really want to. Is there anything i could do to speed up the process.

There are feminine care products designed to reduce that odor and brownish stuff you're seeing. Also, that may be a sign you will start your period soon. Seeing vaginal discharge (and noticing the big odor), you may start your period within weeks or months. However it's no guarantee, and there are not really anything you can do on your own to start your period sooner. Enjoy it! Periods suck.

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I was just away all weekend camping with some of my old and new est friends and I got about 50 misquito bites just on my legs. They itch like nobody's bussiness but I don't want to itch them. Does anybody have any remedies for itchiness that actually work? I've already tried the ice cube and rubbing alcohol (as suggested by friends) and, while they work, they hurt lie crazy!

Also, does anybody have any ways to avoid being bitten? I'm not sure if its possible because I wore long pants and a TON of insect repellent, but I'm going back to camp (but a different one) for two weeks in the middle of the summer and don't want to be itchy the whole time!

To prevent from so many mosquito (or as much as possible) wear as little fragrance as possible! Including perfumes, colognes, or insect reppellents that are fragranced. Make sure you avoid those and that your insect reppellent is fragrance free. Usually they state that in big letters on the label. Also, try avoiding staying out for long periods of time from dusk till dawn - Mosquitos come out mostly around that time. Another thing would be to avoid swimming in the evening or being around bodies of water. Mosquitos are attracted to water.

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wat does lylas mean? lol i no its stupid but its been racking my brain

Love you like a sister.

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How many tylenol would be considered an overdose? like, what about 5-10 a day?

Taking over 3 Tylenol tablets or taking more than 6-7 in a day is considered to be overdosing.

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