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I am 48 years old (yes that's old compared to some of you).
I have worked in nursing and/or healthcare management positions for 24 years. Primarily OB, Neonatal, Mental Health, Occupational Health and Geriatrics. In Jan 2008 I started my own business to board horses and do equine/human education. I am also a certified dog trainer.
I've been around the block so to speak and seem to be always helping others. I've been told that the reason people seek me out for advice is that I am approachable and caring. But on the same token even though I consider the person's feelings. I tell it like I see it. I've dealt with people in trouble with the law, dysfunctional families such as those with abuse & marriage problems. Not to mention problems with employees and employers.
I don't ever claim to know it all, and always keep an open mind.
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im 16/f i like this guy. lets call him tom and he went out with his ew g/f for like 2 years. lets call her sam. they had a really bad relationship and they always fought and honeslty didnt love eachother they just didn't know anything else. so sam breaks up with him and he asks me for advice. i help him through it and now we're like dating but not officially. he tells me he loves me but only when he feels like it. how does he really feel?
From what you told me, it's hard to know how he really feels. Something you want to watch for is that you are not a rebound girlfriend. Give it some time, if it was meant to be it will work out.
is it the wrong choice to want to keep my babay is it selfish i am 17 will be in programs to help me live with my mom which she wants to help dont know the father i couldnt even imagine giving birth just to see it go evevn if it was the best thing is that selfish i dont wantto regert eti miss it cry evernight i guess im lokking for the baby to heal me to give me joy and happiness ive read in the bible that adoption is not a good option that the wicked snatch fatherless babies from the mothers breast mary was only 16 but its one of those things that i have a sad felling about aregretful feeling and i dont even want any advice bc im so scare dto thibnk about it another way please help me figure this mess out
A lot of 17 year olds become Mother's for the first time. Many struggle, but many turn out to be okay. If you are determined, and have help, you can make a good life for you and your baby. You are probably scared, and that's understandable. Learn all you can about babies, and being a Mom. If you want to keep your baby, and someone trys to talk you out of it, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Last night I was at a party and I smoked skunk 1 (its supposed to be the best weed ever) well it was my first time smoking (that type of weed) and it had a BIG effect on me but NOT in a good way!
I literally thought I was going deaf (I heard a ringing in my ear and it got louder and louder) and then we went outside and I couldn't see anything, like I was losing my eyesight. My friends and I were so scared (but then 2 seconds later they forgot about it) but it lasted for 4 hours!! So does anybody know why this would happen to me?
Has this happened to anybody else and should I not smoke this kind of weed anymore?
The pot was laced with something to make it more addictive and stronger. Possibly PCP, which is a pig tranquilizer. If the drug was in the process of knocking you out..your senses would be the first part of your body that are affected. Since you'd never know if any pot was laced with PCP--you certainly don't have the means to test it. The best advice would be to never do that, or any drugs again.
My boyfriend is a great guy.He works double time to pay his bills.
However,He works alot, has two jobs and trains in boxing.
When he's not doing those, he's sleeping.
I feel a little neglected. We've talked about it before but he's seen it as nagging. How do I bring this up to him again (I told him I'd stop talking about it) without making it a confrenation or an arguement?
He hardly gives me any attention anymore and it makes me sad.
I want him to know I don't need to be doted on 24/7 but some attention would be nice.
You have a right to feel the way you do. In fact my husband is like this at times too. What I have done in the past is get really busy myself. I go places and do things with friends, and don't invite him. I got tired of asking for his attention...so I didn't ask anymore, and like you I told him I wouldn't bring it up. What I have found is when I ignore him, he gets the hint much faster and will eventually ask for some time together. So when I pull away, he moves closer. I don't know if this would work in your situation, but it seems like you have nothing to lose by trying these suggestions.
I'm 13/f and have the most "gorgeous" bedroom. or so my mother says. it's all matchy matchy and looks like it could be in one of those design magazines, because my mom is an interior designer. but i don't like it, its too stuffy! What are some easy ways to update my room? i want it to be like a teen chill out place. and where can i get these things? thanx! xoxo alicia
Something simple without ruining the beautiful decor is a black light bulb in a lamp, or a disco light. You can change the effects, but not the room it's self. I know you can buy both of those at a store called Spencer gifts.
Okay well I get sick way to often =[
sense thursday night ive been running fevers on and off i get chills so horribly my teeth chatter =[ i take medicene which helps it for a lil and then it comes back just as bad as before. and this happened like 3 weeks ago also.. i really dont think this isnormal and im freaked out, please help me
ill rate high
A fever is a sign of an infection. It's not normal. Don't freak out, just go to the Doctor so he/she can figure out what is wrong.
hey people
i have this problem: everyone hates me!! i have no friends at all! my crush once loved me and now...i dont know i've been mean and he ignores me...and i always say things i dont really want to say. like today my room was a little messy and my dad calls me an asshole just because i had a book lieing on the floor. he sais i'm a retard and that he never wanted a daughter like me , and my mom just stands there and laughs. and my dad is like a monster for me he runs after me in the house screaming and with spit in his mouth. i just dont know what to do anymore. and just because i had one book on the floor he said he's gonna control my room every day now...and i feel so bad right now..theres no1 to talk to and i dont have friends here because we just moved here. i feel terible and i also appologized to my crush and everything but first he gives me high five like i thought everything is fine again and the next day he ignores me again. i'm really confused....i feel really alone
what should i do?
I really doubt that everyone hates you, it just feels that way sometimes.
The way to stop saying things that you don't want to say..is to just stop doing it. No one controls what comes out of your mouth but you. When you are frustrated, stop and count to ten before you say anything. Apparently you are learning some bad habits from your Dad, he shouldn't say those things to you, but he hasn't learned how to control his mouth either. Parents get frustrated, in fact we all get frustrated, we must forgive and forget!...remember this Quote.
Speak when you're angry, and you'll make the best speech you'll ever regret.
Lawrence J. Peter
I'm a bit of a slob, and while re-organizing my closet (aka picking my clothes up off the floor), I found a whole lot of mouse poop. I don't really keep food in my room, and when I do eat in my room, it's not in the closet.
So how do I get rid of the mice? I keep my clothes in this area, so I'd rather not use strong chemicals. I also don't want to be picking up dead mice. So what's the most humane, safest way to get rid of them?
Use a live mouse trap. Once you catch a mouse take it way out in the country and let it go! No mess, no poison and very effective!
You should look for holes where the mice are coming in the house and plug them up with steel wool. By the way, they can flatten their body and get into a very small hole..even smaller than a dime!
whats a good way to get rid of bacene...ive tried a whole bunch of stuff... but they havent worked for me. does anyone know any things that does help?
If you've tried a lot of over the counter medications and they are not working, you probably need to see a dermatologist for the stronger prescription medication.
i have a 6month old pit/bull mastiff mix. we love him to death we consider one of our child (which makes 5) our only 2 problems with him are how do we get him to goto the bathroom outside and not inside( i walk him for like 1 &1/2 hours and he wont go outside he holds it until we get back in the house. Can a dog have adhd/add his sister is so calm but taz is so hyper that when people come over we have to put him in his cgae which i feel so bad for doing cause he loves people. Its just his nails are sharp and he actually cut my niece's back open (thank god she didnt need stitches). I REALLY NEED SOME ADVISE FOR TAZ IM NOT THE TYPE THAT LIKES TO BE MEAN TO ANIMALS. SO NOTHING TO HARSH PLEASE!
The other answer about the house breaking, is correct. The simplest way to do this is crate training.
A dog cannot have ADHD/ADD. If he is not neutered, that will help. He is a puppy yes, but something tells me he is trying to be the pack leader. You will have to assume that roll in order to keep the dog balanced. When you treat dogs like children..they become unbalanced. You don't have to be harsh, just firm.
Putting him away when people come over will not correct his excitment. Exposing him to many people and many different situations will build his threshold and help him learn to stay calm.
Obedience class will teach you techniques to deal with your dog. Visitors can help, if you teach them the "No look, no touch, no talk" rules. No one should pay any attention to the dog while he is in his excited state. No one pets him until all four feet are on the floor. You & the dog will learn the "down stay" command in obedience class. Keep him on a leash at home while you practice, you can even step on the leash to prevent him from getting up and jumping on people.
It's not harsh..it's more harsh to let his bad behavior continue until he is completely out of control.
im not overweight, but i'm really small. im not even 5 feet tall. i love my height and everything... but the problem is that even though i'm not overweght, it still feels like i weigh more than i can handle because of how small i am
i'm 4"ll
my bra size is like a 34C (which takes a toll on my back)
i weigh like around 110
i just wanna lose 10 pounds. but thers gotta be an easier way. ive been eating right. i drink like 7 water bottles a day. i even got a personal trainer to help me... and maybe there have been results, but i just don't see them. i really really want to lose the weight because its taking a toll on my back... not because i'm overweight but just because i'm so small and i fell like its more than i can handle. there has to be some easier way. thers gotta be like some powerful drink or something that burns calories. any help would be appreciated. thank you :)
Here's some excellent ideas to increase your BMR
and help you burn more calories.
http://www.weightlossresources.co.uk/calories/burning_calories/burn_more_calories.htm
Best Wishes :-)
My mom smokes and it really grosses me out because I had the smell of cigarettes. I'm also worried about her health. What should I do?
The thing about smoking is, it is much easier to never start than it is to quit. All the information in the world isn't going to help your Mom unless she wants to quit. Perhaps you can work out some kind of deal with her--like a bribe. Like "Mom if you quit, I will_________" whatever you think would motivate her. If all else fails, in a kind way, ask that she smoke outside or in a closed room away from you. If you are traveling in a car with her ask if she can make frequent stops so she can get out and smoke.
If she won't quit, these ideas would be the next best thing for your health anyway.
I'm a sophomore in high school and I'm in love with my foreign language teacher.
I developed a crush on him at the end of my freshman year and since then, it's grown a lot and it's becoming unbearable. It's a blessing that this year is coming to an end because having his class every day has been miserable but I found out this week that I'm getting him again next year and I don't know what to do.
I've been told that it's just a phase that I'm going through but it's lasted way too long and I can't seem to get over it. I rarely speak to him, I can't look him in the eye, and I always feel so miserably awkward in his class and I don't know how I'm going to get through another year with him. And I'm miserable because I know nothing can ever happen.
I don't know what to do. I can't make myself comfortable in a situation like this and I'm thinking about dropping his class even though I'm so interested in it. Is this really just a phase I'm going through? Is it normal for teenage girls to totally fall in love with their teachers for no reason? How am I supposed to handle this?
It's normal, and it happens way more than you are aware of because others just don't talk about it. A lot of teens have idols, nothing wrong with that. It doesn't become a problem until it becomes an obsession. If you can't think of anything else, it may already be an obsession.
Something that might help is "Thought Stopping" meaning at least when you are in his class, you can control your thinking. Of course as you already know, it would not be safe to act on your feelings, so therefore you must continue to control them. The more you do this, the easier it will become. You will probably be able to take his class next year without a problem.
http://www.coping.org/selfesteem/lifestyle/stop.htm
This question is a little bit long, but I used good grammer so it's readable!
I'm really in a bad situation. I just got broken up with by a guy who I was with for over a year and it's been 3 weeks ever since and all I've felt like doing is drinking alcohol or anything that I can find. I've never drank before, so these are weird feelings for me. I've heard that when you drink, for a while you are numb, and for the longest time I've always thought that if I could have at least one moment with all of my problems forgotten, I'd do whatever it takes and it's so true for me. I can't stop wanting to do something extreme like cutting, or drinking or not eating. What I'm really looking for is something to numb the pain in the moment. Like a drug or something that I can run to when I get depressed. Lately, I've been 'sleeping in' to forget about everything and I'm in love with sleep and I feel addicted to it. I know these feelings aren't good and I'm really scared for the next time I get depressed that I will take extreme actions.
I'm a 15 year old female by the way
Thank you, anything can help me at this point and I'll be sure to get back to you with rating!
First of all you must accept that you just experienced a loss and need time to feel better. It's okay to feel depressed in your situation, and it's okay to cry. Everyone experiences pain and losses in their lives, but not everyone harms themselves physically, and somehow they make it through. My advice is to stop trying to "numb" the pain and face it head on. There is no set time limit to grieve, and no right way to feel better, but there is a wrong way.
Write poems, listen to sad music, look at pictures of your ex, meditate, do yoga, watch sad movies, talk to friends and family who will listen. Reflect on your relationship and how since it ended it really wasn't meant to be.
There must have been signs that your ex wasn't Mr nice guy, write those things down. He broke up with you, and probably saved you years of pain by leaving, be thankful that he ended it now instead of 5 years from now. Everything happens for a reason.
Well, i have been having it rough lately in life, and i am getting to the point, like now, to where i dont want to be here anymore, as in Yucaipa!
Yucaipa is so fricken gay, and how people are is gay too!
In Yucaipa it is not like most places, because in most places, there are not people that hang out in groups. Everybody almost everywhere else hangs out with everybody. Dont get me wrong, i have a lot of friends and know almost everybody in the school, but there are not many people like me, that like to hang out with everybody.
Also, at my dads house, i kinda live the cinderella story except for, i have a dad, but i dont have a mom! I have two step sisters, but one is cool and one is not! Anyways, i could go on about my household, but i need to get to the poin, because lots of people dont like to read the long ones.
Well, my step mom is literally psychic and she uses it to harm me, and not to help me, and i just barely found this out like a couple weeks ago, and it is scaring me, to the point to where i cried all night long.
My step mom wrewened my whole life basically to. She cheeted with my dad which made my dad cheat on my mom, and then my mom dies, and she talks crap about her. She is such a BITCH!
Anyways, i dont know what to do, because i really want to live with my sister, which i live with on the weekends, but i dont want to hurt my dads feelings, even though i really dont even know him very well, but still was forced in his power, to live with him.
Does anybody have any ideas for me to leave and live with my sister, i hate living there, because the things that i would see my dad do to my mother when i was younger, and my step mom is crazy.
I really need help, please!
Reading between the lines, I see a young person who is bitter, angry and hurt because of the cards that have been dealt to her. You will not find happiness by leaving town and moving in with your sister, because happiness starts from within. In other words, what I am saying is, work on your problems, with a therapist or counselor and then decide what direction you want to take in life. You need to learn to put the past behind you, or you won't have a future....no matter where you live.
i hate my dad. its not like one of those days that you just got mad and hate someone. i hate him. my mom knows it. if hes not dead by the time im 18 im willing to pay for a hit man to kill him. my mom knows it. he is so mean to me. he hits me sometimes. i hate it! no one understands. and dont say i should tell because i told my mom and shes waiting for my dad to get some money cause hes sueing these people for hurting his leg. so any advice? ANY THAT DOESNT INCLUDE TELLING ANYONE
So, let me get this right. Your Dad is mean to you, and he hits you, but your Mom makes you endure abuse because of pending money? I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but your Mom is also guilty of abuse. You already know the correct advice, but you want someone to agree with what your Mom wants you to do. Nope, that's just plain wrong...follow your gut instinct and tell before you end up in the emergency room, dead or worse yet in prison for life. Sorry, I can't tell you to put up with abuse...even for a million bucks.
I really appreciate the time you took in anwsering me about my 5 month old dog & his issues (mounting my daughter).
Thankfully we have gotten & followed great instruction about teaching our dog his postion in the family klan. At the same time I understand this mounting issue can be a sign of something.
All that to ask, do you think neutering our dog will affect if muscle build, and overall size? I know this is vanity but it is a concern.
Thanks!
Sometimes neutered dogs become more docile and have a tendency to gain weight. However, I have not noted a difference in size or muscle mass in any of the dogs I have had neutered. As long as the dog doesn't have any health problems and gets regular exercise the muscle mass should develop normally. As far as size, I think this could be addressed with nutrition and a higher protien dog food. However if the breed of dog you own is prone to hip displaysia, or if hip displaysia has been discovered in other dogs in his family you wouldn't want him to gain weight too rapidly anyway.
Someone keeps prank calling our home phone. We have no idea who it is and why this is happening. It happens a good 15 times a day. It's been going on for 4 days now. Prior to these past 4 days (about 4 weeks ago), the same thing was occurring - prank calls a good 15 times a day. Yes, that time those calls did stop on their own, but it went on for weeks on end. We never did anything about it, but we probably should have. My main focus for now is right now. Nothing is said when we answer the phone, and they only stay on the line for maybe 1 second. The number is set 'Private'. Could this be a business? Is it more likely that's the case? What can we do about this? How do we go about reporting them? Do we just dial the police? Is there a certain number we should have? Isn't what's going on here illegal!?! Does anyone have any idea what we should expect if we report them?
Anyone can make their number appear private..so it doesn't mean it is a business.
Okay..two things you can do, buy a telezapper..
http://www.telezapper.com/
And call the phone company and ask how to block private numbers.
I put hair extensions in my hair with the hair glue. It looked good and now i have taken them out... The problem is i have washed my hair like 7 times and the glue still has not came completely out. Does anyone know what will get it out???
The place where you bought the glue for the extensions should have the solvent, or glue remover. If not a beauty supply store should carry the correct product. If you need something quick, try vaseline or mineral oil. You might have to leave it on overnight, and it will be hard to wash out but it will most likely work too.
I am writing this letter to you because I don't know what to do. I am really scared that my use of Codeine is out of control. I feel pressured by my friends to be part of the drug scene. I see people in the media using drugs for pleasure. When I'm high on drugs, I forget all my problems and school is unimportant. I've dropped out of sports and I do whatever I can to get money for my drugs.
(This isn't actually me, it's posted for a friend.)
Thanks,
Skentelbery
Okay, if your friend is using codiene the way you described he/she most likely needs to see an addiction counselor. A 12 step program like narc-anon can also be helpful. Since the addiction, and peer pressure is so strong he/she will probably not stop without professional help.