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Okay. I been dating this guy for 5 months. he is very nice and sweet and he 28 and I am his Frist Relationship and frist gf. he only date maybe 2 girls in his life but not like now. anyway we have good time and we share Interresed and we get alonge great. but there one thing he very very into is Relgion. I don't find anything wrong with that. I am a beliver and I belive in god and I am a christain. but thing is him and his familly are littel more Raditcal about Relgion. thing is like they have i think his sister's Husband have a family build there own church and they read the bible there self and that he don't belive in christmass and becouse it jesus bday and he always want talk to people about Relgion and even kids. if there 10 year old or something. He think it wrong somone not want to talk about it. i mean i don't mind but i seem very Keep it to my self becouse i know i feel it between me and god. sometimes I am more thought ful and bigger heart and more look in god eyes and see things and more compassion. other thing he talk more about his self and dreams like building his own house and finding place llive. he still live with his parent they live in a simple livng like little cabin like. it nice really. but it hard too. becouse his father very Radtical he say thing just becouse people are saved are not saved. thign is i am not big on relgion becouse i don't like judge people and i don't like to Disscuss it. I talk to my self everyday and i know god hear me and even know what iam doing before i am doing it. another thing is that sometimes i live my parents to i don't drive. he pick me up we go mall or see a movie and hang out pretty much it. he in school and learning job training to get a job. o and he say that one of his sister's husband and his borther and older lady aunt of his not my bf his sister husband and she read out of the bible, i know it not wrong i just saying i think i feel like I don't know what patach i am on. becouse thing is i seem look at a more simple life and really let god lead me where he want me to go. thing is we were set up by couploe friends andi was ruch in having a bf and he was rush in to find somone. i don't really know how i am feeling these days. i try really hard think what i really want todo. i am hard of hearing and i teach little boy sign lanuage and i am artist i like being creative. i really haivng hard time figureing out what i really want to do in life i know i don't have follow his dream becouse it seem like he don't seem realize that i have a dream to.
ps sorry if don't make any sence i am try to just writ out how i feel. (link)
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I have been in a relationship with someone who is a little over the top on his religion as well and trust me if he is a heavy believer then that is just how it is and how it is going to be. Personally, I couldn't deal with it so I left the relationship and it was 5 years that I have tried and tried to bond to his beliefs. You need to ask yourself are you okay with him talking about his religion 24.7...are you able to follow his religious ways? Personally, I don't mind people who believe in god but if someone talked about it and was a heavy believer after awhile I would get a tad bit irritated hearing about it all the time. This is about you and what YOU want out of the relationship but remember if you don't think you are really capable of dealing with his ways then it might be best to be friends or leave the relationship because heavy believers don't change for nobody and if anything they just get more into themselves.
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I'm fourteen he's sixteen. He has mono. I can't kiss him. What am I supposed to do?? (link)
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You don't kiss him! Mono is contagious and trust me it is NOT fun!
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Do they like being called baby, sweetie, sweetheart ect.?
Just curious.
Haha
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The only way to know for sure is to ASK him yourself
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I have been a member on polyvore for almost 2 years now, and i just created a group. How can I get people to join? I need 28 more people to join in order to make a contest!!!
Here is the website:
http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/group.show?id=87958&.msg=BQcCAAAAAQQDAAAAAgojV2VsY29tZSEgWW91IGFyZSB0aGUgbGF0ZXN0IG1lbWJlci4AAAAHY29udGVudAoDbXNnAAAABHR5cGU (link)
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This is ADVICEnators NOT a place to advertise go somewhere else and advertise
EDIT: Posting the website as well as asking "HOW" is the same thing as advertising a website.
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so my prom is coming up, and i don't have a date. my friend from school told me he would take me, but he's taking someone else. so i was thinking of taking my other friend, whom i really really REALLY like.
the only problem is that he doesn't go to my school, and won't know anybody there. i'd feel weird if i go off to talk to my other friends while he just stands around doing nothing. plus, neither of us dance. so we wouldn't have much to do. anyone have any ideas on what i could do? (link)
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Introduce him, Include him in the conversations. It also might help if it was possible you could introduce him to a few friends before hand so it isn't totally left on the side lines.
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He said he didn't want a serious relationship right now. He said we could still be friends but he didn't really talk to me unless I started it. He said I did nothing wrong and that it was him. Then he hooked up with a slut and doesn't talk to her anymore. Then, he told my friend that he was frustrated that he "found the right girl but doesn't stay with her." Is that me? Does he want me back? (link)
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If a guy doesn't know what he wants then obviously he isn't ready to have a serious relationship, Even if that was you, you still might want to give him time to straighten things out until he is sure he knows what he wants. If he said he didn't want a serious relationship then don't rush things or you won't get one.
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so how do you make your self throw up?
fingers dont work. dont worry, im not planning on do it. i dont know anybody that is doing it but im in health class and thats our topic. yeah, i know, its weird but i need infooo. i rate 5 for all(: (link)
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I'm not going to tell you how to make yourself throw up however I find it a little hard to believe that health class is talking about "How to make yourself throw up" unless you are referring to bulimia or eating disorders. I hope you are not planning on making yourself throw up not only does it rot your teeth but it can certainly isn't good for your insides
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I'm 15 and have recently found out that I'm pregnant the guy wants nothing to do with it and i've been really stressed out about it, people keep saying you can hit yourself in the stomach and make yourself miscarriage is this true ? and what are the symptoms of miscarriage.. thank you (link)
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Obviously you are NOT mature enough to have a child yet alone even be having sex if you are planning/questioning whether you should seek an easy way out by possibly killing your own child by punching your stomach. You want out then be mature enough to seek an adoption don't put your immaturity on the child.
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18/f
So I am scheduled to get my next birth control shot on Friday. I was also planning on going to a party later that night. I was wondering if alcohol has any effects with the depo provera birth control shot?? Thanks (link)
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I was on the Depo shot for 2 years. I can surely say that if you drink alcohol you may experience some severe muscle aching. Everyone is different but mine lasted a good day or so and it was awful.
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I have vitiligo on the back of my right leg and have had it since I was born. Recently I've noticed the skin is somewhat dry and has a greenish tint to it, almost like mold. Is this anything to be worried about? Or is it just dry skin and should I moisturize it? It's not melanoma because that's typically black, etc. Or so I'm assuming. (link)
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I'm not exactly sure about the whole greenish part, but I also have vitiligo. The only thing I can suggest for you is seeing a dermatologist. If you want to get rid of it they can prescribe a body conditioner that you rub on your body and it is supposed to fade away after so many times of use. Also I have heard they have some remedies as to getting rid of it as well I'm not sure how good of use it is but some of them are eating more spinach and drinking green tea.
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i like this guy so i asked my friend to see what he thinks of me and he said im a whore! what the freak do i do now? drop it? dress more modest? i dont know! he always stares at my body so i dont get y hes complainging, im sure it was just locker room babble but still. sometimes guys liek whores.. (not that i am one!) (link)
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A guy that thinks you are a "whore" is obviously a jerk who doesn't know the meaning of respect. I wouldn't even be surprised if he didn't know how to treat a woman the way they should be treated. Be yourself.. but straight forward MOVE ON
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This guy I was together with said he thought he had liked me and that he wanted a serious relationship, but he changed his mind and doesn't want that. Basically, he just wants to hook up and he pretty much dumped me for a slut. He said he wanted to be friends still and I want to, but he won't talk to me! He ended it 2 weeks ago and I've talked to him twice and I initiated it both times. It wasn't anything big just small talk. He's also a recovering smoker and he'll have mints when he wants a cigarettes. One day, my friend gave me some mints so I gave them to him. He said thanks but that's it. I don't get it. He'll say hi to me in school but he won't talk to me but he wants to be friends. Why is he taking no action? (link)
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Dropping hints to you that obviously he is isn't interested in being friends with you. Friends don't just ignore each other and if he really was a friend or wanted to be a friend he'd act like it. He isn't worth your time
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When I put my jeans on they fit like they should, but as the day goes on they stretch out some. I don't wash my jeans every single time i wear them, because they just don't get that dirty...is there any way besides washing & drying them to get them back to how they were before they got stretched out? (link)
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Jeans don't last forever..They sound like they are starting to wear down..
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ok so i havent seen this guyfor a long time and i saw him bout a month ago and we started texting, he started calling me hun and babe and i started liking him and he started liking mee too . so we hung out and it went really good and i met his parents and some of his friends , after we hung out we kissed and the next day we hung out and like the 3rd time we hung out i knew he wanted to finger me but he didnt and so after we hung out he asked me if i wanted him to and i said i would feel more comfortable if we were dating and hes like yaa thats understandable them. then a couple days later he said that this girl that we both know told him that he is wat too good for me and that hes a man of action and i wont give it him, and i asked him if hes gunna listen to her and hes like no i like you and he also said he doesnt care if he gets action because he likes me for me . so then yesterday we hung out and he sorta tried to finger me but i sorta pulled away .. and he got the picture .... but we had fun and he seemed really happy , so then i had to go to work so this morning i texted him and he was just saying one word answers which is really not like him . so then he appoligized for trying to finger me and i said 'its fine but like i said before i would be more comfortable if we were dating and i want to make sure that im not some girl you can take advantage of and call up whenever you want action'and hes like ya thaat makes sence and i was like so ar you using me or not and hes like nope =P and that isnt really a convincing answer...and so i was like do you wanna hang out tonight and he said suure =P ...... like what should i think bout this situation? do you think he actually likes me or is using me ? and what should i think bout what he said today ?
thanks
kaitlyn (link)
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Look...Guys don't always admit it but they think about sex all the time. I'm not saying do stuff you don't want to do but I think all he wants is sex and is just trying to be nice about the fact that you aren't ready. Find someone who completely respects you
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My boyfriend & I want to have sex for the first time soon.
We're both virgins, so I'd like to know what I should be expecting. (Of course we're goign to use protection.) I've heard that the girl's gonna be in pain & the guy's not going to last very long. If this is true, elaborate please? Like how much pain, what will it feel like, abotu how long will he 'last'? (link)
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Okay seriously..Think about what you just asked here..If you have to ask then obviously you just aren't mature enough and that is as clear as it gets. Sorry to sound harsh but that is the truth however I'm almost 100% that my advice as well as the ones given aren't going to stop you...but you might want to really rethink what you are getting yourself into.
1. You sound young and whether that is 13,14,15..16 or even 17 for this matter. You are still YOUNG
2. If you don't want to take any risk, Don't want to end up with a baby cause who knows condoms aren't always 100% safe. Then I highly advise you NOT to have sex.
3. Sure sex is a fun thing and pleasurable..but again rethink everything before you go and have sex the question ANYONE should ask themselves before having sex with their partner is "Are you ready for a possible parenthood?" and if you DO get pregnant how exactly are you going to provide for this child? Having sex just because you are bored is not always worth the consequences.
And just to point out...These days the rate for teenagers having sex just because they are bored or "think" they are in love is VERY high
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Umm this is a really weird question
im 15/f
I saw a picture of a penis...no questions please.
Um I think that they are really gross looking... uhh it makes me feel really awkward that all my guy friends have them...ughh
And yes, I'm 15, not 11.
I'm not like, a lesbian or something am i..?
:S (link)
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No this doesn't make you a lesbain
I agree with Christina, A penis is just a part of the male anatomy...It is not supposed to look "pretty". Also, If you have to come to us asking if you are a lesbian because you think a penis looks unattractive then clearly you shouldn't be looking at penises because you are not mature enough.
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ok, if you are reading this you probably have already read the first part and know pretty much the whole story..
so recently my stepmom and dad got into a huge fight. my dad was working that day so i went over to comfort her. she told me she talked to her younger son, 16, (my stepbrother). she told me that he said something about me. She said he said " it hurts him to see me going through all this drama all over again, considering ive seen my mother suffer because of my dad and now to see my stepmom who is also my bestfriend suffering is like the past repeating itself. he also supposably said that he feels that i am part of his family because they suffered all their lives like i have.. also stating that i am brave, kind, pretty and have a big heart and that he feels bad seeing me in situations like this." when i heard this i couldnt help but cry. i burst out crying because no one has ever said anything like that or that nice about me. what blew me away was that he thinks of me as pretty. no one has ever told me i was pretty when i was little or even to this day. its always you LOOK pretty or you LOOK beautiful today. i found out this out about a week ago, and i havent stopped thinking about him and wondering if he actually feels the same way about me. i dont know...im confused... what do you think??? (link)
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Girl,
He is your stepbrother you two may not be blood related but you are family. It is not really clean to be looking at your family as your "lover, mate, boyfriend" that is just wrong....almost as bad as incest and I think you need to get over the little crush you have on him because if you don't people are gonna get grossed out
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my boyfriend hasn't called in 4 days. i have no idea why. usually it has something to do with me being a bitch or something along those lines, other times its just him being busy, but even then he'll call after just a couple of days. the last time we talked was when he told me that we couldn't get together on new years, and i was pretty upset about it for a while but got over it quickly.
like i said, usually if he's acting like this, i know the reason or have a pretty good idea. but as of right now, i am COMPLETELY in the dark and totally confused. should i wait for him to call me, which might be never, depending on why hes mad (if he's mad), or should i wait for a certain length of time and call him? anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Try calling him? ...If you DO call him on regular basis and he still does this then maybe he is trying to tell you he needs some space. Communication IS the key in relationships and if this is going to work then you two better start talking more.
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So my boyfriend never pays for me, like when we go out to eat or out to the movies. It's not like he doesnt have the money, im pretty sure he does. Anyway, I dont really care, but my parents are so judgemental, they think that its only appropriate for a guy to at least offer. what do i do? I wouldnt let him pay for everything, of course, but it would make me feel better if he offered. Opinions? (link)
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I believe in paying half on the price or taking turns one pays one time and the other pays the next. You should care at least enough to wonder if you are his sugar mama? Hm I don't think it is acceptable at all sounds like the guy might be taking advantage of you to some level
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what are rich brand names? like juicy couture.. victoria's secret... (link)
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Apple Bottoms
Nordstrom
Zappos
Baby Phat
Wet Seal
American Eagle
Abercrombie
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