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Do they all hate me?
I have this group of friends that dont go to my school that i love to hang out with. yesterday we all went to the park and got pretty drunk. I ended up making out with this guy for ages. He supposedly had forced this girl to have sex with him quite a while ago and that girl was really angry at me. Now shes still really angry at me for making out with him. Everyone wants to go out in a couple of days and i dont know wheter to go or not because that girl has turned a few people agaisnt me.I really like that group of people and i think this girl is blowing the whole situation out of proportion , when really its nothing. she wasnt dating this guy, infact she hates him because he 'forced' her into sex. I really dont now wheter to go out with them or to just leave that group behind ?!? help. :(
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You know what, first of all, if you are still a minor or if you are still studying, you shouldn't be engaging in sex yet. And second, if this is offending you, just tell them how you feel, apologize to the girl the guy you made out with had sex with, and tell her that you are very uncomfortable about your condition. Don't leave the group of friends behind just because of a girl who's mad at you, but you will know and you have the right to decide if you need to leave that group only if they set a bad example for you.
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I don't really understand why you would even want to touch a guy who is a rapist. I don't really think she hates you because you made out with him or anything, she is probably mad because you know what he did to her, and you would still make out with him. I think she is just mad that you were so stupid. Just stay away from that creep and she'll get over it eventually. I don't think I would go with them to whatever, but next time I would, if it seems to blow over a little.
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The real issue here is that he may have forced a girl to have sex - is that really someone you want to hook up with? What if her version of the story is the right one and he did force her? Do you want to be the next one? I think hanging out with friends is great, but it appears that you are participating in some very risky behavior with this group of friends that could lead you to be in dangerous situations. Is this girl part of the group? And if so, why is she still there if this guy forced her into having sex? Be careful with this group of people and be cautious with this guy - the whole situation makes me nervous for you.
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She's blowing it out of proportion and you shouldn't take that under your doing. First, I don't think you should avoid your friends because of her. She's just an obstacle in your life that you have to overcome. Just, be nice, and apologize to her and tell her you're sorry it happened and you were drunk. Tell her if you were sober, you probably wouldn't have done that. If she's still angry, then there's something else bothering her about the whole mishap. Maybe she's jealous that the guy made out with you instead... but doesn't want to blame the guy for the issue because she's attracted to him or some sort. Anyway, someone being "forced" into sex has a lot of self esteem issues, and just being forced into doing something like says a lot about her judgement and character. You know you're better than that and you know your actions were not meant to harm her. Apologize to her, and hang out with your friends.
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I would go talk to the girl, and apologize.
If you knew about what happened before hand, tell her you're sorry, and you wouldn't have done it if you had known she'd be hurt.
If you didn't know, then you didn't know, but you can still be sorry she's hurt regardless.
You didn't do anything wrong, but swallowing your pride a little bit along with a little understanding can help you out.
Something that might not occur to you. If she was taken advantage of and you weren't, its going to cause her issues. Because she's going to be wondering "why me?" Its going to make her feel even more singled out, because the same thing didn't repeat itself.
She is blowing it out of proportion, but its somewhat understandable, she's been through alot. Offer her some apology and understanding, and she'll probably come around. If not, walk away knowing at least you were the better person.
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You should still go out with your group of friends. Don't let one girl ruin a whole circle of friendships that you have. Talk to this girl one on one and tell her that you're sorry about what happened with her and this guy and that you were extremely drunk when you made out with him. Tell him that you didn't think about how she would feel about it because you weren't thinking clearly. Let her know that you aren't planning on pursuing anything with him and that you don't think what he did to her is right.
You have to understand that this guy forced her to have sex and that's a very traumatic thing. You need to be sensitive to how she feels. Of course she doesn't want her friends making out with the guy that forced her to have sex with him. But she needs to not turn people against you and understand that it was just a drunken situation.
Hope this helps!
Darby(:
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You should go because some group that you really like i dont think you should leave them behind. Tell the girl that your sorry because you know you werent thinking because you were drunk.
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