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Extreme Self-Destruction
This question is a little bit long, but I used good grammer so it's readable!
I'm really in a bad situation. I just got broken up with by a guy who I was with for over a year and it's been 3 weeks ever since and all I've felt like doing is drinking alcohol or anything that I can find. I've never drank before, so these are weird feelings for me. I've heard that when you drink, for a while you are numb, and for the longest time I've always thought that if I could have at least one moment with all of my problems forgotten, I'd do whatever it takes and it's so true for me. I can't stop wanting to do something extreme like cutting, or drinking or not eating. What I'm really looking for is something to numb the pain in the moment. Like a drug or something that I can run to when I get depressed. Lately, I've been 'sleeping in' to forget about everything and I'm in love with sleep and I feel addicted to it. I know these feelings aren't good and I'm really scared for the next time I get depressed that I will take extreme actions.
I'm a 15 year old female by the way
Thank you, anything can help me at this point and I'll be sure to get back to you with rating!
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okay.. you do not want to start cutting or drinking or doing drugs to get rid of your problem.i use to cut when ever i was down and that just left horrible marks on my wrist that will never go away and it doesnt really help that much cause no matter how much you cut it doesnt go away.. I have tried drinking sooo much that everything goes away but wen you wake up its still gunna be there and i have drank myself into rehab and its not good.. drugs work but they arnt good and mess you up.. What i think you have to do is find someone you trust with everything! and tell them whats going on and how you are feeling and then see what they have to say about it adn maybe they will help you out..Cutting and Drinking and Drugs are not the anwsers they will mess you up and make everything else worse..
Well I hope i Helped you..
Good Luck,!!
<3 Brianna
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First of all you must accept that you just experienced a loss and need time to feel better. It's okay to feel depressed in your situation, and it's okay to cry. Everyone experiences pain and losses in their lives, but not everyone harms themselves physically, and somehow they make it through. My advice is to stop trying to "numb" the pain and face it head on. There is no set time limit to grieve, and no right way to feel better, but there is a wrong way.
Write poems, listen to sad music, look at pictures of your ex, meditate, do yoga, watch sad movies, talk to friends and family who will listen. Reflect on your relationship and how since it ended it really wasn't meant to be.
There must have been signs that your ex wasn't Mr nice guy, write those things down. He broke up with you, and probably saved you years of pain by leaving, be thankful that he ended it now instead of 5 years from now. Everything happens for a reason.
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hey, well you need to open up to someone. obv. everyone is depressed at one or more point(s) in there lives. but is tehre anyone that you can talk to about this? aunt, mom, sister any relative? if not then you should try councilling. that way you can open up to someone you dont even know. for some people thats better. but for some people thats worse, and they would rather open up to a relative. if you ever need anything just tell me your AIM s/n and i would be more than happy to talk to you = ]]. cait♥
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Thanks for the grammer, you have no idea how much that helps!
If you are thinking of harming yourself, then you need to talk to someone. Everyone feels depressed sometimes, especially after breakups, but you aren't handling it well. It could really help you to find a therapist to give you some perspective and help you find healthy ways to cope. Don't turn to destructive habits, it does far more harm then good. You need help to face the issue, and that's the only way to heal.
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Eveything I say here is going to sound a bit weak but i can vouch for them working at least to some extent.
Firstly is there anyone you can talk to who you totally trust to just listen to you and take of you for a while? Talking it out with someone like that is a really good start and if you have someone like that in your life you're very lucky. If not, pouring it out to a random stranger can help(kinda like you're doing here i guess) or put it in a web journal.
Second allow yourself some moping time then GO OUT. Even if you don't feel like it go and hang out with your friends and make a concious effort to enjoy yourself
which leads to the nest point- be nice to yourself. Whatever that means for you, just indulge yourself in doing things you love for a while and don't let anyone make you feel guilty about it. Remember that you're doing it because you deserve it and deserve to feel happy.
Hope you feel better soon.
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Hi there i happened to be reading your question and i can't say that i know what your going through i've never experienced a bad breakup to the point where it would make me feel like that. it really worried me when i was reading your question, you seem very nice but don't put yourself through something like that try to keep your mind off of the breakup, instead of drinking do something that you like to do i suggest with a good friend your so young not much younger than me i'm 21 and when i have bad days i'll admit i think straight to drinking however instead i call a friend and they always help me through everything. If thats what you need i'd be happy to lend an ear out. Please take care of yourself and think positive you do deserve that much.
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