Well my best friends boyfriend and me used to like really close then recently me and him grew apart and he has been a complete ass to me. He asked my friend not to talk to me that much anymore and if she listens to him i dont know what im going to do. But she would never break up with him and if he said he was going to break up with her cuz of me i no she would never talk to me again cuz she really loves him. what do i do?
I think you should talk directly to your best friend's boyfriend. Tell him that you used to be really close and that you don't know what you did to make him not want your best friend to talk to you. If you try to clear things up with him, he might be more apt to not try to break up you and your best friend's friendship.
Also, in all honesty, the woman below me is 100% correct. If your 'best friend' would stop talking to you because a guy told her to, she's not really such a good friend. If I were you I would talk to her about that.
Hope this helps.(:
Darby
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i have a youtube account that i dont want anymoore.
i cant remember the password..or the email that i used for it..so i cant get on it..but is there anyway i can deactivate the account even though i cant remember the password?
Unfortunately, you can't delete an account that you aren't logged into. Try to remember all of your e-mail accounts from the time that you made youtube account and have them send the password to them.
Hope you remember it(:
Darby
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i have shaved my thighs before and i do on a regualar basis but i was wondering which way i should shave, up or down, in order to avoid the red spots i sometimes get.
You definitely want to shave up (the opposite way the hair grows) If you don't, you won't get a good shave and you can get razor burn or ingrown hair.
Hope this helps(:
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(this is long but I would really REALLY appreciate you reading it
and giving me some advice.)
Ok, So there's this guy. We met at a bible study.
And when we first met I noticed he starred at me alot
and whatever and he eventually asked for my number.
So we start talking on the phone, Then one day he told me he
liked me and that I was cute.. So I told him I liked him too.
At the biblestudy there's this stupid rule that says you cant date
anyone there. Like nobody can date eachother, or if they do they will get kicked out. So One day I asked if we were dateing, b/c I was confused. Like he didnt say we were but he acted like it.
He said no.. That hurt me.
So I made a small lie, One day he asked me on the phone what
I did that day, and I said just hung out with Kevin.
-who's Kevin?
-Oh this guy,
-What guy?
-A guy
-Do you like him, (ect.)
and you know getting all jelous, and he said,
Well I dont like other guys going around the girls I like.
and I said, Well you said so yourself, were not dateing,
So why does it matter?
He said, Its not that he didnt want to date me, he just didnt want
to get kicked out of the study again, (He's been kicked out before
for dateing someone.) Excuse or not?
We didnt talk awhile after that, Then later when we werent
talking he came up to me one night outside the biblestudy and
put his arms around me and asked me what was wrong,
(I was avoiding him.)
I said we havent been talking.
Later things were still weird, then I was having this stupid
breakdown about my Exboyfriend, I talked to my friend about it
but she had to go somewhere real quick and he came and put his
arm around me asking me whats wrong. he was so understanding,
He asked me if I still had feelings for my ex, and that its his loss cause I'm a wonderful girl, and when we were done talking and we hugged, Without thinking, I kissed him on the cheek, He noticed this and kissed me on mine.
The next week at the biblecamp, We somehow ended up alone ouside,
and he had his arm around me, Then we french kissed.. XD
Ever sense then weve been just like we were before, Except alot
more flirting and touching.. I was so confused, Beacuse I dont want to be a whore. I really like this guy, But I'm not going to do crap with him if were not even dateing.
So yesterday on the phone I said..
"You know that were technically dateing right?"
"We are?"
"We have been for awhile now.."
"Ok."
"What?"
"Ok."
WTF DOES OK MEAN??
Yes? whatever?
I'm so lost. PLEEASSE HELP ME!
Wow, guys are confusing. This boy is giving you mixed signals like crazy!
The best thing to do is ask him point blank. "Do you like me?" If he says yes, ask him why he's so squeamish when you mention 'dating'. It honestly doesn't make sense to me that the no dating rule in bible study would stop him from dating you. I know that when I really like a guy, no one can stop me from dating him if he likes me back.
I would keep trying for a while. See if his attitude changes after you talk to him. Tell him that if he really likes you, bible study wouldn't stop him from dating you.
From what you're saying, it sounds like he kind of just wants to fool around. But since he got so jealous when you mentioned Kevin, it sounds like he wants you to himself.
Give him a little bit more time to straighten out. If he keeps this up though, it's time to move on.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Hey,
I am 16f. So,theres this guy i know, but he is totally a shy guy (about a year older)..he only lives 10 minutes driving from where I do,and is very sweet.I met him in person once,but it was at my workplace and I was busy at the moment when he came in,so we were not able to talk in person..just seen eachother and had a passing glance..(hes cute).We have had eachothers cell numbers previous to this day and had been texting non-stop constantly.I know everything about him and he knows basically everything about me.We get along very well and text eachother fairly often :) But,he is way to shy to come see me,and I am not sure where he works or if he feels anything towards me.He told me he had a girlfriend once,and it turned out he was just sorta lying and i am not sure if it was just to make me jealous ;) and then just the other day, I had written 'soulmate' as my signature on my cell and right away he asked 'what is up with your signature?'. I told him it is a song, because it is.And i do not have a different guy on my mind AT ALL.. but I don't know what he is thinking now,if he believes me that it is a song,or even if he was jealous that I may be seeing someone else..?
How can you tell if someone truly likes you from a text message? I really like him, but i cannot tell if he is truly meaning what he hints.. ;) and how can you get a shy guy to meet you somewhere just to hang out? I at least want a convo face to face, you know.. but hes just too shy :p
It sounds like this guy likes you. The only way you'll be certain though is if you ask him. If it turns out he does like you, try to plan an outing. Maybe get one of your friends and one of his friends to come along. That way it will be like a double date and there won't be too much first date awkwardness. You will be able to get to know each other without having so much pressure to keep up the conversation. I agree with the person below me that bowling would be good. You could also go skating if you have a skating rink nearby. That way you could 'accidentally' have to hold onto his arms to keep your balance (;
Hope this helps
Darby(:
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I have this friend. Well, we USED to be best friends. However, throughout a couple years, I've kind of matured a bit and learned a lot and what not. She hasn't. So we're growing apart. The thing is, she is and always has been copying me. When we first met, she made friends with all of my friends. She got her hair dyed and cut to match mine, she was interested in all the guys I was, she called us "twins" all the time, and she basically did ALL the same stuff as me ALL the time. Yeah, yeah I know it's supposed to be the highest form of flattery, but to me, it's the highest form of annoyance. I don't know why I put up with it for as long as I have. Well, over Christmas I got a brand new phone which I had been waiting FOREVER for. It was so cool because it was SUPER expensive so no one around where I live had it. Then I came in to school today and she has the EXACT same phone as me. Same model, same color! This seriously struck something in me. It's like she's trying to be me and it's majorly creepy and disturbing. I know we're growing apart, but I don't want her to take MY unique qualities that she adapted to with her. They aren't her, they're me :( I just don't know...how do I get her to stop? And possibly completely distance myself from her? I just don't have time to worry about silly friend issues when I've got my school work and family issues to deal with :( thanks
I agree, when people copy you to THAT extent, it can be extremely irritating. Remind your friend of her own good attributes. Compliment things that she has that you don't have. It sounds like she has a confidence issue and is seeing you as the solution. If she doesn't stop her copying ways, you're going to have to end the friendship. It sounds like this is really getting to you and, as you said, you don't have time to worry about things like this with everything else that goes on in life. She'll move on and start copying someone new until she finds her own sense of style and uniqueness.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Hi, My bestfriend started going out with my brother ablut 2 years ago and he broke up with her three weeks ago because he had trust issues with her and because of the way she was treating him, which i wasn't aware of until now. He told me everything about how she's always rude and makes him feel that he can't trust her with all her stories she tells him everyday after work about all the guys that asks her out and give her flowers and even ask to have sex with her..he has talked to her about the issues they had and about how she would'nt stop txtn alott of guys and not to mention talk to them on her cell phone and when she does she goes to a corner or hide from him while talk to them on her phone, which i think is really dodgy on her part. She deliberately tries to make him jealous and to the point of him breaking up with her, she played to many mind games and he could'nt tell the truth from a lie when she's talking. but to cut it short..when he broke up with her she used me to try and get him back and asking me for advice, which was hard for me since it's my brother that she went out with. I told her to ask him for one more chance to prove to him how much she loves him and that she'll change, but at the same time, my brother was telling me to tell her to get over it that he doesn't wanna be with her anymore,and called her a lier and that he is over her. that put me in the middle and i hate taking sides, that was until recently i found out she punches and hits him when she doesn't get her way with him, that just made things even more hard. I have stopped hanging out with her but she still txts me. I really wanna tell her off about her attitude and about the way she treated my brother but i don't know how..What should I do??
The way she treated your brother is definitely not right. She sounds like a shady character, not to mention a liar. No matter how pretty she may be, guys don't just randomly give you flowers and ask you out by the flock. You and your brother are right to think that she's not good for him.
But, since they are broken up now, it's best to hold back going off on her. It would be nice to get your feelings out, but since everything is straightened out and your brother doesn't want her back, it's best to stay out of it.
As far as her texting you all the time, if you're not friends anymore and don't even hang out, just slowly stop answering her when she tries to get in contact. She will get the idea before long. If she tries to get you to give her advice again, simply say, "Sorry. I don't like the way you treated my brother and I don't think you're right for him." That will put a quick end to her badgering.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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me and my ex are going to prom this friday. we broke up about 2 weeks ago but he says he still wants me in his life, but his feelings changed...he said that he was debating whether or not they actually did since the day right before we broke up we had this really romantic date that went so well, which he said was just "in denial" or "thinking the other way".. is there any chances we'll get back together after prom? is prom really magical? does anyone have any experiences where they fell back in love after prom? or just were friends before prom then went together and fell in love? thanks so much.
It's hard to say whether or not you guys will get back together. It's not completely out of the question. But you deserve someone that is certain of their feelings. You don't want to pressure him into getting back with you when he has stated that his feelings have changed.
I know you would like to think that you will fall in love after prom, but realistically, it isn't likely. Even if he does get in "denial" again, dating someone that you've already tried to date doesn't usually work.
It sounds like his mind is made up that he doesn't feel the way he used to. Keep your mind open to the possibility of other relationships. Relationships with guys that are 100% sure they want to be with you.
Hope this helps!
Darby
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Well I'm finally allowed to go to one of my friend's 16th birthday parties and I haven't gone to a birthday party since in grade 3 and so I'm very anti-social about these things.
Do people still give people gifts in teen parties? I asked my friend what she wants and she says that I don't need to get her anything but do I REALLY don't have to give her anything? I mean, if I don't and everyone else does, I'll feel really bad but I just really don't know about these kinds of things...
The last few birthday parties I've been to have been kinda split on giving gifts. The person's closest friends will usually get them something. Other people usually just give a card with $5 in it or nothing at all.
If you're not that close to her, just give her a birthday card with some money in it.
Have fun(:
Darby
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okay so i started talking to this guy, we talked for probably 4 hours. some for facebook. then over text, he was telling me how pretty i was and how my ex was stupid for breaking up with me and all this stuff, and how we should hangout. The next day i texted him, and i never got a response, and i haven't talk to him since that night which was friday. Nor has he been on facebook. What do you thinks going on, also my phone keeps messing up and not sending texts to somepeople but idk if he was one of them.
It's possible that he's gotten in trouble and is not allowed to have his phone or be on the internet right now. Try to call his cell phone and see if it is turned off. You should keep trying to get in contact with him. You did say your phone has been messing up, so maybe he didn't even get your text message. If he was that into you the night you talked, I'm sure he didn't just change his mind over night.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Well i really like this guy i told him i liked him he said he didnt like me just only as a friend but i really like him. I always have and i dont think ill stop liking him.
What should i do?
As for now, just be a friend. You never know, maybe your friendship will grow into something more. But don't keep pestering him about dating you. He'll surely never fall for you that way. Just be there for him when he needs you and let him now that you value your friendship.
Keep your mind open to other relationships! You deserve someone that wants to be with you now. And there are guys everywhere. Take a girls night out to a skating rink or bowling alley and try to meet guys there.
Even if you feel like you'll never get over this guy, you will. It will just happen gradually and with time. But keep your options open for now.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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i need advice ... my boyfriend fingered me twice before and it hurt a bit in both times .. but no blood came out !! so does it mean my hymen got broken and i lost my virginity ??? and does fingering makes a girl lose her virginity ???
18/f
You are still a virgin. Fingering does not make a girl lose her virginity. There's no way of knowing whether or not your hymen broke. It might have, even though it didn't bleed. But mine didn't break until I lost my virginity.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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me and my boyfriend broke up about a week ago and as shallow as this sounds, i'm positive that i won't be able to get over him unless i meet someone else, someone better. my ex is like my best friend now and i want it to stay that way but i need that love connection with someone and i know there are better guys out there. so i need to know where to meet a great guy and that will show me that love really does exist. any ideas? 17/f.
First, you need to know that you don't have to be with someone all the time to be happy. It's okay to be single for a while and just hang out with your friends. Don't be so dependent on relationships. In life you have to learn to be independent at times.
Now, the best place to meet a guy is somewhere that will show compatible interests. Your favorite band's concert is a great place to meet a guy because music is a strong similar interest. If you like to read, try meeting someone at your local library. If you like coffee and conversation, meet someone at your local cafe. Malls are good places to meet guys as well as bowling alleys, skating rinks, and golf courses.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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Okay so i've been off and on with this kid,
since 7th grade, (im in 10) and we started talking again. Saying how he loves me and he wants it to work this time. & all the feelings i have for him are back.. one problem. His friend likes me too. & know my ex wont get back with beacuse he doesnt want to mess up his friendship wich i understand i would do the same thing. But his friend as no chance with me i dont like him like that.. and i really just want to be with my ex and i dont know what to do.
You should talk to your ex's friend. Tell him that he's a great guy but you just don't have those feelings for him. Tell him that you have feelings for your ex and that your ex has feelings for you too. That way the information is coming directly from you and not through your ex. If your ex tells his friend that you don't like him, he is more like to get angry. Try to keep it mature and short. Hopefully he will understand and move on. Then you can be with your ex. If you try this and it doesn't work, talk to your ex. Tell him you talked to his friend and that he's just being immature about it. Tell your ex that his friend will get over it when he sees the two of you together for a while. He will get used to it and move on.
Hope this helps!
Darby
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This question is directed towards people who have been in a relationship for two years or more. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 months and the connection we have is different from any other relationship I've had. I really feel like we can make it work and last for a really long time. I just wanted to hear from other people what are some simple things (or not so simple) that you've done to keep your relationship alive and well.
The best advice I can give you guys is to not get too comfortable. When you're first talking to a guy, you're not snippy with him. You don't get angry when a girl's name comes from his mouth. You don't expect him to call you every second of every day. You give him space and time to start liking you. I think a big problem people have in relationships is that they get too comfortable. Of course you're going to want to be able to depend on him, but you need to give him breaks every once and a while, and he needs to do the same. Take things easy, don't rush or force anything. When problems come up with him, start looking at the problems as your problems as well. Don't take things too seriously at first. Don't take things too seriously for a while. If you rush into things in the first six months, there will be nothing left. It will die out quickly.
Most importantly, be best friends. Be there for him during family problems, school problems, financial problems, health problems, etc. The way a friend would be. Hang out and do things like friends would along with doing things that couples do. Don't make everything be sexual. In order to stay together through the years, you have to best friends with each other. Be comfortable, but not too comfortable.
Hope this helps, good luck! (:
Darby
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if you have a problem would you want your friend to force/get it out of you or just gives up and wait till you tell them? and why?
I would really rather be left alone until I was ready to talk about it. I'm very independent and I don't like when people try to force me to depend on them.
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I am 27 female US resident
I suffer from major depressive disorder, bpd, pstd, and anxiety. I've struggled for years with my mental illnesses and last summer finally got my Associates degree.
I want to go and get my B.A. degree
I am looking at a program that would cost me approx $45K to complete my 2 years. The reason it costs so much is because it's 1. Online 2. For adult learners 3. Has extra support for people with disabilities.
The program offers me a LOT of what I need, on campus and online support, a disability services that really is willing to HELP me and shorter courses (quarter instead of semester).
But am I being crazy to think that $45,000 for a degree is ok? Should I go to a school for $20K that doesn't have any of the support things I need for my mental illnesses?
Am I crazy to think I should invest such a large sum in myself? Should I take the greater risk of not graduating for the cheaper cost, or should I invest more in myself and have a much higher chance of passing?
HELP!
If you think your meds and councelling won't be enough to get you through a $20k two year degree, do the $45k program. It is a lot of money, definitely. But if you get a job that pays $45 or $50k a year, it really isn't that much in retrospect. You will be able to get loans to pay monthly after you get your degree. It's important that you get your B.A. degree because you want it. It's hard to have mental illnesses, but it's great that they have programs that will help people with them. You can remain as normal as everyone else by getting your B.A. and getting a good job, even if it costs more. It sounds like a really good program that has all the kinks worked out and is very professional.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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me and my girls friend done with 10th april
when she has her 4th day of periods ok
i used condome on that time i have sex with them
and now still she didnot get her periods plz help me
If you think your girlfriend is pregnant, have her go to a drugstore and get a pregnancy test. Her period is pretty late, but the only way to be 100% sure is to get a test.
Hope this helps,
Darby
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I have this group of friends that dont go to my school that i love to hang out with. yesterday we all went to the park and got pretty drunk. I ended up making out with this guy for ages. He supposedly had forced this girl to have sex with him quite a while ago and that girl was really angry at me. Now shes still really angry at me for making out with him. Everyone wants to go out in a couple of days and i dont know wheter to go or not because that girl has turned a few people agaisnt me.I really like that group of people and i think this girl is blowing the whole situation out of proportion , when really its nothing. she wasnt dating this guy, infact she hates him because he 'forced' her into sex. I really dont now wheter to go out with them or to just leave that group behind ?!? help. :(
You should still go out with your group of friends. Don't let one girl ruin a whole circle of friendships that you have. Talk to this girl one on one and tell her that you're sorry about what happened with her and this guy and that you were extremely drunk when you made out with him. Tell him that you didn't think about how she would feel about it because you weren't thinking clearly. Let her know that you aren't planning on pursuing anything with him and that you don't think what he did to her is right.
You have to understand that this guy forced her to have sex and that's a very traumatic thing. You need to be sensitive to how she feels. Of course she doesn't want her friends making out with the guy that forced her to have sex with him. But she needs to not turn people against you and understand that it was just a drunken situation.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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18-female.
do guys like it when your close with their family? i've been friends with this guy for awhile but i have also had a crush on him :p well all his brothers and sisters absolutely love me! this guy is 17, he has three sisters. their 15, 9 and 5. and one brother who is 11. this guy is my cousins neighbor also and im over there alot so they always see me. well last night me and my friend pulled up to my cousins and his younger brother and sister were outside playing so i was like nate!! (his bro) and he was like hey! and i started playing lacrosse with him and i started talking to his sister. well then my friend/crush came outside and was like just messing around with everyone and me my friend and his sister whose 9 went across the street and then his sister who is 5 rides her bike over and goes ASHLEY!!!!!!! and im like hey jenna :) and then i gave jenna a piggy back ride and we went on a little walk while my cousin and this guy and their other neighbor played basketball. and his sister (9) ended up getting a scrape on her elbow so we went indside their house and i cleaned it out and put a band-aid on it for her and then jenna read a book to me and my friend. well then later me and my friend went to the store and i told jenna i would get her a slushie and so i knocked on their door and his sister (15) answered the door and i was like hey jamie! and i was like wheres jenna and so i gave jenna the slushie and then i started talking to jamie and her friend who i also know for like a half hour in their entry-way. well then their parents came home and i dont realy know them that well but his mom smiled at me and stuff and then this guy was talking to her and asked if he could go somewhere so as i was talking to his sister, he just leaves and doesnt even say anything? i just love his family, im really close with them and i get along with them well but i dont know if he likes it or hates it. you would think he would like that i get along with his family but i dont know if hes annoyed or what. he doesnt say anything about it. i was just wondering?
This could go either way depending on his personal preferance. I know I would hate if someone I was dating was friends with my family, but that's probably because I don't even get along with my family, it would be weird if my boyfriend did! It sounds like this guy doesn't know that you like him. In what you described, you and he didn't hang out at all, you just hung out with his family. Try to spend some one on one time with him. Get him away from his house and his family. Then you'll be able to talk to him privately and see what he thinks about you and his family getting along so well. It would also be a good time to passively mention your crush on him. It's better to know where he stands with it then waste time crushing on him and not knowing how he feels.
As far as guys liking it when you're close to their family, I would say most of them like it in between. They probably don't want you to be best friends with their siblings. But they don't want you to fight with them either. It's all about balance.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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