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Last Update: May 12, 2009
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I dont know why but i think i may be losing my friendships with my friends. A lot of my friends aren't talking to me anymore and when i try to talk, they ignore me. This never happened before and i dont know why or how this started. It started a few months ago in my freshman year at high school and just keeps increasing with more friends as time goes on. Many of the friends i had before are now just acting different around me. They seem to dislike me and keep distance with me. If i try to talk, they just say nothing. I dont know what to do and im scared about this situation. They used to text me, talk all the time, and we used to hang out and now its stopped. Whenever i try to hang out with them, they are always with the other people there and if i try to talk they just answer and get back to the other kids. I feel really depressed and i dont know why this is happening. They act like they dont like me when i'm around and even ignore me. They act like i'm invisible or as if i'm not there. I need advice on this and want to get back to how everything was before. I dont know what is wrong with me, or why they are like how they are. I really want to fix this so please give any advice you have. (link)
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I know what you mean. This happened to me once, and we haven't resolved our fight in 2 months straight. But my friend is different than just being ignorant. My friend is a copycat and a backstabber.
First of all, try to ask them what is wrong. Tell them how you really feel, and if they don't answer you, just let them loosen up a bit, and wait for them to come to you. They might just be either of the following:
-they changed alot over the past years of your friendship
-they aren't really true friends.
If they are true friends, they wouldn't act like this towards you.
-They have a problem.
Is it something that you did? Remember the past times.
If you didn't do anything to offend them, then just leave them alone, and if they hate you when they are around you, tell them straight. "Is there a problem?" If they don't reply, find a new set of friends, if they act mean towards you, ignore them, and just tell them how you feel little by little until you understand.
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me and my current boyfriend have gone out 7 other times in the past. I feally do like him, but in sum relationships it seems like he's not giving it his all, but i am. And other times it's perfect but my parents ruin it (they dont like him).We first went out wen i was 12 continuing on now at 13. it feels as if hes the only one for me. If that's true why do we keep going on and off? (link)
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well, you did tell me your parents dislike him, maybe it has something to do with them. You said your parents ruin your perfect moments with your boyfriend because they don't like him, right? So maybe now your boyfriend feels that your parents dislike him, so he's like...trying to loosen up a little bit... you know... because of your parent's opinion. So, just talk to your parents gently about how you feel about them putting sort of a stopper to you and your boyfriend's relationship.
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I have this group of friends that dont go to my school that i love to hang out with. yesterday we all went to the park and got pretty drunk. I ended up making out with this guy for ages. He supposedly had forced this girl to have sex with him quite a while ago and that girl was really angry at me. Now shes still really angry at me for making out with him. Everyone wants to go out in a couple of days and i dont know wheter to go or not because that girl has turned a few people agaisnt me.I really like that group of people and i think this girl is blowing the whole situation out of proportion , when really its nothing. she wasnt dating this guy, infact she hates him because he 'forced' her into sex. I really dont now wheter to go out with them or to just leave that group behind ?!? help. :( (link)
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You know what, first of all, if you are still a minor or if you are still studying, you shouldn't be engaging in sex yet. And second, if this is offending you, just tell them how you feel, apologize to the girl the guy you made out with had sex with, and tell her that you are very uncomfortable about your condition. Don't leave the group of friends behind just because of a girl who's mad at you, but you will know and you have the right to decide if you need to leave that group only if they set a bad example for you.
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OK my friend and i have known each other for years but all of a sudden its like she completely hates me. i wrote her a letter and she completely dumped me in front of all her friends. i feel really depressed and angry at her. people keep telling me not to be mad, but i am. how can i deal with the anger and pain? (link)
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Well, did you ask her what made her get mad at you? Did you ask her if you said or did anything that offended you? Well, if you didn't, the best thing to solve this problem is by simply asking her "What's wrong?" If you did, and she still didn't answer, just give her some time to think about it and loosen up, and by the time she does, maybe you can approach her better and ask her what was really making her mad at you. By that time, just wait until she has resolved from the fight, and both of you can be friends again.
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