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Bestfriend and Brother
Hi, My bestfriend started going out with my brother ablut 2 years ago and he broke up with her three weeks ago because he had trust issues with her and because of the way she was treating him, which i wasn't aware of until now. He told me everything about how she's always rude and makes him feel that he can't trust her with all her stories she tells him everyday after work about all the guys that asks her out and give her flowers and even ask to have sex with her..he has talked to her about the issues they had and about how she would'nt stop txtn alott of guys and not to mention talk to them on her cell phone and when she does she goes to a corner or hide from him while talk to them on her phone, which i think is really dodgy on her part. She deliberately tries to make him jealous and to the point of him breaking up with her, she played to many mind games and he could'nt tell the truth from a lie when she's talking. but to cut it short..when he broke up with her she used me to try and get him back and asking me for advice, which was hard for me since it's my brother that she went out with. I told her to ask him for one more chance to prove to him how much she loves him and that she'll change, but at the same time, my brother was telling me to tell her to get over it that he doesn't wanna be with her anymore,and called her a lier and that he is over her. that put me in the middle and i hate taking sides, that was until recently i found out she punches and hits him when she doesn't get her way with him, that just made things even more hard. I have stopped hanging out with her but she still txts me. I really wanna tell her off about her attitude and about the way she treated my brother but i don't know how..What should I do??
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i think that you shouldnt yell at her even though thats your brother and she hurt him by cheating on him. Family comes first I know but what happened between your friend and your brother is between them . Just let him deal with her on his own .
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The way she treated your brother is definitely not right. She sounds like a shady character, not to mention a liar. No matter how pretty she may be, guys don't just randomly give you flowers and ask you out by the flock. You and your brother are right to think that she's not good for him.
But, since they are broken up now, it's best to hold back going off on her. It would be nice to get your feelings out, but since everything is straightened out and your brother doesn't want her back, it's best to stay out of it.
As far as her texting you all the time, if you're not friends anymore and don't even hang out, just slowly stop answering her when she tries to get in contact. She will get the idea before long. If she tries to get you to give her advice again, simply say, "Sorry. I don't like the way you treated my brother and I don't think you're right for him." That will put a quick end to her badgering.
Hope this helps(:
Darby
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If your brother has already broken up with her, it may be best just to stay out of it. I know how hard it can be to hear about someone mistreating someone you love, but if she's not around him anymore then she can't keep mistreating him. If you don't want to get involved, then don't. If she asks you to help her get back with your brother again, tell her that he doesn't want to be with her, & you don't want to get involved. As hard as it may be, you may want to just bite your tongue on this one to avoid any conflicts.
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